Bethenny Frankel

Bethenny thinks that in the end Julie made the right decision.

on Apr 10, 20120

I really liked this episode, because it was largely about female power, which is, in many ways, what I stand for.

Julie made a decision. Whether that is what you or I would do is irrelevant. She was stuck. She was tormented and something needed to happen for something to happen. To be honest, it was better for everyone. When someone is struggling with something, it affects their whole environment. Jackie was so enthusiastic about embarking on a new adventure, and it was difficult to do so while Julie's heart and head were leaving the game. It's the circle of life in business. I love Julie, and she is forever in my heart and connected to my family, but I do believe that it was the best decision for everyone. She is happy, the office is running smoothly and quietly, and everyone has found their place.

151 comments
Astrit
Astrit

Empress, this is the best Bethenny/Jason blog I have read.Everyone has been busy dissecting the Hoppys sure that they will drocive soon. What a bitch! What a Wimp! When I look at them I see growing pains x 10000. It does not matter whether the source of stress is *good or bad* your mind and body is under stress. Look at brides planning their wedding – and they are supposed to be happy.I just fread Carole Radziwill’s book “What Remains”. She is one of the new RHNY. Radziwill implies that JFK Jr. and Carolyn Bessette’s marriage was severely strained over the constant scrutiny because of his super-celebrity, coupled with his failing business (George magazine). They loved each other but the constant stress was becoming too much. The golden couple would have been happy being bronze.In my own life, we had an unpleasant event happen to our family that basically became the single topic of conversation in our household. I finally scheduled weekends away for us where” Topic XX is Not Allowed” and to no one’s surprise those weekends were great.What I am getting at is, I think Jason and Bethenny will be just fine. And they will be finer faster if she moves the damn business out of the apartment, and if noth the Hoppys stopped talking about Being Bethenny all of the time.

amy maloney
amy maloney

Bethany, No offense, but your Interior Designer sucks...great space, horrific choices...totally underwhelming. Disappointed you didn't have the same good taste picking someone that not only would have made it easier, in terms of process, but the final result (with the exception of the Skinny Girl Bar) demonstrated very little imagination. All pomp with no circumstance. You can't buy taste...and apparently, you can buy bad, bland, generic design. I want to redo it...maybe in LA. Nothing is "that cool"... If you ever want good design choices for your space, let me know. Amy

Reggie1
Reggie1

Please, Lord Jesus make this woman stop sabotaging her marriage, her success. You are Loved You are a Wonderful Mother You are a Wonderful Wife You deserve everything you have. Accept it. If you doubt how people feel about you check the ratings, check sales of your products. I know it is a journey once you start to open the windows of your mind, I have done it. Look around and embrace your life.

Hulali
Hulali

I cant watch your show anymore. I ready enjoyed watching before but it's just too sad watching you self destruct! Sorry

Jshaw
Jshaw

People, please stop using this board to write about your personal problems; i thought we were discussing Bethenny. No one wants to read a book about your family drama and how you made it through. Tell that story to your therapist. If you don't have one, perhaps you should get one.

Hulali
Hulali

If getting married having a baby and running a Skinny Girl empire is so overwhelming they why do you add to all this stress by doing a reality show. You are. Leased with a loving family and financial security so put them first and stop spreading hourself so thin. Ambition is one thing but greed and a lust for fame will destroy everything. Stop and be happy with the blessings you have right now.

sweetp045
sweetp045

The thing I love most about you and your show is that it's very real. The cameras only show us a glimpse of your life and relationships, so people need to stop criticizing you and Jason for the little bit we see once a week. With that being said, I've been married for 29 years, and I can honestly say that I love my husband more now than I ever have before. It wasn't always like that. Yours and Jason's arguments sound a lot like ours used to, and sometimes still do. I also had an unpleasant childhood, and my husband had what I consider a "normal" childhood. When we were first married, and for several years after, I used to think to myself "He's too good for me", "Why is he married to me", "He should just leave me". Those feelings were my feelings about myself and not his. Although I'm pretty sure that there were lots of times he wondered why he was married to me too :)) God knows I drove him crazy, and he drove me crazy right back! Over the years I've learned that I'm a good person, a good mother, a good wife, and so are you. My point is this, having a good marriage is HARD work, but as the years go on it gets much better. Honest. It's clear that you and Jason love each other very much so you need to work through the junk "stuff" to get to the good "stuff". You have a beautiful family!

