Bethenny Frankel

Bethenny dissects the hilarity in this episode and thanks you for coming along on the ride.

on Mar 27, 20120

I know you have all been worried about my relationship, and the show got off to an emotional rocky start, but isn't life like that? Sometimes we cringe, sometimes we get anxiety, but ultimately, we buckle up, hold on, and get to the next place.

I love my husband and my family. Relationships may not have always been my strong point, but I am dedicated to my marriage, to being a better person every day, and to being open and honest in the hopes of helping myself -- and hopefully many of you. This show is about being truthful and giving you a slice of my life during that time period.

This week I celebrate my second wedding anniversary which I am so proud of. I work on being a mother, I work on being a wife, I work on being a good friend and employer, and I work on being a success in business. If all of this comes easy to someone else than more power to them.

76 comments
Donna H
Donna H

Bethenny, I love, love your show. I've been watching you since RHW of NY,I love that you speak your mind, you were my favorite of all the others, however with that being said, you really need to take a look at how blessed your are, you went from rag to riches. You've come a long way Baby, literally. Remember the love that brought you and Jason together, and that love that created Bryn. It's when you can go back to the basics of how you got where you are, I believe you appreciate the life you've been given. You are soooo blessed. Also, I wanted to comment on your birthday Jason went all out for last season. Only Jehovah witness don't celebrate Birthdays, you are not Jehovah. I understand the bad memories behind your childhood growing up, but it's time you put the past behind you and relish in the future, if you were not born you would not be here to celebrate what you have now, and if you ask me that's a lot to celebrate. There are so many people in this world that would love to have what you have, the wealth, the health and the Love that Jason has to offer, he loves you, that he married you knowing who you are and again that love created a beautiful baby girl. I was put in my place when I almost lost my home due to financial problems and someone said to me at least you have your family. That made me realize nothing is worse than losing the family you created from love. This was printed on the front of our Wedding invitations: To Our Beautiful Love, Love that has brought us together, Love that has brought us Joy, Love that has brought us together....We will be celebrating our 30 year wedding anniversary, but have been together for 37 and I love him more today then yesterday. Fortunately wealth didn't come with it, because that I believe is the #1 reason that comes between relationships. I will keep your family in my prayers, because you and Jason are meant to be, if you just let it be. Also, you need to stop and really listen to Jason, when he's speaking you tend to gasp a piece of the pie and get defensive, your mind seems to wonder to something else and you only hear what you've already made a conclusion based on the offensive part of the conversation and didn't really hear what he was trying to say, hence you throw the rest of that pie in his face. You need to share the pie and enjoy your sweet life. God Bless

m-kat
m-kat

my original submission must not have tethered... my hubbie is always switzerland... how frustrating! i am successful too as a mom. i have 2 boys - so fun. but things are always wanting us to consoidate to his business. i identify with you always, but i recently identify with jason. joining my husbands business is so scary. i am used to being personally successful, but changing my life to meet his needs is so difficult. but i want to be part of his businesss. i totally identify with jason. i just go invited to give a talk in europe so i don't lack for personal work stuff. but leaving that to be part of hubbies business is a choice. i get y'all! so confusing! love the things you are promoting...

m-kat
m-kat

my hubbie is so awesome and so like jason! he is so switzerland and wants me to make decisions so he does not have to! it is so hard to live but i love all of his ideas. he is so smart!

gigi 123
gigi 123

Love your show. You are hilarious and real! Congrats on your new tv show. My mom always said too much money can make your life as hard as not enough. I didn't believe that until I got in my 40's. If it happens to entertainment, this is especially true. I think going to a therapist is extremely healthy. Everyone should go to one for a mental checkup. It is as impt. as a physical one. Most illnesses are the result of mental issues like obesity, other addictions, and not living to your full potential. I think it is great to destigmize therapy by showing your sessions. Your honesty about your past and feelings are one reason that I think people find you relateable.

CherylG718
CherylG718

Happy 2nd Anniversary! Relationships are work and I am hoping that you guys will hang on navigate through the rough water... Calm seas ahead and the pay off great!

