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Here’s How to Handle Multiple Engagements in Your Friend Group — And Keep Your BFFs and Your Sanity
Love is in the air — especially for the Vanderpump Rules crew. But how do multiple engagements affect your friend group?
When it rains engagement rings, it usually pours. Once one friend calls and tells you the news that her and her partner have decided to tie the knot, another one calls to share their own news like a domino effect.
Take Lala and Brittany, who both announced engagements last summer and made us wonder, who would be next after that — and then the consensus among the Vanderpump Rules girls on who will be the next to get the bling was proven true when Stassi Schroeder and Beau Clark got engaged on July 31.
That means there's yet another wedding to add to the SURvers' social calendars.
Just like with that crew, before you know it, a handful of your BFFs are engaged, save-the-dates are crowding your mailbox, and you’ve officially set off to become a professional wedding guest or bridesmaid. So, if you find yourself wondering how you’re going to front enough cash to pay for all of these upcoming weddings or how you’re going to slap away the jealousy that you have over being one of the last single gals in your girl squad, here are four tips for you to help you make it through your calendar of wedding events for your BFFs.
1. Set a Budget
If your social calendar is now booming with wedding activities, your wallet is going to start taking quite the hit. Before RSVPing to bachelorette parties and destination weddings, set a budget for each upcoming event that you have. That way, you won’t find that you’re blowing thousands of dollars on each wedding, driving you into personal debt over someone else’s experience tying the knot. This might mean that you can’t attend everything for a friend’s wedding adventure, so know ahead of time if you’re going to have to skip the bridal shower or the engagement party, so you can give your pal a heads up. That way, there won’t be any resentment, confusion, or hurt feelings.
2. Learn to Say No
Whether you’re a wedding guest or a bridesmaid in all of these weddings, you’re going to want to start saying no. If there are gifts that a group of friends are chipping in for that’s out of your budget or a bachelorette party that will cost you practically a month’s salary to go on, know that it’s perfectly OK to say no. Even if the bride gets upset, it’s still important to only say yes to what you have the time, money, and energy for. If not, you’ll find that every ounce of your free time and cash will start to be drained, fast.
3. Find the Good in the Annoying
One of the main reasons why it can be tough to have a lot of your BFFs be engaged at the same time is that if you’re single, it can feel like you’re the only one who hasn’t coupled up, and that might make you a bit jealous. Even if you're with someone or you’re married, constantly having to celebrate other people’s marriages can bring out a bad mood. Be sure to do things that are for you during the time you’re doing these things for everyone else’s wedding, whether that’s going on dates, planning weekend “you” time, or remembering to push away the jealousy and provide your friend with support instead.
4. Help With One Thing
If you’re starting to worry that now that all of your friends are engaged, you’ll have to do so many things for so many people, instead just offer each person help with one thing in particular. For one friend, you can offer to take them dress shopping. For another, you can take on decorating their bridal shower. Having specific tasks per person helps you stay organized and less overwhelmed, since now you know what you need to do.