Lilly Ghalichi

Lilly defends her birthday guest list and explains why she invited MJ in the first place.

on Nov 5, 20130

Yes, I realize my party was a teeny, weenie bit over-the-top, but so what? I didn’t ask anyone to pay for it or throw it for me. I did it by myself, for myself (well with the help of the greatest party planner on earth, Sunny from White Lilac Inc.).

I have never thrown myself a birthday party, nor have I really celebrated any of my hard work and accomplishments in life in a large fashion. I have always been too busy working to take time for myself. Turning 30 was a huge milestone for me. It was hard mentally to turn 30 as I always imagined myself married with children at this age. I had just broken up with my lifelong boyfriend, and couldn’t be further from that dream. Instead of dwelling on things I cannot change, I decided to have an over-the-top, silly prom-themed celebration for the bright future to come.

I had the most incredible time, and it was so humbling and honoring to see my friends from all over the world, all walks of life, make the time to come see and celebrate with me.

Unfortunately, my birthday party couldn’t go drama-free with the Shahs around. I love each and every one of them, but come on guys, really?!?!

MJ and I are not friends. She has been nothing but rude and catty with me since the moment she laid eyes on me. With that said, I honestly don’t dislike her. In fact, I find something about her to be very charming, almost like a mischievous, loveable little girl. Some time has passed since we last saw each other, and since I was inviting four of her close friends to my party (along with 296 of my own friends that do not know MJ), I figured I would extend an olive branch to her and invite her. A new beginning. I also decided to invite both GG and Asa even though they don’t get along because I figured it would be a neutral environment for them to have an opportunity for a new beginning as well. 

Since so many guests were involved, an electronic invite was the easiest way to tackle the party. There were two ifferent invites sent out, one for the dinner which started at 7 p.m., and a second for the party which started at 8:30 p.m. I didn’t have room to accommodate everyone for dinner, so I only invited my closest friends to that. I decided to invite the entire Shahs group to the dinner, including MJ, and both GG and Asa. I didn’t want anyone to feel left out.

The evite was crystal clear that an RSVP was required in order to reserve a seat for dinner, or attend the party, as a seating chart and strict guest list would be involved. For those that had been sent the evite but had not RSVP’d, we sent out a second email reminder that an RSVP must be received by a deadline date or else their seat would be given. Every single person out of the 150 dinner invites managed to RSVP one way or another (email, text, phone call), expect for MJ. I was a little offended that she would not want to accept my invitation, but it was her right, so on the deadline date, I gave her dinner seat away to a friend.

I received MJ’s text asking to RSVP to dinner the day before the event. There was zero chance I was now going to un-invite a real friend whom I had given her seat to on the RSVP deadline date so that someone I knew didn’t even like me or really want to be there and didn’t even have the decency to RSVP until the day before could now come to dinner. Placecards had already been printed, seat name holders had already been printed, and the friend I had given MJ’s seat to was excited to be attending dinner.

145 comments
katiedidmomsaid
katiedidmomsaid

This is by far the best blog I have ever read on here. You were honest without being insulting. You presented your analogies (no one being upset when you weren't invited to mj's party) without playing the victim....honestly, you are too good for this group.

playtone22
playtone22

I couldn't agree with you more.  What a ridiculous group.  Even if my best friend in the world pulled what MJ pulled, I would NOT be on her side.  I would wonder why she didn't simply RSVP.  I man, responding to an evite takes less effort than responding by regular mail.  Ludicrous.

 

And I don't know who's responding to these Bravo polls, but people are INSANE to be on MJ's side.  Honestly, I've never thrown a party with even a quarter as many people, but I STILL would not accommodate someone who was so inconsiderate as to RSVP at the last minute - and even then only did it because of Reza.

adc111213
adc111213

Lilly, if you are reading this, please note that I am so on your side... it is absurd and arrogant and beyond immature of MJ to act the way she did (and her stupid, little friends who turn a blind eye to all her bs is also appalling and sad). They are putting long term friendships above and beyond accountability; it is like they are rewarding a bad dog for taking a dump in their shoes. They are so illogical, sloppy and fake. You are a quality human being and my favorite and only reason I really watch that show. Kudos to you for your intelligence, class, beauty positivity, style and grace. I don't want you to leave that show, but if those bitches don't appreciate you/it's beyond impossible personally for you to continue (regardless of the bales of $ they throw at you ;), then to hell with them...They don't deserve you, plain and simple.

