Bravotv.com: Were you surprised when Derek J said everyone is an opportunist?
Kandi Burruss: I didn't think Derek J was going to feed into the whole "Todd's an opportunist" thing. I was thinking, "Really, you too?" But when he started to explain his point of view that everyone is an opportunist, I guess he has a point, to a certain extent everyone is an opportunist. You don't necessarily start a relationship with someone you think is a deadbeat who isn't going anywhere in life. So yes, OK, technically he had a point. But he knows how my mom feels about it and what she meant when she says Todd's an opportunist, so to me I was wondering why he'd want to give her more ammunition.
Bravotv.com: How crazy were the last two days before the wedding?
Kandi: The last few days were crazy. Even crazier when the whole pre-nup situation started to fall apart. I was really concerned about the dresses obviously, because some people hadn't even had their fitting. Reco kept saying, "Oh, it's going to get done," but things still weren't done, so that was stressful.
Bravotv.com: How close were you to your brother?
Kandi: I was extremely close to my brother. He was the best big brother in the whole wide world. When he died, that was the worst moment in my entire life. There's no way to describe it to anyone, and it's a hard thing to even share with people. My brother passed when I was 15, and I don't think you're the same anymore after you lose someone who's that close to you. You realize anyone can go at any time.
Bravotv.com: Do you think you had a breakthrough with your mom at the graveyard?
Kandi: I don't think that moment helped my mom be more OK with the wedding, but I definitely feel that any time she's able to talk about my brother or talk about his death, it does make her feel better. I don’t think she was any happier about me getting married, but I was happy that she decided to walk me down the aisle. I was shocked actually.
Bravotv.com: Whose bachelor/bachelorette party do you think was wilder, yours or Todd’s?
Kandi: Todd's bachelor party looked better on TV than mine did, but mine was the bomb. Anybody who missed it, missed out. People were saying, "Aren't you supposed to have men?" But I thought that was the fun, out-of-the-box part. I expected them to get male strippers, but that's nothing new. So when Phaedra brought out her strippers, I was completely thrown off. It was more fun and funny than something to turn me on. It was about having a good time. Phaedra had the little person, the big person, and there was also an old lady, but you didn't see that. She had people you might not have expected to be stripping, and that was what made it fun.
Todd did the typical thing, he can do that at any strip club in Atlanta. But go ahead, if that's what floats your boat, cool. The guys seemed to have a good time.
But our games were off the chain. We played musical chairs with a vibrator, it was hilarious! We had this other game that you didn't see where you take a piece of bubble gum and mold it into a penis, and whoever makes the best penis out of their piece of gum won. Mine was the best, but I couldn't win since I was the bride, so Carmon won. And then to see my aunt and Todd's mom doing the shots out of penises? Hilarious!
Bravotv.com: It looked like Aunt Nora and Sharon were the party MVPs, did they keep up with everyone?
Kandi: Yes they did! We actually had another game you didn't see where you use your first initial and then you say how you like it and where you like it. So for instance, "My name is Kandi and I like it kinky in the kitchen." (And a shout out to Bedroom Kandi parties, because my consultant gave us all these games and was helping guide the party.) So my aunt says, "My name is Nora…and there is nowhere that I have not done it." It was so hilarious! Everyone fell out! We had a ball.