Shawn Rabideau

Shawn gives a behind-the-scenes look at Bethenny's wedding day, with more on the pee bucket incident!

on Jul 8, 20100

 

On the wedding day I am usually pretty calm, almost like a duck, calm on top and swimming like crazy underneath. Never let them see you sweat!

Honestly, I have been doing this long enough and am fortunate enough to be able to surround myself with some pretty amazing individuals who know exactly what I like and what needs to be done. A good planner works in this manner and is able to step back and take a look at the bigger picture. If you allow yourself to get caught up in situations then you will loose sight of the important details, thus mistakes are made. And I was going to work my hardest to make sure no mistakes were made! That’s why I work with a village of talented people. You know the saying it takes a village? Well it does take a village, in some cases a city to pull off a wedding like Bethenny and Jason's!

Checking in with the client is something I always do on the day of the wedding. So today was no different than any other. However, I wasn’t sure what to expect. Would I get Bridezilla or would I get someone that was relaxed and ready to embrace the moment? Of course as a planner you always hope for the latter ... and thank goodness the latter is what I got!

I wasn’t really shocked to find that she was in a place of calm. I think she had worked so hard to get to this place of happiness that nothing else really mattered. It was her day and I sensed that she was finally willing to relinquish control.

It made me happy to know that she finally trusted me, she was finally (on the wedding day) able to trust me. Maybe somewhere earlier up the road I had gained her trust. Maybe she was keeping me on my toes making sure I didn’t trip up again. I’m not sure and quite frankly I don’t care, because she trusted me and she allowed me to deal with the details while she soaked up every moment of her big day.

Now I know what you’re thinking – why did I tell her the place was set up and looked fabulous when in fact it looked horrible? Why did I stretch the truth? Because you never tell a client otherwise, plain and simple! I knew in my head that the room would look fabulous, I knew it would give me chills (and her chills) and had I told her otherwise it would have caused unnecessary anxiety. That too is part of being a planner – don’t tell the client things that aren’t necessary. At that moment it wasn’t necessary for me to tell her anything other than what the end result would be! And I knew it would be fabulous!

 

251 comments
Janique Crenshaw
Janique Crenshaw

Oh My Gosh! Shawn, you are completely amazing for having pulled Bethenny's Wedding off without freaking out and running for the hills! It was beautiful! And yes, you definitely need your own show!

LynninCA
LynninCA

I hope you get your own show. I was delighted each time you had a segment in the weeks of wedding preparations. Miss watching you so hope they sign you up for your own - I and many others would tune in!!!! Best to you and yours. Lynn in CA

GA GUY
GA GUY

I enjoyed watching u on the show, you did a fantastic job for Jason and Bethenny's wedding. Your partner is very lucky to have you also. Keep up the great work!

Linny
Linny

Bethany's wedding was so so beautiful!!! I really think Shawn should have his own show!

GritsGirl
GritsGirl

Shawn, You make me laugh!! You brought an extra aspect to the show. I am going to miss you and your funny sayings!!

Hope they drop in on you during the show.

kmk
kmk

Sean, You can walk on through fire and come out cool and calm. What a blessing you are. Your business should flourish. I hope you become a special guest on NYC housewives-if not your own show. You are a inspiration-great job.

Carlis
Carlis

Shawn , You're so funny!! I love your expressions, you are just so adorable. I hope to watch your own show very soon. Felicidades!!!!

Meg-AZ
Meg-AZ

Shawn,

YOU ARE THE MAN!!! I have no idea how you pulled off Betheny's wedding but it was spectacular!! Exactly what she wanted and in only 4 weeks!!!! I loved your personal touches and kudos you gave your team. Surely you are a man who knows how to run a business & design events as well as plan them. What I enjoyed best about your presence in the episodes is your beautiful, shining Spirit. You don't take yourself seriously and have a great sense of humor. That's what life is all about - keeping it REAL!! Would love to see you get your own show as I would surely watch it!! Best of everything life holds for you!!