 

P.S.: I know you must love your brother, as I love mine, but please stand up for yourself and tell him to stop being such a douche and cut you some slack re: your personal life - it's *none* of his business (and yes, you are right, his voice is very irritating. lol). I've had to put mine in check countless times :)

sobolious
sobolious

You are a very beautiful girl. However, there is more to life than "looking hot" and having "hot friends."  Your obsession with your looks seems to mask some major insecurities.  

marie.rivas.35
marie.rivas.35

After seeing this show, didn't realize how much make up you wear. You are not pretty without it, keep loading it up. Fakeness to the extreme.

mary.flipping.sunshine3
mary.flipping.sunshine3

i agree with you Lilly. If she was your close friend maybe you could of included her. but she had been rude to you. and for no one else in the group to see it for what it is, is weird. you looked nice in all your outfits!

Sayda_Bonoan1
Sayda_Bonoan1

You were in your right to uninvite MJ since it is your party; i mean technically you can do whatever you want. I just dont think it was a classy move and it was just more of a power trip than anything. I mean, if you're going to call out your cast mates for not being classy, you sure were equivalent to them. I get you dont have a good relationship with MJ, or never have had one. You should of never invited her in the first place to be honest. So you bringing that parellel about her not inviting you is arbitrary. Just b/c you are dripping in diamonds, wear expensive stuff, and have a party in a mansion doesnt mean you are a lady, or have class... for the record. I dont think any of you know what class is. i am curious though, in terms of good etiquette. so if i dont rsvp to a wedding or something like that, the hosts uninvite me? i've never heard of that. 

talmquist
talmquist

Your party was perfectly suited to your tastes.  It was extremely gawdy and over the top which are two words that best describe you.  Four dresses really? I love how you appointed your self a prom queen, you are actually the winner of most delusional.  Your party didn't even look that full nor were the table settings so extravagant

 that you could not have added one seat.  You loved having MJ banned from the party, you loved putting her in her place, so please stop trying to act offended that the others brought up your bad behavior.  And for the record, no lady with any class every uses the C word.  Perhaps your foul mouth is what led your long term boyfriend to rethink his future with you.  Good luck Lilly, now you are 30 perhaps you can grow up and stop swearing like a teenage boy.

racquetjackie
racquetjackie

Lilly, you are the best!!!  You are so right.  MJ thought she could RSVP last minute and come to your party. Who does she think she is?  She is sooo gross!!!  Good for you for having a prom queen party.  You go girl!!!

Debster1
Debster1

You could have made room for MJ. You just didn't want to. In fact, I'm sure you were delighted that she didn't RSVP so that you had a good reason to kick her from your party.  You are way too over the top. I mean, have you ever heard the phrase "less is more"? Everything about you screams artificial.

muffey
muffey

I have found you to be annoying, including your voice and emphasis on wealth (shallow) and looks.  MJ and Reza were very good friends and she felt ignored when Reza paid more attention to you.  It is human nature.  MJ is really the star of the show.  No one would watch if it was you, so be nice to MJ. 

sendittojeff
sendittojeff

Lilly I only have one thing to say to you. Beauty is only skin deep The way you Cuss and use the C Word is not only shocking and ugly it's Classless! Enough already! Like lipstick on Pig! Doll you can put on the finest fashions in the world but when you Open your Mouth you Cheapen it! ............Clean it up! Class it up! 

onaadams
onaadams

TO LILLY -- Truthfully -- I hope you are not invited back to the show next season.  You have such a TRASH mouth!!  When I first saw you -- I was impressed until you started to swear more than any MAN I have ever heard -- and to hear a woman --using  the "C" word.  I cannot wait to see you replaced with a LADY.   I refuse to watch you and will turn to another channel until I'm sure you are not aired and will turn back to watch MJ, GG, ASA, and REZA.  Thank goodness for remote control!!  

