Hey Cynthia, Anyone who takes any reality show as an absolute depiction of reality is an absolute fool! It was beautiful how you defended Peter in your blog. Everyone handles stress differently, some not so well, and it seems Peter fits this description-- but that doesn't negate the positive traits about him. One word to the wise and from someone who is happily married for eight years (with four kids)-- you must stop this deal about his and mine-- that only sets up a recipe for disaster. I hear you talk about "my money" alot, but look, in a marriage many things come up. You don't know if there will ever come a time when Peter may be more financially secure than you and it would be a terrible thing if he made you feel like it was "His" money. You put the money in because you loved and believed in him and his dream. Things didn't work out, not because of his negligence, but because of bad fortune-- period. Love doesn't keep score, neither should you.

Girl you better run from this mess. The way he said you have a team Cynthia....Bad form. This will not end well. You love him but your money is an issue with him. Strong black women with their own money not on your level.

This was your best blog yet, Cynthia. It def gave me perspective on you and your situation. I love it. Thank you for being so real!

I don't think Peter is a bad dude... he actually seems like a really good man he's just under a lot of stress. Its hard to lose everything you worked and sometimes you take that out on the people closest to you, which is what we saw last night. You and Peter are all good in my book, you're a lovely couple and I wish you the best of luck!

Cynthia, You have a good head on your shoulders.

If we have learned one thing about you by watching RHOA it's that you have the character necessary to overcome challenges & the outlook to enjoy life. (Well, perhaps we've learned two things about you.)

Cynthia, I am a 42 year old women, and I very much agree with you about, it is hard to find love these days. These men have alot of women thinking that they should be without a man. They act like little boys when you truley see their colors. But, EVERYBODY NEEDS LOVE, so what do these so called men want? Keep being you and never except no better. I can tell he is a good man. But, he still has some things to learn about YALL's relationship and how you work. And, you have to teach him. You are a very sharp women, GOD BLESS YOU. Andrea

I really think you should be putting the marriage on hold.You and Peter need to work on your relationship and most important get your financial difficulties i order. If you have given money towards making the restaurant survive you should have just as much say as Peter. I say sell, cut your loses and move on!!

I happen to think Peter seems like a great man. Very assertive, soulful and sexy. I can see what you see in him and I wish you all the best. You are right about the money; a stripped-down life can sometimes be more rewarding.

Love you Cynthia...you are a smart, classy and beautiful woman, and I love that you own your mistakes. You and Kandi take the show up a notch!

YOU ROCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Cynthia.........love is all.

Happy New Year to you and Peter. God bless.

This is a very sincere, honest, no BS post. I like it. And I get it. Too bad the other h-wives can't keep it real.

I just absolutely adore you, and every week that the show is on I adore you more and more. You are honest, true, real, funny, intelligent, and a great lady. I'd sign a friendship contract with you any day :)

Cynthia,

Love you girl!!! You are keeping it REAL! You are ESPN...the total package...

That is what my husband use to say about me-I think in the late '90's...?!?!?

He still says it but it must have been at tagline then-haha!

Keep it going and doing what you are doing!!!!

-S

Lady K from Atlanta. Crynthia, handle your business. Peter is a good man, from what I can tell. He appears to be stressing, and we all do it, and that is take our frustration out on those closest to us. He will be alright. Just be supportive. However, if the resturant needs to be sold, then you guys should do that. You have to be on the same page. I am with Hill, you guys are communicating differently. He will come around. I believe he truly loves you. You guys can make it, but he will have to let you be you and not try to change you. I did not like his remark "you have all those people working for you". Girl show him how to accept you and you accept him for who he is and you guys will be fine. Loved the blog.

