The Steve situation didn't get resolved the night of Tamra's party, so of course I'm going to keep calling it like I see it! When Vicki told Tamra that I need to learn to shut my "fat-ass mouth," I just had to laugh. She turned around literally two seconds later and gave a monologue about my marriage to Michael that couldn't have been a bigger stretch! But let's be clear: My issue is with Steve, not Vicki, and my concern is genuine. I see a pattern with the men Vicki dates, and I'm calling red flags as I see them, because I don't want to see her get hurt again.
I think everyone is a little confused about Gina's divorce, but it's Gina's private life, and it's up to her to decide what she wants to share with the group. Marriage is a commitment, so we always want to see people put the effort in. But we've all had marriages where we really tried to make them work, and at the end of the day, they didn't, so maybe Gina is onto something. I respect her choice. She needs our support, and seeing her get emotional about it, I don't think it's as easy of an experience as she's making it out to be.
When Emily asked me if I would apologize to Shane, it was a no-brainer. I was definitely heated in the moment, and I said some inappropriate things. I was more than willing to own up to my own behavior. If I had realized he was Emily's husband in that moment, I would have been more respectful. After all, he can't help it if he's little!
I believe there was some confusion at the Italian dinner that I just want to clear up. When I approached Tamra to talk about Vicki's phone call to me, it wasn't to talk behind Vicki's back. It was so I could call Tamra out for telling Vicki what I had told her about Steve! I knew we weren't going to fight about it and that Tamra and I can have those conversations maturely. I just thought, really? I have to watch what I say to Tamra now? That was that, but I had no intention of starting drama. I owned it, because I always own the things I say. Vicki knows me, and she's a big girl.
I wasn't surprised that everyone started digging in about Gina's divorce. In hindsight, I think everyone at that table was projecting. When I explained to her the difference when you build up assets, it was just so she could understand where the other ladies were coming from. I could see she was already defensive by that point in the conversation.
You learn something new every day, and on this particular day, it was that you don't bring up God around this group of women. Tamra's face said it all! I believe in God, but everyone has a different relationship to faith. Tamra is Born Again, Shane is Mormon, and Vicki is banishing Gina to Hell for all eternity, so that about sums up where this group stands! I think when Vicki attacked Gina's morality, that was crossing the line and came across close-minded. If you believe in a loving and forgiving God, you should accept other people's faiths the way you'd want them to accept yours—even if their faith is that they have no faith at all.
Speaking of forgiveness...apologizing to Shane was a little awkward, but worth it for Emily's sake. This could have gone either way: I could have been defensive and called him a dork again, or I could just suck it up. My daughter was there, so I felt like I should have some decorum. I also really like Emily (and Shane's mom!), so I chose to take his "snarkasm" like a champ. There's enough drama between the girls coming up for the men to also be getting involved, so I wanted to put that beef to bed. Buckle up! You won't believe where the rest of the season takes us.