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Cynthia Bailey

The Strength to Love

Cynthia thanks everyone who has stood by her this season.

Feb 1, 2011

 

Life is about choices. The freedom to choose what works for my life is what makes me who I am. I am strong, independent, loving, hardworking, fair, honest, and smart. I never regret the choices that I make, and I never look back. With that said, I want to say thanks to Bravo for giving me the opportunity to be a part of The Real Housewives of Atlanta. This is a choice that I made, and it has been life changing. You never know what God is going to throw your way, and you should always be ready to go for it! This is my philosophy, and I live by it.

I absolutely loved my wedding! I felt beautiful and thought Peter never looked more handsome. My Noelle of course is always the highlight of all my days, rain or shine. I love you, Noelle, for always making me want to be the best mother that I can be. I also want to thank you, Peter, for taking this ride with me and not being afraid to stay true to yourself. When I walked down the aisle on our wedding day, and saw tears in your eyes, I never felt more certain of my choice. I choose you, and I am honored to be your wife.

I hope that people understand that even though our wedding is on a reality TV show, it is still our wedding. And it should have been respected as such. For all of those who felt like they needed to say mean-spirited and hurtful comments on our special day, you can rest well at night knowing that you were heard around the world, loud and clear. I hope you are pleased, job well done. I pride myself on always striving to be a class act and never compromising my integrity at someone else's expense. A joke is a joke, but being vicious for no reason is just sad. Don't forget, our kids watch the show, and we want to set good examples for them.

I am truly overwhelmed at the realization that this journey has come to an end. I want to say thank you to all of my fans that have shown me love and support along the way. This experience has been a tremendous life lesson, and I have learned a lot. I love life and all the challenges that come with it. Every decision I have ever made has led me to this very moment. I stand before you stronger and so much wiser. My character is all I have, and I will never compromise who I am and the things I stand for. Life is about choices. It is so easy to hate, but it takes a lot of strength to love. This is my life, and I am the only one that can live it. I am not perfect, I am just me. 

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Mkeeley 5 pts

Cynthia you are so classy and beautiful! Who is this girl Kenya?? She acts like she's a celebrity and no one even knows who she is!! She needs to learn from you and get over herself!!

Cynthia, wishing you and Peter a wonderful life together. Your wedding dress was gorgeous and you looked absolutely stunning in it! Your daughter is so adorable and sweet, it was so nice to see her during the filming the day of your wedding and seeing her excitement about your wedding! She looked just lovely in her dress too and was enjoying being your flower girl so much, a perfect moment! Best wishes to all of you.

Wishing you the very best life. You seem like a wonderful person and Peter with all his flaws seems to love you dearly. It can't be easy starting out your married life on Reality TV, but your resolve seems strong. Best of luck, and hope to see you next season. On second thought, I hope something better comes along for you. You're too good for this group of women.

You are a CLASS act! Love, Love, Love you!

All the best to you Cynthia.

Hi Cynthia,

I saw your wedding. I cried when I saw peter saw you, and he starting to cry. You looked SPECTACULAR!!! It was a beautiful wedding as you are too. You are such a good human being. Continue to be the way you are. I hope that everything goes fine for you, Noelle and Peter.

God Bless you, Noelle, Peter and your family.

Regards from San Juan, Puerto Rico Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia

your are awsome and a very lovely LADY....your wedding was awsome and the dress amazing...thank you for being apart of this seasons Housewives.

Soo passive aggressive, grow up. It was very clear everyone who had doubts had reasons to-YOU put those doubt in everyone's minds. You can't blame others for for forming an opinion based off the vibes you were putting out.

Did Kim and Sheree not give gifts??

Cynthia, I noticed that you left a couple of names off of your "thank you" list here. Kandi is the only HW that I recall not making derogatory comments about your wedding--including you. Face it. Your negative mood pervaded the entire event, so don't blame others for expressing theirs as well. Although you were beautiful, your wedding left me on a downer as I'm sure it did some of your guests. Whose fault is that??

