Chanel Omari

Chanel breaks down the lessons she learned from Rabbi Cohen.

on Jul 21, 20130

 

"Be Inspired by who you are. Remember, you are a Princess, so act like one" 

Rabbi Cohen has taught me a very valuable lesson with his very wise advice. Being a real princess is all about detaching yourself from the materilistic world and what society expects from us. It's about being humble, believing in ourselves no matter who tries to drag us down, and bettering oursleves as people every day. It's about being kind to others. It's about starting with being inspired by who you are first, and I was forgetting that all along. We all are faced with trials and tribulations, but we need to be able to pick oursleves back up when we fall down, no matter how tough it gets.

Being a princess isn't just about all the glitz and glam, but it's about the charity, good deeds, how in touch we are with ourselves, and how we can help others who aren't as privilaged as us. Being a princess is about staying true to who you are and never forgetting where you come from no matter what race, nationality, subculture, financial status, physicality, religion, sexuality, or background you are. It's about being proud of who you are and being inspired by the person you are and/or want to become. And remember: we all have the potential to be the person we want to be. It's so easy to get down on yourself and give up on yourself when we feel we are at a stan still or when we feel lost and not supported or feel pressured. But we must not let that get the best of us. After my spirtual meeting with the rabbi, I was able to put a lot more in to perspective when it came to my sister's wedding and the pressures I face with making my family proud and not dissapointing them. It made me realize that I also put the pressure subconciously on myself, and that my family only wants the best for me and are proud of me no matter what. 

It also made me realize that I don't need someone else, especially a man to define me. We are all special the way we are. I am so blessed to have a rabbi and confidant such as Rabbi Cohen. He's right: when I do find the right one, he will hopefully add to my greatness. Rabbi Cohen really taught me that being a princess isn't about feeling self-entitled -- it's about making a difference in the world. He made me realize it's important to take a step back when things get difficult and someone attacks you whether it being phsyically or emotionally and to not engage in negative drama. He taught me how to grow up from being a "girl" to a "woman."  

21 comments
Erica2478
Erica2478

Try living life make something of it! Are you going to die if you don't get married? This show amazes me that all these little rich girls have so many "problems"!

TaciP
TaciP

Chanel-I love you on the show. You seem like a really good person & LOVE will find you when you least expect it. Until then, enjoy your life, family & friends. YOLO!

 

notjap
notjap

Chanel, and Bravo, wanted to thank you for making a show that includes an orthodox perspective. 

numee3
numee3

Chanel, we love ya girl but you've got to take the blinders off when it comes to Ashlee. I love all my friends but one thing I don't do is take sides. Part of being a really good friend is calling a friend out on her BS. You arent doing Ashlee any favors. Her mom and dad have already screwed her up, if there's going to be any hope for her, it's gonna take her true friends to show her some tough love.

Str8UpChic
Str8UpChic

Chanel, You have a beautiful spirit and you WILL find someone!! Better to wait for the right one no matter how long it takes, than to rush and find yourself after all of the dust settles looking at this guy like " Oh s--- what did I get myself into??" So calm it down and have faith!! He will come along when you least expect it and are not desparetely looking for it!! I know it's cliche to say, but its true. Be good with you and everything else will fall into place.

Lubby
Lubby

So I had to look up what a Jewish Princess means, since in my book that should come from royalty. Basically it just means you're a spoiled brat with high expectations, and will never get a man. LOOK it up. Try being a person instead, who cares if you're not married. it's ridiculous that you find that to be one of your main goals. 

SFViewer
SFViewer

I know in your world, being unmarried at 27 is a shandeh, but in the rest of the USA, it's actually a good thing. Weddings are easy and fun; being married is a lot of hard work. Enjoy your 20s! Heck, enjoy your 30s! You have a long life to live. 

myguiltypleasure
myguiltypleasure

on being a princess...how about being a person.  a mench.  seems like all those attributes Rabbi Cohen highlighted applies to each of us.  There should be no sense or referral of entitlement but you label yourself as such.

jenilynblin
jenilynblin

So glad you enjoyed the wedding, you looked beautiful and so happy.  What fun!

Jeseylicious
Jeseylicious

I've never seen someone so desperate for a man like you.  Bring back the fun Chanel, you seem so boring sometimes

lisacbmorton
lisacbmorton

My husband came into my life late, but he was so worth the wait! If there is one thing I could tell myself back when I was single? Enjoy it! Enjoy the girl's nights, the clubs and take many girl vacations. Someday you'll look back on that time and realize it flew by. Living in the present is the best gift you can give your soul.

shysharon
shysharon

Nati looked a lil used at the wedding....you should have waited until after the wedding to decide if you wanted to go out with him..

NameChange
NameChange

I thought Rabbi Cohen was pretty cool myself and seemed to be full of common sense.  I just wish you yourself would stop focusing so much on not being married yet.  Sheesh!

Anne0
Anne0

You looked gorgeous at your sister's wedding.

erinS68
erinS68

girl, your my favorite on this show and the only other pretty blonde, not the one with a disrespectful attitude to her mother that wants to get married, her and ashlee are by far the most annoying to watch, but you two girls help salvage the show, I think your the most real, with real problem, short stack that cant wear flats, attitude seems fake, THANK GOD for you..!!!!!! your beautiful, sweet, and are very enjoyable to watch...! keep up the great work, and dont worry about looking for someone, although that date you did have with that guy from israel was funny! sorry about that btw.. I hope the best for you!

NameChange
NameChange

 @shysharon

 Nah.  I think Chanel got it right.  When they were talking, he was making comments about what a wife should do/be, instead of trying to get to know her. 

shysharon
shysharon

 @NameChange

 I agree with you, and commented on that last week, but after seeing them at the wedding, she should have waited. He was the best man.

kpz22
kpz22

 @NameChange  @shysharon Well,  you have to admit, think about it from his side. He s going out with a girl who seems very traditional, wants to get married, but gets offended when suggested that she should cook or clean. He says he works 14 hours a day so.... 

 

I just got married 5 months ago ... before that, I never knew how to cook and I never cleaned, ever... (I was kinda spoiled). But my husband works longer hours than me, and so I decided to be as much of a "balaboosteh" as I can... slowly, I started to get the hang of it... and now my parents marvel at my cooking and how tidy I keep my apartment. 

 

You see, as a young married woman who is also from the same background as Chanel, I take a sort of pride,, in how well I keep the house together and my cooking. 

shysharon
shysharon

 @kpz22  @NameChange  @shysharon

 Had she gotten to know him at the wedding before a date, they may have had fun and then his expectation from a wife, ie cooking, etc. wouldn't be coming from a stranger...I agree with you, NameChange, I took a lot of pride in keeping a nice home as a wife and mother, and I am very modern, had a great career!

NameChange
NameChange

 @kpz22  @shysharon

 @kpz22:  I admit that Chanel's background is somewhat exotic to me, and a little confusing:  she seems very modern and has a great ability to laugh at herself, but then there's an ultra traditional streak in her.  In any event, I would have gotten offended if some guy I just met started asking if I thought a wife should cook and clean.  She's not a commodity, after all.  And congratulations, BTW!