lovelaughs33
lovelaughs33

Team Lilly!  MJ is messed up and the others most likely don't have the strength of character to call out MJ's impropriety to you.  The original Shahs are acting like a clique of jerks.  

rosyposy
rosyposy

Only the clueless would not realize that it is necessary to RSVP to a sit down dinner.  So, you were absolutely right to refuse to "shuffle" guests at the last minute.  However........GIRL.....4 dress changes?  It was just bizzare.  It also makes one wonder about your values, priorities, etc.  It was silly, and just showed that you are not "there" yet.

Blink
Blink

The Shah group have known and been friends for awhile and you were included in their group because Reza thought you were "new, shiny and bright."  You were absolutely correct with how you handled MJ.  If you have another function, no need to extend an olive branch of any sorts.  It seems her apology from the reunion was all air because she was in the hot seat.  Reza wasn't a good friend to MJ last year, and he's not a good friend to you....beware.  You are quite over the top though.

jpinphx515
jpinphx515

I agree with you about MJ.... It takes less that 1 second to RSVP to a dinner party.  She didn't so too bad, so sad.  I think its understood that this was your "olive branch" to her and she in her usual fashion didn't respect your time.  The rests of the Shahs should go back and watch last season when they all go together an UNINVITED GG.  

 

 

 

bjunebug28
bjunebug28

Lilly, I've had many invitation only formal sit down dinners with guests between 10-350, and have squeezed in an extra one or two or four many times, when I wanted to.  You should've just been up front and said MJ can't come because she didn't RSVP and now you don't want to go through the trouble of squeezing her in because you are not really friends anyway.  Don't give the group the lame excuse that it was "impossible" to fit one more person.  That's a lie you made up because you didn't have the balls to tell the truth.  I am not really like you at all this season.

Southerngal15
Southerngal15

I could not understand why some of the "cast" kept acting like it was some shock and surprise with your feellings on MJ and the invite etc. She has never really liked you and is honest with that and you have never clicked with her either and you are also honest about that. You did not disinvite her as some were saying either, she is grown so she knows you have to RSVP to such affairs, and she did not RSVP plain and simple. I am sure if she was a best friend and forgot you could have done something to get her in since it is your party, but again you both admit you are not friends. So I did not see the big deal they were making out of it.

biancashines
biancashines

Just kick back skinny and pretty girl, be better and show us what a lady you could and should be!

terry244
terry244

You really showed your true colors at your ridiculous bday party! Seriously who in the hell throws themself a bday party like that. I think u finally realized that youl probaly never get married because ur so self absorbed that nobody can stand to be around u! So u had to buy your self a wedding gown and pretend! You are so jealous of MJ! Quit trying to defend your self because all the viewers can see rite threw u! Please stop trying to turn everyone against Mj its not going to work! U need to get some professional help! U are ruining this show! 

AddictedToBravo25
AddictedToBravo25

Just sing Frank's song " I Did It My Way " and to heck what anyone thinks. MJ doesn't even deserve space on your blog.

chenchen00
chenchen00

Read what you just wrote, read it again.  Deep down you were hoping MJ wouldn't RSVP because of your friend and it gave you great pleasure that she didn't because then your "friend" who had done all the things right had her seat.  Even if MJ had RSVP and your friend was without a seat, I'm sure you would have made some form of accomodations for that friend so she wouldn't be left out and Mike is right, you should have had a few extra seats on reserve just in case.   I'm sure the MJ haters don't see it this way, but I do.  As far as you as a person, there are many things I like about you, however, you have also been catty towards MJ since joining the show, especially making comments about her weight and such and there are times that viewers get the feeling that you think you are in a class above MJ.  

cavex2
cavex2

I would not have allowed MJ to attend the party.  Adding a "hater" who is going to trash the party while getting drunk, falling down, losing her clothes, etc is not a good idea.  MJ should have rsvp'd.  Very simple to do.  It is obvious that MJ did not want to go anyway, so to bash Lilly for not squeezing MJ in at the last minute is stupid.

