This episode was a trip. I was so irritated when we got off the bus. It was way too much drama, which continued as we got off the bus. I know a lot of people were bothered by my saying, "I told Kim you can't talk to a black woman like that," when I was referring to Kim and NeNe's argument. I wasn't being racist, I was being real. I love Kim, but Kim loves to cuss, fuss, and name call with NeNe even though she knows that if NeNe jumps on her she's not going to fight back. So my point is, why provoke her? If somebody was screaming, calling me a b----, and pointing their finger in my face I would want to fight. Now I am in no way saying NeNe is right at all. As a matter of fact, I think NeNe purposely screams with Kim because Kim is only going to talk and not physically react. But I do love the fact that Kim is a little firecracker and never backs down, even though there's the possibility she may be choked. I wouldn't let that happen though. At one point when we were in our room, I actually had to tell Kim to shut up and calm down, because if she gets jumped on then I have to get in the middle and break it up and all hell could break loose. That wouldn't be good.
Now let me say something about this whole race thing and stereotypes. Whenever I look at all the 'Housewives' shows, I see we perpetuate a stereotype. Atlanta has a mostly African American cast, and what do we hear about black women all the time? We have attitudes and drama. You see that on this show a lot. New Jersey has an Italian-American cast, and what is the stereotype for Italians? People say they're hot heads, people try to associate them with the mafia. And what have we seen on their show? Table flipping and Danielle's ties to shady people. How about the Beverly Hills Housewives? Most people think they're rich and plastic. well they do have a plastic surgeon, they've all had a lot of botox and lip injections, and they are definitely rich! My point is that even though we all hate to be stereotyped, sometimes there is a little truth to stereotypes at least on our show. I think that's part of the reason people watch. Some people can laugh at a stereotype of themself, and some people are offended by it.
Well enough about that. I was so caught off guard when Cynthia broke out crying after I asked her about the honey moon. I felt horrible! I didn't mean to upset her.
Lawrence does a great impression of me. I thought that was hilarious. He really brought up everybody's spirits. The trip had a bad vibe the whole time we were in the house, because NeNe kept trying to get Cynthia to leave the whole time. She really had other things to do in Miami, so I think she was doing her best to get Cynthia to leave so she could leave without looking like the problem child. Sheree, Phaedra, Lawrence, Kim, and I went out and had fun on our own. We decided we weren't going to pout and be miserable in the house with them. Lawrence made the last night with all of us turn out much better. The bad mood went away when he started making everyone laugh.
Well check out Miss Lawrence's new song "Closet Freak" on iTunes next week! And please get my album now http://wbr.fm/KandiKoatediTunes. Follow me on Twitter @Kandi and shop online at my boutique's website www.TagsAtl.com
The cameras follow all the ladies around and Kandi is working most of the time so thats what we get to see.....that and a lot of other things such as charity events, parties etc. You know what ?? If you don't like what ya see turn the channel !! Don't hate !! Keep on keeping it real Kandi....I love your style !!
Hi Kandi, I laugh when I see the contest to win time with an Atlanta housewife advertised during the airing of the show. Are you kidding ? Who would insert themselves into that dysfunction? I do believe you are the only one on the show who is their authentic self. I think your previous time in the media spotlight taught you how to stay true to yourself . I enjoy your music and I am moved by your expression of your feeling in the lyrics. Good luck with the music and stay away from the craziness!!!
I think you should drop Kim. She is a waste of time. I am a fan of yours. You can find someone wayyyy more talented to do you opening acts. If you want people to take you and what you do seriously again. Leave Kim behind. Shoot I can sing over records. Anybody can do that! She is talentless. I can sing her songs better than she can!
Christine, I can tell by your comment that you are more than likely not a racist. However IT IS NOT ACCEPTABLE to say "black bitch". It implies that being called black is an insult. Drop it from your repetoire!
Kandi is on he show b/c she has a story just like all the other housewives. I like Kandi, and I will take her a million times over NeNe any day.
..so how can Kandi be the most real, when she never says anything to anybody's face!hmmmm. I think that is called 2 faced.
