Even though this episode's events happened a few months ago, I am still processing it. I had to watch the episode again in order to write this blog. I'd rather I hadn't. I am still not clear as to why Ryan would deceive me. I have made a lot of bad choices in my life and behaved inexusably. Sometimes when bad things happen to me, I feel I deserve it. Jenni calls it the "Karma Boomerang Effect." This time, I do not feel I deserved it. I am trying so hard to find the lesson in this, but I still can't see it. I am just so hurt and disappointed. Usually, when someone hurts me, I want to see them hurt or upset. This is an unusual situation because I would never want to see Ryan hurt or upset. Normally, I just channel my feelings into anger and revenge. This time is different because I am just sitting here with my sadness not knowing what to do with it. It looks like I will be going back to therapy (again). It feels so bad.
Jeff-
I love you! I totally get your sense of humor you're a riot -- Mr. Pearl Necklace!
Anyhoo, what Ryan did was not cool -- I don't know what reasoning he could have for being that sneaky but yeah that's totally not cool.
You do a fantastic job being you!
Maada
Jeff we hate the constant pop up stuff on the sides of the TV screen with viewers dumb comments the promo's are distracting enough.Please ask them to stop. We just what to watch you.
I've been watching your show since season 1 and just love you, Jeff! You remind me so much of my own boss -- it's hysterical! I could totally work for you, dude! :D
I hate what Ryan's done and you don't deserve it. You have so much support out here in your fan community ... I hope you can feel it!
Hang in there!!
Stay strong jeff! I was completely surprised how grimey and schemey Ryan became, as you obviously were as well. You always hear stories of what money/fame can do to peoples heart, but seeing your guys relationship first hand, only from watching the show, from where it was to where it is now makes all of those stories that much more realistic. My cynical side just thought, "well...those people were probably skeezy people to begin with." This however proves to me, and I'm sure so many more out there watching, that people can and do change.
Aw Jeff, I feel so bad for you. I do see and feel the love that you have for Chloe, she is adorable and fortunate to have you as a caring adult in her life. You are so funny with her. You and Ryan should get together and talk. I think that your friendship is something to be cherished you two should grow old together! You Ryan and ZOILA! LUV HER!
The Chardonnay,Girls Gone Wild,and Hooters comments were hilarious I love your sense of humor Jeff....so far something ain't right about Ryan's business tactics but I will have to see next weeks episode before I weigh my final thoughts.
Hi Jeff, I felt so badly for you with regard to your situation with Ryan..you were clearly in alot of pain. I believe we do the best we can as we are only human..you are an aware person..you will figure things out..therapy is always there to help..it will be fine, no matter what happens...you are a survivor and you know that. I also agree with what your dad said..he is a wise man. On another note, I was laughing my ass off while you and Jenni were with Chloe..too fing funny..and then also Trace's shorts and his "bowtie" necklace...I had such a crapola day and you guys made it all go away..laughter is great and I laugh alot while watching you show. Take care and stay well!
Jeff, This is my first time commenting on your show but i am a faithful fan, I have been watching your show from the beginning and I am so hooked. Your entire staff and Ryan are so entertaining and sincere, I just love to watch the tailspin week after week. After watching this episode we finally got to see just how much you are still very much emotionally and mentally dependent upon Ryan and the relationship that you have. I would actually love to see the two of you get back together. You really do compliment each other. You fly by the seat of your pants and let your every emotion out and Ryan sometimes seems so straight and narrow. I hope that you have managed to work things out. And please tell Trace never to wear those booty shorts again. I was even embarrassed for him.....
Jeff, it sucks when the people you count on as your dear friends sew seeds of doubt in your relationship. I think it was a smart thing to talk to your father, one of the only people that truly knows you (after all he was there to guide you and watch you grow-up and develop to who you are now). I think you should really listen to what he had to say to you. Yes there is no room for disloyalty in business or friendship but what I think he was also was trying to emphasis is that after so many years invested in this relationship that if there was any value there, you should consider working at keeping it. No relationship is perfect all the time, your bound to hit some bumps in the road. Maybe let go of the business relationship but see if you can hold onto the friend side (which seems to run pretty deep). I think perhaps Ryan has felt the pressure of your fame is downsizing him somehow that he feels the need to shine on his own in his business. Ultimately its nothing to take lightly but you need to do what will make you happy for the long run. I extend myself as a friend to listen if you need it outside of everything that you have going on. I do not look for fame or riches. I too value friendship and its hard to find people that understand how important that is in life. Good luck Jeff. -With my sincere respect,Lucia (Lucy)
Jeff,
With every season we see another layer of your character being revealed and it’s nice. I feel bad that you’re sad because we can all relate. Sometimes ‘it is what it is’, you don’t always get an answer to ‘why’ someone acted the way they did because sometimes they act out of their own insecurities and issues which they may not acknowledge so in their mind they didn’t do anything wrong yet to you it feels VERY wrong. I don’t think Ryan acted of malice but maybe some insecurity since he felt good about making more money than you for the first time.
