Mike Shouhed

Mike shares his thoughts on Reza's behavior at the gay club.

on Dec 4, 20130

This was a very emotional episode to watch! What should have been a fun night with my loved ones turned into a war. Reza has some demons that he needs to deal with. He's so quick to dish it out, but not able to take it! He was super aggressive with Sasha from jump street. "Muslim extremist," "very gay," "fob (fresh off the boat)"...why all the hostility? Sasha called Reza fat and was crucified. Hasn't Reza said that his main objective for being a part of the show is to make it OK for other gay men to be able to be out and proud? I guess he should have attached a disclaimer that they have to be up to his standards of what that looks and acts like!

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ygal56
ygal56

Mike, I agree you are one in million! I have so much respect for you and your values.  I wish you Love, Peace and Prosperity.

2Bhonest
2Bhonest

Mike, you are one in a million! Truly adore you and wish there were more people like you. You and Jessica couldn't be a more amazing couple! You will have beautiful children that will be raised right!

qw33nb33
qw33nb33

Thanks for writing and saying how you feel.

Bellajolie
Bellajolie

I watch most BRAVO shows as a guilty pleasure, simple entertainment.  Obviously, it is the drama that brings in viewers.  I was caught off guard, however, by the way Mike reacted to Reza's behavior toward Sasha and his brother in the club.  It bothered Mike to the core that someone was being so mistreated and he stood up for the brothers and took the time to share his discontent with Reza's atrocious behavior.  Mike you are a good looking, charming, and seemingly family oriented guy.  My respect for you sky rocketed when you handled the "club" situation as you did.  It was not premeditated, it was your instinct to stand up for something you truly felt was an injustice.  Thank you for the unexpected depth! 

qw33nb33
qw33nb33

it might be good to check with Reza to find out what the core of his issues are because it is clear that Sasha is the trigger but the core issue is deeper than the person Sasha.  it is also that Reza suppressed years of expressing his pain and when you push down how you feel about things, it makes you become a human volcano. Might have been good to have talked to Reza first before you made any final decisions as to whether he was right or wrong. An outburst like that came from somewhere else, somewhere deep inside. You said it yourself, that you had never seen him behave that way before.  Could be best to find out more information than to just go with what you are SEEING because it's never really what we THINK makes us upset or who makes us upset, it is always something deeper.

Amazing how you judged Reza before you asked him calmly where this was coming from. Even Reza didn't know until he dug deeper and at least he is now seeing what is making him be and do his behavior. At least he is working on it. We all have issues that are deep seeded, ALL OF US, and it's our job to dig deeper when we are upset with someone because it's not THEM, it's us, it's our past that causes us to explode because we didn't deal with it completely back then. When we don't deal with what we really feel, it gets stuck inside of us until we can't look at it and release it.

Go to Reza, don't judge, just listen to what he has to say. We all need to that. Peace.

GH
GH

Mike just wanna say really like you on the show and love your girlfriend! She is very rare and must love you a lot! Just make sure you do the same back and get her a gorgeous ring when the time is right!!!

nursechrissy32
nursechrissy32

Mike, thank you for sharing your own growth and vulnerability with the world in so many occasions of your personal life that has become a reality to those of us the LOVE this show....watching you go through so many things with your own family with your brother and your mother and father, showing how love prevails over all, respecting faith and your parents mean so much to you and recent episodes where you have shown that hate has no place in your heart...when you had the level head during confrontation...you are an amazing man, you will make an incredible father, loving husband to your beautiful wife...and I know that all of your "fans" appreciate how much you share....that smile is contagious and beautiful and your heart is so giving and kind!!!! THANK you for sharing a true reality with us Mike.  God bless,

 

Chrissy

nursechrissy32
nursechrissy32

Mike, I adore you how share your vulnerability with everyone...you have a beautiful and kind soul.  A beautiful smile from a kind heart <3 be blessed !

jenn1221@
jenn1221@

I see that TV 15 min of fame have not gotten into your head (yet) unlike your "friends", You are right all the way. Stay real!!

