Difficult Decisions

Rosie explains why immunizations are so important.

As I write this, I am lying down with sweet Vivienne who’s taking a nap on my chest. She makes those sweet baby murmurs that manage to make me think even a burp is darling! She is completely dependent on me at this point in her life and the decisions I make for her.  That is a huge responsibility and also the greatest honor I will ever have -- to raise my children and to be their mom. 

One of the decisions parents must make is whether or not to immunize their children against a whole host of diseases from polio to measles.  Diseases that have the potential to either significantly disable or kill us.  Now remember when we make the immunization decision for our own children, we are also making decisions that impact society and other children.  Since newborn babies are not immunized right away, they are susceptible to these diseases should there be an outbreak and they are around a non-immunized person.  So you are making a decision far bigger than for just your own family.  States see this as such a huge issue that it is very difficult to send a non-immunized child to school, and so they are often in need of home schooling. 

Now please believe me when I say I understand the fears people may have surrounding immunizations.  There has sadly been a lot of unfounded false information given out as it relates to the dangers of immunizations, the most famous being that they cause autism.  I want as much as any mother to know what is causing autism and to try and help family's affected, but the blame that has been put on immunizing children has meant the autism community has also suffered as funding for research has become more difficult to garner in the face of the research (now known to be false) that linked autism with vaccinations.  Yet, despite knowing this, I will be honest:  I am still fearful when I immunize my children.  It's impossible not to be as the fear has so penetrated our media and even celebrity mom culture.  But when I am faced with the decision, as so often we parents are, I must make the right one based on the facts we have to protect my child (and other children) to the best of my abilities.  When it comes to Nia, her argument wasn't even the most common, it was that children are born "perfect and whole" and should be able to get sick then fight off the infection if they eat the right foods.  I believe children are born perfect and whole too, but this doesn't mean their immune system is developed to be able to fight deadly diseases.  The argument simply made no sense and as a mother I had to change her mind. 

I know this subject is sensitive, I know some of you may strongly disagree with me, but with what we know today, I ask you, how can you make any decision other than go ahead with immunizations?  If someone out there knows something I don't, I want to hear from you, because we are making these decisions for all of our children and that means having a conversation and trying to make a unilateral decision together so it works.

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The Privilege of Parenting

Rosie wanted to deal with her own issues so she could be the best parent possible.

People often ask me why I do what I do. I think it is so important for people to understand the passion I have for helping people be the best parents they can be and to get educated about the process. Parenting is truly a privilege. This episode I decided to open up a little about my past to help you understand a little more about where this passion comes from. You were all so supportive when I was honest about my struggles with fertility, so I wanted to be honest with you about my relationship with my own mom as well. The thing is, as parents we help to shape our children. Of course, there are many other things that go into who they become, but parents have a lot to do with it. This honor should be taken so seriously, and I think it’s at the core of what I do.

Honestly at the beginning of the season I had no idea things would take such a personal direction. But finding out I was having a girl and coming to terms with my speech issues brought to the forefront so many issues from my past that I think I had chosen to lock away. I'm good at locking things away in tiny boxes in my head! It’s a survival technique...probably not a good one, but hey, I am a work in progress! Pregnancy is really a time to come to terms with the parts of you that you don't like, because as a parent, we have to love who we are. We have to be proud of ourselves so we can be role models to our children. If there is any self-hate in there, it will get brought out the moment you look into your child's eyes, because you'll want to hide those sides of you and doing that in my opinion always leads to disaster. Children know when you are not being honest with them about whom and what you are.

So I decided to take a long, hard look at who I am, why I do what I do, and to try and get to a better place with what I think about myself so I can be the best role model possible for my children. I hope in some way that understanding better who I am will help all of you in your own lives get to a place of love for yourself. Whether you are becoming a parent, already are a parent, or not one yet a parent, you deserve it! Life is just too short to live so full of pain. If I can do it, so can you.

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