Lilly Ghalichi

Lilly defends her birthday guest list and explains why she invited MJ in the first place.

on Nov 5, 2013

Yes, I realize my party was a teeny, weenie bit over-the-top, but so what? I didn’t ask anyone to pay for it or throw it for me. I did it by myself, for myself (well with the help of the greatest party planner on earth, Sunny from White Lilac Inc.).

I have never thrown myself a birthday party, nor have I really celebrated any of my hard work and accomplishments in life in a large fashion. I have always been too busy working to take time for myself. Turning 30 was a huge milestone for me. It was hard mentally to turn 30 as I always imagined myself married with children at this age. I had just broken up with my lifelong boyfriend, and couldn’t be further from that dream. Instead of dwelling on things I cannot change, I decided to have an over-the-top, silly prom-themed celebration for the bright future to come.

I had the most incredible time, and it was so humbling and honoring to see my friends from all over the world, all walks of life, make the time to come see and celebrate with me.

Unfortunately, my birthday party couldn’t go drama-free with the Shahs around. I love each and every one of them, but come on guys, really?!?!

MJ and I are not friends. She has been nothing but rude and catty with me since the moment she laid eyes on me. With that said, I honestly don’t dislike her. In fact, I find something about her to be very charming, almost like a mischievous, loveable little girl. Some time has passed since we last saw each other, and since I was inviting four of her close friends to my party (along with 296 of my own friends that do not know MJ), I figured I would extend an olive branch to her and invite her. A new beginning. I also decided to invite both GG and Asa even though they don’t get along because I figured it would be a neutral environment for them to have an opportunity for a new beginning as well. 

Since so many guests were involved, an electronic invite was the easiest way to tackle the party. There were two ifferent invites sent out, one for the dinner which started at 7 p.m., and a second for the party which started at 8:30 p.m. I didn’t have room to accommodate everyone for dinner, so I only invited my closest friends to that. I decided to invite the entire Shahs group to the dinner, including MJ, and both GG and Asa. I didn’t want anyone to feel left out.

The evite was crystal clear that an RSVP was required in order to reserve a seat for dinner, or attend the party, as a seating chart and strict guest list would be involved. For those that had been sent the evite but had not RSVP’d, we sent out a second email reminder that an RSVP must be received by a deadline date or else their seat would be given. Every single person out of the 150 dinner invites managed to RSVP one way or another (email, text, phone call), expect for MJ. I was a little offended that she would not want to accept my invitation, but it was her right, so on the deadline date, I gave her dinner seat away to a friend.

I received MJ’s text asking to RSVP to dinner the day before the event. There was zero chance I was now going to un-invite a real friend whom I had given her seat to on the RSVP deadline date so that someone I knew didn’t even like me or really want to be there and didn’t even have the decency to RSVP until the day before could now come to dinner. Placecards had already been printed, seat name holders had already been printed, and the friend I had given MJ’s seat to was excited to be attending dinner.