Wavie
Wavie

Hello Bethenny, I hope the rumors about you and Jason are not true. No one is prefect everyone knows that it just an expression. I think you should repect Jason wishes just drop it, stop nagging him. This is coming from someone who has been married 40 plus years. Marriage is something that you have to work on everyday. Some days you, some days Jason and some days both of you. Be open discuss everything, if the discussion gets heated say to each other bring it down or walk away and both of you apolize. Bethenny please stop saying you are broken, remeber you are not the only one who has come from a broken home. I some kids that are sixteen and seventeen no longer in foster living all along trying to make it. Some rise above their situations by moving forward leaving the pass in the pass. Keeping saying it and you will become broken. You are a very fortuate person. Jason will be there for you when everyone is gone. You are a cute family I am praying for both of you.

Boston Housewife
Boston Housewife

OK Bethany, if you respond to the haters, you just end up drawing a big bulls eye on your back.Ignore it. Todays newspaper wraps tomorrows trash. If you call attention to it, you keep it alive. Who believes these idiots anyway?

Next, the jerk on Nantucket who sold you out. I, along with many other fans, go to Nantucket every Summer. I will be going back on the reruns to see his boat and to make sure We pay him a visit to embarrass him in front of everyone. Nantucket has a nice little newspaper for the Island. Perhaps if you wrote a little something, people would not give him business and also get the word out to other vendors. My son was a police officer on Nantucket and business owners and residents always knew to give celebs privacy so they felt free to come back. The Chamber of Commerce needs to be aware that someone is selling stories so that they can deal with it. Nantucket is a beautiful Island and we want Celebs to come back. SO many have homes there and it's always been fine. This guy must be new as well as a jerk!

Boston Housewife
Boston Housewife

BEAUTIFUL BETHANY, FOLLOW YOUR INSTINCT! It has not let you down yet. You have a beautiful family and I wish you the best. Looking forward to your talk show. Your mom is nuts, so is mine. Just ignore and keep walking forward. Your fans love you. Jason and Bryn love you. I'm married 32 years, and many have been hard, but he is the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm ill now and he is right by my side. I'm blessed. You never know what the future holds but I can see that Jason loves you. Hang in there. The grass is always greener. PS - all men have a home personality and an outside personality. They are more relaxed at home. As long as it's not abuse, it's cool.

Ditad
Ditad

Bethenny, I too had a mentally ill mother. It's very difficult to understand unless you have gone through it. I constantly feel judged by people who have great mothers. My MOM recently passed away and I felt nothing but relief because she could no longer hurt me. My only advice is to stay away from her and keep your beautiful baby girl away too. You can have a wonderful full life despite your mother. Good luck. An empathetic fan.

Laurie
Laurie

Bethenny, please, please dont start acting like kim kardashian, she spent the whole last season of her show trying to show us how annoying chris humphers was and thats why she got a divorce. if you are starting to feel like marring jason was a mistake fine leave him, but dont try to make everyone who watches your show dislike him also. we are not married to him you are.you have said a thousand times that you were broken and now you wanna blame him for that?we all have SOME broken parts from childhood,but we are grown up now and we know right from wrong, there comes a time when that was then, and this is now.there are PLENTY of people that had and still have it alot worse than you...

tbenson34286
tbenson34286

I hope you know that you inspire women to be themselves. I admire you and respect who you are. To watch you go from your first season in RH of NY to now is awesome! You are a breathe of fresh air for tv viewers. You go girl!

Terri from Germansville
Terri from Germansville

Jayson would never be able to use the "man cave" so why have one!!! I do think he deserves one though.

CCBOO2
CCBOO2

Know that your mother is mentally ill. It doesn't matter if the med. bks agree with me, she is. She allowed a young girl to be out on her own in the big city. She overlooked you as a child and treated you as a lesser equal. She allowed men in her life who should never have had in your life. If you can fully grasp that there are diff. levels of mental illness and that you mom does have a mental illness that she can't change, you can then forgive her. She is not whole. The real job falls upon you to know that although colored by the past it is you who has single handed pulled away to find your normal. Hugs.

C.M.
C.M.

Dear Bethenny,

You are the bravest person I've ever seen on TV. Stand up for yourself against your husband. And your mother. And your decorator. And your staffers, who may be different people but are all strangely meek at work. And the haters.

