Cynthia, I enjoy your blogs each week. Love the #1 system lol. Anywho, I agree with you about Nene and Peter. I adore Nene, shes a hoot, but if she would just remain friends with you and not put too much emphasis on Peter, confusion (why hes being standoff-ish, etc..) would not phase her. Thats the problem when our friends try to be buddies with our mates. Being cordial here and there is fine, but befriending to the point of being upset when hes not acting himself is not the business. I hope the two of them were able to make amends. In the meantime, continue to stay neutral and not get in the middle of it.

Cynthia, You are such a good soul. im so glad that you are on this seasons housewives. It sucks to be in the middle of situations like that but like you said they are adults and hopefully will handle it like adults. Keep being you and never change. I love the show God Bless

Cynthia, I like you and I am glad you are a friend to NeNe. I hope u 2 can remain friends on this crazy show, as you can see those other's are not true friends. I hope NeNe can appreciate your friendship and not blow it because I think you are sincere, unlike Kim.

well spoken!

Cynthia you are awesome!

You really seem down to Earth and together on the show. You're a great addition.

Ignore the haters,

JS

PS: Why no Cindi B sign off this time too serious of a blog post, or just forgot?

You are very refreshing and certainly no pushover. We are a lot alike in so many ways. I'm learning some things from you. Luv ya LL

You are the best!!! I wish you lots of luck on your future marriage.

I love your blogs & you on the show. You are one of the realest on here. I love the way you handle your Relationship/ Marriage w. Peter & your friendship with NeNe. Positive asset to the show.

That phone conversation with Nene made Peter's accent come out for real! Hopeverthing works out with the restuarant.

Fabulous blog Cynthia. Love the way you handle your friendship and relationship, you mediate very well.

Cynthia you are a cool cat. Your husband on the hand, not so much.

Good blog.

Cynthia,

As I said in an earlier blog. Peter is not the one for you.....this would be the time to run like hell!!!!! He is too controlling.

Cynthia, Its so refreshing to see a beautiful woman with class. You are a warm soul and pure in your ways, may god continue to bless you and your family. =)

I appreciate your post Cynthia. It seemed really honest. But my honest opinion is that Peter was very disrespectful to you and you just stood there and took it. I understad picking your fights. But when a person is being that disrespectful to you I don't understand how you could just sit there and not say anything. Honestly you did look very weak. I don't know if there is any truth to the NeNe and Gregg situation but it did seem strange how he seemed to speak to everyone else and not her that night. I am sure you have other friends but why is he so angry about you being on the phone with NeNe. I hope eveything will be ok with you guys but I had to give my honest opinion.

I think NeNe aggravates Peter because he sees through her drama. NeNe is having problems with Greg and Peter is ready to get married, he is right not to let what is happening to NeNe put a dark cloud over his life's plans. I wish you would tell NeNe that you love her and will be there for her as often as you can but she should realize that you are getting married and the planning is time consuming. Peter is right, you can't let other people's problems interfere with your plans. Good Luck, and have a good life.

Cynthia, You seem nice and even tempered and Peter is a man who will need to control you. Peter's demontration of his moody side should be an eye opener for you. His "problems at the restaurant" may go on for a long time and you will have to deal with a bossy, mean, controlling man. He's not even married to you and he is treating you as if you are a child , even telling you what not to say to Nene. I admit I liked Peter until that little demonstration of controlling you. You can be sure, if he's talking to you like that now, he'll be far worse later. You might want to think about why Peter is suddenly omplaining about the restaurant not making money. Maybe he has had time to think on that million dollar wedding bill. Maybe he can't afford you.

Hi, I think that you should have people around you that are going to celebrate your wedding and be happy for you. I would like to see the ladies reach out to you and Peter and do some things at the Restaurant to show support for him in what he is trying to do. Good Luck.

Cynthia, I love your spirit and you are a beautiful woman. I'm sorry about the issue you're having with Peter and Nene, it is unfortunate, however, I do believe that God shows us signs that are meant to be evaluated. I really like Peter too but it looks like he is not able to handle stress, if stress is his reason for treating Nene this way. It is also possible that he has an issue with sharing you. Please, pray and ask God if he is trying to tell you something about Peter that would make you an unhappy wife. I would hate to see you lose your friends one by one because of your love for someone that doesn't know how to show you their love like you show love. In that area, it is important to be equally yoked. As a woman who is as thoughtful and careful about the decisions she makes in her life as you are, I hope that you heed the warning signs and Run! Or communicate to Peter how you feel about his disregard for your feelings and how you want things handled in your lives. Remember, you have a voice in this. If you don't put your foot down now, you could find his foot on your throat down the line!!! I'm speaking from experience, sadly!!! I'm just saying!!! I love you girl!!! Stay positive!!!

