So, that wasn't so bad?? Firstly, thanks for all the support many of you have given me! At last Cat's showing she's got a little heart now? No just the RUDE BIATCH?
Let's start with the contents of my book Inbox Full. Firstly, it isn't sexual before I'm berated by being an irresponsible mother! It's a diary written over four years and three different continents. Charles read it and enjoyed it too. It would never have affected his job, or my comments about Obama either. They just showed how protective and proud I was of him. No big deal. In fact, I decided to do the show because I wanted to raise awareness of my story, which I hope will give inspiration to people everywhere -- that if you dare to believe in your dreams anything is possible. Honest true and real. Everything from spiritual adventures
in Peru to "find myself," fear and loneliness, trials and tribulations as a working single woman, whilst never losing my sense of humor (which I know is pretty random!) Sharing feelings of love and loss on my journey of choices and where they can lead you. Be careful what you wish
for!! It's a roller coaster ride along side text messages which give another perspective. (Obviously all names were changed.)
Loved seeing that scene with Paul and me outside Ted and Mary's party! God, he makes me laugh! Funny that when I met him at the Goat Rodeo surrounded by hundreds of people he was the first person I gravitated to. When Stacie said I wasn't used to being in a majority black
environment she couldn't have been more wrong. She knows that now. I've lived in London most of my life.
I was rude that day and I didn't mean to be. I'm sorry. When I see my stressed face and the memory of what a really, really s--- time I was having, it brings back many painful memories. And talking of memories, watching the love I had for my husband on that photo shoot is like a
knife in my heart. Unbelievable. Character building stuff?! If one more person tells me what doesn't kill you makes you stronger??!! Jeeezzz.
Oh and finally, "I know you're American but let's have some manners, Tareq." (You know we Brits bang on about pleases and thank-yous way too much!) Just wait to see what happens there. Another blissful time with the Salahis ... mmmmmmmm.
I give you credit for owning up to your rudeness. The jury is still out for me, though. There seems a tad too much Sloane Ranger "I can say whatever I like" - ness to your comments on the show. But to be fair, it also appears there *was* a back story there that would explain why you were on edge.
I'm a huge fan, your so honest and you appear to be the most "real" person on any of the Housewives. You rock! By the way I love the way you talk, it's been a long time since I've heard proper etiquette. Absolutely refreshing.
Still liking you. I think many of those who have negative feelings at the moment towards you......well, I feel strongly those feelings will turn around....at least I hope so. Com'on ladies, give our D. C. Brit a chance. She might not be your cup of tea at the moment but for crying out loud......she's not sweet tea....she's Earl Grey! Both are great teas! Ha!
I love you Cat!!! You bring a unique twist to all of the housewives on all of the shows... The proof of your character will show in your life, not an hour blip once a week for a month or two...dont let people drag you down. Just stay true to who you know you are and want to be!
Cat - I like you. I didn't think you were racist. I'm multi-racial and I was not bothered by you - but I do think the 'tell it like it is' concept is a theory that does not always work out the best in real life, where people have to smooth the edges a bit so fights don't start.
I also think people are quick to yell racism, because that word is divisive and people like to yell it to see which side of the fence everyone falls on.
I hope the book does well.
Cat, I've liked you from the start. People are too quick to judge your intentions/values/beliefs but at the very least, they need to pay attention that if Stacie gets it (as she says in her blog), why is everyone else making a big deal about the racism issues? (hint: they like the drama!). You seem a straight-forward kind of person and I love that. Thanks for being so honest in your blog...and very sorry about Charles. :( "Love hurts" "What doesn't kill you..." blabla...no way. It hurts like hell...but here's wishing you the best in love, life, and with your book.
Also, please GET ON TWITTER! You're the only D.C. Real Housewife missing on there and so many people are asking....!
You did come off rude in the first 2 episode but I think I saw your soft side - a couple of times in this episode. The one with Paul at the party and then at your home when your husband says "what does that have to do with my world" or something crazy like that. You had a genuine look of sadness over your face. I sorry that was caught on camera.
