Jeff - What Ryan did was not "good business" - it was unethical business. He owes you both an apology and restitution.
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Even though this episode's events happened a few months ago, I am still processing it. I had to watch the episode again in order to write this blog. I'd rather I hadn't. I am still not clear as to why Ryan would deceive me. I have made a lot of bad choices in my life and behaved inexusably. Sometimes when bad things happen to me, I feel I deserve it. Jenni calls it the "Karma Boomerang Effect." This time, I do not feel I deserved it. I am trying so hard to find the lesson in this, but I still can't see it. I am just so hurt and disappointed. Usually, when someone hurts me, I want to see them hurt or upset. This is an unusual situation because I would never want to see Ryan hurt or upset. Normally, I just channel my feelings into anger and revenge. This time is different because I am just sitting here with my sadness not knowing what to do with it. It looks like I will be going back to therapy (again). It feels so bad.
Jeff - What Ryan did was not "good business" - it was unethical business. He owes you both an apology and restitution.
Jeff I miss your show so much in the off season! My son and his boyfriend live on Ben Lomand Drive and the funny thing is you remind me so much of him! He has the same humor with a little OCD thrown in for good measure and you look more like him than his brother does! I live in Seattle so watching your show is in a strange way is a little like having a weekly visit with Bryan. Some of my friends call me during the show to compare how much alike you and Bryan. Anyway I really love watching you and all of your family, staff and animals. I am not much of a reality fan but something about Flipping Out just makes me laugh and cry all at the same time.
I try all the time to get something posted , PLEASEEEE Bravo post this!! I am definitely no private investigator but I certainly know what I saw while I'd "googled" "Jeff Lewis". Over a year ago I googled "jeff Lewis" love,love,love his design!! Google didn't show Jeff lewis's name at all but it was all the design from "flipping out"....I didn't even know who Ryan Brown was at the time but that is the only name that was on tht web site! Very sorry for you Jeff but it would be so hard to trust Ryan after the "major deceit"!!!!!!! No PI
ok, so i know im late on this. but good for you! i think ryan was lying the whole time. & i know & can tell it hurt you a lot. but good for you for staying strong & cutting ties. i think you had already forgiven him in your heart. but you just needed him to admit his wrongdoing to forgive him outright & carry on a relationship. whether he was still trying to save face for cameras or whatever... his loss. & i hated how he tried to seem like you are "crazy" for how you felt. trying to pin on you his guiltiness. & that you said you didnt have any real evidence. i think the evidence you had, was evidence enough. maybe you didnt have an actual client saying hey i tried to get you & he took my business. but you saw his intentions, effort, and sneakiness. enough evidence in my book. i know he was dear to your heart. so i really feel for you in that sense. i know that feeling. but trust is everything in any close relationship whether friends, partners, family, whatever. & when that cant be repaired... really that relationship will never be what it was anyways. you are honest & straight forward jeff. i think thats great! & you gave him so many chances for forgiveness, to repair his mistakes, & move on. ryan's loss. karma will catch up to him.
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Hi Jeff. I don't watch the show very much but what you said about losing 3 people really hit me in the heart.
Dig deep my friend. I strongly advise you to take the road less travelled....forgive and love unconditionally.
If someone stole from you...heck give them another $10 bucks.....you will never take it with you....but on your deathbed, I bet Ryan will be there holding your hand.
Just a viewer. Wanda
I am not sure if you will ever read this, but I just want to tell you to not give up one people. I think that you are hilarious and I love watching your show. There have been times when I was having a bad day and watching your show made me laugh and cheered me up a lot. Just know that if this is the case with me it is with many and you are bringing laughter and joy to many viewers. It is Ryan who lost out, not you. You will continue to be successful and you can always make more money. It is him that has to live with what he has done, and that is punishment enough. Forgive him, do not hold it inside you. When we do not forgive someone it is swallowing poison wishing the other person would die. Be strong and never give up hope that there are other people in your life and more to come that care about you! Health and happiness in 2010.
I can tell that Ryan really means a lot to you. I personally think that he should apologize. Even if what he done, actually wasn't intentional, despite the fact that it really did appear that way, he should apologize for it having looked the way it did, sit down with you, and talk to you about how he could change this to where you are both equally happy with it. I think I got ticked off at the fact that he didn't offer to fix it, at least not that I recall him doing so on camera. I hope that you two are able to work it out or at least, not part as enemies. Hated to see you so upset and wish you the best.