maylin
maylin

This quote is for you Mike… 

 

There is no god higher than truth.  ~Mahatma Gandhi

Lanne565
Lanne565

Mike.  Every week I watch the Shahs and you never disappoint.  You are always concerned with others before yourself, you seem to care greatly for your family, and you come off as a person with true integrity...which is rare in LA and even more rare in reality television.  Lawyer or no lawyer, your parents should be proud. You are the stand-up guy on this show.  Another quality I admire is you stand up for what's right, but you accept people as flawed and don't come off as too judgy, which is how the viewers can tell your authentic.  It comes from your heart.  You don't want to applaud your friend's negative actions, but you also accept them for who they are.  I saw this with GG in past seasons.  Good for you Mike!  If you're not on Shahs, I'm not watching anymore (take note Bravo).

bravo-tv-viewer
bravo-tv-viewer

Mike,

 

I hope you actually read these responses to your blogs, and if so, I hope you show this one to your parents, because I want to thank them for raising such a wonderful son. You are such a sweet heart. You are on the side of what is right, not the side of who is your friend. You are so opened minded, kind-hearted, and a loving individual and that has to have come the way your parents raised you. I feel sad that you feel as though you are not considered a success just because you are not a doctor or lawyer, because I think you are a success because you are a wonderful human being. This workd needs more people like you who truly feels compassion towards others and accept people for who they are and you always try to find something good in everyone. So to that, I say, "Thank you, Mr. and Mrs. Shouhed. Thank you for raising your son to be a light in this world and I know he will pass on your kindness and compassion onto his own children and help make this world a better place."  :)

marb56
marb56

why are you friends with these low class stupid people like Reza and MJ?

tjjpt
tjjpt

Mike, you are the most decent of all these shahs. The last two episodes showed you to be level-headed, and a man of integrity. So what if you can't sell as many houses as Reza . You are more handsome and much more loved. You will be more successful and content with life if Reza keeps going the downward spiral. He and M.J. are horrible.

Tania1234
Tania1234

Wow Mike! What an upstanding guy! VERY impressed by your sensitivity and fair mindedness! Just realized how much I adore you! Lucky Jessica! And P.S. Your parents did a GREAT job raising you! You might not be a doctor or lawyer-but you are a Rhodes Scholar when it comes to decency-any parent would be proud!

kimmy818
kimmy818

Mike, thank you for standing up to Reza. My heart aches and am completely broken for Sasha and his brother.  I love how Sasha stood up for him. How would Reza feel if his brother was called those names OR his cousin, his sister or dad?!?!? My sister sent me this clip and I was amazed how it was truly such a reflection of what I experienced in the past that still haunts me to this very day. I don't even have blog or Facebook (Sue me) but I felt completely compelled to write this. Listen, when my parents came to the US so they can establish a better life for their children, and being 15 at that time was just ugly.  It was hard to fit in and I missed my old friends. When I turned 17 i became a waitress and this other coworker flat out called me a FOB and he came from the same Asian country I was from.  Not knowing what it meant, I laughed it off.  Then another coworker tells me to be careful because it was meant to be a deragotory remark.  I was heartbroken. I was so caught off guard because I thought it was some sort of term of endearment but boy, was I wrong. Then my sister comes and visits me at work and he called us the FOB sisters. Being that young and having to stand up to this 6'2 guy was just scary.  I wanted to punch the living daylights out of him. But I am more disappointed at myself because I couldn't find the voice to stand up to him.Till this day, it haunts me. I feel scared telling other people I am an immigrant.  I am fearful of my own countrymen and i feel absolutely ashamed that I am ashamed to say I am a FOB. Someone who I thought would "have my back" was calling me this name pretty much everyday.  I then went on and made me want to work harder for my family and myself.  I put myself to college, finishing my Masters and now am a pretty good investment banker at a very large financial institution. Till today, I hope to find strength to be able to be myself and let people know that I am not a deadweight.  I don't really have an accent, as per what my friends say but I am sure it comes out esp when I am angry. The only difference between me and you is that although I was not born here, I still work 12 hour days and make sure my family and loved ones are taken care of. I refuse to be defined by my origins or my beliefs or culture.  It may have been a great influence that catapulted me to be the woman that I am now but It isn't completely who I am. So, Thank you for this.  Being a young Asian woman, in a white man's world of wall street and finance, its easy to lose your identity. I don't know Resa and I am sure he is great in his own ways. But this just reminded me that sometimes, good people will stand up for you when everything is just so wrong in the world. That being bullied comes from a place of fear, insecurity and ignorance. You inspire me today. Your courage and kindness touched me. And it is the best kind esp when it comes from strangers  who comes in and saves the day for the underprivileged.  Thank you for standing up for Sasha.  Sasha, if youre reading this, hang in there! You are not alone. Much blessings and love to all your families. (Sorry if i dont make sense, i am crying while typing this) The war against discrimination may not be over, but victories even in small battles have the biggest impact.