EjadeS
EjadeS

You're great, inspiring, funny & REAL! That is why we love you. People being critical of you or Jason is wrong. Though shalt not judge! I hope you guys work it out & I think Jason would like & benefit from therpy, heck we all could! Good luck! Love the show! It is actually reality, when so many others aren't! Be happy, live in the moment & keep inspiring others! Your struggles make you human!

Just a Thought
Just a Thought

As someone on the outside looking in, I have a thought about one thing that might be causing some issues in your marriage. You and Jason both use catastrophic language a lot. The "you're damaged" "I've ruined Jason" "I'm so miserable all the time." In my life, I've seen my belief systems influence my thought narratives which become my words and actions. This story of victimhood has served you well for a long time because it turned you into a tough, beautiful survivor. But, that story is no longer serving you. When you hear yourself using catastrophic language, it's time to tell a different story.

Bonz
Bonz

P.S. You have mentioned in a couple episodes that you experience physical tension in your neck and back, trigger points as you say (in the chicken wing). These are often a sign of a nerve being pinched in the neck c5-c7. A physical therapist can recommend exercises to counter balance and take pressure off the nerves in your neck. Certain Yoga poses (I was addicted to yoga) can sometimes exacerbate the pain. Acupuncture really helps. Best of luck with your pain in the neck(s). Therapy could go a long way. for both of them. :-)

Bonz
Bonz

Wow Bethenny, you looked amazing! Jason did a great job this year with appreciating your preference for the non spotlight BDay. Spectacular necklace and perfect adjustment for that dress to shorten the chain.

Viewers can only speculate on what goes on behind closed doors with you and Jason... I was glad to see Jason verbalize that you are the listener in your fighting and own up to his temper and his attack style in the fighting. I love Julie but her last blog said it was all in your head - I think when you have a spouse who attacks you while you are already surrounded by stress... that will ignite a very real response or justify a shut down.

When someone does not trust that the other will always be there... sometimes their fear becomes a self fulfilling prophecy because they push away from the person they fear will leave them. Hopefully Jason will learn to trust that you will stay - it will have to come from within him - it's like confidence it needs to come from oneself all the assurance can fall on deaf ears.

Bonnie

CarolinaLPC
CarolinaLPC

Bethenny, my heart goes out to you and Jason as I watch what's happening in your marriage this season. I know these episodes where filmed several months ago,and I hope that you have found more peace and healing in your marriage since then. Adjusting to married life is extremely difficult and the issues you are struggling with are normal (in-laws, money, power struggles, parenting, etc) but at the end of the day you both are seeking to feel safety in loving one another. When we don't feel that safety our ineffective coping strategies rear their ugly heads and so the cycle begins again. He pulls away ( what feels safe to him -is interpreted as him being superior or perfect by you) then you go after him (which feels safe to you- it's better to have his attention in an argument than not at all - this feels like an attack to him - so he pulls further away....and you go after him (until you don't anymore) thus your cycle). It's going to be hard to get out of this cycle on your own. If this comment finds its way to you or someone who talks to you I would suggest you transition to a therapist who specializes in Emotionally Focused Therapy. It's great for healing these attachment injuries. This is a great treatment approach either individually or as a couple. Dr. Amador has been great and has guided you through a lot of challenging times but it can be beneficial to have another perspective to challenge you to grow in other areas. God bless and Love to you and your family.

Feroza
Feroza

Oh my goodness, can't wait for this week's blog to be written so I have to write now while watching the Mexico episode, dont know if you will get this or if they will post it. I cannot believe after all the therapy you do that nothing sticks. I feel you like hearing yourself talk and all your success just makes you feel you are right. In Mexico you tell Jason he is making you feel like you are a bad person, no love you are making YOURSELF feel like a bad person. If you age badly it will be his fault ??? Noooo it will be your fault. The only person you can control is yourself, no one else. No marriage is perfect, you are both young healthy, successful adults with a beautiful baby. Enjoy what is infront of you, you cannot change your past, don't screw up Brins future and have her live your life, please.