GiGi2
GiGi2

How you didn't have a breakdown BEFORE the wedding is a miracle, Shawn. You did a beautiful, fantastic, out of this world job in a fraction of the time. Congrats!

Groooveone
Groooveone

Shawn, wasn't sure at first.....but love you. The way you look at the camera & make your honest comments really make me laugh...love you....see you on Bravo

An Observer
An Observer

Hey Shawn - I have to apologize. I initially posted to Bethenny's blog that I didn't like you, and that she should ditch you as a wedding planner. I think because BravoTV showed you to be an eye-rolling-diva and -(superficially), that just drove me CRAZY! But, I have to come clean and say after seeing what you produced for Bethenny and Jason's wedding, I have to eat my words of that post - -- IT WAS MAGNIFICENT and so BEAUTIFUL --! For posting negatively about you; before you had a chance to prove yourself, I sincerely apologize, and I'm sorry. -Carole

Bravo Watcher
Bravo Watcher

I was certain you'd get axed as her planner with your faux pas on family jewelry, the stark venue suggested and your inability to control your eyes from popping. Good for you Shawn. I'd hire you in a New York minute for a Picture Perfect Event. Cool under pressure is an admirable quality in your profession.

coleen g
coleen g

Hi Shawn, You were awesome! You do your job very well,I am a fan. I thought you handled yourself, loved your expressions,and how you handled yourself with cookie. Please tell me where you got the cake? I wish you more continued success with your business, you and your team did a great job! hope to see you again..... Maybe the other housewives may be calling!!

Patty Seattle
Patty Seattle

Congratulations Shawn. I hope you enjoyed the ride! I will miss the interactions between you and Bethenny. So sweet and sooo funny. I too hope you get your own show!

Katie Beeper
Katie Beeper

I agree with Nola!! Knock Knock Bravo TV!! I see a show for Shawn in the works. Its hard to be an events planner, I did it for several years.

It was a beautiful wedding!! You did a great job!!

KatLady
KatLady

Bravo, attention to all the creators of new reality shows...you know what to do next, right? Shawn is sizzling HOT!!! ya'll better sign him up or some other networks will.

All the best to you, Shawn...Bethenny's brought the Best out of you!!! Everything is happend for a reason in this LIFE!

Debbie79
Debbie79

Hello Shawn, Just wanted to tell you how beautiful Bethenny and Jason's wedding was at the Four Season's. You did THAT in 4 weeks? WOW! You are truly an amazing planner and you listen to what your client wants right down to "cotton candy" (I wish I lived in NY so I knew what this cotton candy was and tasted like). Well, a girl can dream right? I think the decorations were so elegant and not over the top like you see on so many of these wedding planning shows. I give you "props" Shawn. It looks like you know where to cut the gaudiness out....that is for sure. I see a lot of viewers are telling Bravo that you need your own "Planning a wedding with Shawn Rabideau" show. I agree with all of them 100%. You are entertaining as all heck and watching you work would be fun and amazing. Good luck to you in your career and keep up the fantastic work. Take care.

Ms V
Ms V

What a Wonderful Wonderful job you did with the wedding... you are one person and show I would NEVER get tired of watching. It would be sooooooooo refreshing on watching you "do your thing" on wedding planning.. You are just great !!! Good Luck to you ... :)

Viewer7
Viewer7

You and Betheny could go into a partnership since she's in the food/entertainment industry, and so are you. You were great fun to watch, and you WILL be missed. Maybe you can do your own wedding planner show.

Viewer1millionth
Viewer1millionth

Shawn you are so adorable! I loved the relationship that you and bethheny shared - I thought you both held your own and came on top loving each other. You were so patient and kind - u seem to care not to hurt bethheny during the most important time in her life - well good karma to you. I wish you all the best all the love and luck. You will be my children's wedding planner - Ive already started saving up for their big day :)!

Real DJ
Real DJ

Shawn, CONGRATS on pulling off a beautiful event. It was fun to watch you and Bethanny interact. You gave the audience some good laughs.