Kandi, I liked you from the start and I still do but your last two blogs are so full of crap, especially as it relates to Kim. KIM CAN'T SING AND IS A LAZY PERFORMER period. Okay, you have the skill to autotone her true voice and make her sound acceptable, but even autotone can't hide her sorry singing. I get that you can still sell her sound and make a profit but you know that won't last, in fact, her pitiful voice is as pitiful as she is and I personally think your resurgenance back into the music arena would proceed with haste if you didn't waste time on this foolish woman but I suppose that's really left up to BRAVO (I'm guessing there is some sort of contractual agreement with them to put up with this woman). Not only can she not sing or perform, she is a user. You allow her much more leeway with her foolishness than any other person on this show and, I suspect, than you would with any other real singer that you were producing. As far as the stereotyping, why do you figure people like NeNe and Sheree at RHOA are still holding their own on this show, and Bravo chose them in the first place - because they fulfill the stereotypes and they let people like Dashawn who was let go after the first season, with Lisa following shortly after. Because they did not fulfill the stereotype Bravo wants to protray of black women on their shows. If you're not going to express your truly honest feelings and spit out those that keep Bravo happy and to a great degree you employed, (not that I don't get that, I do, and more power to you) then I will gauge your actions on this show from this day forward, as a Waiting to Exhale moment. What do you say Bravo? Got the b---- to print this?
Kandi, Congrats on your new album. I am so sorry you had the bus ride from hell ride to Florida. NeNe is so disrespectful and low class, I don't know why Kim invited her on the bus, as black women for her to call Sweetie a slave, she is a first class bully. Good luck Kandi
GIRLS!! I am a white girl and i don't want to be called those names, good grief, all that matters not! NeNe Leaks is an obnoxious jerk, and she is mean! Sterotyping has nothing to do with the way NeNe acts, dang I've seen white chicks act that way...it is always out of line, she surely doesn't think she can get along in this world white/black/tan/brown/ whatever...with bodily threats! I don't have a clue what "ghetto" is, but if it's bad then that's NeNe! Like I said, I am white, but I have never spoken to anyone the way that NeNe speaks to EVERYONE! She is a "bruiser"! I actually felt sorry for Kim...I think Kim needs to get a restraining order to keep NeNe from harming her! I WOULD! Dang, that last episode (not the last one), really was trashy thanks to NeNe! I don't want her off the show, she needs help!!! ANYONE out there, she needs major assistance!!! SERIOUSLY! ~~Deb-DO~~
I really enjoy watching RHOA and sincerely hope there'll be a 4th season. Kandi I'm an Xscape fan and have always admired your songwriting talent and your physical beauty and style. I must say though, you seem to be uptight alot of the time especially in recent episodes, perhaps due to a number of external factors not necessarily connected to the show, and its a shame because, I know you know, life is so short and one has to really loosen up and enjoy every waking minute of it. The way you treated Sweety in this and the previous episode left little to be admired, I know the show is heavily edited so we probably don't see the full picture. On a few occasions I saw her trying to be friendly to you and you brushed her off (once you said your not a morning person) in a way that was very degrading. You complain that Kim talks to h like s**t yet you've been treating her with contempt as if she has no right to join in with any conversation or try to be friendly to you and you wonder why the poor girl started putting up an attitude as a defence mechanism, it wasnt nice at all. She may not be a superstar, or a "housewife" but she has as much right as anyone to be comfortable and happy and voice her opinion, without you jumping down her throat, it was painful to watch. Now Im off to place my order from TagsATL.com, I hope they deliver to London.x
Kandi, When you first started on the show you were such a sweet person and very down to earth. You are still down to earth but you are not as sweet as you used to be. When you are dealing face to face with the other housewives, you still give the appearance of being a sweet person except when it comes to Kim. It seems like your experience with her and how the success seems to be coming easy to her even though she cannot sing is making you bitter. You should know the game because you have been in the business for awhile so you know it does not matter if you can sing or not. It matters if you can draw a crowd and keep that crowd entertained and Kim can do that. You should stick to doing what you do best which is produce. I loved Xscape but when you went solo, your music was and is boring to me. The songs that you were singing in Orlando and Miami were downers. You want to show the crowd that you can sing but they want to be entertained and all that hollering, no matter how on key, is not entertaining. You are a nice person, a great mother and, and I even admit you have a great singing voice but you will never be an entertainer on the level of Beyonce or even Ashanti for that matter and that is what is seems like you are chasing. Be a great producer instead of a mediocre entertainer. I will address the Sweetie, Kim, Nene situation in my next post.
Kandi, while I'm sitting here wasting my time on Ne-Ne, just want to let you know you're Genuine, and a positive sister, keep being you, I love you on the show, and you were great when you came to Chicago, my daughter took pictures with you and she also was apart of the lil mob dance they put together for you. You're a joy to watch and God Bless you sister.