Ang I
Ang I

I have watched you on tv for several years and I have always loved your sense of humor. This season I feel so bad for you every time I watch the show. I feel like that everything you wanted in life before you have and you still don't seem happy. It is sad to see all the beautiful things you have in your life and you don't seem fulfilled. You spend so much time saying you have issues and may never be happy and that all the problems in your marriage are your fault and I think that is wrong. You are a beautiful and talented woman and you have things that others only dream about. Put your past behind you and live for today. This is the only life you get Bethany......don't wait until your daughter is grown to realize how fast children grow up and you missed out on letting your past not allow you to enjoy your future and your life. I struggle with my past and I have dealt with having issues with embracing my life with joy because I was focusing on my past. The past has happened and the truth is it sucks that not everyone has a great childhood. But, you have a child to give everything you didn't have and live through her childhood. Your mother is missing out on your life and her granddaughter's life and don't give her the power to have affected your childhood in a negative way and now it is affecting your adulthood. I know Jason isn't perfect and I think you worry too much about everyone thinking he is and that you are to blame for all your issues. He has things in his life that you will never have.....loving and caring parents, but just because he doesn't have the same issues you have doesn't mean he doesn't have issues. We all have issues Bethany. I wish the best for you and your family!

Eghey17776
Eghey17776

I have to say that I agree with the comment below this one. Bethenny, I have been a HUGE fan of yours since first seeing you on RHONY. I have such a similar sense of humor and witty personality, and loved watching you hold your own amongst the craziness. However, this new direction is troubling to me. It seems that this season of your show in particular is very focused on your constant complaining about everything wrong with your life, and your past, instead of acknowledging that you literally are one of the luckiest women in the world. You run an incredibly successful business, have a husband who loves and adores you, a beautiful baby girl, an incredible support team, a dream, custom apartment in Manhattan, etc, etc....the list goes ON! It is very hard to sit back and feel sorry for you....especially when like others have said, you are not the first person to have a difficult childhood. And you know what? A lot of people had an even worse one than you.....but instead of constantly talking about it they put it aside and focus on the positive. And it just has to be said.......that there are SO many bigger, pressing issues in the world that it's hard to just watch one spoiled woman with EVERYTHING anyone could ask for and more, complain about how hard her life is. There is real struggle and suffering in the world...people who are lucky to even make it through the day. And you know what...I bet even THOSE people appreciate what they have... I think you just owe it to your fans and yourSELF to re-evaulate things and the direction your career, and this show are going...

cynthiz
cynthiz

Bethenny you used to be able to let things roll off your back and now you are so sensitive to everything Jason says. He can't win with you. I think you need to stop going to that therapist - he is not doing you any favors and his "help" may very well destroy your marriage. You have everything a woman could possibly want and yet you claim to be so unhappy. Do you want to go back to the life you had before you met Jason?? Were you happier then. Be grateful for Jason and Bryn and your success and relax. Stop dwelling on your past and move forward with your life before you ruin everything.

LABianchi
LABianchi

Does anyone know the name of the designer ot store of the adorable red dress bryn wore at Bethany's birthday dinner?

Ms. Spiegel
Ms. Spiegel

Bethenny,

I love your show but feel so bad when in every show you seem unhappy. I think we all know Jason is not perfect, however neither are we. I think your comaraderie with your female employees is great but I think Jason needs to be number one, as is Bryn. Please be thankful for what you have, try to be less critical of yourself and take time to smell the roses.

Star1234
Star1234

Bethenny, you are wrapped pretty tight--high maintenance. Jason is passive aggressive. You t3wo must have known all this before you got married--as a viewer, I am sick of the self-centered bickering and may quit watching. Look at that gorgeous resort--what if you were broke, missing a limb, had a fatal disease--get real! Enjoy your life! And yes, I don't always do this, either--but I don't put my failure on TV. As for that shrink--he is so bland he is like the Cheshire cat and he indulges you in everything.

Ginterpk
Ginterpk

Hey Bethany...I lived your life..lol...minus the money part. But if I can say anything to you is this....Put yourself in Jason and Jason's parents, and Bryn's shoes. Try think from their perspective. Jason resents you for not engaging his parents the way he wants his family to engage them. They are dear people...midwestern, but dear. They want to love you. I really feel you keep yourself away because you do not want to get hurt. He loves you and wants to keep his family together, but he needs the love from his parents that he has always had. When his brother died they were his everything, just like you and Jason are Bryn's everything. He needs you and he needs them. You need them too Bethany. Bryn does. One day, they will be gone. Do you want that kind of relationship for you and Bryn, or the kind that Jason desires and has had with his parents? I promise you, if you engage his parents, your marriage will be peaceful, and you will learn to accept unconditional love....I promise you!