Just FYI, you should practice in front of a mirror so you don't have the "deer in the headlights" look so much! That would be certainly disconcerting in a conversation with a client.

Another hint: if you are going to "hover" so much, at least sit down next to your client. All that hovering behind and moving around people has a buzzard feel to it that would put anyone off!

Best of luck.........hope we see you again!

Dee Pittsburgh
Dee Pittsburgh

Shawn, you need to be on "Watch what happen live" with Andy. I think a good one seated next to you could be Sonja, or Ramona. Then we could hear more about you...your plans...and all the drama you endured..

Megan B
Megan B

I love you on the show! I am hoping that you will get your own show :-)

MLhinWV
MLhinWV

Shawn, You were so funny on Bethenny's show. I hope you get your own show. That is one I would watch. Good luck!!!

ladyoffaith
ladyoffaith

Hi there! Although I am not a fan of Bethenney Getting Married?, I did get a glimpse of how you did their wedding. Beautiful work!! Congratulations!

NolaSCC
NolaSCC

I'm jumping on the band wagon ... SHAWN NEEDS HIS OWN SHOW! I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE him!

Jheri
Jheri

You really did a great job. I enjoyed seeing you in your element and making it happen. Bravo to you!

Be Blessed,

Jheri

Lori E
Lori E

i just sat down and read all of your blogs and yes loved you on bgm.

oh my gosh shawn. you are an absolute riot. thank you so much for my out loud guffaws and at times, hysterics.

one way you are special is that you gave your staff many many well deserved kudos. i admire you for giving credit where credit is due.

however, the part of you that touches me the most is your heart. you are a very special man feeling all the happiness one can feel, and in your ability to feel that way, you have a lovely way to impart that feeling for us, our same pure happiness for Bethanny and Jason. thank you.

you are one special man. you are an unbelievably talented party planner, have a beautiful heart, and have i mentioned funny as all get out?

i would DEFINITELY watch your show!!!! HELLO BRAVO. KNOCK KNOCK!!!

i hope you feel like the male peacock all fanned out.

Viewerme
Viewerme

I agree with everyone. You have oodles of personality and brains to match. You must have your own show. You did a beautiful job on the wedding. You are fab!

ClaudBeav
ClaudBeav

Sean you deserve a bonus bigger than ever. Bethanny looked great, she was so happy and I am so glad she finally found her soul mate. As a side note, Kelly is nuts!

JulieC.
JulieC.

You are the Master! What an incredible job you did, under an amazing amount of pressure. Not only were your body parts on the line, but a Fine Reputation as well. But you came through Big, shining as much as that room did! I hope that this brings your career to the next level as it should.

I am in a business that customer service is key, going the extra not mile, but sometimes marathon to make a happy client. You should be proud! Best of luck for the future.

Julie C.

Rani S
Rani S

Dear BravoTV and Shawn Rabideau,

I don't like Real Housewives of ATL or OC, for that matter. I do enjoy RHONJ, RHONYC, and Bethenny Getting Married?, so I'm writing this letter in your best interest.

I must say that Mr. Rabideau should----nay, MUST---have his own show on Bravo TV!!!! He is a delight and having a camera crew follow him around doing his event planning thing would be SPEC-TAC-U-LAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He is a delight to watch and unbelievably funny. My friends, sisters, and I never laughed so much watching the Bravo channel as we have when listening to Rabideau's quips and witty one-liners and priceless expressions. Hey, like you guys said in a recent article, you know that the brand of Shawn Rabideau was marketed on "Bethenny Getting Married?", so instead of introducing a show with alien characters, give Rabideau a shot at the limelight he deserves. America will love him! Your ratings will skyrocket! Please please please do it!!!!!!!!!!111

Love, Rani

Cindey
Cindey

Shawn:

You were certainly learned that you could hit any storm in the sea, because you learned how to sail your own ship. You are the BEST, and like you, I knew that you could easily be called out by the bride. Although that's one of the reasons I watch her. The gathering felt so intimate, and I actually felt like I was in one of the seats. Take a nap, hunny, you deserve it!!