Cynthia,

I really like the person you are. I think Peter is controlling. I felt this at other times also. I think there is a reason in the back of your mind why you were not overly excited when proposed to. Don't let the fact that you've been engaged many times make you make the wrong decision. I will tell you this after being married and with my husband 26 years and that is this -- you will jump for joy without hesitation when it is the right one. I do not think Peter is the person.

He may be an alright guy, is alright good enough? Peter tells you to be careful with what you say to Nene, however, he had no problem saying the awful things he said to Nene in public in front of everyone. This also says, he has no respect for you by bringing it up. My husband would never do that, ever. Peter's opinion of women is not a good one. While the the 5 kids and baby momma drama was something he was insulted by, he knows his decisions have not been great. No one will say it but I will ---RUN. No one should tell you when you can and not be on the phone. I wasn't only that, it was the "tell her you'll call her back" and "when I walk in the house attention should be on me". A parent tells a child to get off the phone....

Spend time with your daughter, take a time out. If Peter is doing this now, think how he will be when he calls you My wife in an ownership voice. It's not a great feeling. Listen to your inner voice, it's right. Ask your mother how her abuser started out, I'm sure you will find similiar behavior. You deserve a gentleman that treats you as equal, both parties are respectful to each other. Two with one mind. Also, imagine your daughter speaking to you on the phone and her husband says the things Peter says, I think you would worry for your child. Take care, think it out. Best of luck to you.

Wow.. Cynthia you're damned if you do and damned if you dont. NeNe is more than capable of taking care of herself..it's hard to be in the middle of your new friend and as he said "your man". You'll figure it out Im sure.

Cynthia, you are a joy to watch on tv. Not only is your beauty easy to watch but you exude a warm aura. Whether reality tv is real or not, you would be the kind of friend I would cherish. You're calmness and outgoing nature is the kind of people I currently have in my life and we need people like that. Although it is great fun to watch the drama at times with NeNe and the others, it is also nice to have someone is more drama free.

The show does try and make it seem like Peter is controlling but of course there is more to the story. How can there not be? I say, support your man and also your friend at the same time as you have been and people can just get over their judgments about Peter.

However, I did cringe at the tone of his voice when speaking to her on the cell after that drag race. Then again, I noticed that the level of her tone went from loud to shouting. They are both strong headed and stressed and will get over it.

Stay strong!

NeNe is more than capable of handling her situations.. you on the other hand are in the middle of your friend and your man. Do what you believe is best.

Cynthia you are in a tough situation, just keep your head on straight and try to stay out of it..if at all possible.

Cynthia love you, but Peter is too old to be acting like that. who wants an old as man who is jealous of you talking to your friend on the phone. He is stressed-out I get that, but he should not be taking it out on you. He needs to spend some time by himself. Good luck girl, because he disrespected your friend he is out of control, and it is not going to get better.

Thank you for your posts! I love reading them and I am so glad u are on the show.

I am a Jamaican and I can relate,Jamaican men are very proud..Noell dad is a Jamaican and a cute one at that. You do your picking well.Peter was just going through a rough time and he wanted some me time..I adore you because I think you are so classy...

Hello cynthia,

I have to say that I understand where Peter is coming from..he is having some issues that of course affect the both you and when he comes home from work he wants your undivided attention so he can tell what is going on. the way I see it is,Peter feels you pretty much have all day to talk to NeNe so when he comes home he wants to spend some time with you anc conversate..and honestly I feel that makes you a lucky woman..there are so many women out there who cant get their man to spend two minutes of quality time with them. I feel the real problem is the WAY Peter said it, his jamaican accent and tone of voice did come across as controlling. Anyways Hope everything works out with the restauraunt.. take care

