One special family member missed out on Jax Taylor's engagement to Brittany Cartwright — his mom. The two sadly had a falling-out last year after Jax lost his dad, Ronald Cauchi, after a battle with cancer.
Jax explained: "I used to be very close to my mom. Everybody's like, I love your mom. We really haven't communicated in the last six months, pretty much since my father passed. Their marriage was on the rocks; she was talking about leaving my dad about a year before he got cancer. Toward the end, my mom would say, 'Oh, he's fine.' We didn't know he was in ICU; I would have been there in a heartbeat if I knew he was in ICU. I mean, I get it, my mother's trying to protect my sister and I, but I should have been able to say goodbye to my dad."
Then he told The Daily Dish that he's not even sure his mom will attend his upcoming wedding. (She did not respond to an invite to their engagement party.)
"We had some issues with my family — and my sister and I, we've had a little bit of a falling-out with our mother, which sometimes it happens during deaths and stuff like that," Jax said. "It sucks; it really does. The problem I'm having right now is my wedding and whether or not she's going to attend. So I'm back and forth. It's a rough time right now and I'm trying to deal with it."
Now in the latest Vanderpump Rules After Show, the engaged couple addressed if things have gotten better since then ... and it sounds like they haven't.
"It really breaks my heart; I hate that for him," Brittany Cartwright said. Jax gives his own update saying that it's all "extremely tough, an absolute nightmare to me ... and it's disgusting and I just choose to not respond and take the high road." (Watch the whole conversation in the clip above.)
So, while you may think it's a must to have your mom at your wedding (no matter where you stand), New York City-based therapist Liz Lasky says it's really your personal decision to make.
"Part of getting engaged, getting married, and starting a family is getting to create rules for yourself and the new family unit. There's a certain freedom to that," she told Personal Space. "It makes sense that Jax doesn't want his mother there. He's starting a new chapter that should be drenched in happiness and in joy. It can be excellent self-care to set boundaries to ensure those feelings."
Won't he regret his decision later on?
"There may be a time when Jax feels like he can connect with his mom again," Lasky said. "It sounds like there is a lot of potential for healing some deep-rooted pain."
That time may just not be right now.
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