Yours forever, A stan.

jcluv
jcluv

Dear Bethenny, I totally get what you are feeling. I have been there and done that. it is wayyyy so frustrating when all your friends and family and all theirs think the man you are with is perfect and you are the only one that sees the darkside. like I said been there done that. Not that he is evil or anything .......BUT HE ISN'T PERFECT!. Puts on a good show of ooooohhhhh aaaaaaahhhhh wish I had him..."so says young and dumb asses". You almost wish that someone else can see! I am 50 and way so over it but dealt with it for fifteen years....yes we are still together and it did get better. He adventually stopped playing to the ooohhhhers and aaaaaahers. (well at least slowed down) You both are young and it is worth saving. Jason seems very private and puts his best face foward to the camera....(seen that also before..duh) Anyway, what you have is live real and deep and you share. You crack me up!!!! ABSOLUTELY LOVE U. So real! So down to earth! So witty! Love you! Christine

fabuluswon
fabuluswon

Hi Bethenny: Love you and your show. Jason is adorable. I just noticed you were on Jimmy Fallon's show. PLEASE do not support this woman-hating, disrespectful idiot, he does not deserve you or the ratings you would bring. I would never watch his show - even if you were on it. As a strong, independent woman, please do not ever appear with that cretin again! Thanks, you owe it to your fans who are of course, mostly women!

DAWNELL
DAWNELL

Hi Bethenny! You know when you go to the "Amusement Park" You always go for the Roller Coaster! It is much more fun and rewarding!! That is how marriage is! The Merry Go Round would be so boring after awhile. Stay on the Roller Coaster Bethenny, you will love the results! Nothing more rewarding then a 38 year marriage. Just ask me...your Besty forever Dawnell ps: Can't wait for our June 11th premier.......!

Viewersacb bmd
Viewersacb bmd

Just saw the clip of Ellen, you and 'I da baby'. Ellen is so right......my husband and I never talked baby talk to our daughter. At this age children are sponges - they soak up everything! Now would be a great time to introduce a second language to 'da baby'.

housewife conisure
housewife conisure

B, you are my most favorite Bravoleberity!!!!!! You are perfect, Jason is perfect, Bryn is perfect, you all are perfect for eachother. That's what is important. My husband is my perfect, I am his perfect. that's all. I'm very happy to see that the new place will have a seperate office space, it should be, you need to have time away from work. you have a smartphone? USE it, it has a note system. You are a strong, beautiful, and talented person, what some of us strive to be. Good luck to you. looking forward to the talk show.

toeknee
toeknee

I had to go with toeknee to post lol but i hope my first posting made it thru! I love watching your silly antics and your Real personality!

greatfallsfan
greatfallsfan

Bethenny, I'm so sorry you have some pretty unkind people in your life - your mother for instance. She's not in your life but clearly tries to be and she hurts you. Easier said than done but try to ignore her. She can use the media all she wants to refute your words, criticize you or your life, but if you ignore her, so will everybody else. As far as Jason goes, I wrote before but my posts don't seem to get published. I don't understand Jason's man cave. I've been married for 13 years and my husband doesn't have a man cave and I don't have a woman's cave. Jason needs to grow up a bit, cut the umbilical cord with mommie (and daddy too), stop telling you how often you need to see his parents, and never criticize you when you go through the great effort of planning a birthday party for him. I don't like how he sometimes tries to get digs into you on the show but tries to act as if she's the chivalrous and always sacrificing husband ("Whatever Bethenny wants..."). You're at least authentic and just. Now I get that he's a bit contrived (for the cameras) and needs to control you a bit. Please don't give in to him too much. Train him to respect your different needs rather than trying so hard to bend to his will to please him. You seemed so frightened at that contractors meeting that Jason would believe you were behind the decision to give up his man cave. Why? Don't be afraid of him. I think because of your poor family history you don't want to fail at your marriage and are going overboard to try to make it work so hard. Jason may know this and be trying to take advantage of it. Sorry, but I sort of lost respect for Jason watching him take a few digs at you on the show and when you said he called you 'damaged.'