p-note
p-note

Mike this episode truly shows how much compassion you have for people!!  You are so right about everything you said!!! 

liquidwallpaper
liquidwallpaper

Mike you are the gem in this group. You love your family and have a great relationship with them. You always have a cool and calm attitude. You seem the most real of the bunch. Like the way you handled Reza and his fat old queen drama. Reza is a sad example for gay men. He s a mess like MJ but hopefully not a total loss.

Skullzgirl6
Skullzgirl6

Mike,

 

Reza was raving because he was hurt and jealous because his khang roommate brought home another guy, Persian, gay or not! He needs to kick out his boy toy and find someone who won't insult him and his home! 

bobbiesshihtzus
bobbiesshihtzus

You're right Mike.  But YOU too have your issues as do all of you, and you should be ashamed of not speaking up when MJ told Lilly that NONE of you are Lilly's friends but just MJ's friends.  Not a damn one of you spoke up and that is EVIL.  So apparently you guys are friends when it is convenient for you so that you look good on the show?  You all looked like classless morons the way you handled it was like you're all in High School and none of you want to disrupt the cool kids group you were "lucky" enough to be accepted into so you keep your mouth shut about that.  And don't use the excuse that you didn't hear it she is loud and wasn't shy about what she said.  She's a pig and so are the rest of you for not speaking up against EVIL.  You are pathetic.

mzofori30
mzofori30

Mike you are a very rare person in this group and in this world. You are always able to look at a situation fairly and stand up for what is right, even when that does not seem to be the popular option. Your parents did such a beautiful job raising you and your brothers. You are the only person I really enjoy watching on this show and I absolutely LOVE the relationship you have with your mother. You will always be blessed Mike!!

phillip.mcgaugh
phillip.mcgaugh

Mike you are a rarity in the world...principles  and morality. If you should never sell a house again in your life, you will always be rich in spirit.

My heart ached for Sasha and his brother. Sad, very sad.

phillip.mcgaugh
phillip.mcgaugh

Mike you are a rarity in the world today. You have an internal moral compass. My heart ached for Sasha and his brother. Sad...very sad. I came from a very homophobic culture, and left to live somewhere else, and instead of getting 'welcomed' I was scorned, so I can relate to feeling very let down. It leaves you feeling like there's no safe place and no good people. I hope Reza can watch this and learn empathy....learn how to place himself in someone else's shoes and how they might be experiencing the world. Ban the words "FOB".....it comes from a place of hate/fear/arrogance.

firecracker
firecracker

By the way, I'm so in love with your dad! He is just my kind of guy. ( REALLY). SORRY to your mom.

firecracker
firecracker

Mike, I love you, you are a jewel, it's a pleasure to have you in the show. You are just such a nice guy, handsome and gentle. You will have success in your life, because you deserve it. I love your girlfriend Also. that shows that both of you are wellborn. You are such a nice couple.

debikk
debikk

Mike - you a really good person. I think you are one of the sanest on this show and the show needs you. Reza acted horrible at the bar. He really put america down as well with his insults. Who does he think he is???? He owes you a big apology for putting you in that situation where you had to choose between right and wrong. You made the right choice as he was clearly wrong. Hang in there Mike...