You had everyone questioning your financial standing and judgment (the lavish wedding while broke and distressed about it) and your commitment to Peter (We can always get divorced?). What was that?! What could be anymore negative than a statment like that?

Before last night and finally, this blog, I liked you best of all the HWs, but I was very disappointed with your approach to your wedding and now, your pouty blog. You and Peter need a "do over" and you need to do a bit of introspection.

Some of your remarks here demonstrate that you have double standards and/or are very materialistic. You seem to be holding grudges against some for their negative remarks about your wedding, but you thank some similarly critical people for their wedding gifts. So does that mean that Sheree and Kim didn't give you a wedding gift? Or are you just being rude and pouty because their gifts weren't lavish enough to ease the sting of their comments?

Either way, your blog ended up sounding rather tacky and it does not serve you well. But then, with BFFs like NeNe, I guess I shouldn't be surprised. Evidently, your goal is to appeal to the lower crust. And I had such high hopes for you. You were the only reason that I was watching -- and it got really difficult at times. Your wedding was not worth it. Sorry, JMO. But I do feel for poor Peter and I wish him well.

You looked beautiful on your wedding day! Wow is more like it! Stay true to yourself girl!

I love u CYNTHIAAA god Bless U & YOUR FaMILY & I HOPE TO SEE U AGAIN NEXT SEAS0N!! :D

I loved ur wedding it was very beautiful.....Your dress was flawless Peter look good to..your daughter look beautiful 2......Enjoy,Love ur Life 4 ever....

I was really willing to give Peter the benefit of the doubt but after the last episode, I just can't. Not with the way your sister and mother acted since they probably have spent more time with him than us viewers. But what is done is done and as you said, you chose him and I sincerely hope that this marriage works out for you.

I do have an issue with something that you keep saying over and over about God bringing someone into your life to justify marrying Peter and how He would not have brought Peter into your life unless you were meant to be with him. While God can bring someone into our lives, I hope you also know that the devil can do the same. Not everyone that is in our lives is from God you know.

Besides that, I LOVED your gown and you looked amazing. I had to rewind and watch you descend the stairs again. Those cheekbones, WOW!

Cynthia you are such a class act. I was appalled at the negative things others said and the tackiness that is Kim Zolciak. I wish you and better the best. And by the way, you looked AMAZING!

Cynthia, one thing is you love who you love, I do feel that in my opinion that you do need to look at how peter approaches and addresses different situations....!! But at the end of the day it is your life, so live it to the fullest, and last but not least you will live and learn. I do think that you appear to be a very sincere woman. Best wishes, Felicia.

I absolutely loved your dress and the moment I saw you standing at the top of the steps I fell into tears! You looked soooooooo amazing (and I think I may have found my wedding dress, but in white LOL, so please tell me where to get it from). I loved the ceremony, it was way different from any traditional wedding, the step blew my mind (now I know why you wanted to have it there). I congratulate you and your husband on staying true, lord knows a few of them (Housewives) were more than fake (Kim, Phadra, Kandi and Joyce). Loved you and Nene the most!

Lauren

Cynthia, you oped the Pandora's box when you aired all of your financial issues. I mean your own Dad did not even have 3K to give you ? Your sister was crying and a nervous wreck and your Mom had that "what the hell are you thinking look". You even mentioned that you could always get a divorce. For you to say that people made fun of your wedding and your were hurt is no ones fault but your own. Aren't you on a reality tv show? Would you want your daughter to marry like you did? For the record, I was married in the Catholic church by a Bishop. I took my marriage vowels seriously and have now for 29 years. I did not tell my Mom and Sis that I could "always get a divorce". For my 25th me and my husband were given a private mass in a chapel in St Peters's in Rome. This was arranged by the Bishop that married us. We have stayed in touch for 29 years now. He told me that it takes three to be married, husband, wife, and God. Perhaps you may believe that, but what was aired on tv was far from anything that I would view as a committed marriage. SO if you wonder what the kids think, remember that it was you that are all ready talking about a divorce before you were even married. For the record, I think you are a total flake.

