Reza Farahan

Reza posits that Lilly could have easily allowed MJ to come to her birthday paty.

on Nov 11, 20130

I have to start this blog with a big shout out to my Persian-Jewish-Esfahani dad. He bought me many cars when I was younger and the experience was very similar to Mike and my outing to the Porsche dealership. I didn't end up buying a Porsche. I bought a brand new convertible E350 Mercedes-Benz that I'm very happy with. Here is all I have to say about my business partnership with Mike. I told him that whatever new business we had moving forward would be split 50/50. Mike is a great friend and I love him like a brother, but for him to think that I'd give him 15 years worth of my business was foolish. Not to mention, I never said I was sharing my past clients, only new ones that we brought in once we partnered up. 

Last year was a very difficult year for me and my relationship with MJ was one of the main reasons. I didn't know if or when we'd speak again. The irony was that I ended up contacting her because of Lilly, which turned out to be the first step towards a potential reconciliation. I was truly shocked with Lilly's reply, when MJ texted her. That wasn't very Persian of her. Lilly did have a sit-down dinner, but doesn't she know that Persians are known for their warmth and hospitality when it comes to entertaining? I would have given up my own seat for any of my friends, and after attending the party, I can tell you that it would have been very easy to add a chair to any of the tables. 

I think Lilly is a decent person, but she was arguing her case as if we were in court. It's a technicality and she used it to keep MJ out. The place she is in with the group is a direct result of decisions she made. She could have been the bigger person and included MJ in the festivities. As for the party itself, I felt more like an audience member than a guest. It was as if Lilly had put on a show, and we were her audience, not her friends. It was a beautiful party and everything looked good, but nothing felt right. 

I hope that you guys enjoyed the first episode. Thank you for all of your amazing tweets and all of the support. I look forward to sharing the rest of the season with you. Until next time!

Regards,
Reza

55 comments
Skullzgirl6
Skullzgirl6

For someone who's so expressive, why haven't you admitted that you were hurt and jealous when your khang boyfriend had this guy over?

Girltulip
Girltulip

Used to love you. You are gradually turning into a mean girl. Not attractive!

susanzavagli
susanzavagli

Lilliy could have backed down but she stuck to her conviictions and we end up with a situation which is stupid

GreetheGreat
GreetheGreat

Reza,

You need to say you are sorry to Lilly. I guess you do not know how a decent women acts. Lilly is a kind and good women. Shame on you... M.J.. is a mean and nasty women. I guess she is more like her mother than she thinks. When someone invites you to a dinner ,know matter how the invite comes you kneed to answer the invite. I guess M.J. thinks she is above everyone else.

No one does what M.J. did to G.G. and then thinks it is funny !!!I I think G.G. needs to stay away from the nasty one. She M.G. is just a mean drunk. Reza yes M.J. is the life of the party. Good for the drunk !!!  Please say you are sorry to Lilly I enjoy her company very much and think she is a person of charter.  It was fun to watch M.J. strut her stuff around when you and G,G. where together at her home. She looked like a hooker looking in the mirror and trying to fix her boobs or what ever she was trying to do. She just stutted around and tried to make G.G. think she was something . She is just a drunk. You know what they say about a drunk----Once a drunk always a drunk...

housewifefan2012
housewifefan2012

You do need to spend some time with Mike. He apparently wants your guidance. He is your friend. Is it that hard to spend an hour or two of your time showing him the ropes?

housewifefan2012
housewifefan2012

Reza you owe Lilly an apology for starting this feud between MJ and Lilly. You should have stayed out of the whole thing. If MJ did not reply then she had no intent to go to the party and you only speculated that she would have been turned away, but that again is LIFE. People have to follow the rules. I would have done the same thing. If you do not reply you do not get in. They were not friends so you should have not created this mess. Seems like you have some issues with Lilly. If that is the case you need to man up and talk to Lilly. Not put another element in to create havoc. That is not being a good friend. 

