Kandi Burruss

Kandi tackles the issues of race and stereotypes on the show. 

on Jan 24, 20110

This episode was a trip. I was so irritated when we got off the bus. It was way too much drama, which continued as we got off the bus. I know a lot of people were bothered by my saying, "I told Kim you can't talk to a black woman like that," when I was referring to Kim and NeNe's argument. I wasn't being racist, I was being real. I love Kim, but Kim loves to cuss, fuss, and name call with NeNe even though she knows that if NeNe jumps on her she's not going to fight back. So my point is, why provoke her? If somebody was screaming, calling me a b----, and pointing their finger in my face I would want to fight. Now I am in no way saying NeNe is right at all. As a matter of fact, I think NeNe purposely screams with Kim because Kim is only going to talk and not physically react. But I do love the fact that Kim is a little firecracker and never backs down, even though there's the possibility she may be choked. I wouldn't let that happen though. At one point when we were in our room, I actually had to tell Kim to shut up and calm down, because if she gets jumped on then I have to get in the middle and break it up and all hell could break loose. That wouldn't be good. 

Now let me say something about this whole race thing and stereotypes. Whenever I look at all the 'Housewives' shows, I see we perpetuate a stereotype. Atlanta has a mostly African American cast, and what do we hear about black women all the time? We have attitudes and drama. You see that on this show a lot. New Jersey has an Italian-American cast, and what is the stereotype for Italians? People say they're hot heads, people try to associate them with the mafia. And what have we seen on their show? Table flipping and Danielle's ties to shady people. How about the Beverly Hills Housewives? Most people think they're rich and plastic. well they do have a plastic surgeon, they've all had a lot of botox and lip injections, and they are definitely rich! My point is that even though we all hate to be stereotyped, sometimes there is a little truth to stereotypes at least on our show. I think that's part of the reason people watch. Some people can laugh at a stereotype of themself, and some people are offended by it.

Well enough about that. I was so caught off guard when Cynthia broke out crying after I asked her about the honey moon. I felt horrible! I didn't mean to upset her. 

Lawrence does a great impression of me. I thought that was hilarious. He really brought up everybody's spirits. The trip had a bad vibe the whole time we were in the house, because NeNe kept trying to get Cynthia to leave the whole time. She really had other things to do in Miami, so I think she was doing her best to get Cynthia to leave so she could leave without looking like the problem child. Sheree, Phaedra, Lawrence, Kim, and I went out and had fun on our own. We decided we weren't going to pout and be miserable in the house with them. Lawrence made the last night with all of us turn out much better. The bad mood went away when he started making everyone laugh. 

Well check out Miss Lawrence's new song "Closet Freak" on iTunes next week! And please get my album now http://wbr.fm/KandiKoatediTunes. Follow me on Twitter @Kandi and shop online at my boutique's website www.TagsAtl.com 

Much Love,

Kandi

225 comments
puletasigirl
puletasigirl

Kandi U touched my heart with that FABULOUS song, now that's the way u need to sing all the time, from ur heart and soul. Praying the Lord provides for u in the Heart area, like u I also haven't in that area. I protect my Heart and family. God bless u. Deborah

clearvision
clearvision

oh em gee...you need to meet my son...hurry up cuz he's settle now ٩(-̮̮̃•̃)۶

vanessa gordon
vanessa gordon

Kandi i love your work,but what is going on with you taking Kim on the road,i think that Kim is doing more harm then good to your career,will people take you serious with Kim in your corner?

Gretchen Broom
Gretchen Broom

Now you realize what NeNe means when she says bad things about Kim. Kim is all about Kim she doesn't care about anyone but her self. She's cool now because she caught herself a football player. You have to realize that you can't help everyone because people like Kim will use you and walk off with all the profits.

annabel22
annabel22

hi kandi

I think you are the sweetest , kindest and most genuine person on this show. I feel so sad at how kim took advantage of your generosity in producing her singles and you never really have an unkind word to say about anybody. You are also supremely talented . I wish you all the best in every area of your life,love and best wishes, anna

Alex4Alex
Alex4Alex

Kandi,

I do not believe you were being racist and just being honest. I think that you are a strong and giving person. I do think Kim is racist and she is only nice to the blacks she knows. I do believe that Kim is full of it and will take advantage of others. I do not want she has and my friends do not want it either. She is not showing her children a good set of examples of what a woman can be and that is better than being a person trying to insure what she gets and wants from men. She likes to make situations with lies and deceit. She is lucky that Nene cannot lay a hand on her because that would be on bald monkey with not only her wig gone but her hair. You have been good to her and she will never be able to sing. Now that is being honest. Keep being you and I know that you can only get better and keep that heart close to you because it would be a sin if someone hurt it.

