Hi Patti, I hope this message finds you well. I am a 33 years gal from Los Angeles. I am recently single from on and off relationship; and I want to start dating again before my 34 birthday in July. Now that I am finished with graduate school, I want to take my love life more serious, and date marriage minded men. I gained 30lbs extra while in grad school. Do you recommend I loose the 30lbs extra before I start my online profile, or work with what I have and not let the extra weight stop me from getting back into the dating scene. I just started eating healthier again and plan on increasing my exercise regimen. And yes, I do feel a little insecure about the extra weight. Men approach me, and I know how to flirt, but in the back of my mind a do feel a little insecure.