I FINALLY watched the season finale, it was the saddest thing I thing I have ever seen. I'm sorry that this has hurt so badly. The unfortunately thing is that I know this will cause you to retreat further away from people. To trust is a powerful thing and when it’s not given easily it just makes it all the more hurtful when it has been (seemingly) trampled. Sometimes a tuff exterior makes people think that you can handle anything, and quite frankly you can handle most things that come your way. It’s only when you have let someone “in” beyond all the sarcasm, jokes, and tuff exterior that it hurts like no other. I truly believe that Ryan only NOW sees just how badly he has hurt you and I really do hope that you will be able to allow yourself to trust again (that includes Ryan). I love your show and am truly, truly sorry for your pain. BTW, I have always thought you were HILARIOUS!!! Don’t ever change!!! (smile)
Jeff, I understand you and agree with you completely. I have strong work ethics and so do you. I also understand Jenni and know where she's coming from because I am in a position very similar to hers. You and Ryan still care for each other. I believe you should both just agree to disagree and start all over again.
Jeff, your time with Chloe cracks me up. As a mother of two I'm not sure I would want you hanging out with them while they were young and impressionable but I would love you as a BFF. I love Chloe's answer to her favorite drink. Your awesome!!
Hey Jeff -
I Googled you last year and was routed to the Brown Design website. I was curious to see what you are doing with your kitchens now (specifically counter tops) as we are considering remodeling ours. What is the "hot" material?
Stay strong and take care.
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Here are a few photos of what I do.If you like what you see and would like to see more I can send you a dvd slideshow of more of my work.
If given this opportunity you will never regret it and I make us both SHINE.
THANKS hope to hear from you soon.
Jeff, I appreciate the fact that you love Chloe and that you have gone out of your way to renew your friendship with Ryan. I appreciate the fact that you care enough about your friendship with him to try and mend things, even though you don't know what to mend.
Jeff, I love your show! Love when Zoila says "Shut up Jeff". You can feel the love you have in your home. Jenni is a beautiful lady. I hope you and Ryan can work out your problem and be friends again. Breaking up your friendship with Ryan means you lose 3 great people, Ryan, Ryan's partner and Chloe. They are part of your family and I see the pain this whole Ryan mess has caused you. I know it hurts you. You're the greatest! I loved your OCD with the wine glasses! Your punishment when an employees messes up are always over the top and too funny.
I can't wait to see what next weeks show is about. The preview have me worried - Jenni crying, you looking so hurt and the red and blue lights flashing on the ambulance or police cruiser. I can't tell which one it is.
Dear Jeff - It sounds like you're doing exactly what you need to be doing to heal & eventually recover. Sometimes, just allowing ourself to "be" in the pain is the lesson we need - at the moment. We're so used to "doing, doing, doing" instead of just..."being". It's not fun but it can be emotionally powerful... Just never say never when it comes to your friendship with Ryan. Don't give up... forgiveness is a powerful & healing gift! Good luck.
Please post this on your show... Or at least read it. Thanks
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Unfortunately the ones you love are sometimes the ones who hurt you the most and they have no clue.........You are a hoot and quite a catch.......I wish you were straight you and jenni would be great together.....FYI I had kids and their aunts and uncles taught them all sorts of things......it's not the end of the world ( and Chloe seems like a really smart one) I had a neighbors child tell me his uncle said that adults were only happy when they were boom booming.......waiting for my reaction.....his mom had already told me about this new thing of his, I told him that if that is what his uncle thinks thats fine. But I'm happy other times too.......he just looked at me and never asked another person....
Jeff, you are so amazing and my boyfriend and I live for flipping out every week!! It's so sad everything you went through with Ryan but when the worst happens only better things can be on the horizon. Anyway I think you and Jenni and Zoila and everyone else rock and keep at it cuz I'll be watching!!!!
jeff, I really like the show. You are funny and a very interesting man. I am sure when you go back to women, you will meet the right lady. I saw a real funny clip on TMZ when you went out with NeNe from RHOA. OMG, they had no idea who you were. They ignored you completely! I was like oh wow they are sleeping on the most funniest guy ever. You are far more interesting and more talented than NeNe will ever be. If therapy doesn't work out, pick up the Bible, it always works for me. (oh but once you pick it up you have to read it :) like Proverbs )
Jeff You are so funny. I love the show. Your contrator, Frank, is looking hot, and I'm married. We need more info on "Frank the Contractor". If he's not married, maybe he could hook up with Jenni!