I love your sense of style and that your not caught up in letting the world know that your caught up on name brands. All the rest of them have to let u know what they bought and how much they spent and don't have no money. When NeNe and Sheray say do u want to live like a real housewife I feel like I already live from paycheck to paycheck. They picked the wrong two to ask anyone that question
Kandi don't fall for nene's so call nice ways towards you, don't forget she talked about your singing and now she's playing nice to you because she knows you know a lot of people that are famous. i know you thought about that . LOVE THE NEW CD.
Kandi, your music is not all that. Just keep writing for the ones who know how to sing. You need the help Kim gets. Also it would be also to your advantage if you would not eat on camera. You eat like you are at grandma's house on a Sunday evening eating. When you and NENE come on, we have yo turn the station. You also act like you are so much better than all the rest and guess what, you are NOT.
Leah, I do not know what planet you live on Kandi Blazey is the fakest of re ATL housewives, She never tells the truth the only thing she does is talk behind Nene and Kim's back. All that crap that Kim says about you you have never addressed it. But you are quick to shot Nene , maybe you ar ejealous cause Nene get all the camera time , Nene is the SHOW REMEMBER Nene was the show before you came along. Nene carries the SHOW and is the SHOW. You are a liar Kandi because you and that short gay dude were all talking about Kim behind her back. Kandi YOU ARE THE FAKEST ATL housewive
First of all Kangi I think you are very talented and I have always followed your career,You are very classy,and although Phedrea Boast to be the ultimate sourthern belle, I think You Hold That Title, Not to Mention I think Your The Sexiest Black Woman On TV,I Cant Put My finger On One Particular Thing But You Ooozz Sexapeal,and I Tell Everybody,LOL" All My Friends Knows What My Favorite Candy" Is, Bless You and All You Do,And Reily Also.....
you're the best ever housewife!!! So down to earth and cool, and I think one of the only ones that had a career in the spotlight prior to the show. Which may be why you are clearly the coolest. I'll be buying your CD...good Luck
Kandi, you really are a true lady. I love the way you carry yourself. You demonstrate respect and are considerate towards other and still manage to be a tough cookie in all aspects of your life including business wise. All the other housewives should follow your example; specially Nene. She just has so much negativity. 99% of the time she is just putting down all the other ladies and criticizing them and acts like she's perfect. Seriously, I hope she really see's the episodes of this season to analyze her behavior and adjust her attitude.
I just love you Kandi. Your words of Wisdom are always appreciate. Kandi what I love about you is you are real.. You are beautiful and real! You are perfectly right, as a Caucasian woman I would not say certain things to my black female friends simply because it is disrespectful and NeNe is from NY, she doesn't play. Kim constantly provokes NeNe, then NeNe blows up and Kim rattles her mouth then backs down when NeNe explodes.
Kim called NeNe a Gorilla and Moose on her blog, maybe you should enlighten her that saying such things is going to wreak havoc for her.
Kim is extremely disrespectful towards black women, women in general, that is why she has no female friends. I heard Kim is having a baby and maybe she can regain her inner mother ways rather than trash talk and then when people get pissed she wants to cry or call 911.
I'm so glad to see you finally bring up business with Kim. You are the true artist trying to help people move forward with a career, and then letting them slide when they keep coming back for more freebies. I did the same thing many times with newbie filmmakers and finally realized that when you do things for free, those people will ask for more and more and then turn vicious when you see them for what they are.
Bravo for you to let Kim know that the single you did for her wasn't going to be another freebie. You've got way too much talent to share with other artists who'll respect you for your artistry than Kim who seems to have no issues with taking whatever she can from people without paying them back with either respect or cold hard cash. I only hope you don't have to deal with her anymore musically so you can focus on your own career.
You're a great inspiration.
Kandi, you are the only real person on this show. The Sheree dancing episode showed that you are stuck with a bunch of money hungry women that dont want to give up a penny unless you get a top notch bottle of champagne. You would do much better in life if you would drop out of the show and not associate with these women anymore. I wish you the best of luck with your singing career and I will come see your shows unless you have Kim opening.
Kim and Ne Ne are in a fight to see who gets the most coverage on this show. They know whoever fights the most will get more airtime. I personally think they both show a stereotypical side of the wealthy and am so glad they are not in my life.
You are a fabulous writer. You have written for many artists and have written good songs.