Cynthia I think you will be just fine. I am a married mother of three and marriage is as much a blessing as a headache. It is designed to become one. And I believe in the Word of God... You wrote in your blog, that you believe God placed you and Peter together... If you believe in God you have to believe in His word. And God says nothing, not even your precious child is to come before your husband and also you guys are to become one. And it is very difficult but WORTH it in the end if you both truly love each other. just something to think about. I will say, you are my show favorite. PLEASE STAY REAL and do not let the show change you like it has some of the others.

Thanks for being so sincere...I don't think the other housewives should blog if they aren't sincere. Good for you. All the best for you, your daughter and whoever makes you happy.

Cynthia.........Love is all, that is for sure. And love changes and grows bright and dim and then bright again; sometimes it calls for accepting some very unloveable characteristics in our loved one.......but, the essence of love is that it carries on. If the light needs to shine a little dimmer just to get by until, then it shines a little dimmer but it never goes out. What you are seeing in Peter that makes him look like a fool is a part of Peter, and he will either resolve these traits or he won't......but it is a part of him now, and you have to take him as he is now or leave him be. The same goes for him, either he takes into account who you are and how you feel or he is free to walk away, but you will remain as you are, like as not. Remember Miss Maya, "When we know better we do better"........and as long as you are both willing to learn and to be respectful and not egotistical, then it will be OK. In the end, in the very end, all the old one's say "love is all", and there isn't a person alive who knows what is between a man and a woman........so you stand in your truth, Ms.Cyndy B !!

I have loved all your blogs but this one takes the cake. I appreciate the honesty and this seems straight from the heart unlike some other bloggers who shall remain nameless. A lot of us have been saying that you need to leave that man alone but what I always remind myself is that we are only seeing a small part of the whole. This is a trying time and I hope the two of you make it thru because no one is perfect and giving up on a dream is a hard thing to do and very stressful.

What was up with taking couples (marriage?) therapy from someone who is unmarried. He seemed out of his element when you and Peter were going at it and only offered cliches as advice.

I hope you have friends who are married and have been married a long time to properly advise you both.

Hello Cynthia,

I think you guys make a great couple! Reality shows get there ratings from drama so they will never make your relationship look good. All I can say is take your time. This is your life live it to the fullest. If it doesn't work out, then it was a lesson you can learn from. Love is grand so many people want what you have, but are not willing to make the sacrifices of keeping it together. So many people past judgement and there situation isn't any better. Be strong my sister what ever your going through prayer will definitely lead you in the right direction. I dont know if you and Ne Ne are real friends, but she is no good for you. I dont know you and really was mad how she tried to make it look like you were crazy, but she is the one with issues. Keep your friends close but your enemies closer.

Hill Harper?!!! Seriously? When was he married? I have big issues with taking relationship advice from someone who has never been in one serious enough to lead to marriage. And the plug for his book on the show was just - classless.

Cynthia deary....you come off as if you are so afraid that people are going to judge you and your man. Please have enough faith in your fans to know that WE GET IT! Most if not all of us have been in serious relationships and we know that arguments happen and some times we get out of character even when the love is at it's strongest. No need to hide. Like you said, there is enough fake people on the show and it's relieving to see a real relationship issue. To see how you handle it is what's inspiring not the fact that it's actually going down. I think you and Peter are wonderful together and of course no relationship is perfect. We love you guys regardless so CHILAX baby!

Cunthia I respect ur soul! !st I want to say i totally agree with you bringing up the $ issue, Y? Because when I met my husband @ 18 I saw potential in him althoug he came from a very different background from myself. I came to him independant, $ in the bank, strong, and believing in his dream to be more than where he came from. The problem came in when HE didn't believe in himself without my drive. Its sad when you become married to someone 23yrs and never stays on a dream. Its not only heartbreaking but it will put you in a place of why am I downplaying my own vision of lifestyle I dreamed of to support some1 that gets so stressed out that he feels like he is beaten and want to give up on something you say I have your back on especially when u invest your finances to back him. I am now 41 and have recently gotten divorced. Sad! Yes but do I continue to sit back and keep sweeping things that r important to me under the rug and sign up for possible poverty or do I fall back and let him realize what he needs to do to keep this good woman in his corner and give support. I have 2 children I have to think about now and they didn't ask to come here that was OUR decision! I think you and Peter are a nice couple but,I do think you need to get ur finances fully worked out on this business venture of his b4 you tie the knot. Trust and blieve it will b an issue later on because it WILL come up. Clean slate, no past debts or drama from babie mommas will keep you together. Get everything in order 1st PLEASE otherwise problems of this situation will ssurface again.