True Fan
True Fan

Bethenny, I have been a fan of yours from the beginning. Your success is a wonderful thing. You have so much to be grateful for, a beautiful daughter and a husband that truly loves you. You can’t forget the pass but moving on an appreciating where you are is a true sign of growth. I’d give anything to have my husband here with me today. I lost him six years ago and it seems like he passed away yesterday. The one thing that keeps me going is the knowledge that he truly loved me and let me know every day just how much he loved me. I miss that so much. All your success could be lost if you can’t appreciated the little things in life. Loneliness and growing old alone has to be one of the saddest experiences to go through, trust me. Lighting up, relax and try to let your husband know you love him back!! Things will even out.

arnett
arnett

Bethenny, I and about nine of my girlfriends have adored you since you were on New York Housewives - always rooted for you, especially where that crazy Kelly Bensimone was involved. But this season, what's happened to you? You are a totally different person. You are driving your husband away and it appears you are using the camera to put him down and talk about the awful way he treats you "behind closed doors". Really? It's hard to believe we viewers never see those awful things you say he says to you, that seem so out of character for him. It seems like you just can't stand that everyone adores your husband. It's sad, because you should be happy people like your husband, but it seems like you're actually jealous. You're being even more self-centered and full of yourself this season. I hate to say it, but it seems like now that you have a more secure future, you're thinking you don't need Jason like you did before. You're going to drive him away and what man is going to put up with the way you are now? You say such cold and hurtful things and you cry about your past all the time. We all have bad stuff in our past, but you just wont let go and you constantly want sympathy for it (why else would you let the camera in your therapy sessions?) and you never move on. Watching the way you treat Jason is exhausting and just so unbelievable. You are going to drive the father of your child away. I don't see how much more he can take. It's obvious he's about had all he can take. It's like he can't do anything right. Of course he's not perfect. But neither are you. Stop throwing him under the bus all the time. We get it, you're afraid we like him better than you. Can you just for once in your life think of someone other than yourself? The only time you are soft and kind is with your daughter. Thank God for that at least.

nicoleluck
nicoleluck

My husband and I have been married six months in one month and can attest that he have definitely had many ups and downs. In the recent past I decided to be more like my Maker. I recently started trying to make people happier, such as complimenting someone when they do a good job. I feel like when someone does good and receive verbal affirmation they tend to want to be better. I started this at work and with my friends as a trial thing, and I started to see good responses. During this time of my experiment my husband and I were going through a rough patch and since I started seeing difference in them, I thought I would give it whirl with him. Now I'm not saying at first there was a lot to compliment in his behavior but anytime I did see I would tell how great it was and who great it made me feel. Now I'm definitely educated enough to a lot theological advice but I told my husband, when started doing more and more things that made me happy and he started spending the kindness to others that to change a behavior it starts with practice, then becomes a habit, and eventually becomes a behavior. Things have really started looking in our relationship because at least we have got to the habit stage. I hope you and Jason find your way of getting to a GREAT place and live forever have with your li

HeyB
HeyB

I have been a fan since you were on the apprentice. I always felt bad for you on RHONY because I thought they treated you as a tag-along. Loved watching you get married and have your beautiful baby girl. I have a problem now. It appears that you are happiest when you are unhappy and try to bring others down with you. Jason is not perfect. You seem to be the only one constantly telling him that he is. You bring it up every time you start feeling sorry for yourself. Everyone always seems to be saying "bad things" to Bethany, but you never let anything go. You always bring up the past. You have a sharp, sarcastic tongue and you use it often and then cry when someone gives it right back to you. I know we don't see everything...but for god sake...you have a patient and generous husband, a beautiful baby girl, and enough money to be happy the rest of your life. Do you know how hard it is getting to watch you cry and bemoan everything and everyone around you??? So hard that I am done. Please re-evaluate and take a look at others around you that would take what you have and appreciate it and love it and try not to sabotage it. You also need to find a doctor that actually tries to help you and does not simply agree with what you say, hand you some psycho BS, and send you out with bigger problems than when you walked in. Just sad and pathetic.

Blah blah
Blah blah

Get over yourself and accept who you are and stop trying to change people. Bottom line RELAX and enjoy your life before you destroy the life's of those around you.

