Tom Sandoval

Tom wishes Kristen could hold on to her rationality, but he isn't going to let rumors hinder their relationship.

on Jan 100

Ariana and I have been friends for over three years, our friendship has mainly just consisted of talking and goofing off at work behind the bar, and hanging out in group situations, like at Scheana's or at bars with friends. I will say that over the years we've defiantly developed a closer friendship -- that happens when you work next someone for a long periods of time and consistently. It's just what happens. We are the kind of friends where we might talk at work, hang out after with other co-workers, text a few times, then not talk or see each other for a month or more, especially if we don't work together, or see each other.

When Ariana and I went shopping, Kristen def knew. At this point our relationship was really strong, so Kristen wasn't worried about anything. As far as the rumors, I feel at that time, her and I both were over even acknowledging them -- because rumors only get life when you give them life. No need to water the rumor plant, just let it die.

I don't even know how or why Dani would start saying such ridiculous things or even open her mouth about me. I've never talked to Dani about anything more than the weather or a drink for a table while working. There is only a couple reasons why Dani would start rumors about me, she somehow heard about what my "good friend" Jax said and decided to get on the bandwagon in desperation to have something legitimate to say to the mean girls group, and get some attention -- or she has some weird shrine of me and or a voodoo doll to match. Either way, it was nothing less than desperate, creepy, and overall pathetic...I wish Kristen would have never even confronted Dani about her bullshit "banter" claims, because that's exactly what Dani wanted. . .

22 comments
judimax
judimax

Tom...when a woman or man  is so jealous... believe they are cheating one way or another...I have seen it so often.

Love the show but watch your back  !!!!

Elizabethsheila
Elizabethsheila

I understand Y u hate Jax.  He's scum. But Y is it ok to cheat on Kristen, she cant do it to you. Did you ever think she felt the same way u did when u cheated on her.

Aniita
Aniita

Kristen didn't just develop these insecurities out of the blue.. it's amazing how Tom can act so nonchalant about things (cheating) and then all other people can say is "omg Kristen is so crazy Tom you should leave her blah blah blah..". The fact that he can kiss a "friend" and lie about it repeatedly, and then tell Kristen she's acting crazy when he knows he's done something wrong just shows that he cannot be trusted. A women's intuition is a hell of a thing and way too often women are right about things and all men can say is "you're insecure", or "you're acting crazy". I admit Kristen flies off the handle a lot but don't ever doubt that she has reason too. Kristen should be the one to leave Tom- I hope she realizes this and if for no other reason than to keep her sanity. It irks me when people always feel so bad for one person because the other person is acting out. Always keep in the back of your mind that they most likely have a reason to be acting out and in this case Kristen was right all along. I'm not concerned about Tom or his feelings when he can play those head games with Kristen when he knows he did something- it's the same thing Jax did to Stassi regarding the whole Vegas situation. 

grandislandmom
grandislandmom

rationale and Kristen do not belong in the same sentence. Both of you need to go your separate ways. no one should have that many problems BEFORE an engagement!

Adoniat
Adoniat

Dang Tom!  Can you just be the only person to blog on this show?  Just pure common sense as usual with a good dose of enlightenment for the viewer on some things.   Great job again.

pplrsooodumb
pplrsooodumb

Tom, you and Kristen would be fine without Stassi and Jax in your lives! They are not your friends and misery loves company.

loripoole
loripoole

Tom, I don't think you cheated with Ariana,  but you have to quit texting and calling her so much, she is not one of Kristens friends and that does not fair well with girls... and Kristen, your friends are not good friends, Stassi wants you and Tom to break up, cause she is not a nice person, and is no longer with Jax,  she wants you and Katie to be single as she is.  Get some new friends if you want to be happy in any relationship.  Stassi is only out for herself at all times... she doesn't really care about you Tom or you Kristen,  but she loves drama when its not her own, and she wants to keep everyone down... makes her feel up.  Remember that and you two just might get along.

 

cam_444@hotmail.com
cam_444@hotmail.com

You and Kristen should not have given Stassi such a bad time about checking on the cheating rumor with Kristen's phone. Jax is a liar and a big time cheater, which Stassi has now realized. So I am sure it was hard for her to just let this go. It was probably on her mind a lot and you can tell it was really bothering her-upsetting her also-after she found out it was not true she was very relieved. As friends and I know you knew it wasn't true, by just helping her find out for sure it was not true helped her put this rumor away for good.

phillip.mcgaugh
phillip.mcgaugh

Kristen gives her power away to people who clearly don't have her peace of mind in their best interest. Why would anyone who has a sense of discrimination submit to Stassi and/or Jax's whims? Jax stirs to the pot in order to thrive off of or benefit from the ensuing chaos. Stassi uses the chaos he stirs up as a means of controlling a posse of mean girls. Kristen is tossed along like someone without free will. I suggest a cord cutting meditation. She's practically lost free will. 