Congrats, Cynthia! You made a beautiful bride- matzel tov!

You disrepspected your wedding from the beginning by airing it on national tv and putting all your problems out there for the world to see!

Cynthia, You were a stunningly beautiful bride and Peter was so handsome. Your daughter is sweet and adorable. I wish you a long and happy marriage. You are very lucky to have a mother and sister who love you so much and supported you even with their doubts...that's really unconditional love. Forget about the comments from your classmates... misery loves company and they just want to be you.

Very well said Cynthia. At the end of the day you and only you can make the choice that is best for you. I wish you and Peter many years of happiness. Stay classy!

It feels like you're upset with Kim (possibly what she said on WWHL?). I know you're hurt because of the way your wedding day was portrayed (and WAS)... so please don't take it out on Kim. She had the same puzzled reaction to the day as the rest of the public did. Don't forget, she was grinning and clapping for you on the wedding day, and didn't say anything hurtful the way others have. (Please read the review of the show on EW.com; I agree with that recap.) Nene is clinging to you because let's face it, she has no one else to cling to anymore. Watch out please Cynthia; it feels like Kim/Kandi/Sheree are more genuine, and you are a wonderful, beautiful and intelligent woman. You deserve TRUE friends.

LOVED UR BEAUTIFUL DRESS...IT WAS AMAZING. SAVE IT FOR UR DAUGHTER...IM SURE SHE WILL LOVE TO WEAR IT ONE DAY. AS FOR UR MARRIAGE..IM SURE U AND PETER WILL DO FINE IN THE FUTURE AS LONG AS U TWO STICK TOGETHER AND COMMUNICATE...COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY TO A GREAT MARRIAGE.

PLEASE BE CAREFUL WITH NENE...SHE WILL TURN ON U LIKE SHE TURNED ON KIM!! JUST SAYING

You chose to have your wedding on a reality show - what did you expect? May you and NeNe live happily ever after.

This is a reality show - of course the girls are going to talk about you. Lighten up.

Cynthia,

Congratulations! Your wedding was absolutely beautiful! You are such a class act. After reading your blog, I know that your beauty is more than skin deep. You are the mere definition of elegance, beauty, class and sophiscation. It is a shame that you had to deal with the low class wannabes that were part of the show, except for Kandi. I must say that you handled them well. They were jealous of you and just look at your life, they have good reason to be. We all hit a snag here and there, but you so beautifully showed the world what you are made of.

I thought that the snide remarks were absolutely the lowest level of anything that could come out of a human being, but I had to consider the source.

Many Blessings to you and your family.

You should send them thank you notes for the gifts not thank them on your blog!

Your wedding was beautiful. I think you have a beautiful personality. You know how to be cool under pressure. It is a shame that grown women, would say such hateful things at someone's wedding. It just shows that some of the women you work with are classless, envious, bitter and insecure women. Keep your head up, and take care of your beautiful family.

Congratulations Cynthia and Peter! Your wedding was a beautiful, solemn, and joyous! May your days together be everything you have dreamed they would be. I wish you both peace, happiness and lasting love in your union...hold on tight to each other...and may your home be your sanctuary!

I'm going to say it if no one else will. It made me so sad to see your mother and your sister so upset to feel so very strongly that you were going to marry Peter. Furthermore, I was astonished that you went ahead and got married with the thought in your mind of, "well, I can always get divorced if I need to, later on." Then, the fact that Peter had to be drunk to actually get married to you. And, the guy didn't even get your wedding bands (which was his responsibility in all of this). Yes, Cynthia you are a BEAUTIFUL, CLASSY, HARD WORKING, INDEPENDENT, WONDERFUL, lady that just married a guy that is UNRELIABLE, BANKRUPT, OPENLY FLIRTS WITH YOUR BEST FRIEND NENE, and HAD TO BE DRUNK IN ORDER TO MARRY YOU?!!!! WTH?!!!!! If No One Else is willing to come on here and say what your mother and sister were so desperately trying to save you from yourself, I'll Speak Up and Say It, CYNTHIA GET RID OF PETER! YOU DESERVE MUCH MUCH MUCH MUCH MUCH BETTER THAN THIS GUY! YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL, ARTICULATE, FUNNY, INDEPENDENT, HARD WORKING WOMAN, THAT CAN DO 100,000,000,000 THAN THAT GUY!