Crazy Bitch
Crazy Bitch

OH MY GOSH! I didn't know Jason wouldn't go to couples therapy with you! That speaks volumes about him. Does he not realize this? His 'unhealthy attachment' to his very nice parents (I think) and him feeling like he has to make up for his brothers death, in his actions to his parents, is unhealthy, mentally. We are all screwed up, and come from dysfunctional families. And his is one too. And yet he doesn't recognize it, or want to admit it. YOU are NOT to blame for all the bullsh*t in your marriage. And his sneaky passive aggressiveness is JUST WRONG. Tell him to get his ass into counseling, or you are done. You deserve better. And don't let someone call you Kate Gosselin. So not true. You are a winner. And quit blaming your parents, you need to forgive them to yourself, and let it go. I've done it, and I haven't accomplished nearly what you have in your life.

Blogger1234
Blogger1234

I am watching the Mexico episode right now and I just realized that everything Jason loved about you (aggressive, quick wit), he now has a problem with. He wants you to change or conform and be something you are not. He seems embarassed by you. Jason, settle down. I also see that Jason is very traditional. He needs to realize that you are not traditional. You seem to try to do what you can to make him happy. Does he do the same?

julia vaughn
julia vaughn

Thank you for your honesty and for taking the high road.

Traybee
Traybee

Behtany, although you may not have a good relationship with your family, Jason has beautiful parents that he adores and that adore him, you are always busy doing things for your business, do something beautiful for jason and Bren, pack them up sometimes and let them stay a couple of weeks with his parents without you. Jason never has privacy in his home you always have your assistants, designers and who knows who else there.

Prims
Prims

Bethenny I think you complaint too much. Why don't you just enjoy what you have so people can see that part of you. Because all we see is you complaining about Jason or something else. I love you and your show but, I'm starting to get tired of the same BS Stop acting like the victim. You have no idea all the people that wish they had all the things you have, so enjoy it. PLEASE...

12Iman
12Iman

When strong people get married the first years of marriage are always difficult.I think my husband and I fought for the first 3 years before we finally knew one another well enough to trust and really build a strong bond. I didn't think we would make it but 35 years later I feel as thought the old battle field of the beginning allowed us to be 1 but our own individual at the same time. So keep up the good fight it's worth it. Also remember to always invite his family to everything because this is what families do, even if they don't come to an event.

Grannyct
Grannyct

Bethanny, I get sick of hearing what a saint my hubby is too, and you and I could be twins as far as life experiences go. Without your money sadly :) We have been together over 30 years now and it took me accepting that everything is not always about me and becoming less defensive and more giving for things to work. Don't jump ship too soon, I think you will regret it in the long run. Think long and hard about what is really important in life before you burn any more bridges.

Chrisstine
Chrisstine

Bethenny, I love your show! Thank you for really making your reality show an honest story of your life. I respect you for not being artificially sweet for the cameras, or not holding back a remark, that some may judge you for. I also grew up in an abusive home: when my parents were divorced when I was 5 , NO ONE wanted the kids, and there was a custody "fight" who would HAVE to take them. My mother lost that fight and never let me forget that I was the "devil child". She is a closet alcoholic and I believe also szichzophrenic, and every day, at about 4 pm, she would change personalities, from a nice normal person, to an evil, combative, psycho. My father tried to rape me and held me hostage in the basement for one night when I was 17, threatening to kill me if I ever told anyone. I told my mother the next day, but left out the sexual part, (just said that he hit me and please not to tell him or he would kill me, and that I had to get out of that house that day(I was living with him at that time, and only knew that I had to get out that day). She of course, immediately told him, and I spent the next 5 years truly frightened that I would be murdered. -As a matter of fact, as I wrote the previous 2 sentences, I changed my name for this post, because I still have that fear, although I now have a good relationship with my father and love him very much-if you can believe it. He has apologized, and I have forgiven him) For the first part of my life, I was a successful professional all the traumatic and horrific experiences I have had and let it destroy my life. I was a successful professional person, but then suddenly my life has spun out of control due to physical and mental illness9depression). It was as if I was watching a movie that I had no control over. I was doing whatever I can to destroy my life, gambling away thousands of dollars a month, but not being able to stop it. I had always known that I should go to therapy, but never believed that I could afford it, even when I was working. Now unemployed, I had given up hope to ever get therapy. However, during one therapy session on your show, I realized that I have to seek therapy no matter if I had to become "a ward of the state" to do it. But luckily, I didn't have to go that far, and I have found a place that has a sliding scale of 3 to 5 dollars per session. I found out this information by inquiring at the county health department, and they referred me to a facility that offers sliding scale fees. I'm 46 years old, and hoping to finally get my life back on track by confronting everything I have buried in my mind. I'm happy to see that you have been able to overcome your childhood trauma and have a successful professional and personal life.