Fanzo
Fanzo

Thank you for your honesty in all things. I had just discovered I was going to miscarry a baby at seven weeks when you were on the Today show with Matt Lauer. While I was still very sad and crying, I felt like I could be strong and a survivor like you. Much happiness to you in all things. XOXO E

real hw in sc
real hw in sc

B i just enjoy you. wish you would hang out in SC for a while and see how we live. Land for the children, and room for a man cave. AND, it wont cost you 5m. cant wait for your talk show.

WhatASweetMess
WhatASweetMess

When my son was little, I was Type A and had to have the perfect, beautifully decorated Christmas tree. I soon learned how much more precious were the horrible, kid-friendly and kid-decorated tree, and handprint smears on all of my beautiful furniture. What a gift it is to let that go, and how hard it is in the beginning. But the wonderful memories - oh what fun and how fast they grow up and go away. Here's hoping your beautiful living room couches are stained with Bryn (and Jason's) fingerprints from eating cookies they helped you make, that there are blankets strewn about from having family TV night laughs, and dog bones lying on the expensive rugs. Now THAT's a beautiful home! Here's hoping you get it sooner than I did.

Lisa Marie
Lisa Marie

I agree with so many of the viewers when it comes to your therapy. I cry too when I lisiten. It helps me as well. Your doc touches on a lot of things we all struggle with. I love that baby too, when she's not in the episode as much I miss her. You and Julie in the Wigs... Hilarious and cookie hanging with the Malteeses at the park! So efin cute. I look so forward to Mondays for a change. Thanks B xoxox

PA Girl
PA Girl

Bethenny,

Words cannot express how much I enjoy watching you and your family. You surround yourself with the most authentic, hilarious and inappropriate people to be found! It's so amazing and fun!! I couldn't imagine one day in your world.

You deserve all happiness and keep on laughing, smiling, loving! I love watching your show! Go Bethenny!!

napgrl
napgrl

Unfortunately, I have started fast-forwarding the therapy sessions of the show. Hopefully that is all I will skip, as the story line seems to be a little redundant.

AAofTexas
AAofTexas

Hi Bethenny, I just wanted to say that I admire your hard work and dedication to each role in your life. It's not easy being there for those that need and love you and also for yourself. You ultimately do an awesome job! I also want to compliment you on just how blunt and open you are. Being a blunt person is not always taken well by others. I must say you are very kirky about it and you are hilarious as heck. Very few, and I do mean few people can be so truthful without sounding mean and pretentious. You are a strong woman who has come a long way. I applaud the way you face the haters and be ever so humble to those that just appreciate you. I love the show, Jason and the baby; especially the baby. She as adorable as can be. Best of luck to you and much more success and happiness.

observ
observ

Bethenny! your comments this time are full or wisdom. I think you getting some points and begin to act and smile with confidence. At least in this blog you do not lower yourself to spill some hateful thoughts about your mom. I feel like your therapy is finally seeded some wisdom. Keep on this road of being true to you and not let yourself being sucked into ugly tit-a-tat. I felt that Jason was a little weary of the cameras and felt a little bummed from previous exposures. I would like to see Jason who is not so afraid to disagree for the fear of being lashed at. Please mentor him to be at ease with you. Not guarded and submissive. It was strange that you put all your design ideas on your own. I have done remodeling many times. It was always a team work with my husband. Jason seems to stay out of it. Does not feel like a real family. I hope two of you will grow into each other to become a team in everything you do. You may one day let go of the bad memories from your past and look back remembering the good things that shaped you onto your success. Nothing can beat this feeling of holding on to a happy childhood. Shape your life around those happy childhood moments. You will be unbeatable if you can. Your thrill over rollerblading is those moments from childhood you can hold on to as foundation-building for happy Bethanny.

Lady Doodah
Lady Doodah

Poor Jason! A marriage is not supposed to be 80% her and 55 him. I would cheer Jason for finally growing some you-know-whats.

LyndaS
LyndaS

I'm not the least bit "worried" about your relationship with Jason or anyone else. He's an adult and can do as he pleases. Honey, you've got it all: the really big career, financial stability, a loving (and very patient husband) and a baby. From this side of the set, you make your own misery. I believe you manipulate the story line to inject friction because you believe it makes you more approachable. However, all of your machinations just make you seem like a shrill, self pitying drama queen. You need to take a chill pill, relax and enjoy your success. Why do you require a show and constant adoration from your obsequious panderers? Why do you continue a ridiculously over filled schedule when you have everything you claimed you wanted? The only answer is that you are a rare breed that can't be fully satisfied and appreciate what you DO have. That's not interesting tv. It's watching an all consuming megalomaniac at work.