I AGREE

Hi Cynthia, Peter sounds controlling to me in this episode. I understand he wants quality time with you but on the same note, Peter should be more understanding that Nene is going through a hard time and she needs true friends like you and Diane whom also seemed to be there to support nene as well. Peter act as if Nene the reason his restaurant is not doing well. I hope that Nene and Peter put their differences aside and hopefully be best buds again. And I hope you and nene don't lose the friendship over this.

i think u and Peter looks awesome 2-gether

Cynthia, Girl be there for your man. I understand NeNe is your girl and you should be there friends, but what she's going through isn't going to affect you living situation, but what Peter's going through will. If NeNe is your true friend then she'll understand that your world does not revolve her's and your own man and own problems to attend to

good job, well spoken, very respecful and down to earth... I dont think Peter is controling you, I think you are a real women and respect your relationship with your man and knows how to handle your friendship with nene or anybody, YOU ARE READY FOR MARRIAGE

I think people are being too hard on Peter. So he wants to spend time with his wife, be together, talk, and that's a bad thing.... why? Also, he told Nene that he didn't have any problems with her with pretty much the same attitude she came at him with. He tried to explain to Nene why he was being stand-offish that night; he was stressed out & had a lot on his mind.

Most of the problems come in because he doesn't say things in a nice, polite way. Rather than asking Cynthia to please give him some attention, or calming Nene down with a gentle word, he grumps and snaps about it. His intentions are good, but his words don't come out right. Probably due to the stressful business situation. You have to look at motivation, Peter seems like a good man with a good heart who is having a hard time. It's gonna seep out sometimes, we've all been there.

I think people are being too hard on Peter. So he wants to spend time with his wife, be together, talk, and that's a bad thing.... why? Also, he told Nene that he didn't have any problems with her with pretty much the same attitude she came at him with. He tried to explain to Nene why he was being stand-offish that night; he was stressed out & had a lot on his mind.

Most of the problems come in because he doesn't say things in a nice, polite way. Rather than asking Cynthia to please give him some attention, or calming Nene down with a gentle word, he grumps and snaps about it. His intentions are good, but his words don't come out right. Probably due to the stressful business situation. You have to look at motivation, Peter seems like a good man with a good heart who is having a hard time. It's gonna seep out sometimes, we've all been there.

Earlier in the show Peter communicated to you that he would like it if you didnt speak to NeNe on the phone in order for you guys to have alone time. I feel that is fair since your lives are pulled in different directions sometimes. And at the event you felt the tension between the two, so why even answer her call while in the car. Hit Ignore. That would have made him feel special and would've showed that your focus was on him. I dont think that is to much to ask for.

Thank you Cynthia. I said that on twitter she needs to understand that she is friends with you not your Husband. That kinda bother me about NeNe. Why do you care if he doesnt talk to you he is not her friend.

I am a trained counselor. My field of specialty is marriage counseling and leaving abusive relationships. I've been watching the dynamic between Peter and you. If you were in my office and I was evaluating your relationship by what I've observed so far, I would tell you to leave this relationship. It won't get better, the control factor by Peter will escalate and his criticism of you will get more and more abusive. You are highly passive and Peter is aggresive in personality and language. You deserve better than that. Peter is slowly and insidiously whittling away your self esteem and ability to make your own decisions. He doesn't convey his feelings by telling you how he feels when he is neglected, he demands for you to conform to his way of thinking. Leave, leave, leave.

Cynthia, You and NeNe are the two I like most on the show. I think most America will agree. But girlfriend, I guess love is blind because right now you can't see the forest because of the trees. Peter is not for you, you do not need to marry that old man, and why do he treat you like a child or like one of his 5 kids? I hope you just hold off and sit back and check things out more. Please don't settle for less. I know you probably read this alot since the real Peter has came out. Well stay true and down to earth like you are and hope you stay friends with NeNe she needs you.

peter is flipping the script marry him and it will be worse. he is a control freak for sure, misery after marriage, or put him where he needs to be now!

