Lori Zaslow

Lori explains why Dana was so picky when looking for a potential date.

on Mar 11, 2012

This week’s episode follows two very different men both in desperate need of change and my help. Let's start with Dana Tompkins. He is the tall, hot bartender who is in touch with his emotional side. Jenn and I met him in Grand Central Station, the perfect location for people watching, since that place is buzzing with all types of people. As they say in NY, if you can make it there, you can make it anywhere. Well in Grand Central if you can't find someone there, you won’t find someone anywhere. 

I soon learn that Dana has some baggage. He had an issue with every type of woman I pointed out to him. Too tall, too skinny, too much hair, weird toes, etc. I knew that Dana would be a challenge and I needed to dig deeper. It turns out Dana was looking for one specific person -- his ex-girlfriend. During my one-on-one session with him, I learn that Dana is yearning for that emotional connection that he shared with his ex. He needed a major wakeup call, and I was happy to give it to him. I believe that everyone has more than one soulmate, and it was time for Dana to recognize that. 

We have all been in Dana's shoes. Sometimes it is hard to move on because you haven't been able to close that last door. In Dana's case, he was looking for the exact replica of his ex, straight down to the fake boobs. Listen up, Dana, you fell for her heart and behind all boobs (fake or not) there is another heart out there for you. Dana will find love, because there is enough love in this world for everyone who is willing to receive it; he just needs to be ready to open his soul to those new connections without comparison to old attachments.  Dana is two steps ahead of most people, because he is able to show that he is emotionally vulnerable.  I loved that about him, and I bet thousands of you amazing women who saw the show will too.