MissMisty
MissMisty

Hi Bethenny. :)

I'm watching The Wendy Williams show and she said that you and Jason are separated. I so hope that's not true aand just a rumor. Can you comment on that.

Or does anyone know the truth?

Married for 30 years
Married for 30 years

My husband and I struggled in our marriage for many years, with his controlling family being our number one issue. My husband is also the "nice" guy who just can't say no to most everyone. Now that my in-laws have passed and other in-laws have moved away, I can not tell you how often I say prayers thanking God for helping me to stay in our marriage. My children never went through their parents divorcing, our family is so close now, and I am so blessed and thankful that I still have my "nice" guy husband. He is wonderful. Staying together was completely worth all of the efforts, talks, arguments, frustrations, and tear filled days. Our family is and always be our priority in life. Please find the courage to keep your "nice" guy and family together.

Sue K.
Sue K.

Love You.. Love the Show!! Please.. Please hold on to your marriage. It keeps you grounded.

Bryn deserves to know what family truely is.......

KChicago
KChicago

Thanks for sharing all that you do (and thanks to Jason and the ladies in the office too.) You could take the money and run with whatever content you want, but I appreciate that you let us in, struggles and all.

brightwings
brightwings

Bethenny, you have always been my favorite of ALL housewives shows and you are so very funny. What a great friend you would be! Houswives of NY was never the same without you..ever. My only objection to the new show is all the wacky costumes and obviously 'made by bravo" silly things you all are doing. Its as if you don't have enough material. Jason is awesome and you are so very lucky. Hope you and Jill made up..you guys were great together.

dzzylz
dzzylz

I feel sorry for Jason. Every man needs there space. In our house remodel we had a separate building with the washer/dryer etc. When we put on the garage and got everything out of the building my husband was so happy to have all his tools, wood working, music, and a place to call his own. Its different than an office. It's their stuff. It took 12 years before we finished the addition and he never complained. I just see how happy he is out there....

Chicalika
Chicalika

Its sad that Jason had to give up his little space, in that HUGE aparment! And, honestly, converting space with windows into a closet seems like poor planing---I would never give up natural light, like that (the living room honestly seems dark and closed off, even though its so large)...there wasn't enough space in that apartment to shift things around??? For $5 million I would have purchased a town house in that area, and that would include outdoor space for little Bryn too.

Cali girl
Cali girl

Bethenny, As I have said before...you crack me up! I love your show more than any other Bravo show. Even with all the fame and money, you seem like the same girl we fell in love with on the NY Housewives. Still so down to earth and honest. I really think that is why people are so drawn to you. I love your personality and the blunt nature. You are truly one of kind and I have really seen you come a long way since the first show. Even though you have had trials and tribulations in the past you don't let that define who you are... I love that about you! You work hard on finding solutions instead of living in the past. We have all been through hard times in our lives...but finding ways to work past them is what we all strive for. That is why I feel you are such a wonderful role model for all women. Continue to be YOU...a wonderful mother, wife, and business women. Take Care!!!!!

krisLbruno
krisLbruno

Honestly your therapy sessions help ME a lot. I totally relate to a lot of things you say about being guarded and a fighter and not wanting your daughter to have to grow up to be like that. I feel the exact same way and it is one of the things preventing me from having children. As amusing as your show can be, I often find myself choking up because you hit a nerve that many don't understand in me. Thank you!

Shelia 101
Shelia 101

I watched this weeks show and I laughed and cried and that are my criteria for any good movie. Thanks so much for sharing your life and your woderful family. I hate the haters, they all come out when someone shines. My daughter struggles with haters as a sophmore in HS, much as I did and I try to teach her to shine no matter what is happening. Fly above it like you said someone said. lol

The moment when you came to the realization of why you feel alone was powerful stuff, at least for me. I went through much of what you describe of your childhood. My mother was very selfish and she didn't give a crap what happened to us, it didn't interfer in her life. Thank God I had two sisters. When we were small we lived in her home town and we had lots of relatives to look after us. She moved us across the country and that is when the real fun started. I won't go into the whole mess, but I wanted you to know that your session affected me and I am so thankful for what you have done for others.

