I agree that you should NEVER choose anyone over your mom--and I say this out of love and respect for both you and your mother--but it is time to let her KNOW that YOU are in charge with your life, NOT her! What she did when you were trying to try on your wedding dresses was totally disrespectful to you. Also, she showed to care at all for you and your feelings. Kandi, think about this: Who does this? What makes her think she has the right? Even if she has problems with whom you're seeing, she can make her point respectfully and move on! I'm 60, almost (Dec.30th) and I would never treat my daughter or her boyfriend that way, regardless of how I feel. Kandi, it's your mom and I get what you're saying (listening to you now after the show w/Fantasia), but she needs to be respectfully put in her place, before she destroys your life from the inside out. I'm not only a Christian, I'm a retired Pastor due to disability, so I wouldn't ever tell you anything that I don't believe is right before God. Please, pray about this situation with your Mom. If you don't stand up to her--not disrespectfully, just FIRMLY-- she's never going to show you the respect that you deserve from her. Stand up to her just one time--Firmly--and she will back down and become your mom again, instead of your judge, jury, and tormentor! She's out of control! You have the right to have a life, and a fulfilling one at that!
Because HE (Christ) Lives!