Dr. Pangloss
Dr. Pangloss

Ridonkulous! Here it is a man, in this case Jason is drowning in his own ego pool. So what do men do? Say something like "babe your the best and I was thinking, I may be way off here, but do you think you should have invited my parents to my 40th birthday, what do you think sweetums? Hell to the no! They throw it at you, after it has been brewing in their little minds until the cover blows off, so they can have their "AH HA" moment. Then when the woman in this case Bethany defends herself. Men start throwing all your $%#! and weaknesses in your face. All that stuff spouses share, that at the time they were sharing, it was all "baby don't worry, me Tarzan you Jane, I got this." Male ego intake, head above water, no problem. Remember he needs to have his "AH HA" because this is his trip, his guilt his inability of self to be secure in the fact that his parents will be happy he is happy. In Jason's case his parents lost one son etc.. He has put much weight on himself to make up for their loss. If he can just blame Bethany he can feel better and fall asleep. Even if he has to throw low blows to make his point. So what do women do? We get all sad and hurt, even though what we are really feeling is confused. What we should say is "hey Tarzan please leave your accusations in the suggestion box," and point to the garbage can. In short when men are behaving badly and trying to make you feel bad it probably has nothing to do with you at all. It is their #@% -up %$#! Stop trying to change him, change how you deal with him.. and start having fun again.

flobe
flobe

Bethenny, Why don't you slow up some? You talk so fast and move so fast, slow up girl...Take it easy...You are a lovely, smart woman. Try not being critical of anything for 24 hours and see how it feels. Take some of the criticism from your husband and ponder it awhile instead of instantly coming back with your million miles an hour thoughts. Just sit down and think,,,,,about,,,,it...Don't instantly blame yourself....or him for that matter....You don't let anything just roll off do you? Slow up girl......Find some peace within for once....Flo

Amanda A.
Amanda A.

Greetings all, I have a question. Has anyone actually seen or heard Jason say to Bethenny the hurtful things she claims he says? It sounds to me like what she is repeating is her own twisted interpretation of his words. Some people tend to demonize everything to make the other person sound bad and make themselves ever the victim. I dated someone like that and what I see Bethenny doing on the show is exactly the way the person I dated used to behave. And let me tell you that experience was awful. Poor Jason doesn't stand a chance.

dls2cents
dls2cents

Stop feeling sorry for yourself, stop trying to be involved in soooo many projects, RELAX and enjoy your life..your child, your husband, your dog...just relax! I still love you, you have been through hard times (but you're not the first nor will you be the last person to have a messed up childhood) stop focusing on negative things... your mother predicted you would end up alone and so far you're proving her right and yes, as another person pointed out.. I would hate for you to become Kate Gossling. I don't think anyone on here is being a "hater" I just think they see the change in you. It would probably be best if you weren't on the show anymore and just try to live a somewhat "normal" life. Jason is not perfect and I know you're tired of people saying that to you but he seems like a good guy. Maybe he is a little annoyed with your success but I honestly think that if you just walked away from the cameras and spend more time with your family, it would all work out. You're not superwoman stop trying to do so many things at once... go have a "wooosaah" moment, let go of your past, get it together, enjoy the money you've made from all your hard work and be happy!! Good luck!

jane lee
jane lee

When your husband is passive aggressive like Jason, its pretty damn hard to keep your head up. I was married to the same type. Nice to everyone else. Damaging words. Guilt trips. Bethanny, you need a supporting, loving partner. I love your show because its REAL. You are REAL. We are so alike. You use humor(and you are so funny) to deal with hurt. Your mom did a number on you(as did mine) and it carried over into adulthood. But you are smart and have a heart of gold. You are a great mom, and a great wife. You have tons of supporters. And your little girl is a jewel. A pure gem. Just like you. From one New York woman to another....lots of love to you.