T-bone
T-bone

lol... That was a good one. I'm sure Kandi know's Kim can NOT sing.

BeckyD123
BeckyD123

I agree! I think Kandi is one of the best housewives on the show. She tells it like it is and she's not into the drama. I think she is very driven and has a strong personality. Just keep on being yourself and you will have no problems.

smb
smb

Kandi first of all i bwant to start off by saying i think that your the best housewife on the show.You maintain and and you don't be for all that drama the rest of them be dishing out.I see that everyone wants to make comments about you crying all the time.Don't worry about the HATERS!!!!!!!! They just mad cause they not you.They mad cuz they can't sing like you, don't have your style and couldn't play your part if thier lives depended on it. ATTENTION FOR ALL THE HATERS:Sometimes someone crying is not a sign of weakness it is a sign of a person that knows what they are capable of if they stoop down to your level but at the same time its like im just going to be a woman about the situation and keep my composure.So sometimes the tears fall because you really want to hurt that person but at the same time it's like im be a woman about the situation.I believe that's how kandi is.So stop HATIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

gapeach21
gapeach21

i love u kandi u are my favorite member and i really think u would give nene the business if it came down to it....lovin ya chick and yo music...keep up the good work....lol!

Elizabeth P.
Elizabeth P.

Kandi,

I must say, I do love the Atlanta show and all of the drama, but you are, by far, my favorite cast member. You are so talented, gorgeous and charming. You carry great equanimity within you which supersedes the pettiness. I truly believe that God created your beautiful smile to cheer himself up when so many of us are being pinheads.

As a single mother myself, I hope that my daughters can grow to find the confidence and passion to use their talents and follow their hearts like you have done.

Stacia K.
Stacia K.

I could not agree more!!!! Ooooh, and that red hair - you are too pretty to be sportin that punk do! Love u though, you are beautiful and sweet.

Tyrek
Tyrek

Kandi, you cry over every little upset. It's irritating. Woman up chicka.

Dee Pittsburgh
Dee Pittsburgh

Kandi, you were worried about a few bucks with Kim, when you have the potential to make so much more. You got the talent, but your look is all wrong. Look at Rihana, Lady Gaga, and J-low. You are a darling girl and yet your clothing never seems to work. Seems like something is stopping you from believing in yourself. There is doubt. Look at Kim..she has little talent, but she believes in herself. SHe also has good style. I wish you the best doll, but your may have to go to L A for the correct makeover.

OnlinePhD
OnlinePhD

Kandi boosted a lot of ish on the show.

ConstanceCookin'
ConstanceCookin'

Kandi, I do agree that you are very talented and a very beautiful woman, but let's for a moment discuss the stereotype that you mentioned in your blog. There is a stereotype that African-Americans are sexually promiscuous and I am not a prude by any stretch of the imagination, but when you were talking about giving head, and inserting things in your vagina, I was truly offended. This on a television station that bleeps out curse words...what a contradiction! I was watching the show on Saturday afternoon in the living room of my home and felt as though I had to watch out for my young children hearing! This should not be the case, I understand that you have a radio show (I have never heard it) that discusses sexual matters and techniques, and that is fine because people turn it on for that purpose. I do not turn on BRAVO to get sex tips. Nor do I feel that this is the proper forum for such discussion. If BRAVO was going to televise this segment a disclaimer should have been issued so that parents like me who try very hard and very diligently to protect the innocence of my children could make a decision as to watch at that time or another time when I would not have to worry about them. Again, I am no prude, but what I do with my man is my business and if I feel that help is needed I know where to find it. There are many things that we do (all of us) that a discussion is not needed like perhaps taking a dump...we all do it...do we discuss how? Most women have menstrual cycles...do we discuss how we change our tampons or pads or how often? Just that there is a time and a place for everything. Again, I do think that you are very talented, and very beautiful, but keep in mind the stereotype and our future that being our children. Much love and respect!