foxysquirrel
foxysquirrel

I am soo disappointed in you about what happened on Nov 12 episode and noticed you did not post after that. We all have our querks, Lily's is RSVP and MJ has not liked her from the begining. MJ still would not have RSVP if you had not said anything. Mind you I am not a huge Lily fan, but cannot believe that you all sat there and let Lily leave the table. I am done with this show and you said that Persian people are known for their warmth and hospitality. Were was it?

karen.allen.1460
karen.allen.1460

You are a two face backstabbing whatever. It's fine for you to talk about another person but if a person talks about you ie: weight, you flip out. It has to be your money why people come or would want to be around you period. You should act your age.

housewifefan2012
housewifefan2012

Reza, one question, why did you not tell Asa how beautiful she looked at the party. She had on the beautiful blue dress and her hair and make-up were perfect. yet you did not make a big deal over how beautiful she looked. She looked like she could have used some kind words from you too. review the tape and look at her as she arrives and what happens when you all greet her.  You should have done more since she is suppose to be your friend. When Lilly came out you praised her looks over and over again, but with Asa you said nothing. What is that all about?

Sinceresoul
Sinceresoul

Reza,

You and Mike are my two absolute favorite on reality tv! As a therapist, I have to admit it's a guilty kind of pleasure to watch all these, often-times, crazy personalities interact. Both of you seem to be fun, sincere, cultured and extremely fair. I've been super impressed many times with your actions not only towards your friends, but your family as well. I don't know if any of you actually read people's comments here, but it seems I always like the people that receive so many negative comments and I'm completely at a loss as to why that would be! I read just a few lines of the comments here and can't believe it. I think you're adorable and a terrific friend.

For the record, you are 100% right about the whole Lily vs. MJ situation. When you have that formal of a party, you don't send out evites in the first place, you send evites for a potluck, second, if your seating is that tight, sorry, you DO have to call every single person and find out if they are coming, third, as hostess you don't meet rude behavior with rude behavior, if someone doesn't reply on time and then does, you don't tell them they can't come, you smile, say yes, and make room like it's no problem. And I'm all American. That's just called manners! Don't like it? Don't have parties.

I hope everything works great with you and your boyfriend! Of course moving day was going to be stressful-it sucks! Now that all your things are put away I'm sure it's much better. Good for you for compromising, that's what it's all about....

DMiller456
DMiller456

I wouldnt be surprised if 90% of the posts defending Lilly are posted by Lilly the sneaky insecure two faced rat her self. She is so insecure that she would sit up all night and stalk these comments and put up whatever defense to make it looked like everyone has her all wrong. Lilly is overrated. 

DMiller456
DMiller456

I wouldnt be surprised if 90% of the posts defending Lilly are posted by Lilly the sneaky insecure two faced rat her self. She is so insecure that she would sit up all night and stalk these comments and put up whatever defense to make it looked like she is so loved. Lilly is overrated. 

Whitney007
Whitney007

It was very cowardly of you to take mj's side.  Of course you were not taught American etiquette and place your culture above that of the country which supports you now.  Two different cultures and Lilly has adopted that of the majority of aliens who are citizens.  Is it that both you and mj are badly out of shape and you use how much money you have and she uses her fat tits to gain "friends"?  

Whasup
Whasup

Evidently you were not taught etiquette or humility or manners.you are a very rude person.Hope Adam sees this and leaves because he will be miserable. Hasn't he watched this show? You will not be faithful to one man. Lily would do well to stay away from all of you.

cheela
cheela

REZA, you are a back stabber and user and it is evident the way you turned on Lilly as she is correct with proper etiquette, and Mike.....Maybe you and MJ get married as you are two of a kind. I am so glad I'm an American, FREEDOM is  HUGE RESPOINSIBILITY, THINKING YOU DO NOT HAVE IT

 

Bellabooboo
Bellabooboo

So disappointed  in you ..You could of stood up Lilly shame on you !! Wouldn't  want to be your  friend you would to easily  thrown them under the bus as you did with Lilly !! OUCH !!! 

ESinAZ
ESinAZ

Oh, Reza...I have been married for 11 years, but if we moved in to a 750 sq.ft. apartment it would last about 2 weeks. I wish the best for the 2 of you, though.