chenchen00
chenchen00

Honest opinion .. it isn't about the quantity of your relationship (5 years) it's about the quality which seems to be on a sad path from what the public has seen.  I'm sorry but your relationship isn't as loving and as solid when you are cheating on each other left and right, there's no excuse for it...period.  The lack of affection you display on the screen and Kristen's insecurities (Hello, you don't go through your man's phone, it's his personal space) just shows what lengths she would go through to try to keep the drama going.  I'm not saying you are a saint, I'm saying that after 5 years together if you haven't gotten it together by now, you should just SPLIT and remain friends.  Life is too short to live in misery and one ounce of love here and there or a few good times just doesn't outweigh the damage that has been done to you both.  How about starting off 2014 with a fresh start for both of you?  End it, and move on.

sholly
sholly

Spot on Tom!  I love reading your blogs!  I find it amusing that you can identify the hows,  whys, and wheres of Kristen's outta control behavior but yet you stay with her?   I am not saying she is totally to blame (u did cheat)  but you do put up with alot of her emotional instability.  Maybe too much?  I know its hard to see and acknowledge it when you live it everyday but stepping back or away for awhile might give you some much needed respite.  Blog on Tom!

 

bjunebug28
bjunebug28

You cheated on her with some other girl, maybe with Ariana, maybe not, she cheated on you, maybe or not, Jesus, haven't you had enough???  Tom, wake up to the rest of your life where Kristen, on the daily, goes through your phone, email, texts, paperwork, questions everyone you know, humiliates you, screams at you and then cries cries cries until she is once again the victim and you the bad guy-  do you really want to live like this?  If yes, start digging your grave, it wont' take long.

taniasveta
taniasveta

little understanding of position you put Kristine in by befriending a pretty girl for a long period of time and spending allot of time with this pretty girl (Ariana) would help your relatioship more then complaining about Kristine insecurties. It is odd to watch your boyfriend liking another woman to share thoughts with, be playfull and allow this pretty girl to speack badly of Kristine. SO far you did not acknowledge this frivolous disregard on your part to Kristine feeling uneasy about it. Your relationship would be so much better if you start paying attnetion to what Kristine is communicating to you as her worries. You was cheating on her with ARiana simply because you prefered Ariana  company over Kristine. That simple

taniasveta
taniasveta

A little understanding of position you put Kristine in by befriending a pretty girl for a long period of time and spending allot of time with this pretty girl (Ariana) would help your relatioship more then complaining about Kristine insecurties. It is odd to watch your boyfriend liking another woman to share thoughts with, be playfull and allow this pretty girl to speack badly of Kristine. SO far you did not acknowledge this frivolous disregard on your part to Kristine feeling uneasy about it. Your relationship would be so much better if you start paying attnetion to what Kristine is communicating to you as her worries. You was cheating on her with ARiana simply because you prefered Ariana  company over Kristine. That simple

taniasveta
taniasveta

A little understanding of position you put Kristine in by befriending a pretty girl for a long period of time and spending allot of time with this pretty girl (Ariana) would help your relatioship more then complaining about Kristine insecurties. It is odd to watch your boyfriend liking another woman to share thoughts with, be playfull and allow this pretty girl to speack badly of Kristine. SO far you did not acknowledge this frivolous disregard on your part to Kristine feeling uneasy about it. Your relationship would be so much better if you start paying attnetion to what Kristine is communicating to you as her worries. You was cheating on her with ARiana simply because you prefered Ariana  company over Kristine. that simple

NYGalinTX
NYGalinTX

Spot on blog like always Tom.  The only thing I can add is that I really hope you have broken up with Kristen by now and are allowing yourself to be happy with a great girl who appreciates and trusts you.  You really deserve that!

piperbeau
piperbeau

If you really loved Kristen you would stop hanging out with Ariana!!  Period! 

msmith76
msmith76

This blog is too long. You guys are so boring.

skye8844
skye8844

Kristen is a train wreck and you are crazy if you marry this woman.  She will never trust you and will make your life a living hell.  You can only put up with so much and I see it happening now that her fits are beginning to wear thin. She has zero personality, is nothing special, nothing much to look at  and is way way to needy.  Basically Kristen is a unhappy mess.  Get out of this relationship before she drags you down to her miserable level.

ellen2012
ellen2012

 @chenchen00

 Oh so right on!  Thats it in a nut shell  Couldn't of been said better   Move on, Tom  Kristen is way too insecure for any relationship to work and by the way, she drinks too much  Sorry, Dude but you know this already

Adoniat
Adoniat

 @piperbeau why? So her insecurities can dictate his life?  good luck with that if you would do that.