CAT YOU ARE REALLY OVERDRAMATIC, I THINK YOU GUYS ACTUALLLY FORGET YOU ARE ON TELEVISION, WHAT YOU TOLD PAUL IS NOT WHAT STACIES FRIEND SAID AT ALL.
CAT THE PROPER NAME IS PREISDENT OBAMA, NOBODY REFERS TO YOUR QUEEN BY HER FIRST NAME YOU ARE ENGLISH, AND PROPER SO PLEASE REMEMBER THAT MS. ETIQUETTE
I see you keep ''shining through'', Cat. :)) Now the other girls that created the "black thing, the blame game'' for three shows now was none other than seperation find their 'selves' in their own made-up muck (inner struggles), seperated from the wholeness of the group. Interesting. LOL
Luv you Cat,
I know London is very multi cultural. Do you miss it? What about giving EastEnders a shout!!!!!! I love Eastenders, a british soap.
Keep your head up, I don't think you're racist, I do feel you appeared uncomfortable in some situations and like some people, the more uncomfortable you become, the more you stick your foot in your mouth.
Cat - I really like you, I don't think you meant to be rude, you just speak you mind or you speak before you give yourself a chance to think about what you are saying. Try to remember where you are and how those around you might react to a comment you make. I really think you can be great friends with Stacie if the two of you took the time to get to know each other.
Just be true to yourself without coming over rude.You look genuine, love your accent and the interaction with your kids. You did look unconvertable at Stacy's hosted dinner. Your husband looks honest, not that bragging type hope not and as earlier said ETTIQUETTES. Britsch people are big on ettiquettes so please address the leaders accordingly. That shows respect. as we would see Queen Elisabeth and not just Betty, so just say President Obama. Nothing wrong with that.but your great. looking forward to read your book. love your photo shoot and the expression on your face when you saw your husband. Great.
I love all the housewives shows, withe the exception of this one! yuck yuck yuck!!!!! Cat I have nothing good to say so lets leave it at that!Your husband on the other hand? His comment about being in NC and saying the place felt like the deliverance movie , was just flat out rude! Have you seen what a crap hole most of DC is like hugh! I am from Charlotte
i enjoy watching you. you come off as a straight shooter. i think, here in US, we are so used to fake and meaningless pleasantries that we expect this sort of behavior from everyone.it is refreshing to see someone who doesn't sugar coat it!!!
Don't worry , you barely offend me...if only because I am unable to make out what you are saying most of the time. Brave: Why can you give subtitles to a telephone call between Paul and Mary, which were unecessary....but no subtitles for the fast talking Cat?
Cat, I am like you. I tell it like it is. I am not fake and I am me ALL the time no matter who I am with. I think you are the same way and it is refreshing. I think people find it hard to accept when you say exactly what is on your mind and you don't sugar coat things for them.
That is about them though, not about you. You just keep on being YOU, and don't change one thing about yourself to accommodate anyone. You are not trying to be hurtful, you are being YOU. It's real and its what more people need to be.
I'd love to see a dictionary of some of your of your very english says. For instance in episode 3 it looked like you were having tiff with hubby and he asked where he fit in (swanning around)?
Cat, I too pride myself on honesty. However, I am fully aware of when it best to say nothing and when I can be rude under the guise of frankness. Did you notice that you appear to have entered the home of Stacie's aunt with a bottle in your hand was it awful also? Oh the "I lived in London I can't be racist" does not fly London is as segmented as D. C. and the citizens are no more tolerant than Americans; remember from where the founders came, their progeny are no different, we all have varying degrees on intolerance don't let viewers pass it off as a " BLACK THING" I only watch on those rerun days and watching each back to back provides insight. You are RUDE people will call it own it. I do. I guess it's not a "BLack THING" maybe cultural adroitness is.