That show where you took Chloe out for pizza was so INCREDIBLY FUNNY! As an aunt, with no children of my own, I can totally relate to teaching my niece some funny lines to say, when she was a toddler. And, of course, spoiling her was the best part of being an aunt. I think you'd make a great dad.
Jeff, you are my favorite person ever. I love watching your show, my mom and I are obsessed with it. That being said, I'm happy with how you handled the situation with Ryan. I love how, on his website, he says he "stars" on Flipping Out... He seems to enjoy word manipulation in order to make himself sound better. I seriously think Ryan needs a reality check, but then again, he must have already gotten one considering he's starring on your TV show. Good luck to you, Jenni and Zoila. Hopefully Zoila stops trying to kill you, although even that cracked me up. I think my favorite drink is chardonnay as well, though.
I love your show and you. Jenni is a blast and Zoila is her own character. I was very impressed how you went to your Father for advise and he gave you very good advice. Always believe your best friend may turn on you. I haven't talked to my brother in 5 years over a business venture. Your dad is very good looking, is he still with your mother, or is he single. If I can't have you maybe him and myself would work. I admire you both.
Just watched the episode where you confronted Ryan...good for you. He truly looked guilty as sin! Have you had the site removed that is connected to your name and takes you to HIS site? You must be devastated in your heart to think he could do this. I'm wondering how you could even continue a friendship, he seems very dishonest and has put money before trust and friendship and he used YOUR talents, contacts and personality to boost his career.
Hang in there. Absolutely love your show...your humor is fantastic. I sit here giggling out loud every week.
oops...prior message got sent before I finished!! Wish I could make you laugh and feel better!! Sending you good Karma...via email :) I heart you Jeff Lewis!! :) Stay strong, stay Jeff!!
I am so glad that you are feeling better. I must admit that at first when I started to watch your show. I kinda did not like you because I thought you were very pompous and ridiculously rude. But then I came to see that all you say is meant with sense of humor. I think you have a great sense of humor which how you can keep a straight face is beyond me. I think that you are absolutely right about ryan. I find it very odd when you looked your name up it went straight to his website. I also think you have a great person beside you through it all Jenni. She should be your partner she is so behind you 100% even when you do flip out. When you were sick she handled everything so perfectly. You thanked her and she just was so happy you should of seen her face. What I really like is that when Jackie did not pay those people you said you would which is kind of similair situation my husband is going through the person he had worked is refusing to pay which all the work has been done already. I just wish they were more people like you actually care about people like us who may not have everything but just trying make it day by day. Like paying rent light bills the basics. This economy has really hit us hard. Seeing someone as successful as you are to care is just simply refreshing. You got a fan for life. Jaleila
Jeff and Jenni,
Love, Love, Love you guys!! I was recently diagnosed with a chronic health condition that has mostly left me bedridden so am watching a little more tv than normal. I look forward to watching you guys every week. You make me laugh out loud.
A loyal fan, Michelle
I know how you feel. It is like a stabbing at the heart pain. You know deep inside your soul that you did the right thing and that is all you need. Keep your chin up and realize that not everyone is like you. Keep your heart Jeff for someone who deserves it.
Perhaps my personality is just as twisted as yours Jeff...I thought it was funny the baby did the Girls Gone Wild move and said her favorite drink was chardonnay. But then again I don't have any children either :o/. That's the thing with someones children...you have fun with them and take them home. :o) I understand respecting the parents request...but it was still funny :o). I don't believe you meant any harm. I was actually surprised to see you even wanted to spend the day with her. The thing I like most about you on your show...you're just YOU. Don't ever stop being you...or alter your personality to make others feel comfortable.
Jeff, Me and my husband love watching your show. You always bring a smile to our face with your sarcastic humor. And, we adore Zola. The way she interacts with you on the show is so adorable. Keep your head up business will pick back up and your will back-on top. Cat
You're always eating at El Pollo Loco. (We don't have one here in Nashville.) Every time you and your staff sits down to eat lunch, my mouth waters. Do you get the same thing every time and what do you and your staff like to eat from there?
I adore you, Jenni and Zoila. Great show.