Hi Cynthia...

I am so glad you were on this season. I am the mother of an 12 year old African American girl. We were overcome by your elegance, class, and grace throughout this season. You are a FANTASTIC role model and I hope to see more of you in the future. I believe that you have had a positive effect on many young women of all races and colors watching this show. I now have more hope for the fashion industry as well. As for those judging your marriage...let us turn a microscope on their "perfect" lives and then comment. Hmmm...I bet they would be silent after that.

Well Said Cynthia, You looked absolutley stunning, your wedding dress was amazing. I wish you a fruitful , blessed and loving marriage.

I hope to see you on Season 4. Please stay in touch with Nene she really needs a good friend. Sheree and Kim , girl they are so jealous of you and it pains them that you are Nene's friend. They don't want you to be her friend that's why they hate on you, actually Kandi too but she hides it better. After all the back stabbing comments thay made about you they had the nerve to show up at your wedding and still talk trash. "WOW"

Ask Sheree what happened to her Ashton Martin she pulled up in at your wedding ? HA HA ! Bad Karma ! I really feel for the guy Kim is pregnant by I hope he's a darn good Baller.

To You The Best ~

You need to grow up. I see you didn't mention Kim for a thank you. Maybe you can thank her for the girls bachelor party she had at her friends house. Thanking NeNe, the bully. Too sad..

Cynthia Bailey,

First off, you looked incredibly stunning on your wedding day. Talk about a fairy tale? You literally are one of the most beautiful women in the world and your dress was so fierce, so couture, so amazing that we all lost our breath.

Second, the way that Peter looked at you when you appeared had us all in tears. Every single woman in the world (at least the ones I love ;) ) deserves to be adored like that. I know countless people who wish that their beloved looked at them for one single moment in their lives. It was an amazing moment.

Third, I understand your sister and mother being worried and protective. I truly do. I have felt that way before as well, but part of loving someone is supporting even the decisions that you may think are wrong. It is your life. If you are happy so be it. If (god forbid) something happened to change that, the role of your family is to pick you up and put you back together. Other than that, support is the key. Sorry you had to go through that. It was tough for me to watch as I am sure it was tough for you to watch.

Last, the catty and ignorant comments from the other housewives really don't need addressing, do they? You were a huge reason that I watched Atlanta this season. NeNe has lost her shine and has become and aggressive animal. Sheree has become someone I loathe, truly. She is so full of herself and just is NOT all that. She isn't even a little bit of all that. Phaedra is a ghetto phoney. Kandi is a talented woman who needs to stop with that ghetto hair and be more glam. And Kim, well, Kim looks plastic and she sounds ignorant. She is probably a blast to hang out with sometimes, but again, the ignorance of some of her statements makes me cringe.

As for you, you need to learn to be stronger. Don't let people walk all over you, don't back down. It is uncomfortable to see you submissive to anyone, Peter, NeNe, anyone. Stand up woman. You are fully of beauty, wit and candor. Find a little more strength in that, don't look to others too much. It is all there in you. And, your beautiful daughter is watching.

Best of luck and love and peace to you.

I thought you were so beautiful on your wedding day, even more beautiful than you usually are! Just stunning. I wish you all the best and hope you get a lot of modeling jobs :) You are a beautiful person inside and out--stay the lovely person you are; I have a feeling you will!

Just wanted to say that I hope your sister & mother were withholding the marriage license "for dramatic effect" and wouldn't really do something like that to you. That would be unforgiveable if that stunt was for real!!!