HousewifeinNH
HousewifeinNH

It's one thing to support a friend, but it's a brave thing to say when a friend is in the wrong.  I'm glad you call a spade a spade and stand up for what is right, regardless.  You're a stand up guy.

tobey
tobey

You are a great friend, Mike.  I just hope Reza listens to your wise words.

jpinphx515
jpinphx515

My only question is why would you need Reza as a mentor (business wise)?  I'm sure there would be tons of firms that would have taken you on without even blinking.  Yes, hindsight is always 20/20 but you deserved much better from a mentor.

shahr9
shahr9

Bravo Mike , I am so proud of you. You and Jessica are just lovely , I love your mom and dad as well. I wish the other cast members could learn from you. God Bless u

thothead
thothead

I agree with you Mike and appreciated you standing up to tell your friend he was wrong. This shows you really are a true friend of Reza's by calling him on his shit

realitygirl101
realitygirl101

Mike you where able to rise to the occasion when you saw a good friend treating someone very badly.  Good for you and your girlfriend should be very proud that she has chose a man that will stand for what is RIGHT NOT what is easy.  You have kind of blended into each episode but this one we all saw you very clearly.

 

Many blessings to you!

Danny83
Danny83

Mike you are such a great guy, thanks for being honest. I am mostly watching this show for you. 

mermaidbch
mermaidbch

You're a good man Mike. I really liked how you embraced the two brothers, and didn't allow Reza to continue to verbally abuse them. Your parents must be proud of the kind and decent young man they raised.

greekgirl
greekgirl

You're my favorite! You're charming and funny but mostly, BRAVO for seeing thru the BS and standing up for what's right! You aren't mean spirited. You and Jessica make a cute couple. BTW, don't wait on Reza to show u the ropes in business. My mom came as an immigrant, got her real estate license and figured out how to sell on her own despite her struggles with English. You at least had some experience going in. It isn't easy but with your winning smile and attitude, you'll do it! Also, your dad was adorable at the graduation party! I loved that he was out there tearing up the dance floor! He reminded me of my dad who perked up like that at a good Greekfest!

Moosesalakis
Moosesalakis

 @Bellajolie Yes, my respect for Mike skyrocketed too. Thanks for supporting the brothers because you didnt have to and it was instinctually kind. 

Reza needs to "Calm down Helen Morgan" as they say on the East coast; "put your bra back on" is another appropriate phrase that could have stopped him dead in his heels.

Jessica.Cohen954
Jessica.Cohen954

 @qw33nb33   You must be MJ cause you babble on like a wild goose... I dont see ANYWHERE or ANYHOW how Mike is judging. Reza through out his anger and people react to it.. that is not judging, that is a reaction to an effect. Perhaps you should go write a childrens book because you make no common sense and  your long story is pitchy. 

doxyroxy
doxyroxy

 @qw33nb33   What are you talking about?  You're not looking at  this in the context in which it occurred, qw33nb33.  Mike judged the BEHAVIOR as bad, not Reza.  Reza's behavior was deplorable & needed to stop immediately.  At the club, when Reza was viciously attacking Sasha & his brother, it didn't matter the reason for his hatred & anger.  It had to stop. Mike planned to speak with Reza afterward, but he had to let him know his behavior was wrong at that moment.  Reza is the one who, even now, cannot accept full responsibility for his actions & needs to place part of the blame on Mike.  He says Mike let him down & didn't support him when he needed him most.  That's false.  Mike was the one who was the best friend & told Reza the truth.  He told Reza, "You're wrong."  That's a hard thing to tell your friend whom you love.  MJ tacitly supported Reza, giving him encouragement for his poor behavior.  Later, when MIke confronted her at the restaurant, MJ realized her error.  Mike didn't have time when the incident was happening to delve into the psychological reasons why Reza was behaving like an a-hole.  He saw the pain & humiliation that Sasha & his brother were going through AT THAT MOMENT at Reza's hands & knew it had to stop.  Mike did the only honorable thing he could by telling Reza to stop. 