I love you on this show and to be brutally honest, I like Phaedra on it as well. She may be a little over the top but at least you and her share one thing in common; you both were successful on your own and have great careers. Kandi does too, but the others don't compare. They are meaningless women trying to create careers for themselves on reality TV, once the 15 mins are up, no one will remember them. Perfect example, Danielle Staub, from the Jersey series.

I think Peter is a great man who is just under a lot of stress, but girl, he's your man & from what I read, now your husband so keep him. Relationships are no walk in the park & clearly you both know this but I think you have a great foundation. Nene, Kim, and Sheree should take lessons from you, but jealousy kills the cat...MEOW!!!!!!!!!!!!

Cynthia,

Your honesty and sincerity is appreciated. You are representing women well on this show (perhaps imperfect at times, but gracious and true to yourself). Just wanted to send you a word of encouragement.

Agree!! "To Thine Own Self Be True"...But MUST it be SO difficult?!? A wise,dear friend once told me, "if it's this hard for ya'll now,BEFORE getting married,when on your best behavior,imagine AFTER you're married!" She spoke from experience and observation,she was right,too. Also,you seem to have more depth as a person than the other ladies,more intelligence and heart,so,I'm not surprised they may not "get"you,..(I'd be concerned if they did! lol!) Best wishes on your Soul's journey!

Cynthia I love you as always, and I wish you HAD done the highlights this week, because they always make me laugh! You don't need to defend your relationship, and I understand that Peter must be a loving man to even entertain you for a minute, let alone get you to say yes to marrying him. I am young and haven't been married long but I know there is no such thing as "mine" when it comes to marital finances. Miss your wit, but love you as always!

Cynthia I admire you a lot but don't agree with you this time. I think if you have invested your money on Peter's Restaurant and the business goes down your money goes down too, it's not a loan but an investment so I don't understand why you want Peter to reimburse you part of the investment. Plus if you are going to marry this man then you should learn how to share and forget about "I" and "mine". Good luck to you and Peter

Lesson #1 in Business.......you only invest money that you can afford to lose. You asking Peter for your money back is embarrassing! If he needed your money as an investment in his restaurant, that you should have told you something about this man's finances a long time ago. Good Luck as it looks like you will need it!!!!!

I love you on the housewives and I agree when everything you said.. also it is confirmation for me that money does not make you all that happy and it cannot buy you love. Thank you so much for confirming that.. I am a full-time student and a single mother looking that high income thinking that it will make me feel happy. Now I know that it's not about the money it's about the happiness and having someone to share that happiness with , so stay blessed and I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

:)

You wear you heart on your sleeve. People mistake that for weakness or whatever. I think it is beautiful.

Cynthia, this was the first time I've ever read the blogs, and I must say yours was very thoughtful. I felt your compassion. If there is ever a problem in a marriage it always manifests from his money/her money. Don't let that come between you two. I love the relationship thats displayed on TV. In the words of Madea in the last play...four letter word MOVE, and I mean cut the losses with the business and look forward to BETTER DAYS. Have a wonderful New Year.