Being right all the time really sucks!! Breathe deep and enjoy all that you have Jeff..you are really blessed. You just need to look around and be greatful for all you have. As one chapter ends a new one begins. Life is really beautiful. In the end all that really matters is love. I wish you much peace..Namaste~
This weeks episode of you and Ryan's falling out really touched my heart ;). About 3 months ago me and my gay best friend had a falling out and have not spoken since. The first month or so i spent hating him and talking about how dumb he was and im better off anyway. But now i miss our friendship. I now realize that reguardless of logic, if you still care about someone, you should not cut them out of your life because it will end up hurting you more then whatever problems happened. It's something i have to deal with and i hope you and Ryan can eventually be friends again. :)
Sorry to see the rift between you and Ryan. I trust the two of you will make amends.It's seems to me that there is still a torch between the two of you. I think there is some unfinished business on the personal side that you two need to come to terms with and I hope you can work it out and be best friends forever. Sometimes the underlying tension cannot be seen by the two participants. Good luck to the both of you and Kepp him on the show.
Jeff love you and the show i hope everything works out for you and Ryan sees the errs of his ways. You are a gorgeous man, too bad for us ladies out here you like men. mmm
Oh, sweetheart - just watched the episode in which you confront Ryan. His argyle sweater was pretty but his face had guilt written all over it. The website, the magazine article- even if he won't admit to actually "stealing clients", the intent was clear and that's sad. I think it was necessary to have a conversation about it and draw some professional lines. Have you thought about pursuing the option of just being friends - not business partners? That seems to make the most sense to me.
Anyway - your show is one of the most amusing things on television. The Chardonnay and Girls Gone Wild thing was hilarious and I can say that with heart being as I have two children of my own.
I love everyone else on the show too but tell the new assistant never to wear her hair on top of her head like that again. It makes me think she should be somewhere on a corner in Compton, wearing stripper heels and smacking gum..not cute.
Oh and perhaps some scenes of Jett shirtless wouldn't hurt the ratings..
Love your show Jeff! Jeff I enjoy your brutal honesty. I think that the world should learn from you. I'm a firm believer - nip it in the but because things could escalate. Well you have nipped on more than one occassion and I feel that's why you're so successful in your business as well as with your business relationships. you act on "your inner voice" - you feel, detect and then act upon it. That's awesome. I think it's great therapy to let all parties know that you're approaching or discussing open items with them so that either parties won't be misunderstood. I'm a "what if" person..meaning I don't like surprises. I think you're the same way. You handle things right away...but at the same time you give people the benefit of the doubt and that makes you a better person. Continue learning through your personal experiences and sharing with others. I'm sure others will have stories to tell as well.
Thank you for your show - it's very entertaining and theraputic.
Hi Jeff, I think you handled the situation perfectly. I think you have grown so much since the first season especially where it comes to your interpersonal relationships (at least what is shown on the show). You wanted to so give Ryan the benfit of the doubt when talking it all over with your Dad, and your Dad, knowing Ryan, your business and even you with your quirks, knew that Ryan was doing you dirty. And when you said in a round about way you didn't have "proof" your Dad said it best when he said, "oh but I think you DO have your proof". It was sitting there right infront of you with the website. He was using your good name and luring prospective clients. Ryan's name isn't even known. I'm so sorry for the pain you're in. You don't deserve it, you didn't ask for it and it certainly isn't "imagined". Ryan's statement of you being crazy was his way to deflect guilt. He is guilty and he can't handle those feelings. That he said that made it that much clearer (to the audience). Hope you find some peace of mind and find the courage to forgive. It's a gift you give yourself. It certainly doesn't mean you let Ryan back into your life so he can do it to you again. Just means you let go of the anger/hurt so you can move past it. Hope you find that. You deserve happiness. Are you looking to be anyone's gay husband? LOL Just kidding...kind of! Love ya man! I think you're hysterical!!!!
Jeff, When everything is said and done you played it straight, and earnest Ryan was the one who pulled the bitch move. I know this makes you hurt on the inside know matter how strong you are. Remember this shows how weak and insecure of his own abilities he really is. Consider him excess baggage dumped. LIVE, LOVE and LAUGH its his loss.