PlasticPeggy
PlasticPeggy

But your "place within the group" isn't a result of your decisions or actions, surely? All you've done the last two episodes is be horrid to others.

cindy.butler.140
cindy.butler.140

Reza team MJ I think you need to see a someone to help you, Lilly was 100% right .She said there were only so many seats  also Reza you need to rush right over . I think u have no friends that's why you needed to get in touch and now you have no friends, no go get drunk the to of your both spoiled brats . you think you look good with

Figaromeezer
Figaromeezer

No Reza, you are ALL wrong about the RSVP!  If you are sent an invitation and are requested to RSVP by a certain date, then that is what you should do.  You cannot call the host/hostess at the last moment or a day before and expect you be able to come, ESPECIALLY to a sit down dinner with seating arrangements.  Seating arrangements are very complicated to put together and are usually put together and printed at least two weeks before the event!  You have to remember that Lily is a Texas gal, and her sense of Persian hospitality is completely different that  Californian idea of a get together.  Personally I thought Lily was way too kind in inviting MJ to her event because the truth is MJ has been a total B*%$# to lily from the moment she saw her for no reason other than she does not like how she looks.  Sorry, but you are all wrong in this case.

Blink
Blink

So, why didn't you give up your seat then.........  And who are you kidding if you had a birthday bash you paid for, you know you would try to be the center of attention all night.  MJ should've been the bigger person and RSVPed like a normal individual. 

Jemry
Jemry

You are my favorite on the show!!! You have the biggest heart, such a breath of fresh air, there are no housewives on any of the shows with a heart and loyalty like yours :)

Juanitajo19
Juanitajo19

Am I the only one who believes REZA is a lot OLDER than he claims to be...at least late 40's

susanzavagli
susanzavagli

Lily was wrong she just won't admit and own it.....she does not like MJ so why invite her she knows MJ does not RSVP  and she is always late .........MJ could care less anyway

angelwings9195
angelwings9195

I have to say I was pleased with your loyalty to your BFF.

AddictedToBravo25
AddictedToBravo25

Warmth and hospitality? OMG what show are you watching R. . LOL the two woman don't even like one another. Why would MJ be invited in the first place. This whole thing is ridiculous, made fir TV, not reality.

backgammon
backgammon

Persians are known for their warmth and hospitality when it comes to entertaining?  Are you serious?  What a rude bunch the Shahs were at Lilly's party.  Wasn't it just last year when GG was un invited to a trip to Mexico for her behavior, yet MJ should be rewarded for her behavior.  You have a serious set of double standards for your friends.

MJ acts like an irresponsible child and yet you show up with flowers and knew she would accept your friendship.

If you were so concerned about MJ attending and you know how she is, why didn't you remind her earlier?  Also, I would have suggested a phone call to Lilly and not a text to RSVP.  I think Lilly would have had a better feeling about MJ had she actually called and appologized for not RSVPing sooner.

At the end of the day, you hold no one (including yourself) accountable for bad behavior except Lilly this year and MJ and GG last year. 

 

Maybe Lilly will catch on that the Shahs are not her friends, but users who accept her hospitality and then trash her in front of her real friends.

Basic101
Basic101

Why didn't you give up your seat for GG to go to Cabo last season?  What happened to the Persian warmth?

fell
fell

You have got to be kidding!  You purposely brought Lilly into this group and started after MJ. And when MJ, true to form started acting like the 12 year old girl she really is, you just fed the fire. I mean I do understand, you after all act like you are also 12 years old. How about grow up,act your age and be a real friend.

Lck
Lck

I think you are on probation with the viewers after the way you treated MJ last season. No matter what the problems were, you don't put a friend on blast like that. It was cruel. We'll see..

piperbeau
piperbeau

You really should of been on your knees with the flower's in tow when MJ answered the door... You should of been Begging for forgiveness!!! You crossed a major line! I don't know if I could ever come back from that....

women_first
women_first

@GreetheGreat ha ha good joke, reza was at the party so he knows what it was like. no one had anything food to say about it. it looked really lame. the only u put so much emphasis on yourself on your birthday is if it was. 1 yr old kid. and that's how Lilly acted. MJ feel happy u were not there

katiedidmomsaid
katiedidmomsaid

 @DMiller456

 only people who need defending usually throw out that accusation. likely you are reza or mj yourself.

