In my family, therapy was our second religion. Family issues? Off you go to therapy. Parents divorced at age 10? Therapy. Parents remarry, divorce (several times each)? Therapy. Dad died at age 19? Therapy. Dealing with dad’s death and a whole host of issues? In and out of therapy over my lifetime.
I’ve always enjoyed going to therapy actually and learned many of the skills I use to help others on my radio show during my sessions.
I began to block my emotions at a young age. There was so much turmoil in our home growing up that I did what many kids do -- shut down. The tumultuousness of my childhood really wreaked havoc on my emotions.
Due to all this, I woke up around the age of 27 and got back into therapy to deal with all my childhood issues. I felt that I’d been coasting through life, not truly feeling as much as I should. Through therapy I learned to feel my emotions and deal with a lot of my past.
My current therapy is much more infrequent. I won’t tell you how many hours I’ve logged in therapy, because it would amaze (or perplex) you, but let’s just say I don’t feel like I need to go as regularly anymore.
But since everyone lately has been saying something is wrong with me, I figured I’d go see my therapist, Paula-Jo, for a therapy tune-up.
I hadn’t recognized how much my past was still on my mind and potentially affecting my behavior, especially when it comes to dating. I guess we never truly escape our past, but there’s important work we all should to do to make peace with it. And it might take you one year or 20 years, but either way, if you’re still holding on to stuff from a long time ago, it’s a good idea to find a therapist.
Emily, don't let people try to convince you that you need therapy because you have the audacity to be comfortable in your own skin and content with being single. Mind you, there's not a thing wrong with therapy, and you don't need to be suffering from anything to benefit from therapy- but I think your friends and family are being unfairly judgmental about your lifestyle because they don't personally relate to it. I'm a single girl, close to your age, never been married, no children (and have never even heard the faintest of ticking from my "biological clock"). Like you, I'm used to getting perplexed and then sympathetic looks upon confirming my single/childless status for those who inquire. It doesn't bother me, so why should it bother anyone else? We shouldn't waste our time or energy trying to manufacture a "happily ever after" life based on societal timelines or expectations.
Love love u Emily!!! U r so open about everything, I think u r original & authentic! Xoxo Julia
I hope that therapy can get you the help that you need so that you can lighten up and truly enjoy life a bit. You always seem very sad in the eyes.
Thank you! It's so great to see someone on tv who's doing their thing, their way, and HAPPY! Many of us who are not married with childre and that whole thing are not pining for it. We are LIVIN', man! One adventure at a time....or multiple adventures.....I travel like crazy, I love hard, I laugh hard, and I fall hard sometimes too. It's great to see your shiny, happy, curious face on tv showing the world that -- hey, it's all good and it doesn't all have to look the same.