ConstanceP
ConstanceP

Kandi, I do agree that you are very talented and a very beautiful woman, but let's for a moment discuss the stereotype that you mentioned in your blog. There is a stereotype that African-Americans are sexually promiscuous and I am not a prude by any stretch of the imagination, but when you were talking about giving head, and inserting things in your vagina, I was truly offended. This on a television station that bleeps out curse words...what a contradiction! I was watching the show on Saturday afternoon in the living room of my home and felt as though I had to watch out for my young children hearing! This should not be the case, I understand that you have a radio show (I have never heard it) that discusses sexual matters and techniques, and that is fine because people turn it on for that purpose. I do not turn on BRAVO to get sex tips. Nor do I feel that this is the proper forum for such discussion. If BRAVO was going to televise this segment a disclaimer should have been issued so that parents like me who try very hard and very diligently to protect the innocence of my children could make a decision as to watch at that time or another time when I would not have to worry about them. Again, I am no prude, but what I do with my man is my business and if I feel that help is needed I know where to find it. There are many things that we do (all of us) that a discussion is not needed like perhaps taking a dump...we all do it...do we discuss how? Most women have menstrual cycles...do we discuss how we change our tampons or pads or how often? Just that there is a time and a place for everything. Again, I do think that you are very talented, and very beautiful, but keep in mind the stereotype and our future that being our children. Much love and respect!

wow77
wow77

you are so right..

Julissa
Julissa

I liked your new look you are just to cute! So I did watch the reunion show and I was real hurt and I felt your pain when you confronted kim with the whole money thing. You did what you had to do so just forget about it and move on I guess or think! Hopefully now that she is going to become a mother she can change and become more wise and smart. You have more talent, luck, and success in your life and future as for her I dont know what to say. I liked you this season and sheree, phaedra, and nene and kim when the 2 of them were friends but when they were changing or changed I was like what da hell mia lol! much luck and success to you! God Bless!

Let's be clear...
Let's be clear...

Let's be clear...

Kandi's tears DID NOT reflect weakness. Kandi cried openly and sincerely because her "friend" Kim -- after being confronted on-air, no less -- STILL would not admit that she knowingly and willingly did her wrong to advance her own agenda.

Bottom line: Kandi -- quite justifiably -- felt blindsighted and betrayed by the very person she built up.

Lesson to learn: When a person shows you who they are -- believe them!

Furi
Furi

WOW, NO ONE CARE TO REMEMBER THAT KANDY TOLD KIM NOT TO PAY HER!! KANDY TOLD US ALL ; SHE DECIDED NOT TO CHARGE KIM FOR HELPING HER WITH THE SONG. WHY IS IT NO ONE REMEMBERS! INCLUDING KIM.

bobbe
bobbe

Kandi on Season 2 you got real tough with NeNe and told her to get out of your face before you blow up on her. I watched season 3 and watched kim walk all over you and you did nothing but cried and behaved whimpy. Bravo should be looking for a replacement for you 2 seasons of your crying is enough!

RiAnn
RiAnn

Kandi, I agree with the comment by tara campell,

She said a mouth full and she is on "POINT".

simply the truth ~

teriza
teriza

kandi ure nut being truthful to kim.....kim cant sing plix tel her dat n stop leading her on feelyn like she is beyonce!

Isable
Isable

Hey Kandi, You are the best housewife for sure. I admire your patience with both Kim and Nene. And I think that the whole bus situation was a disrespect for you. it was YOUR Bus, YOUR tour and you were doing Kim a favor including her in it and then she bring her assistant with her!! That was just bad, if she did not like the bus she could have arrange her own transportation and rent a bus for herself. Also i think you are a genious since you were able to make her sound good because she can't sing at all. I felt for you when you said "this is going to be a long night!". You go girl you have a great career and are also a great mom. All the housewifes could learn a little (a lot) from you.

Love!

Hasina
Hasina

KIM DID NOT US KANDI. I am so tired of Kandi crying about the whole Kim situation. Kandi did Kim a favor and didn't ask her for anything. She did it on GP. So why now are you asking for money. That is like me buying my friend a lotto ticket and she wins the lotto. Than I get upset and want some of the money. Or me helping my friend out and than she makes allot of money and I'm upset. Kandi you are my favorite housewife, but this season it seems like you were allowing yourself to be caught up in the drama. Remember you fly above. Like when Nene did that whole thing to Kim on the bus. You feed into it outside and was still stirring the pot. However Kim talks to her assistant is between them. If she allows it than who cares. I still love you and always will love your music. Good luck on your sucess.

cujo
cujo

I agree 100% Patty P. Kandi and Kim both used each other. Why else would Kandi do another song for her after she stiffed her on the first song? Kandi also wanted to show everyone how she can make anyone sound good.