I'm a budding researcher in my second master's degree and love your approach to Ryan's hypothesized disloyalty. You acted on your gut feeling, scanned your environment, collected data, and connected the dots. Correlation is not causation; however, I believe that the evidence you amassed on poor Ryan is sufficient to boot him out the door. Also loved the way you proved your case using the nanny cam against Jenni's loser ex-husband. When you've got that gut feeling, it's usually right.
Just saw the latest episode where you wish Ryan best of luck with his business. You handled that PERFECTLY. My God, when you said that you found all 40 properties in the partnership (note: one person prospecting all the investments is NOT a partnership) and Ryan could only scrape up a $10k garage remodel...there's your answer right there. I mean, you probably could have prospected the first property, flipped it, and split the profit with Ryan. However, Ryan should have prospected the next property and so on in a round-robin fashion. 40 properties?!! My God, I would have dropped Ryan's leeching butt at the curb after the 3rd property. You are right; you did make HIM rich. NEVER EVER mix business with friendship! Relationships/friendships and business are mutually exclusive. Bad things eventually happen when one crosses those streams. Maybe you'll reconcile with Ryan eventually, but definitely keep him FAR away from your business.
Jeff, After the 9/22 show I felt SO much empathy for you. Since the "Ryan" confrontation was months ago I thought my insights would be too little too late. I checked his website and the magazine articles and I think your conclusions are valid. I see now that you are still hurt and understandably so. It was PAINFULL to watch the true raw emotion that Ryan's behavior elicited from you. Having gone through a breakup of a partnership (marriage&business) of my own, I saw myself in you. You still care deeply for Ryan and he has moved on. You did and will always care more for him than he is capable of caring for you. His actions have killed something inside you and you must get it back or he "wins". The lesson, if there is one, is that not everyone is as honest with us as we are with them. All of this does not change the fact that you must distance yourself and grieve the loss of the "Ryan" that you thought you knew. To be able to love and care for people (as you obviously do) is a valuable asset. Don't lose hope, be kind to yourself and give yourself time to grieve. As "they" say, "what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger!'
Jeff, I truly can't wait to see what is happening with your life from season to season. Kudos to you for standing up to Ryan and his "devious" ways. Not kosh Ryan, after Jeff had helped you so much. But nonetheless Jeff you are still on top. Love, love, love to watch your show and I even got my husband "hooked" on the watching also. Do me a favor though? More shots of your doggies, they are so adorable! Zoila, you go girl, you are such a delight to watch and Jenni you are such a breath of fresh air now that you are yourselfin this new season All ove you keep up the great chemistry that you have cause you all rock that show!!!
I truly think the one comment that made me soar was when Ryan said "If you don't trust then you should cut me out of your life" ...I'm of course paraphrasing. That is harsh...that would hurt. You've been there for years, he riding you're coat tails, then when the tide turns...opps where did he go? I'll tell you off with a lot of money. However, I've always loved Ryan in the show to and with this shows success there is much to go around. So, I wouldn't put too much thought into it, actually, you're probably to lunch with him now seeing this show was awhile ago.
The thing that is interesting is that media sometimes brews differences in people you would have never thought would be there. You've been friends and partners for 10 years. He will snap after there is only forgiveness to think about.
Congrats on your show.
Hello Jeff, I truly hope you can find light in your darkness. Just know, that you have done the right thing by letting Ryan go. I know your thinking, who does this chick think she is! I'm a nobody, yet, I believe you want Ryan in your life because he's "safe." BUT, when you really look at your relationship with him I bet you find that you were not as important as you SHOULD HAVE been to him. Honestly, I am seeing only what t.v. allows but your eyes are very telling... and I was wishing for Ryan to look beyond your "traits" and see that you were in pain. The fact that he didn't OR couldn't says a lot about him; he will regret his actions one day. On the other hand, look at all you do have~ a loving family (this includes your pets)! Jeff, don't let the things you can not change consume you (e.g. the past OR other people's actions). Consume yourself with all the good in your life and you will begin to feel better. Then again, who am I to tell you what you already know. Good luck and keep being the you that makes people want to know you! Love~Corrie :)
Jeff...I feel so bad for you but life is a journey and unfortunately, all good things eventually come to an end. I think perhaps the situation between you and Ryan could've been handled differently, although I was not there so who can really say but you and Ryan? I too have made many bad choices in my life but the key in all of this as you mentioned, is to find the lesson in it somewhere! Keep your head up and keep it moving. Everything happens for a reason!