I like watching Lilly and Coconut on the show.  I am tired of watching Kim... oops, I mean MJ, getting drunk and messy.  It is just depressing.  I don't like GG at all and feel like I am watching the Bad Girl's Club when she is on the tv.  I don't understand Asa, although I have tried for 2 seasons.  

Lilly is over the top, but I like her.

Rustydog
Rustydog

You are overthetop but you are entitled to be that way.  I think you are a very bright person and are playing a role...somewhat for the camera.  But at the end of the day you are heads above the other gals on the show in intelligence and sanity.  You work hard for a living, won't take nonsense from people....if people are put off by you it is on them not you. 

fell
fell

Lilly, you are RIGHT! She (M.J.) is not your friend. But what really blew me away, was Asa saying that M.J. was reaching out, by attending your party. This is the same Asa, when GG  "reached out" last year by agreeing to meet her and MJ for lunch and she (Asa) was a no show. Now talk about double standards. You were right about all of them having no class. I mean, who in their 30's/40's, act like teenagers. With the way they talk,act, etc., you would think they were all 13,14 years of age. MJ, from the beginning was rude,jealous of you. Reza loved every minute of it. And for him to question anything about the "relationship" between you and MJ is just wrong. Watch out for him, for he is the real sh*t stirrer here.

tjjpt
tjjpt

I agreed with you 100 per cent. MJ replied at the last minute in a very condescending way. You were right to refuse her. I don't understand the poll of What happened next? Why did MJ get  74% on her side when she clearly violated the etiquette. Besides she has been so rude and antagonistic towards you from the beginning. It was too nice of you to invite her in the first place. MJ is so jealous of you because you are much more successful and much prettier than her inside out.

NJ-Roses
NJ-Roses

Really, Lilly?  That was 17 paragraphs about your birthday party. You don't think that four dresses in one evening is a bit much?

I hope you enjoyed your party with the 300 of your closest friends.  Your world is just a little too over the top for me.

GirlFromKY
GirlFromKY

Ya know what Lilly?  Being forced to have to even TALK about justifying yourself about a BASIC 101 etiquette rule where RSVP'ing is concerned just brings an educated person's I.Q. level down to a place they shouldn't even have to acknowledge.  I mean SERIOUSLY.  Don't worry about the ignorant/uneducated/immature masses where these other comments are concerned....stay true to yourself and your educated core values :) 

adc111213
adc111213

 @sobolious She takes pride in the way she looks. So. What. She deserves to and she runs her own business. I *love* that she cares about herself in that amazing manner (if only most American women did instead of let their obesity run rampant i.e. like case in point, MJ). If she didn't look good, then you would probably be harping on her that (!!!) ;-p

playtone22
playtone22

 @Sayda_Bonoan1 This makes NO sense.  She did not "uninvite" MJ.  MJ didn't RSVP by the deadline date.  There's a huge difference. 

adc111213
adc111213

 @Sayda_Bonoan1 MJ was not "uninvited" - there was no where for her to sit at the dinner table, period. The classless woman rsvp'd the *night before*. Who does that? Someone with no class, that's who. Lilly did the right thing - it was her special day, not Queen MJ.

backgammon
backgammon

 @Sayda_Bonoan1

 When you do not respond to an invite, you are automatically taking yourself out of the Event!  It is your choice when you are invited, to accept or ignore.  Accepting means you go, not responding means you don't go.

katiedidmomsaid
katiedidmomsaid

 @talmquist

 you sound extremely jealous. why begrudge someone their fun if it doesn't hurt anyone? comes across as really bitter.

Basic101
Basic101

 @rosyposy

 Lilly is rich, very rich and she doesn't throw it in our faces.  I got the 'whole' prom theme and lavish party for which she generously shared with the Shahs and her friends.  Remember, this was not her house to be playing table tag and for who MJ who have been nothing but rude and awful towards Lilly.  MJ is a big girl, over 40, and should know how to RSVP without the help of others.  If she needs the help to scheduling and responding to invited invents, then MJ needs to hire an assistant.