However, you speak about Kim having to handle her business. You should have handled the business from the beginning. Supposedly Big Pappa had gotten Dallas to work with her in the beginning and that didn't work. I can't believe he didn't get paid. Why didn't you. Handle your business. I think she did a good job performing on your tour. (We all know she really is not a singer, but a good performer)
Huh? Kandi is already established and has been in the field forever...How could Kim ruin her rep? Serously? Kim is an autotunes girl. She can't sing!! Kandi was out way before autotunes was the rave. Just wanted to share.
Absolutely Love Kandi ! Not Only are you talented in many ways , a vocalist, a writer, producer but you have vision beyond even those talents. I hav been watching the show since the middle of the 1st season at which time I was NEW to all this " Reality Television ". I have to say though that I became hooked. As entertaining as some of the Cast are in many of the Reality shows for today's TV audience I think you have got to be the most down to earth , REAL personality I have witnessed thus far. There is no Playing Games with you , you tell it as " it is " and your independence and personality shines. I cannot imagine how that Bus Tour must have been for you and although it was a GREAT success and I am certain you will Rise Above all the rest to once again " Make it on the Charts" as you said I admire your strength and ability to overcome all the Drama thrown in the path as you make your way to where you belong ! As Far as Nene and Kim.... It is very apparent there is a bit of envy and jealousy there with Nene as far as Kim are concerned. Personally , and just my opinion , I think Nene Picks at Kim because it is easy for her to do so as not many others of the cast would take it and all things considered I think Kim takes it gracefully because as you stated above , Nene KNOWS KIM WILL NOT REACT. I do not think that could be said for the other cast members. Nene and Kim may have had a very lengthy friendship, 9 years I believe it has been stated but seriously , Is their realtionship a Friendship, or has it ever been? It does not seem like a Friendship to me at all and rather mere acquaitances with Nene only having fun with Kim when they can cut up , laugh and Kim being the brunt of the joke so to speak . Much like that saying " They are not laughing with you , but rather laughing at you " . The most Hypocrytical thing of all I have seen is the " wig jokes" and I ONLY say that because other than you .... how many of these women on the cast actually have 100 % of their OWN REAL HAIR ?? I mean 100 % all natural , and Real because whether a wig , extensions or a hairpiece ... It is NOT all YOURS, Now is it ? I could be wrong but I am sure that of all the women who have made comment , maybe some, a few , one ... who knows for certain but I just do not think ALL are 100 % Natural. I suppose in any group of women though as cadd as women can be " Someone has to be the BRUNT of the jokes " This is what I like / Love bout you is that you are and seem so REAL... and In the most important ways of all and that is who you are, wha you want, where you are going and in who / what you aspire to be. You've no insecurity in who Kandi is and definitely you do not allow others to dictate who you be with such an eagerness to please , fit in and be accepted. I wish you the bEST of LUCK in your Career and Life and hope you do find that man of your dreams Just to make life more complete and NOT because YOU NEED it but ONLY because you certainly deserve that one last part of life's happiness
Kandi THANK YOU for that album. I can't stop listening to Leave You and you tore "Haven't Loved Right"
Love your new hairdo!! I didn't even recognize you sitting there looking so truly fabulous on the reunion show previews! Not that you looked bad before, but you know...
Unfortunately I will not be watching you on the reunion because NeNe Leak's conversation is something that I have decided I need to "fly above." Take care!!
Kandi, you are great on this show you are a wonderful mom, person and artist. I beleive Kim takes you for granted because without you I do not believe she would make it, she is not motivated to do anything but meet rich men and get what she can. i dont know how she gets her money and i do not care, but she needs to work harder than you do on her career. I understood what you were saying and I believe you are the most genuine person on the show. Keep up the good job, but keep a little for you, stop giving your all. Believe me I have given my all, my entire life and i have nothing to give myself. Don't give away too much it hurts when they don't think to give back. You are great/
I don't think their is anything racist about any of the cast members. But yes stereotypes exists and humor about them too. I LOVE the women of Atlanta though! Your blog article was spot on about Atlanta, New Jersey and Beverly Hills and what people assume. But for those who watch, all the surface stuff gets washed away as we get a glimpse into the people and form a bond with all of you. You my dear are just the sweetie and soooooooo adorable that I want to hug you. Your Mom too! When I see her on the show her sweet face just makes me smile!! Nene and Kim has a friendship that goes way back and they do tend to explode at one another. I feel for NeNe too, going what she is in her marriage. Sure she was wrong and got out of hand, but she's also funny, bright and can be very kind.
