Cast Blog: #RHOA

Reaching For The Stars

DeShawn Snow reflects on her foundation's gala.

Well as you can see I did not reach my goal at the diamond gala! As I mentioned in my last blog, I always reach for the stars. And if I fall, Eric is always there to catch me. As you witnessed, I have a very strong support system. My husband is AMAZING, and I am blessed to have him.

I recognize that it is more important to try and fail and to learn, then it is to not try at all.

So what did I learn from this experience? A lot of people think timing was the issue. I don't totally agree with that. I've been to plenty of events that were (properly) planned with short notice and they were still successful.

In hindsight, I do agree with Dwight (NeNe's friend). I probably should have charged for tickets. I decided not to charge because I was inviting people to come and spend money (via the auction, the vendors, etc). There wasn't any formal entertainment or sit-down dinner... so I didn't think I should charge.

I also should have had more control of the guest list. We had a dozen or so luxury vendors participating that night and they invited their top 10% clients. I learned that one of the vendors had my invitations sitting on the counter for everyone to take. I immediately called. The manager assured me that they were only out for an hour and were removed from the counter. I guess this is what Kim was speaking of when she said the invitations were "all around the mall." I could go on and on but what's the point.

Although I did not raise the amount that I hoped, I did plant a seed. 400+ people learned about DeShawn Snow Foundation. I am very thankful for the people that did donate and purchased things that evening. At the end of the day, it's all about my (foundation) girls. Everything I do is for them. Our life is not about us; it is about us advancing the kingdom (helping others). I am thankful for everyone that helped me out! I have so many ideas and programs that I want to birth. Even though I did not raise my million that night, I will raise it! If you would like to support our cause, please join our Million Small Steps campaign. You can make a difference by donating as little as $5! You can also become a DSF Ambassador by placing the widget on your Web site, social networking sites, e-mail signatures, or even sending an email blast to your address book (please e-mail questions to Together we can create steppingstones that create success and opportunities for every girl.


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Kenya: "I Will Always Be a Queen"

Kenya Moore dishes on the truce with Phaedra Parks and the non apology from Porsha Williams.

The reunion represents closure on all levels. I believe most women need closure. Reunions are tough because you live through filming, then through seeing it on TV, and then again during the reunion. You can feel you have moved on from something difficult and then you have to discuss it and rehash it. I felt good about this reunion, because I have grown so much. I am stronger now and nothing or anyone can destroy me.

Speaking of opening old wounds, I was respectful toward Phaedra during the conversation, but it’s clear that after our truce, she still wants to call me a whore and liken me to other “whores in the bible.” God doesn’t like ugly. Maybe sitting alone on the sofa now is confirmation.

There was a part of me that was hopeful about getting an apology for being physically attacked at the last reunion, since that would mean the past was behind us. You have to own what you do wrong in life. Children are taught that you don’t hit anyone first or at all. Whether provoked or not, isolated incident or not, physically attacking someone is legally and morally incomprehensible. As such, doing the right thing should be easy. But this is the same person whose grandfather was a greatly respected civil rights activist who fought for non-violence, yet thinks the Underground Railroad was an actual train that took people to freedom.

In typical fashion, Phaedra attacks my character in a preplanned soliloquy. But in her own words, her “THOT” friend thinks that spreading your legs wide open and accepting gifts from married men is admirable. Yet, it’s basically teaching young girls that having a square card reader between your butt cheeks is how one becomes “blessed” and “successful.” That’s why I will always be a Queen, literally and figuratively, because when I am wrong, I can apologize, forgive, and move forward. I can love, though I have not always been loved, and I can be talented and successful on my own merit without needing men to finance my lifestyle, and I can be the bigger person when others try to bring me down.

Some viewers ask why there are single women on a show about Housewives. It’s simple -- every Real Housewife franchise has single women, from Beverly Hills to OC to NY to Atlanta. With that said, there are only two Housewives on RHOA that are currently not married, Claudia and myself. In fact, approximately 43 percent of all Black women have never been married. My journey is not unlike the many Black single women who watch our show. Nearly half of Black women want to be married and find true love but are not willing to settle or can’t find the right man. NeNe and her puppet would like everyone to think it’s better to be in a horrible marriage rather than be single.

Having said that, I have never received so much love from the viewers as when I was featured on The Millionaire Matchmaker. It made me realize is that I am no different from all the single women around the world looking for real love. My journey is their journey, and ultimately they want me to fall in love with them rooting me on. It happened for Kandi, Kim, Bethenny, Tamra, etc. and it will happen for me too with all of you by my side. Therefore, having single women as Housewives is good for the show. Everyone deserves a chance to be happy. And we can inspire and give hope to those looking for love.

Rumor has it that someone said single women should be fired from RHOA. As such, we wouldn’t have witnessed the beautiful rekindling of NeNe and Gregg's love or her wedding special. Therefore, those people clearly didn't create the successful model for this show. If it's a play to get me fired... Try again. #CatchThatShade

Love Kenya,

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