Liz Scott
Liz Scott

Here is the way i see it. Everybody struggles with their own stuff just like you are doing on tv for all of us to see. Watching you struggle on tv always breaks my heart bc i never want to see you cry, but, at the same time, lets me know we all struggle. And a lot of yours play into mine so i feel NOT so on my own. Girl, everytime I watch you, I just think I wish I could sip me a cocktail with and talk. It is what it is, some ppl. are more compulsive, introspective, more emotional, and its NEVER a flaw. Well, it cant be...bc i am the same. It's a "u and so many of us" thing. I truly enjoy watching somebody as funny and genuine as you, Bethenney, fight some of our everyday battles out loud. Stay strong. I'd assume cameras can change lives. Stay in the "struggling chef that first met Julie/manhatten mom offer mode. You started relatable and so damn funny. You r it girl. I believe in you. Always have. Honey, if you lost your entire skinny girl/jim beam deal today...id still wanna kick it with you and thank you for the entertainment. you make us all FINALLY feel normal. thx.

Annie003
Annie003

Dearest cladaugh, You Get It!!!

What a wonderful post you made and hit all the most important points pertaining to Bethenny's trouble and sorrow surrounding her life right now in the Show. Only people who have grown up feeling unloved, not feeling safe and feeling unwanted could ever possibly understand the angst that Bethenny is facing right now. These are HUGE obstacles to overcome...at any age!

My only hope is that Bethenny can see this for what it is and put it all in the past where it belongs, and move forward from here on in. It takes a very strong person to put their horrible past safely in a box and store it away forever. Only time will tell if she is able to do this successfully, with the help of her Therapist, and live the good life that she so desparetly longs for with Jason and adorable Bryn.

lanam
lanam

Bethenny….Listen. It is ok to be different. The key to living together is not to find a perfect guy (because it does not exist) but to find a harmony in dealing with the man you have. He is a father to your child. And your child needs a happy family and a father and grandparents around. Success is in building relationship and making a study of each other so that you can work around the ‘corners’. Jason is fine. You can do many things with him without major issues. He is supportive by nature and humble and does not run away. He is there to catch you up what you are falling. It is called reliable. Make your child needs a priority. Making a life with Jason is a very achievable goal. He is like a soft butter. Work it wisely. Care for his needs and make room for him to feel Loved and appreciated. The return could be an amazing gift for your well been. Running for the stars in the relationships will bring you to disastrous end. You have got to believe in yourself… then you would know better then to doubt yourself when someone tells you that you are damaged. Get your strength from your own self confidence. You define yourself as complete and wholesome and beautiful and Gifted and exciting and bright and funny and fun. Don’t let anybody else define who you are in a diminishing way. Because nobody knows you better then you do. It is ok to be drama-girl. At least you are not boring and not ordinary. It is ok if someone points to your shortcomings. Take with a healthy attitude. They can have a point and you should listen and pay attention. But don’t beat yourself over it. Just try to better yourself if Someone telling you of your shortcoming actually is right.

SW_1
SW_1

I agree with dtad completely. From what I saw on the show, Jason has said some really nasty, hurtful things to Bethenny that leave her feeling confused, especially when all she hears from everyone is "oh, what a great husband you have, and oh, how great Jason is." He says these things behind closed doors and no one else gets to see it or hear it. Deep down she already believes these things about herself, so he is going in for the kill with these comments to her, such as "you are damaged and you are going to end up alone." I also think Jason needs to go to therapy because of issues he has and he needs to know it is not ok to played f*ed up mind games with your wife being hot and cold, doin 180's when you are out in public and then back in the private home, and throwing hurtful comments to come out the winner in an argument.

HKviewer
HKviewer

Money does not buy happiness or take away hurt that family or friends have caused in the past/present. Those who write that Bethenny should be automatically happy because she has money now are delusional. You see her working through it by going to the therapist and trying to get resolutions on a daily basis. Other people become drug-addicted, debt-addicted, etc. so give her a break if she cries and tries to work through her marriage. She admits her wrongs and rights. Great show-keep it real Bethenny and keep working at it.