 

lily might be a lot of things that ppl don't like, but shes no mean girl like reza mj and gg.

housewifefan2012
housewifefan2012

 @DMiller456 Lilly may have her faults but common sense is what is the issue here. When you have a formal dinner and invitations are sent out you need to know the head count. That rule has never changed. So MJ was wrong not to respond to the invite. I do not know any of these people, and just watch the show like everyone else, but if I had such a party and it was critical for people to respond I would have done the same thing. Turn them away from the door. It is rude and inconsiderate to take advantage of friendship in that manor. I have taught my 33 year old son to be considerate of others and I hope my training has taught him to do the right things in life.

susanzavagli
susanzavagli

 @ESinAZ

 with all the money Rrza makes I was expecting a Josh Flagg pad in a luxery building

debm444
debm444

 @ESinAZ

 When my husband I first moved in together, we moved into my small 600sq.ft. apartment. Small but we have the happiest memories from that time. 6 beautiful years. We have since moved into a larger home as our family is now grown. The point is its not just about the space, its who you share it with...

debm444
debm444

 @Figaromeezer

 Oh please... when you organize a party, you always leave room for a last minute extras...  just excuses...

LilyL
LilyL

 @Jemry With such a heart and such deep loyalty, Reza screwed his BFF MJ on the reunion show and now he is screwing Lilly to make up for screwing  MJ, also supposedly his great friend or so he said all last  season.   With such friends, you need no enemies.

katiedidmomsaid
katiedidmomsaid

 @susanzavagli

 you're right, lily was wrong. she never even should have showed the courtesy of inviting Mercedes to her party in the first place, considering Mercedes has been rude to Lily since Lily's first appearance on the show-probably born out of a jealousy of lily's friendship with reza.

foxysquirrel
foxysquirrel

@susanzavagli you are soo wrong, If MJ didn't care why is she making such a fuss over it. All that was asked was for her to RSVP, it is called maners.

LilyL
LilyL

 @angelwings9195 So was I when Reza told every secret his BFF told him at the reunion so we all could disdain Mercedes along with him.   Such a loyal friend.  For sure.  And now he throws his other friend, Lilly over trying to make points with Mercedes.  He is a class act for sure. 

bravoaddict17
bravoaddict17

 @backgammon Did you catch the part when Reza told MJ that Lilly was planning on keeping her at the gate instead of what was actually said-- that anyone who didn't rsvp wouldn't be let in by security IN GENERAL?? Yet Reza had to spin it into, she's planning on keeping you at the gate and embarrassing you in front of all of the guests!

DMiller456
DMiller456

@katiedidmomsaid Ok Lilly, we don't believe you

ESinAZ
ESinAZ

 @debm444

 Yes...but Adam will be living with Reza!  LOL!  His head will barely fit in the living room.

 

katiedidmomsaid
katiedidmomsaid

 @debm444  @Figaromeezer

 not for formal parties. this wasn't some last minute get together, it was a planned to the last detail event. if reza *was* actually so concerned about mj getting turned away from the party perhaps he should have given her his seat.

bravoaddict17
bravoaddict17

 @debm444  @Figaromeezer If someone continuously attacked me and i made the stretch of inviting them to a big event I planned for myself for my FRIENDS and they didn't want to RSVP or at least reach out to me that they were coming then I would have done the same thing (there would have been tension anyways, MJ didn't seem excited to go until Reza brought up she might not be able to get in because she decided RSVP'ing to a party wasn't important). You can only reach so far for someone and if they don't meet you halfway then it's completely fine to turn away. 

TillmonA
TillmonA

 @debm444  @Figaromeezer  but the bottom line is it was Lilly's party  and she could do whatever she wants. She wasn't close to MJ so she didn't have to make an effort for her just so that they could have their drunken friend there.