After reading your blog, Cynthia, the part where you say you love Peter but you and your child will always come first. This man is going to become your husband. You become one flesh. As much as it appears that you both love each other, I think, Houston, we have a problem. I have daughters and I know that love and bond, but a relationship between a husband and a wife is so, so important. " For this reason a man will leave his father and his mother and will stick to his wife, and the two will be one flesh’? 6 So that they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has yoked together let no man put apart.” Mt 19:4-6Marriage was designed to form a permanent bond of union between man and woman, that they might be mutually helpful to each other. Living together in love and confidence, they could enjoy great happiness. Jehovah created woman as a mate for man by using the man’s rib as a base, thereby making woman man’s closest fleshly relative on earth, his own flesh. (Ge 2:21) For a marriage to thrive, Jehovah needs to be involved in the relationship. His Word says: “A threefold cord cannot quickly be torn in two.” (Eccl. 4:12) “Threefold cord” is a figurative expression. When this illustration is applied to marriage, it includes the husband and wife, the first two strands, who are intertwined with the central strand, Jehovah God. Being united with God gives a couple the spiritual strength to cope with problems, and it is the key to achieving the greatest happiness in marriage. I don't know if you read your blogs, please don't enter into this marriage unless you are really ready to make that important commitment. Marriage is no joke...it can be a beautiful thing, but the foundation must be layed and God must be there to help guide you both and keep you centered. Making Peter your priority, as he should you does not change your love and strong connection with your daughter. Best wishes to you both and your baby girl......enjoy seeing you on the show....

Cynthia, I think you are a smart, sophisticated woman. Please tell me how you go from Leon, to Peter. Peter is west indian and trust me girl, his temper, attitude, manners, etc are for life. Can you deal with that for the rest of your life? love ya girl, hang in there, I'll pray for you.

Cynthia needs to teach Peter? I disagree. They need premarital counseling...from what we saw with the arguing about the restuarant. Perhaps Hill can help them....I do wish them well...ain't love grand? :-)

I agree with Kailani...great blog! We're all pulling for you and Peter and your beautiful daughter. Bring all your worries to God and ask him for guidance and knowledge and understanding.." And we can be confident that God’s guidance is always for our good, ‘teaching us to benefit ourselves."—Isaiah 48:17, 18.

Alot of good points brought out by Mrs H. None of us really ever know the full story even though we all want to put in a two cents. I hope they're able to overcome the money issues and make the right decision for all involved. As Cynthia pointed out, she doesn;t want her daughter harmed and that I truly understand. Now whether it bothers Peter that Cynthia has money, none of us know,,,,,I just wish for them to communicate, communicate, communicate and get everything ot on the table and work it out. Lets all pray for them......

Cynthia, based on what I have seen on the show, Peter's not right for you. He appears to be a gold-digger who view you as a subordinate who will never be on his level as a business partner! I somewhat agree with Mrs. H that once you become HIS wife that it shouldn't be HIS or HER's money to a certain extent. I would feel the same way you felt if I kicked in $10,000 for anything and somebody talked to me the way Peter talks to you when you have the right to inject your thoughts and opinions. I wonder if he wants to marry you for the wrong reason (CASH COW). You appear to Love Peter deeply but I'm not too sure he Loves you the same. As attractive as you are, intelligent, and independant, you could hook up with someone who truly loves you and your child and wouldn't be jealous of you or your friendship with NeNe. Yes, I believe he's jealous and you have no clue as to what's coming next.

I have been very happily married for 15 years. I have seen many relationships come and go. All of my friends are broken up or divorced, over money. They started and continued their relationship as yours and mines, even had separate bank accounts, and always fought over money. In the beginning of my own relationship, we sat down and decided all money goes in one pot, when all of the debt is paid we do what we want with the rest..IT has never failed us. We never fight over money because it's ours. Because we are one. If you can't mend and mesh together as one, it's not gonna work. I was unnerved when you was talking about Peter paying you back, this isn't your boyfriend is it? Is this not your future husband you will spend the rst of your life with? I'm only 31 by the way and got married at 16 to a man that was 19. If you let your love of money come before your love of man, then you will never find true love. You see Sheree ain't got a man, that's because she is too busy checking credit scores, money isn't everything.