Stay cool!
-Carol
Oh Jeff, we are friends in my head (thanks to Wendy Williams for that) and I wish I was there to help you cope with the pain. You are so funny, smart and handsome - any guy would be lucky to be with you. I just wish it were me! I'm sending good thoughts your way.
Jeff, I am a firm believer in "what goes around comes around!" You are a good person and your heart is good. That is evident to anyone who watches the show. Therefore, only good things will come to you. Just remember, everything happens for a reason! You tell it like it is. Most people think that is crazy, because they edit everything they say and do to look good to others. I too am a "tell it like it is" person, and I have gone through much as well. But I am happy to say that I am a very happy person today (thank GOD!!!) and you will be too!
I really hope the situation with Ryan is a misunderstanding. If your suspicions are true then shame on Ryan.
Jeff,
Ryan has clearly betrayed you. I am sure it was hard living in your shadow for so long, but that is no excuse for the way he is now gloating over his new found success. My first reaction to the incident in your office (where he told you he took the job from the A-list actress) was, but of course he will share the job with Jeff. The fact that he wasn't offering to share and was instead telling you that you need to make quicker return phone calls showed me that he felt guilty about what he had done and was now on the defensive. I hope Ryan opens his eyes and realizes that he is letting his business ambitions destroy a beautiful friendship.
Hey Jeff,
I watched last nights episode and was too shocked by what seems the 'behind your back' behavior. I can't help but wonder if Ryan is jealous of your fame and looking for some coat tails to ride. I know, blunt, but I wonder if true? I have a reputation of a 'bottomlineish personality'.
Do you deserve it? Absolutely not! We are not responsible for someone else's behavior only our own. Finding this boundary for ourselves is tough sometimes, and its human to look back and ask many questions of ourselves. But you do not deserve it...
Just from the statements different people have made on your show you are an honest, giving person, and deserves the same back. Sadly, we don't always get it.
Ok, enough said! :) I can't believe I wrote this much on a blog. Never have before..
Take care and hang in there!
Keep being you!
Merna
I have watched your show since it began. You are fantastic. You and I have so many similar personalities. I laugh at your show. You are a hoot. You need to stand your ground with Ryan and get to the bottom of the issues even if that means you go your separate ways. I have seen him pulling away from you over the last season. Does he respect you? Hope things work out for you. If you ever do a meet and greet I would love to get an invite. Take care and best of luck. Wendy
jeff, you made ryan rich and he is now using chloe as a pawn, against you. It really appears that you really care for ryanand chloe and it sad that ryan will use money to get in the way of your freinship.
well, just hang in there it will al work its self out. as far as why ryan is being secreative i cnt answer that only he can and the way the show was aired it seemes like he is hiding something. well i hope the best for u and ryan and choles sake. i will keep watching love the show
Jeff, Don't let this eat you up. Having all this exposed on "Flipping Out" has to give you some satisfaction. Feel good knowing you are the better person. Life is too short for revenge. Karma takes care of all. Your fan, Marsi
Hello Jeff My name is Sheri. I have been watching your reality show for a long time. I really love what you do. I like your style and your way of doing business. keep up the good work. Truly your, Sheri
Jeff I think you are compeltely justified on how you are feeling...its BS what happened to you. Awhile ago I wanted to check our your website so I googled flipping out. It brought me to flippingout.com. I was really confused when the website gave me links to Brown design and Bravo but not to you. I can definitely see how people who go to Brown design thinking that it involved you...especially becasue the website talks about you. Either that or they think that Brown design was the only one involved in the flipping out rennovations and not you. Can you trademark your name???? Watching last nights episode really hit the situation head on!!! YOU ARE THE FLIPPING OUT T.V. SHOW!!!! If I were you I would have get your own flippingout website and include on it that its the true Jeff Lewis flipping out website.