Kim is laughing all the way to the bank and Kandi is sitting there crying like a big baby (fool me once ...).

Yes, why is the guy who wrote "Tardy for the Party" silent on this matter??????

Housewives Lover
Housewives Lover

Absolutely LOVE Phakedra's recent comment. She is right on all counts! Toughen up Kandi, and tell Kim like it is. Why do you let her use you? She uses everybody, and you have allowed this to happen. She can't sing a note, you know it, I wonder why you would put your talents on the line for her and not even be paid? You need to wise up. I think you're the most real on the show, huge fan. I don't like seeing Kim take advantage of your good nature.

katbunny
katbunny

yeah, but where's Kandi's backbone?

katbunny
katbunny

So why does she continue to do it? Why does Kandi keep kissing Kim's butt? I'm beginning to think Kandi has a crush on Kim. Kim can not sing, not even a little, yet Kandi makes a song. Kim does not pay Kandi, but Kandi makes another song. At the reunion, Kandi sits and CRY, like a damn baby. Kandi is sadly mistaking, if she thinks she and Sheree are going to sit here and be boring.

I want Lisa back !

katbunny
katbunny

I don't think so anymore. I've lost some respect for Kandi. Why does Kandi keep kissing Kim's butt? What's up with that??

eisnauglem
eisnauglem

Hey Kandi, You are the best housewife......Not many like ya.......

tara campbell
tara campbell

Im just going to tell you the truth...you sing well, but your new album sucks. Honeslty, there will never be another Mary J. so lets get that understood and Im just putting that out there. And you are fake to just like Sheree, because you sat there on the reunion show and acted like you and your bus riders didnt have alot to say about Kim to. That's a shame! Just be real at the end of the day is all I can say.

Patty P
Patty P

DID THE PERSON WHO WROTE THE SONG "TARDY FOR THE PARTY" MAKE ANY MONEY ON THIS SONG? WE KNOW KIM DIDN'T EVEN THINK ENOUGH OF KANDI TO PAY HER WHAT SHE IS WORTH.

ALSO, EVERYONE KEEPS ON KIM ABOUT HOW SHE DID KANDI WRONG AND DON'T GET ME WRONG I AM WITH YOU ALL ON THAT POINT BUT KANDI NEEDED KIM ON HER TOUR. KIM FOR SOME ODD REASON MAKES PEOPLE COME BACK FOR MORE. JUST LISTEN TO THE AUDIENCE WHEN SHE COMES ON STAGE. I BELIEVE KANDI KNEW SHE NEEDED SOMEONE LIKE KIM TO GET THE AUDIENCE ATTENTION OTHERWISE I DON'T KNOW IF KANDI'S TOUR WOULD HAVE BEEN SO SUCCESSFUL.

Diaspora
Diaspora

Greeting Kandi,

You have a beautiful spirit sista...Blessed Love

HousewifeFan@54
HousewifeFan@54

Kandi,

No matter what the situation is you continue to handle it with class. You know when to walk away and get yourself together without directing anger to anyone in your way. You are an awesome role model for your daughter.

UNH GRAD
UNH GRAD

Hey Kandi, My comment comes right out of left field so bear with me. Would you ever be willing to do one on Joni Mitchell's balads? 'Help Me' is a great song and I would LOVE to hear you do something really interesting with it. Your voice is really unique and as an older listener, I'd really like to see someone with an R&B background do something like that. Hope you can surprise old folks like me with something really cool soon!

shalee
shalee

Remember Kim doesn't have any talent..Kandi does..and like she said, "Raise Your Hand If You have a grammy...I think Kim's appeal is her Frederick's of Hollywood look.