Hi There, I like you and Peter together. I love that he is telling you how he feels. He didn't call his boys, or his Mama, or nobody else he told you. He might have got a little hot when he told you but he still did say it to your face. For you to hear and deal with. And I respect that. I respect that you also gave your point of view to him. So many people are living superfical lives with their spouses and never dealing with the real stuff. Peter is very sexy and he has a passionate spirit. So why wouldn't you expect to see that part of him in everything he does. Work, argue, love... it only makes sense. I just wanted to tell you that . I think you are beautiful and I know anything that happens will be for your greater good.

FAIRYTALES & FINANCES

FINANCES - ONE OF THE MAIN REASONS THE DIVORCE RATE IS SO HIGH. THERE ARE JUST TOO MANY WOMEN THAT ARE STILL BELIEVING IN FAIRYTALES (GET MARRIED & LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER). LOVE DO NOT PAY THE BILLS, AND MARRYING SOMEONE WITH A LOT OF BAGGAGE WILL COST YOU $$$.

Cynthia You don't have to explain/defend the scene. We get it. I'm sure that both you and Peter are stressed with the potential of your business failing. I'm sure that your relationship can endure this trial as you appear to be genuinely in love with one another.

Hill Harper needs to stick to acting. If he offered any value during your discussion it wasn't on-air. He's known for being self-serving so I guess he's pushing his book.

Cynthia...are you sure about Peter? I realize that all relationships are different. The relationship that I love on the Real House Shows are The Hartwells (Ed and Lisa) and Kyle and her husband on RHOBH. You and Leon are more of a couple than you and Peter. He is always arguing. If you two are going to get counseling, please seek a professional counselor and not one of your friends. I could've given you the same advice as Hill Harper. My husband and I (together 24 years, married 14 years) have discussions when we disagree not arguing. How does your daughter feel about Peter? I am sure she is not liking the yelling. You are one of my favorites. You deserve the best!

I always enjoy your blogs and enjoy that you keep it real. Nice work. Apparently some of the housewives don't feel we deserve to hear from them since they blog very infrequently.

Cynthia, I look forward to your blog everyweek and wish more of your castmates would do the same. Yes, the fans, are on FB and such to get to know you guys better but I like the venue of a blog because I can come here and get ya'lls take on things. I really really appreciate the fact that you make this a priority for your fans. Yes, you get nailed sometimes ...but I think in someways it goes with the territory. Saying all that... leads me to my next point which is I respect yours and Peter's relationship. I have been with my husband for 28 years and not all was sugar and spice but that is what unconditional love is all about...good times and in bad you stay together and work it out...doesn't always show are good side but we get through and it DOES make us stronger. Keep doing what you love ....Thanks Cynthia for a great season!

Cynthia, I look forward to your blog everyweek and wish more of your castmates would do the same. Yes, the fans, are on FB and such to get to know you guys better but I like the venue of a blog because I can come here and get ya'lls take on things. I really really appreciate the fact that you make this a priority for your fans. Yes, you get nailed sometimes ...but I think in someways it goes with the territory. Saying all that... leads me to my next point which is I respect yours and Peter's relationship. I have been with my husband for 28 years and not all was sugar and spice but that is what unconditional love is all about...good times and in bad you stay together and work it out...doesn't always show are good side but we get through and it DOES make us stronger. Keep doing what you love ....Thanks Cynthia for a great season!

You are still one of my favorites this season....but you should've invested thousands of dollars for your daughter than for your man.....I'm just sayin....

See the thing I LOVE about you is what you see is what you get! Even though it was sad to see you and Peter fighting, it was REAL! Keep doing you! Love all the way from CALIFORNIA!!!!!

Peter only talked about your looks when asked what he loved about you. The way you guys fight really makes me wonder why you are getting married. Also when you invest in something it is not a loan, if the business fails your money is gone.