 

Everyone else understood how to RSVP, not to mention that MJ received two invites. 

 

Now the Shahs feel badly for MJ.  They were awful towards MJ during the reunion and now trying to do damage control by not supporting Lilly.

 

From the previews, those Shahs will find it irresistible not to go after MJ again.  They are enablers and shallow people, except for Lilly.

cindy1963
cindy1963

 @rosyposy It was VERY bizarre!! Who would change dresses 4 times at a birthday party? Talk about shallow, she brings new meaning to the word. I am not a fan, I wasn't last season and I definitely won't be one this season. Lilly, did you ever stop to think that it is probably one of the reasons you are not in a relationship? Something to think about.....just saying.

racquetjackie
racquetjackie

 @Blink Like everything you said except "over the top"

 

Lilly, you go girl!!!  Have fun and live life!!

motherbug
motherbug

 @bjunebug28 

I agree. I just saw this episode tonight and the first thing I thought was, a good hostess is always prepared for a few extra faces or accidents.  She said that all of the seats were accounted for? Does that means she had people on standby? Otherwise she would have had the room to seat 120 regardless of being short one or two from the original list.  I didn't respect her for that.

adc111213
adc111213

 @Southerngal15 Thank you - the one sensible person who can put into words the entire, friggin drama in one paragraph. Yay. And they act that extra special way perhaps because they are being paid to be ultra drama queens for more $/higher ratings as well. But they are still shallow fools... except for Lilly. 

Turtle44
Turtle44

 @fell

 I agree who acts like that - I mean who has a prom party for their 30th birthday complete with a crown and raves about how hot their friends are ..............LOL it's like a movie 30 going on 13

Basic101
Basic101

 @fell

 I agree.  Reza has issues.  He was downright dirty at the reunion show claiming until MJ get's help for all her addictions.....well, I don't see where she got the help, yet Reza shows up with flowers and gifts. I think he feels guilty.  As far as not supporting Lilly, I wonder if it's because Lilly hasn't bought a house yet from Reza.  Something doesn't sit well with me him or Asa.

southern_goddess
southern_goddess

 @GirlFromKY I am NOT ignorant, uneducated, nor immature!  I'm on a blog speaking my opinion, just as you are, which is why the blog is here!  I have a right to speak my feelings, just as you, WITHOUT insulting anyone else in order to do so!  And in case you want to know, I have a masters degree, and I am VERY WISE to know that I don't have to put on a superficial and shallow show to be accepted by REAL people!  Only those who hide behind a facade of low self-esteem has to prance around their material possessions, in order to mask the way the REALLY feel about themselves!  

AddictedToBravo25
AddictedToBravo25

@backgammon @Sayda_Bonoan1 Well there ya go... Exactly...end of story.

katiedidmomsaid
katiedidmomsaid

 @cindy1963  @rosyposy

 why does it bother yall so much what this girl does for her own amusement?? its not hurting anyone else and its a lot better than amusing yourself by making catty, mean comments about others

katiedidmomsaid
katiedidmomsaid

 @motherbug  @bjunebug28

 lol that's a good hostess of someone living in the suburbs, not a mansion. things are a bit more detailed when hundreds of guests are involved

katiedidmomsaid
katiedidmomsaid

 @Turtle44  @fell

 maybe someone who likes to have silly harmless fun by dressing up instead of talking crap about their "friends" while drinking themselves into a falling down, make up smeared, clothes falling off, slurring kind of mess

backgammon
backgammon

 @Turtle44  @fell

 Maybe someone who never had a prom.  Someone who could afford to celebrate their birthday with their friends, someone who gave the party a theme other than birthday, someone who could afford to be generous to their friends, someone who works hard and wanted to share a reward, someone who is over the top.  I would have expected nothing less from Lilly. 

However, Lilly's Shah friends were less than generous with their wishes, attitudes, and thanks.