doxyroxy
doxyroxy

 @kimmy818  Kimmy, be proud of reaching your goals & don't focus on being ashamed for not standing up to that 6'2 bully.  You were young, unsure, inexperienced and probably physically smaller than that big man.  Sometimes we have to swallow bitter pills to survive.  Cut yourself some slack.  Everyone in this country except Native Americans is an immigrant or came from immigrant ancestry.  That's the story of the United States.  Don't deny your history, because it helped motivate you to work hard for a successful future.  Kimmy, I admire your perseverance and am proud of your accomplishments as a fellow American.

bravo-tv-viewer
bravo-tv-viewer

 @phillip.mcgaugh I felt so sad too. I formed such a big lump in my throat when I watched Sasha's brother hang his head in shame. As I think about it now, it's making me teary-eyed, just thinking about how that man must've felt being called a fag**t by someone he never even met. after leaving his friends and family behind so he can have the same freedoms you and I enjoy. I wish them the best that life has to offer.

bobbiesshihtzus
bobbiesshihtzus

 @phillip.mcgaugh Where did he put his "Moral Compass" that night that MJ told Lilly that none of them were her friends but only MJ's friends like they are in Grade School?  Maybe he had it up his butt?  Because he sure just sat there and didn't speak up like so many of us HUMAN BEINGS would have, I guess its really hard to say "That's not true MJ we are all your friends Lilly"  But I guess your heads were too far up your own selfish pig asses that the sound was muffled and you didn't hear.  I'm sure that's going to be a lame excuse that you all use.

cinchy
cinchy

 @firecracker He gets his good looks from his dad, though his mom is a beauty, too. 

cinchy
cinchy

 @debikk "I think you are one of the sanest on this show and the show needs you."

 

I'm afraid that's why they're gonna ax him.  Sammy was a cool guy, reasonable, tried to make peace.  Well, apparently, keeping everyone calm doesn't make for good reality tv.  They got rid of Sammy.  That's kind of ridiculous imo, but that's what happened.  I'm afraid the same's gonna happen to Mikey.  

bobbiesshihtzus
bobbiesshihtzus

 @thothead Yeah but it's a shame that Mike didn't have the balls to stand up to MJ and call her out when she told Lilly that NONE OF THEM were her friends.  I guess THAT was ok with Mikes "fans" because they think Mike is "cute" ?  WTF ever.

fated360
fated360

 @cinchy  @debikk Sammy was disgusting and allowed his friend to grope a drunk MJ so he could unsuccessfully hit on her good friend. He was creepy and shady and Bravo let him go because of those reasons. 

NadaFan
NadaFan

 @cinchy  @debikk maybe you didn't see the first season, when Sammy showed his dark side. He appeared to be much kinder in the second season but he left such a bad first impression I think too many of the viewers weren't willing to give him another chance.

doxyroxy
doxyroxy

 @bobbiesshihtzus  @thothead  Wow, you're really stuck on this one incident aren't you?  I think the difference in that scenario was that Lilly actually did start the whole confrontation.  Though I agree that it ended badly and that MJ's comments were out of line, Lilly brought the nastiness first by saying "You're a coward" and it went downhill from there.  Someone, anyone, could have stepped in and said "Enough, stop, you two are saying vicious things and it needs to stop."  But they don't do that.  They allow "friends" to hurt each other and say disgusting, vile, things to one another, and then they justify it by saying people need thick skin to hang in the group.  Overall, I'm on Lilly's side in this argument.  But to be fair, she did instigate the fight, so she does bear some of the blame.  That's probably why the friends, other than GG, stayed out of the fray.