Hermione Way

Hermione shares her frustrations with finding love.

on Nov 19, 2012

Dating in Silicon Valley sucks!

Two years in Silicon Valley, two years I've been single. I find dating in Silicon Valley harder than it was in London. Maybe it's because I'm older and uglier, but I know I'm not alone. I live with five single men, all in tech, all looking for love and all finding it difficult in the land of html 5 and java script.

But it should be easy for us, right? We are all technologically savvy, creative people who are dialed into the latest apps and sites for dating and not afraid to try them out in real-life. Heck, we even hacked together a video dating site over a weekend, unsatisfied with the current online-dating market.

So why aren't they working? We could write a doctrine on the problems with online dating: people making fake profiles, being different than how they look in photos, the time versus reward of effort that has to go into organizing a date. But perhaps we should be blaming ourselves instead of the world around us. I mean we are all self-absorbed entrepreneurs who believe we've got what it takes to build the next world-changing company and won't let anything get in the way of that -- sex or no sex.

Who has the capacity to invest emotional energy into a relationship when your start-up needs every inch of your attention to be a success? Especially when love cannot be quantified and the emotional investment that has to go into a relationship has no guaranteed return.

We set high expectations for ourselves because we think we are amazing. The journey we've had to go on and sacrifices we've had to make to get here mean we cannot introduce anything into our lives which might knock us off course and send us in a different (maybe the wrong) direction.