I can imagine how hard being in the public has been on your life but it has also been very rewarding. It's good to see you enjoying some of the fruits of your labor. I can't wait to see the new digs.

LOve YOu B.

Ande`
Ande`

I have thorough enjoyed the show this season! However, this show was THE BEST! You are a wonderful person. You surround yourself with great people! Love you.. Love the show.. wish nothing but greatness!!

kop housewife
kop housewife

Congrats on your anniversay! You got thru the hardest one..the first year! May you have many more years! Love your show and will continue to pull for you and Jason!

Foonda
Foonda

Bethenny:

I can't believe you are taking a closet over your husband's man cave. As far as I can tell from watching the show, albeit edited and all, Jason seems to get very little, if anything, for his efforts. I think the only thing he asked for regarding the apartment was that the office be separate from the living quarters and a simple man cave (which I feel he truly deserves and needs; partially to have some quiet time from your ranting and demands). And he couldn't even get that! I don't like to be mean, but you are one of the most self-centered, selfish and self-absorbed women I've seen on TV or met in real life. It's ALWAYS about YOU (ALWAYS!). Do you ever significantly compromise in your marriage? I have yet to see you compromise on ANYTHING! It's your way or the highway. Are Jason's needs and wants of so little concern or importance to you? Why did you even get married? You seem to live your life as if you were single. I can't see any man (or woman) sticking around when so little (if any) respect or concern is being shown. I know I would get pretty darn sick of that type of treatment real fast. I used to admire you, but I'm truly sorry to say that I no longer like or respect you, thereby; I'm done watching your show. I will not be surprised if I happen to hear through the media that Jason at some point gets exhausted from your constant controlling and demands, and decides to pack. And I truly wouldn't blame him. I truly loved watching you in the beginning, with all your spunk, but that spunk has turned into a monster, and that saddens me.

JuliaMN
JuliaMN

Happy Anniversary and many, many more to come

DiddyDoo
DiddyDoo

PLEASE stop explaining yourself and your every move. THAT is exactly what used to separate you from the other housewives who passive aggressively work our emotions. YOU don't have to explain every move. When you do this, you seem weak and that is not who you HAVE been. We love you AS IS.....

Viewer54
Viewer54

So glad to see an episode where you and Jason are not fighting. I know you can't control the editing and Bravo apparently likes the conflict. We all know everyone in relationships struggle from time to time.

I am confused about something. A couple of episodes back, when you had your girlfriends weekend in the Hamptons, you spoke about how you did have a connection with your stepdada and you thought of him as a dad. You mentioned this when you were complaining about Jason and his family. Then this week, we hear about the fights and abuse between your mom and stepdad and how each of them wanted you to witness or know about the fights. WTF?

Again, you need to embrace your in laws. Whether you want to admit it or not, they are the sane ones on the show.

collins1983
collins1983

Well said, My husband and I of many, many happy years have gone through the same things with much less money.We were so happy to see your show over the years because he could relate to Jason and I can relate to you whole-heartedly. It makes us feel like we are normal. We are just humans trying to cohabitat. very inspiring. Love you! Love your show!

Blues Mama
Blues Mama

Ironic to read here that Yo Mama watches the show and even blogs so she can advise therapy together to heal! Good one Bernadette/ snappy. Would bet my last buck that's never gonna happen Granny. Can't blame you, Bryn is the most adorable kid on TV! My suggestion Bernadette is get your own therapy. The Hoppy's are obviously not interested..

Katie G.
Katie G.

Bethenny, you are the best! I find you to be honest and genuine. Regarding your mom, I believe that God gives us our family to learn from, bottom line. It doesn't mean you get the best parents, only the parents that have the combined DNA to make you unique. I support your decision to not have anything to do with her, it's your decision, and I think it's the best one for you and your family! Hope you, Jason and Bryn have many, many, happy years together! All my best to you, skater girl! Katie~ Arizona