Jeff: I'm going to say the same thing I said on Twitter,but it's probably easier to read here since there's a much larger word limit :) Bad behavior doesn't mean bad behavior in return; we all have choices. Ryan has chosen to conduct shady business (IMHO) & be deceitful, that doesn't mean YOU caused it or deserve it. I'm so sorry you're hurting & I totally understand why you are, I just hope you don't beat yourself up too much. On the subject of Chloe;I've done the same thing when I watch my nieces (they are 19months & 3 years) and it's FUNNY. Ryan totally needs to pull the stick out. Maybe she'll say a few inappropriate things here & there,but she'll grow out of it and like I said...FUNNY! HOOTERS!
Jeff,
I feel so bad for you. I watch several of the other Bravo shows and this season I noticed a pattern with several of the "nice"/"real" personas that we the fans root for have really let either the fame go to their head or are desperatly trying to turn this new found fame into advertisement...revenue. I think Ryan might have fallen into the second category. I am not going to offer any advice because I can not imagine what I would do in such a situation other than try and figure out of the relationship is worth saving. Only you know this. On a happier note I have a huge crush on you and I don't care if you are gay. ('Cause I am happily married girl!) I thoroughly enjoy your sense of humor. Take care of Jenni and Zoila :)
Sorry to hear the situation hasn't improved in the months since the episode was filmed. Obviously there's nothing a total stranger can say that's going to make things better, but I'm sending good thoughts your way.
No one deserves to be treated like Ryan treated you, I felt really bad for you. You are too funny, you make me laugh!
Jeff You are absolutely incredible and I love watching your show. I hope it turns out that Ryan is not taking business from you. You have been friends a long time and that would be really sad if he could do that. The was he did the magazine article about Valley Oak was pretty bad. Don't forget, everyone can see what is happening. No one likes it when people behave that way. My friends and I (in ages 20 - 50s) talk on Facebook about being excited it was Tuesday to see your show. Whenever I tell someone else about it and they watch it they love it. You really are a nice guy and have a good heart - you just don't take any crap! You need to take time for yourself and find someone you want to be with. I am sure you have your pick of thousands. Take care and Please keep doing this great show. We love you Ft. Myers FL Cathy
Jeff,
I am so sad that you are sad. I really adore you.
Keep your head up. Not sure if you pray, but it would be a good time to start. Just ask for peace and clarity. Pray that whenever you feel sadness. In time, you will be back to your fun-loving neurotic self --the one America has fallen in love with.
Be happy!
Supportive fan from Atlanta, GA
Jeff: What comes around goes around! Ryan IS TOTALLY out of place. You have done SO much for him, without ou and YOUR show he would be no where. What an ungrateful person. I agree with your father drop him.
I enjoy the show Flipping Out. I wish all people were as FRANK as Jeff. I went to the Jeff Lewis web site and found the Flipping Out link. No Ryan is not leaving you out of the web site JEFF... From Dawn
Jeff,
I honestly can't imagine what your feeling at this moment, but I can tell you that being a Project Manager for over 10 years now sets our minds to think completely out of the box. Watching this episode I can see that your very hurt, but I can also see that Ryan is hurt. Not knowing the behind the scenes happenings, I can tell only give my opinion on the "full frontal". Ryan did not intentionally try to deceive you, but if it makes you mad or feel hurt, well then, he's fine with that. You have to rise to a different level and move forward with your own ideas with your business. Cut off the partnership with Ryan, but not the personal relationship you have with each other. Get out and talk to different people in the same business and see where they are heading in their careers, don't just sit there, take this opportunity to rise to the occasion.
With love,
Mary
You care deeply for Ryan - that's okay. But, does he feel the same about you? It doesn't seem so. Therapy, don't think you need. Just keep your head up and stay strong. You have a strong team, funny team, and a million fans. You won't go down, poeple are on your side - STOP putting yourself down and realize that you are better than that. One door closes another opens!!! :)
Jeff, I love, love, love the show! I have watched since the beginning so I feel like I know you. That's a little crazy, but I am no where near Cali so it's okay. You a pain in the ass, but it's hilarious and you have a good heart. I know you love and respect Ryan. You guys have been through a lot, so please work it out. It is rare to break=up and end up best friends for so long. You guys are at a rough spot, but please work it out! My best to you, Zoila, Jenny, Jett, and the animals! By the way, I've noticed this season, Frank is hot.
