Cast Blog: #RHOA

Dance in the Rain

Cynthia on Her Drama-Free Trip

Has Kenya Found Love?

Claudia: Kordell was Barely Flirting

Kenya on NeNe's "Embarrassing" Behavior

Claudia: "These Double Standards are Killing Me"

Kandi: "I'm Not Two-Faced"

Phaedra: I Appreciated Demetria's Apology

Are Demetria and Phaedra Cool?

NeNe on Her Apology

Cynthia: Claudia Can Read with the Best of Them

Claudia: NeNe's Behavior Needed to Be Checked

Kenya on "The Beasts"

Phaedra: Demetria Took Things Too Personally

GIF Recap: Lessons in Reading

Phaedra's Ignorant Comments

Claudia: I'm Not Surprised by NeNe's Ugly Demeanor

Kenya: NeNe Doesn't Want to Like Me

Cynthia: I'm Moving Forward in Grace and Love

Kandi: "I Wasn't Trying to Set Demetria Up"

Phaedra on Being Recognized by the Bar

NeNe: "I'm Not a Fake Friend"

Demetria Responds to the Rumors

Cynthia: Forgiveness is a Process

Phaedra: My Mother is My Rock

Kenya: "An Acknowledgement is Not an Apology"

Claudia: I Do Not Own a Flip Phone

Cynthia: It Was Awkward Seeing Phaedra Uncomfortable

Demetria: I Have No Beef with Kenya

NeNe Explains the Wig

Phaedra: I Was Hoping Apollo Wouldn't Create a Scene

Kenya's Not Interested in Roger Bobb

Claudia: "I'm the Samantha of the Group"

Kenya: Cynthia Commanded the Runway

Phaedra: You Don't Often Come Across Hair Burglary

Cynthia: "I Pray We Can Make Peace"

Claudia: I Could Relate to Cynthia's Insecurities

Cynthia's "Non-Conversation" with NeNe

NeNe: The Pit Bull Act is Not a Good Look

Kenya: If It Looks Like a Fraud...

Phaedra: "I Moved Past This Years Ago"

Dance in the Rain

Phaedra talks about relationships and regrets.

As I am packing to travel abroad for the next few weeks, I am feeling rushed, anxious, and am having writer's block.  So, please forgive me for my brevity this week. Tonight's episode centers around relationships and the struggles that most of us encounter while in them.

Relationships are an important part of life. When they are healthy, they can be satisfying, provide protection, stability, and prevent loneliness. Unfortunately, even the best relationships can often be very painful. Sheree is going on a third date. Nene is having marital problems. Kandi grapples with the relationship between her daughter and her daughter's father as well as her own relationship with her father. Kandi relies on her mother's strength and maternal wisdom for support and guidance. The wisdom of Mrs. Joyce, Kandi's mother, is evident as she delivers the most poignant advice of this episode, "You only have one life ... I would give myself a chance to have a life."  This statement resonated in my mind, because I think sometimes we forget that life is about taking chances; knowing when to go, but also knowing when to stay. 

While no one can live without any regrets, we all deserve to be happy and to enjoy our lives. Our experiences, whether bad or good, build our character and shape who we are as individuals. I would not be where I am or who I am today if it were not for those character building situations that some of us consider "regrettable." Mistakes are stepping stones to an evolving life. Ultimately, life is not about waiting for the storms to pass, it's about learning how to dance in the rain. 

Xoxo,

Phaedra