Dee Pittsburgh
Dee Pittsburgh

Dear Shawn, thank you for not having Cookie at the wedding like Ramona did...lol I really hate seeing dogs in clothes attending weddings.I love my Rottie (Satori) but I would never dress her up and bring her to a wedding...lol

ps Satori has never bitten anyone. You would be safe at my house.Dogs are like children, when trained properly they behave.

Yael
Yael

Shawn, I was so nervous for you as Bethenny devours every inch of you. I said to myself, dear god I don't want be you!!!!!! But you survived, and oh my,that was an awesome wedding!!!! Yes U should be part of NYC housewives or even better be part of the Sonja, Luann, Jill . These women lovess to throw events. We want to see u in action shawn. I have to e-mail bravo

SF Viewer
SF Viewer

I smell a new Bravo TV show starring YOU! So, what's in the works?

jersey
jersey

Shawn needs his own show!!! Love, love, love him! Tell Andy Cohen to give Shawn his own show!!!

Wisconsin Mama
Wisconsin Mama

Dee Pittsburgh - Wow - although I think Shawn was amazing and did a fabulous job, your Dee comments are way creepy. Stalking much??? Just because you have no sense of humor doesn't mean the rest of us don't. Go back to the toxicity of RHNYC and leave the normal people in Bethenny's world alone! Yikes!!

Deidre
Deidre

I loved watching you deal with Bethenny. You did a wonderful job & I cried like I was in the room. I thought the moment you had with her right before she walked down the aisle was beautiful (not the pee in the bucket moment lol), when you were fixing her veil. In that moment I realized she had no family there to share her special day and you did a great job of reminding her she was beautiful and special. Kudos to you.

itznia
itznia

I would watch your show!!!

lch
lch

I think you are great. I hope you get your own show!!!!!!

BocaMom
BocaMom

Shawn...that room was absolutely gorgeous!!! I never doubted you, and I only wish I had an event to plan, because I would be calling on your services. I hope Bravo decides to give you your own show. I think a reality show based on the life and times of an Event Planner is an excellent idea, and the best part is we would get to see more of your wonderful creative work. Not sure we are going to be seeing you anymore now that the wedding is over. If not...Good Luck..I think new and wonderful doors have now been opened for you!

Denise in FL
Denise in FL

Shawn you were grace under pressure and did a fantastic job. I'llsign a petition for you to have your own show. Everyone here is obviously wishing it for you (so I'm not sure why Dee Pittsburgh is acting like she came up with the idea and has taken on the task of booking your clients). I think you should look outside the Housewives for your next clientele. There is drama everywhere!

Again, great job!

Skipper
Skipper

Bravo is insane if they don't give you your own show! Your confessionals were the best part of "Bethenny Getting Married?".

BLessans
BLessans

Shawn, from one event planner to another, you threw that wedding together beautifully! I would have had a panic attack if I had been working on that wedding; and even though I love Bethenny (or what I know of her from her shows and etc.) I don't think I could have worked with her. Kudos!

embee
embee

I think you're a sincere and sweet person. I wish you were a permanant fixture on the show!

PlumGirl
PlumGirl

My Dear Dee in Pittsburg, Bethenny is a class act and as I was always taught 'If you have nothing nice to say do not say anything at all'. Shawn, you are the BEST and I look forward to seeing you at soiree's in the future as I have added you to my contacts.....Ciao!

Viewer007
Viewer007

Shawn, U are so cool and collected and your comments make me laugh! Ur a great wedding planner! It looked awesome!

christina diaz
christina diaz

you did a great job getting her everything she wanted in 4 wks.

Newportmama
Newportmama

BRAVO TO THE WEDDING PLANNER! Shawn, you made Bethenny & Jason's dreams come true, and you cracked me up in the process. All of these viewers can't be wrong...you need to be the next Bravo celeb. I will be watching...