When it comes to finding love for others, it’s a task that Patti Stanger takes very seriously—and is very good at. The Millionaire Matchmaker star has dedicated her life to playing cupid, and comes across as fearless while running her club.
But she admits there are some preconceived notions regarding her own love life that has caused some sleepless nights for the matchmaker. “What used to keep my up at night is that the world judged me because I wasn’t married, and that’s a lot of stress to take on when I’m really good at my job,” she says to Forbes. “My life is very different than most people see on television, and I am a workaholic, which is really my joy.”
It’s a joy that doesn’t necessarily always translate. “Finding love is very hard for me; that is why I became a matchmaker,” she reveals. “In the end, it is always about soul mates for me.”
When it comes to finding that special someone, Patti cautions to not just fall for a physical connection. “Men and women do it all the time. They go for chemistry and they don’t look under the hood of the car,” she says. “This is a common occurrence in any matchmaking service where people judge a book by its over and then wonder why the personality doesn’t match the looks.”
It’s surprisingly a common problem with couples that are already married. “You’ll also hear this from most marriages: ‘I thought I was getting this sweet beautiful woman, or handsome loving man, only to end up with the devil.”
Patti’s advice? Find someone you have fun with. “When we’ve done studies in my company we’ve found that the glue in the relationship is not always the sex,” she says. “It is the companionship, laughter, and doing common interests together.”