So cynthia you say, " I pride myself on always striving to be a class act and never compromising my integrity at someone else's expense. A joke is a joke, well what was the comment in Miami about how long does it take to put a wig on, seriously. The very one you are saying thank you to (nene), will turn her back on you and come after you next. She is a despicable bully. You had to borrow from your moma for a bar, your wonderful husband as you say didn't even buy you a wedding band. He was drunk at the wedding, you married a real looser.

stay positive and for kim nene is right about her.

Congrats Cynthia!!!!! You and Peter had a fab wedding and I enjoyed being able to view it..:-) Comments were made at your wedding that I thought was rather rude but, that's normally how bitter women are....Anywho enjoy your family and continue being Cynthia! Smooches!

God Bless you Cynthia and Peter. You are such a lovely couple. Until next season.................stay strong!!!!!!

Cynthia, I thought that the dress looked fab on you. But a black wedding dress? That just HAS to be bad luck. You are a good person and I wish the best for you.

Your wedding was absolutely beautiful and unique. Just like you!

Cynthia - I think you are by far the best HW BUT how dare you for chastizing ppl and their thoughts- good or bad when YOU are the one who decided to televise your wedding to the world! What did u expect? Please do not claim to b so strong YET be so naive! I wish you and peter the best BUT if you were watching this episode (and it was not you) what would you think? This guy does not deserve this woman - is what ANYBODY would think! He did,nt even re to buy the wedding bands! good luck dear cynthia!

You Rock Cynthia...I hope u come back if there is a season 4!!!

Cynthia as you have stated there are children that watch this show as well as they read the vlogs, what do you thing about your husband making the comments he did about the other women. At first i thought that people were just being hard on him but after reading what hea sadi no the were not actually they were not hard enough. He represents what i call a BAN i'm quite sure you can figure out what it stands for. I was so liking you earlier in the show until i saw that you were not as strong as you type you are. You should have never given him money to start with and i agree with your mother and sister he is not the man for you and you will be taking care of him for as long as you are together.

Cynthia: You seem like a nice gal who has worked hard and created a life for yourself. As a viewer, it is hard to understand your marriage to Peter. I liked him initially, but it is common sense not to marry someone you can't trust financially. He withheld vital, vital information from you. Your own family has strong doubts. The money spent on the wedding would be better saved. Also, some of Peter's comments bother me - such as you, his wife, will damn well give him whatever he asks or needs in the future.

Also, Nene is nuts. She is self centered and doesn't own her own cr*p. I'm not a fan of Kim, but Nene has serious anger control issues. She doesn't respect people. She goes ballistic over the slightest perceived slights (real or not) but dishes 'em out without a thought. The fact you follow her of all people - WHY?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Kandi is the only person on the show living in reality. I think you mostly do - but I question your choices of peers and partners.

Wow! You were awesome to watch this season! Because you've chosen to allow America into your personal life, people will always have something to say about you and your decisions. I like the fact that you stayed true to yourself! I'm sure that was difficult to do at times. Keep pressing on and being a light on the show! I really like how you expressed "jokes are jokes, but somethings are mean spirited" hopefully some others on the cast will read your blog and get a clue about the difference between the two! Many blessings to you!

CYNTHIA I LIKE YOU AND I HOPE YOU HAVE ALL THE LOVE AND FUN YOU CAN GET AND ABOUT THE WEDDING IF IT WAS A 2DOLLAR WEDDING AND YOU LOVE THE MAN THATS ALL IT IS LOOK OVER THE MONEY HAVE LOVE FOR THE MAN AND GOD WILL GIVE YOU GUYS THE MONEY PUT HIM 1ST AND ALL YOU DO AND NENE I LIKE HER YOU STAND BY HER SHES GETTING A LOT OF BAD HITS BUT I LIKE HER AND YOU GUYS ARE GOING TO BE OK GOD BLESS

You are the sweetest of all the housewives in any franchise and I think Peter is a great man! I hope you all won't let the limelight strain your relationship. Get counseling proactively if you need it! Your daughter is beautiful and sweet too!

Congrats and many blessings Cynthia! You are strong for sharing your story to the world.