Bonz
Bonz

Dear B

I hope Jason's experience with some of his own scrutiny will result in him understanding what you are faced with, empathize and stop contributing to the heat you take as a result of his posturing and playing the martyr. This is why you have to defend yourself, set the record straight and live the authentic life you strive to live. I love the balls to the wall directness you show because anything else seems less honest. The downside is you are going to take more hits for it in public perception. The other downside is the posturing - if Jason is perfect in front of the camera that makes you the heavy ... now you have him tough behind closed doors, public hard on you, takers due to money, law suits due to money, Ugh, a Mom who should F off, everyone thinking you should be happy for what you have and you are somehow ungrateful. Try not to feel too defeated - it will lead to bad decision making and then who will make them? Switzerland? Love Jason - funny smart handsome great values ... Not a fan of the martyr in Jason and the guilt tripping. It puts weight on you where he could be lifting you. The whole ring setting - He should know the bash you will take for that (The Jeweler and Jackie had your back there). Public opinion is a roller coaster and you and Jason supporting each other through the enormous amount of BS that comes with it is key. If your own spouse is the cause for needing to defend yourself...how isolating .

I have always hated the phrase "perception is reality" - thinking - no reality is reality which helps write it off something here and there but when it comes to credibility ... one does need to defend their name and set the record straight. I am glad you have exercised the right to defend yourself. I may not know you well enough to use this phrase but i do not think you hear it enough... I am very proud of you Bethenny. Defending yourself is exhausting but you are doing it right.

Viewerzztopo
Viewerzztopo

Bethaney, all I can say is every time I see you with Jason, "What was she thinking?". You can do so much better. He just does not appreciate you for who you are. He wants to change you. He comes across as such a pompous---.

asIseeit
asIseeit

....... come on everybody- we all see it - To turn things around ...

All Bethenny has to do is turn some of that charm onto Jason, be more respectful of him in front of others and he would not just jump to the many challenges but put down his cloak for her. Simple and hard. I wish them well...

housewives viewer
housewives viewer

As long as Bravo airs episodes of your show, I will be watching! I just find you refreshingly honest. I come from a dysfunctional family background, but not as trying as yours. I understand how difficult it is to be a functional adult after coming out of an emotionally vapid and unhealthy atmosphere as a young child.

You are very bright. I love seeing your natural business acumen in action--you're very talented when it comes to business!

I love fashion and it's super fun to see you carrying your luxury handbags! Hermes, Prada, Gucci, etc :)

Keep up the great parenting efforts with adorable Bryn! She's very very cute.

cladaugh
cladaugh

Bethenny - I may be one of the few people who understand you. You were never truly loved by your mother, which goes against our beliefs and expectations - if your own Mother does not love you, then who will? The message you received was "you are not lovable or deserving of love" (from anyone). It is a really tough burden to carry inside your own mind. It effects every relationship you have (or will have). I am quite a bit older than you, but experienced a similar situation. No matter how successful you become, how good you are, how hard you work, how much money you make, who genuinely loves you (Jason), you just do not feel it or are unable to accept it. I wish I could talk with you, but I know that is next to impossible. I would like to share my journey of therapy, love, relationships, work (sometimes to excess, education and motherhood and the effect the lack of being loved plays into who we become. Keep up struggle, you will make it to healthy! You are deserving of love, happiness and success, you are not damaged, just bruised!

Indy Anna
Indy Anna

Honey, make sure this is your last season. Jason does not seem to like being as honest about himself as you do. Bethenny, he's got problems, it's not all you. The fact that he doesn't want to go to couple therapy speaks volumns. I married a man who thought I was wonderful and smart before I said "I do". Immediately after the real George showed up and it's been hell for 52 years. I feel for what you are going through, Jason is a dirty fighter. Do your brands and talk show and do not involve him in another show. He's jealous of you and he is punching below the belt. I wonder what his parents contribute to this? They probably want a "Hazelton" girl for him, and have you seen that crowd? Yuck.

SayItIsnot So
SayItIsnot So

I just finished watching your latest episode and realize that you and Jason are not really compatible and have rushed into a relationship. You come from two different worlds and as much as I've been rooting for you both to be happy it looks like neither of you love each other enough for that to happen. I too think that you are alerting the public that you don't want to be married anymore. Your new apartment is definitely "your" apartment because Jason has not been in on any of the decisions. I'm glad he has kept his job because it looks like he's going to need it. I don't understand why you are rushing and rushing to create all these different product lines and creating more stress in your life instead of giving yourself a chance to enjoy what you've already created (including a family). It looks like you're having a nervous breakdown instead of a happy life. Good luck to the three of you.