Cat, you are my favorite on the show. I really like your "tell it like it is" attitude. I think Stacie is the one who makes everything about race-you're not at fault for that. I also think you were 'set up' at her aunt's house where Stacie was hoping to make you feel awkward so she could criticize you again.
Your husband and kids are delightful...I loved it when he showed up at the photo shoot!!! I wish you all the best with your book & I hope you continue to be yourself & not let the others get you down. :-)
I so agree. The comment Charles made about North Carolina was so very rude. He needs to go back to England to earn a living and talk about the people of his own country.
I truly can't stand your droning voice. I mute the T.V. when you appear. Try using an inflection in your voice now and then, you might like it. I also find it hard to believe that anyone is paying you to write a book when you don't seem to know the basics of punctuation. The endless use of a long line of punctuation marks?!!!?!??! Stoopid. Yes, I misspelled it intentionally so you could work out the word phonetically. You cast yourself as the sophisticated Brit. I think you are rude, lacking in a sense of self-worth, lying about your relationship, untrustworthy, and boring. I will continue to push the mute button with every appearance you make on screen.
I think you are hilarious and a breathe of fresh air! I can not believe the nerve of some people insinuating that you are a racist. Because of your dislike for Tyra Banks (I can not stand her) and your comment about President Obama the race card was automatically thrown around. It truly is a case of reversed racism. I am a white women for the south who was raised in a family that has many different races represented. We have Native American, African American, German, Irish, and Japanese in my family, we like to joke that our Thanksgiving table looks like a United Nations meeting! Political correctness has made people scared to speak their minds and I think that you are a glorious example of someone who just does not care. Thank you Cat and I can not wait to read your book.
I couldn't agree more about the setup! I thought the same thing when Stacie suggested it! And of course the 'black card' was played AGAIN...can't it just be that the woman didn't feel comfortable in the situation...period! I've been in situations before when I've felt uncomfortable and race surely wasn't the reason! MOVE ON!!!!
I couldn't agree more with GigiB's comment about Cat being 'setup' at the dinner! I've totally been in situations before where I felt uncomfortable and it wasn't due to issues of race. C'mon! And of course the 'black card' had to be played here...what a perfect opportunity! I was disgusted by the conversation that took place downstairs between Stacie and her family...MOVE ON girl...It's overdone and overused! I truly feel Stacie formed her opinion of Cat when she didn't agree with her affection for Tyra Banks and Barack Obama...guess what?! That's what makes this country so great! We can have our own opinions and to be a truly graceful woman, she would've respected that and not let that interfere with their relationship. Ugh....
While I appreciate your frankness, when it disguises rudeness and a lack of thoughtfulness, it comes across like you lack social intelligence. I do not believe it is a Bristish thing. I believe it is a Cat thing. I have met many Bristish people who are very honest in their view, but manage to be pleasant in their deliveries. Your honesty seems like is not meant to help or build up others, but it is sent out into the world in a way that shows your disapproval or how displeased you are - making it all about you. In your blog, you mention how your book is about your memories and your times of growth. If you used your honesty to write about some of your hard times and how vulnerable you must have felt, may be you can do the same in the show - I'm sure you would be a bit more rounded as an individual and people would be drawn to you as a person as opposed to running away from your mouth. Nevertheless, good luck with your book.
I really, really, want to give you a go. And I am really, really, trying to like you but you make it so hard.
You have to tone it down a bit. You seem to want to be center of attention all the time. And that comment, Is this my life!, YOU do not have to be there really!.
I am all for honesty but you take it to far sometimes. Even the people you hang with have a bit of a problem with it.....
Please try I am Australian by the way of Britain and I want you to be the ambassador for us
just reading the DC blogs now. You know what, Cat? While you seem to have your character traits like the rest of them, you apologized in the second-to-the last paragraph of this blog. And you did w/ honesty. You said you were rude, then said "I"m sorry". It's rare to see the other housewives do that (if at all!). It takes guts and class to do that. For that, you get a second chance-clean slate.