Ariana Didn't Deserve Kristen's S---storm
Katie explains why she is no longer friends with Kristen and what she's looking for in a proposal.
I never wanted to be the one to "Tell Kristen to break up with Tom," but, over the course of our friendship, I witnessed a very unhealthy pattern. Kristen herself even said to me on multiple occasions that she knew that breaking up with Tom was her only option. I was only looking out for her best interest and wanted her to do what she needed to do.
When she had made the decision to leave Tom in Cabo, I was backing her and offering support. When we returned to L.A. she was singing a different song, and I became very frustrated and felt she wasn't respecting herself and her own mental and emotional health. I really began wondering if our friendship could withstand all that was happening, given that her life -- and my life -- became consumed by her turbulant relationship.
I wasn't shocked that Tom and Jax were at such odds after everything went down in Cabo. Tom was deflecting a lot towards Jax. I think that was when we really began to see the guilt shine through. I have no ill will towards Tom and I never wanted him to suffer from the rumors, but I strongly felt the truth needed to come out for him and Kristen's benefit and for the future of their relationship.
The way I felt about Tom projecting anger towards Jax is the same way I feel about how Kristen was acting towards Ariana. It's easier for Kristen to be mad at Ariana, even though she wasn't really to blame. Ariana did lie to Kristen though, which is why she maybe deserved a little backlash -- but didn't deserve the s---storm from Kristen. Tom was the one who cheated and she should have solely took it up with him.
I found Scheana's proposal to be heartfelt and happy. I don't think I would wanted my friends to be organizing it all and simply tell Tom to just show up. I would prefer Tom to orchestrate it all from his own heart and, if need be, request my friends help. I am extremely happy for Scheana and Shay, without a doubt. They are 100 percent right for one another, and it only makes sense that they make a ever lasting commitment to each other.
I truly believe Tom told Ariana that he and Kristen were breaking/broken up. He may have even been truthful. Kristen and Tom certainly go through extreme ups and downs, and they could have been in a state of limbo. However, I don't think its wise to go the lengths he did. Telling someone you are single when its still in question and proceeding to hook up with someone is wrong. It was also extremely disrespectful towards Kristen.
I saw Kristen at an all time low in Cabo and, when we returned, I was very very worried about her mental and emotional health. I even tried booking her a flight home because I felt she needed to go home and collect herself. Finally, she booked the trip on her own, and when I saw her tweets I felt disgusted and couldn't back her. I felt she wasn't facing the truth and was becoming weak.
Once Tom finally came clean it was so half-hearted. It was if he reluctantly confessed and then wanted everyone to shut up about it -- as if it wasn't a big deal and didn't cause so much pain for Kristen. As her friend, I felt destroyed to hear the truth. Personally I can never understand how something that crucial and all the lies around it could bring anyone closer together.
Kristen was out of her mind the night she confronted Ariana at SUR. She had the rightfully to talk to her but her approach was completely out of line. It's totally unfair for her to forgive Tom and put the blame on Ariana. She can have anger towards Ariana, for sure, but to name call and talk to her that way is tasteless. I had already come to terms with the fact that a friendship with Kristen had become a tireless feat. When I saw her reckless display that night at SUR it was confirmed for me.
Typically I would side with Kristen and support her argument. But given the torture I had endured, I was very much over her petty debate. A part of me felt for her, but she made it impossible to have sympathy. Her behavior was erratic and irrational. I was exhausted from trying to console her and side with her. It wasn't an easy decision for me to make about ending my friendship with Kristen but I had to be selfish, as it was toxic and really beginning to affect my life.