Blah blah, let me first say i don't think Petter did anything wrong, NeNe is your "new" friend meaning you just met her and probably should not be calling her a friend just yet. She has not earned the title of friend. In a marriage you have to set guidelines for "friends" and your family and they should never cross first priority is home husban/kids. If your friends don't understand that then to bad. Don't let NENe unhappy ass break up your family

Well this is the way I see it - you all know that NeNe requires all the attention on her - she wants everyone to look at her when she walks into a room! C I would be careful of NeNe because I think that she is the one who is wrong! NeNe needs a marriage counselor not you - for one you have never been married. Then you here NeNe upset because you would not talk to her - if she was a true friend then she would understand that your man comes first not her - watch out - that is all I have to say I could say a lot more but I know the haters are already going to say something about what I said about NeNe - she needs constant attention - she thinks it is all about her. Look and watch all the episodes she is really not a friend to anyone - she talks shi* about everyone. Just saying.

People, do you think the show is live? She already married Peter. Wish them well and move on. My husband would be annoyed too if I walked around with a phone to my ear during the evening when we had some time together.

I understand what you mean by picking your fights Cynthia, I really do, but I guess watching Peter speak to you that way, it just seemed like he should have been more mindful of how he would make you look, as well as himself. Yep, I get that he's stressed too, but that's why relationships tend to break off when financial stress is introduced.........because people don't know how to handle it, and take out things on the other person they shouldn't. I was just really disappointed in his behavior, especially at his age. Hopefully seeing himself behave that way will be a reality check.

In regards to Nene, don’t be so quick to call people friends. I’ve seen a lot of characteristics come out of her since I’ve been watching this show, and loyalty doesn’t seem to be one of them.

Stay sweet…….

My husband hates it when I'm on the phone for a long time, too. I'm sure NeNe will understand once things calm down for her. Best of luck to all three of you :)

My Lord Cynthia! You appear to be one of the sharpest tools in the shed on that show so how did you hook up with NeNe an get so close? Have you known her longer than Peter? Well, lets put it like this girlfriend, unless you and NeNe are swimming in the LADY POND together, there is no DAMN way you should consider what side to take. You are talking about taking this man as a life partner. Friends come and go. Look back at NeNe friendships in the pass? Girl, you are suppose to have your mans back first and for most! So stay your ass away from NeNe, she has problems, misery loves company. There is no way your friendship with her should spill over into you and Peter live. So stand by your man, an old lady once told me all my friends ran rabbits and eat shit! So even if you don't marry Peter he has a right to determine when he wants to entertain NeNe crazy ass. You should keep your friends and your relationships separate. Focus on Peter for Christ Sake! Not NeNe. She is not your responsibility, You said you have invested a lot money with Peter in Uptown? Right, then hell your mind should be with Peters not NeNe!

Cynthia, you are a peacemaker. And what others would consider passive in you, I think you said it best that you choose your battles wisely. You don't sweat the small stuff. Dominant type A personality men come with a lot of benefits...aggressive (in a sexy way), ambitious, protective, loving (if it's a good one). But the flip side to these type men is that they come with a lot of rules to follow including mindreading. Is it worth it to follow the rules to keep them? Most of the time, yes absolutely. However, it will take a woman who doesn't sweat the small stuff and who is attentive to their moods to deal with them properly to prevent blow-ups. I'm sure Peter was throwing major signals that he needed your attention. Of course, he still needs to improve on how he communicates! Expecting you to be a mindreader is ridiculous. As far as Nene, being a united front with Peter is a best move all around for everyone involved. Telling Nene that you need to spend time with your man is much better than "Girl, I got to go, Peter is home and doesn't want me on the phone." This way, Nene isn't offended and you aren't throwing Peter under the bus. Good luck on your marriage! I see you putting out many more small Peter-fires in your future! But I know you can handle it. I wish the best for you and Peter. You are my favorite!!

Cynthia, you are my girl! No one knows what is going on in your household except you, your husband, and your child. You know Peter for real while we are only seeing snippets on television. Do what is best for you and your family and keep it moving. Take care!

As somebody who's been with two West Indian men ... she need not marry that man. Their views on marriage and fidelity are right out of the stone ages. Run the other way.

Cynthia, no disrespect to your future husband but he need to stop acting like a b*tch,women act the way he's acting; getting jealous of a friend. Don't let him control you just to say you got a man,I bet Leon wouldn't do that because he truely love you.Leon only want the best for you,Peter want to control you,stop his a** right in his tracks.You being the woman that I know you are,he will not be controlling you.NeNe needs the both of you if you all are truely her friend,I know she will be there for you if the shoes was on the other feet.I love all of you; keep on representing and you all are doing a great job! God Bless You All!