Phakedra
Phakedra

Kandi why didn't you say all of this on the reunion show? you sat next to Kim and cried like a 2 year old. i like you, but you need to keep it real and straight. tell Kim to her face..and let the chips fall where they may. stop showing all your teeth and acting like you have to add frosting to all of your comments.Not rude, per say. But to the point. Kim can’t sing..yet you smile and record her thousands of dollars. lol Kim talks to sweetie real crazy, yet you downsize it to a minimal, non chalant, oh well, remark. Kim is cool peeps, but being friends with her is gonna require tough skin like nene’s. not pushover tandrums. Kim is street smat, flip mouth,, and a little sneaky. She’ll use you and fail to see the harm…because it helped her in the end. You cliing to her because she is white and maybe u want a white bff? But either way, just remember, that any woman that sleeps with a married man and depicts it on tv,without any concern for the wife is bold. She is so good at it until she ended up looking like the victim because Papa wouldn’t marry her. Unbelievable, And to put the frosting on the cake..you help her out by writing “the ring didn’t mean a thing”. Ah ha ha. Girl,she is not the victim, the wife is. Lol lol lol she is clueless. Her morals have left the building. Dn’t get caught up,Kandi. You look weak. See ya next season.

DIVASTYLE1
DIVASTYLE1

Prosperity113, do you really think that Kandi or anyone (not law enforcement) can make adults do anything? Please give me a break; Kim brings just as much drama as Nene, Kandi's daughter was at home, she did not need to police anybody.

DIVASTYLE1
DIVASTYLE1

Kandi, you are my favorite Atlanta housewife! I love your CD, I play it every day! You trust God and he will direct a good man to you. I have to say, you were dead on when you stated "You can't speak to African American women a certain way." I am always amazed by individuals who mistakenly believe because African Americans can purchase homes, cars, and other material things that "we have overcome," and want to pretend race is not an issue in the United States, you can look no further than President Barack Obama (Not Obama), individual's just don't want to give the respect in speaking his title correctly. In the history of our country, no other American President's wife has had people make derogatory statements about them, which are disrespectful, simply because (First Lady Michele Obama) stated our children should eat healthy; since when has eating healthy been a problem? In our country, 97% of juveniles stopped by law enforcement are Caucasian, yet the incarcerated population is African American, this is due to differential treatment. I could present further, but I won't, I do not care what your nationality is, OPEN YOUR EYES!

Viewer 55
Viewer 55

Kandi stayed prayed up and positive and stay away from the user Kim!!!!

Dinorin
Dinorin

Kandi, You are fabulous and ao talented. It is true that we don't see your relationship with Kim outside the camera but Kim seems so draining. And if anyone is a tick on the show, that will be Kim. She has only used your talents and then feels like she shouldn't pay you for your service. Please stop making music for her she STINKS.

sammrn
sammrn

Kandi, please explain to me how on earth you are still friendly with Kim. Kim is a user, she will use anyone or anything that will bring income into that home of hers. She tried to pretend like she did not understand Andy's question about who was more valuable to Tardy For the Party, when she had already said on the show that the artist should make more money. Clearly, she is no friend, she is going behind your back trying to make side bets with your producers. Please show her better than you can ever tell her that you are not the one. Give the song to someone that can sing it, afford it, and will appreciate it. See how far her career will go without you. At that point, I bet she will bring some money to the table. Drop that dead meat, she is poison, and you know no other producer, i.e. Dallas Austin, would even give Kim the time of day.

flowers01
flowers01

Kandi I really like you and the other girls but I was very disappointed at the way you guys treat NENE who would have any one of your backs in a heart beat. More than I can say for kim. How can you be so naive to think kim is your friend. She has gone behind your back so many times and you just seem to blow it off and accept her deception. kim IS NOT YOUR FRIEND. kim is a user and she has proved that to her black women are sweeties.

Gemma Stone
Gemma Stone

The truth is an offensive -Candy was right Kim has no right, she wants to give it but she cannot take the consequences. We have a cultural way of dealing with things and sorry white folks we aint all the same. This black and white thing comes up too often. Becuse some folks do not like the idea that we have differnt rules in our society and you cannot be a part of it unless you have the right color skin boo hoo - sorry ist life and happens all over the world. nobody said it was perfect its just a reality. Stop crying about. Kim is out of order.

nicii
nicii

Kandi You and Cynthia always keep it real. I noticed that the other ladies, except Cynthia, always brag about what they are wearing, how much it cost...blah blah blah. I would bet my last breath that you probably have more $ than all of them together. I fell out of my seat when Ne NE and Kim had on the same shoes. As for Kim, unless you have a grand plan for pay back leave that Vegas hoe alone! She could care less about how she betrayed you.