I also don't think you said anything to hurt Cynthia. In fact you helped her release the tears and I think she needed to do that. She ended up staying and you all had a great time. It was in the end a bonding moment for the housewives. Lawrence is just the best. He is too funny!!! I just love him and am so happy you are working with him on what can become a great singing career. The man has pipes!! Hugs to you honey, you're wonderful!
God bless you and your beautiful daughter. I think you are a great friend anyone who gets the chance should hold on and cherish it. You have alot to offer people, I am glad you are on the show
KANDI !!! I luv u !! buttttttttt !! i think u just dont like ne nee !! cuz u said ur self that kim talks to sweetie crazy !! but of coarse ne nee the only one who had balls to say somthing. And YYYYYYYYY dont you tell kim the truth about her singing !!!?? All u ladies talk trash about each other !! but of COARSE NE NE IS THE BAD GUY !!
I definitely loved you on the show for realz! You are going to make it to the top and I can say that for a fact and the same goes for lawrence to! I loved his song and his preformance oh my god phenomenal for realz! As for Kim she has alot of catching up to do lol! Kim and Nene they are nothing but just drama! I guess or think that they are jealous or have hate, envy or something. I am kinda of not to kool that they are not friends anymore but oh well at least the rest of you all are drama free! Much success to you!
You should take heed to your own name. Kandi was "BORN BLESSED". She didn't need to the show to boost her career. Yes it may have helped, but it would have been stupid of her not to take the opportunity. What is the definition of a housewife? Clearly none of these shows have everyday housewives, these are influential women in these areas around the United States that are housewives and this is how they live. Why is NeNe really on the show, you have not seen her do one thing domestic including spend time wit her kids,throw a birthday party, have her family or Gregg's family involved. She is there for the money and to boost her career. She is the least fortunate of RHOA!!!!!!!!!!!! Enough said
I love the song that you wrote for Lawrence. And what an amazing performance he gave! You are a gifted writer, producer, etc. I cannot wait to see the material that the two of you come up with. I'm sure that there are plenty of people out there who will echo my sentiments. Keep writing those hits!
Kandi, keep making your money off of Kim. No she can't sing, but you write the songs that make her hot for whomever is buying her songs. That's the real music business. If she can make money, use her the way she used you.
Kandi: your work ethic appears to be very much different than Kim's. It appears she is all about the appearence and not about the work. You on the other hand know that success does take hard work and committment to your craft. If your friendship is to survive, you might want to consider not letting your business side and friendship intertwine. Kim is not a singer. She my be considered an "entertainer". She doesn't want to work hard. She just wants the " glory" and money. Of course what is shown on TV is not always "real". You are smart and astute enough to "take care of your business".
Kandi: You and Kim have an entirely different work ethic. Kim is all about the "show" without putting in any of the work. You on the other hand know what it takes to be a success. You have great talent and realize you have to work hard to get to the top and stay there. That is the difference between a professional and a wan-to-be. Kim is not a singer, but a character/entainer. If your friendship is to sustain, you might want to consider not doing business with her. Let your legal staff take care of any contract negotiations and by all means do not travel with Kim. Your level of maturity vs hers presents for a no win situation. I think you are a great talent with a beautiful soul.
I love your expressions on your face! LOL..It shows how you are feeling and what you are thinking. You have a kind spirit, and a firecracker when lit :-)
Kandi you neglected to mention the PROMOTER hired Kim to open for you since you obviously can't headline. Even three cities. So all this bashing Kim is misplaced and it wasn't just "YOUR TOUR", correct?
Kandi, I don't know how you did it! Kim is very irritating and I was just watching it on tv. You are a great person, much love.
Khandi Khandi Khandi.... You are my favorite of all time from xscape and now housewives I just love your energy and everything about you I honestly think you need to let kim go because she can not sing and she is waisting your time because she is always smoking and on the tour bus she was making don juan very mad and I don;t blame him because it was her first tour and you did her a favor to invite her and I jus think she wasn't ready she didin;t do bad but look at all the antics she had going on her and the nene situation just made it worst but you have told kim to leave nene alone that there friendship would never hold up but she always seems to run back and be friends with nene so she bring that on herself and set herself up for failure but you handled the situation just right I think all the ladies where taking away from the behavior and what had happened on the bus but I feel that all the ladies have something negative to say about nene about the situation when they should just bring it to the table and let her know how they feel she is going through a pretty hard time herself and wasn't in her right state of mind to go on that trip and took alot of her anger otu on kim but being that all you'll are grown someone should have just called her out and let her know that was wrong it's not necessary for everyone to try to turn on her now just keep it real and let her know what's up!!