Kandi: I Didn't Used to Have Confidence in Marriage
The newylwed opens up on why she can't walk away from her new hubby.
"I’ll be honest: both of my parents have been married multiple times. With that being said, I never really had confidence in marriage," she says. "I felt like, if you can get married and divorced so easily, ain’t that just like going together? I used to grow up and say that I couldn’t wait to grow up and have kids, but not that I couldn’t wait to grow up and get married. I knew other girls who knew exactly when they wanted to get married and what their dress would look like. That wasn’t me."
So what was it about husband Todd that made Kandi change her mind? The answer is pretty simple.
"I think love changes things. And as I got older, I wanted a teammate to spend the rest of my life with," Kandi says. "Todd and I are a force. We’re able to do things together that I probably wouldn’t have even thought about. He pushes me. He motivates me. I just love us, us. And at a certain point in your life, you don’t just want someone who you go with. You really want to be in it together. It’s a different type of commitment. You can’t just walk away from it."
That being said, the newlyweds' busy schedules—Kandi is working in Atlanta while Todd is producing a show in L.A.—has made their marriage a long-distance one for the time being. Which means they've had to set new rules for themselves.
"There was a time when we both got really busy and went a while without seeing each other," Kandi reveals. "I actually was getting really upset, almost crying. I called him fussing one day and, as I was fussing, he came through the door and surprised me. To me, you have to do things like that and make your relationship a priority. Our new rule is to not let two weeks go by without spending time together. That’s the limit."