I felt bad for you watching this regarding the Ryan situation, and feel even worse after reading his blog. I think your dad's advice to get a mediator to work with you two and discuss your problems is a good idea. It's obvious to an outsider that he is acting shady (editing acknowledged) and you have plenty of reasons now to watch your back. He's not owning up to his behavior and you need some backup to talk with him in order to repair this business partnership. Someone who is not invested emotionally or financially in your business to mediate a discussion, like a counselor, could be very helpful.
i think you are very sweet with chole, i think she has a wild side even w/o your help. after all wasnt it her that called a child a big bitch? ryan, needs to get off his high horse already!
We enjoyed your show last night.
Talk with Ryan about the issue of deceiving you. Perhaps, he cannot be trusted, if so, then it is time for you to kick him to the curb.
Lesson....you learn during rough times who your friend and frenemies are. It sounds like somewhere there was a transition from friend/partner to friendly competitor that wasn't clearly communicated. Using your name to redirect traffic when you didn't have a formal interest in Ryan's business is questionable.
Bryan is a weasel! You made him. He helped u. But u made him. He better get down and eat some humble pie. He is always trying to seem so absurd about the way u do things and how perfect he is. He is not fooling your fans. I would really really like him to share some of that bus with u, give u a finders fee, or something for all the stuff he under handed took from u. The little weasel. I know u love Chloe and you have grown and mature thru the show. I am so proud of you. I just adore u!!!! xoxoxo
Jeff, I actually have to agree with Ryan w/respect to the A-list celebrity client. You couldn't return either of her calls because you had too many personal calls to return? That is inexcusable and you certainly wouldn't tolerate that response from someone who worked for you. Shame on you-you snooze, you lose!
Jeff, I don't know why people do what they do. He got the free advertisement for his business on your show. Then he behaved in a very selfish way. Just take the high road and keep doing the wonderful work that you do. Your a good person with alot of responsibility.
Jeff, I've been watching your show. I would love to be your personal assistant. I hate a liar, thief, and a cheat. I think you are great and so I Jennie. Keep up the good work. Love the show.
jeff i love you you have such a bigggggggg heart it could cover america......you was not worried about that job getting done as you was about the people working getting paid...............i think u are a very good person and cleanness is next to god so keep up the good work and allways keep your heart when u loose that its time to stop;;;;;;;;;;thank you ;;;;;;
Jeff,
I find myself hard to trust my employee. You did the right thing to remove yourself from Ryan. Ryan seems to be a mystery person therefore you don't need this type of people in your life. Also, you can get Jenni to learn about computer skills where she can have access to your computer if both of you are driving outside the office. Just check out this site, www.gotomypc.com. There was a problem where Jenni forgotten to get the phone number and you had gotten upset over it and takes about her ex-husband about it. Also you need to have a netbook, it is lite and portable so Jenni can takes it with her when she drive with you.
Jeff, are u kidding me? I've been a Flipping Out viewer from the very first aired episode on Bravo and I'm fairly certain your anger with Ryan channels directly back to yourself. He is making something of himself dispite economic difficulty, he is living his dream with Dale and Chloe. I really think your just ticked off you lost him and you even admitted it in this episode it was your fault! Learn from your mistake and move on .. DO NOT be a hater toward Ryan he is fabulous ... really the only reason I watch the show .. well I like Zolia and Jenni too ... and how about Chris the house assistant ??? He was hott !!!
I agree with you that Ryan is being underhanded. I just googled Jeff Lewis and "Jeff Lewis Ryan Brown" fills in the auto-text. The second choice of auto-text is "Jeff Lewis" alone. Apparently he is still paying google for his name to appear w/ yours.
Last night we all were reminded of the reality of your business. When you wrote the checks from your personal account to cover your contractors I was really impressed. Just because it was the right thing to do. I think of all the people you've had come an go thinking they didn't get promoted fast enough etc. But these people forget that it's your money that took the risk to get the business started so you deserve to have 10 brown salsa's if that is what you want!





Jeff - What Ryan did was not "good business" - it was unethical business. He owes you both an apology and restitution.
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