Phaedra Parks

Phaedra's excited to be blogging and explains her comments about Sheree.

on Oct 4, 20100

 

Today marks two "firsts" for me: my first season on the show and my first blog. Just as an obituary can't fully capture the essence of one's life, neither can 12 minutes of a 46 minute episode show who I am. But, in an effort to give you more insight on who Phaedra is, I will tell you that I am most proud of being a mother, wife, daughter, sister, and friend. 

After watching Episode 1, three subjects immediately came to mind: dispute resolution, disappointment, and friendship. In life, everyone will face these three matters, however, the true measure of one's character will depend on how you address the disappointment and how you work towards effective dispute resolution. Ultimately, how you manage disappointment and disputes will determine the level and types of friendships you are able to attract and maintain. This experience has made me realize that some of the most important lessons that I will learn in life surround friendship.  

In this episode, Dwight expresses to me his disappointment with Sheree. In an effort to support and be empathetic, I made a sweeping judgement about Sheree. I added my two cents because I wanted to be a good friend and give him the support he needed. I didn't really know Sheree, but I do know that there are two sides to every story. After seeing the episode, I called Sheree and discussed it with her, because now we are friends, and as friends, I wanted her to hear my frame of thought at that time and most importantly I didn't want to offend her. My Mother always taught me that, "If your brother does something wrong, go, confront him when the two of you are alone. If he listens to you, you have won back your brother." Matt. 18:15

132 comments
Tee Brown
Tee Brown

Phaedra, I just want to say you keep it real girl. I crack up at some of your comments when the housewives make individual statements on the side. Keep doing what you do!!

tanya biggs
tanya biggs

LOVE LOVE LOVE Phaedra...you are an amazing women,classy n sassy.. I love how you carry yourself on the streets. You should have been in RHOA from season 1,cause at the moment,you make the show so much more interesting..

Lena Tee
Lena Tee

OMG!!! Redickulous was totally ridiculous! It was so outrageous, all I could do was laugh, laugh, laugh, until I was in tears. The guests facial expressions, while viewing the stripper went from surprise, shock and then horror, all in one moment. It was hilarious to me. Candy will never forget her 35th birthday. Phaedra you pulled out all the stops on this one. The angelic expression on your face, after it was all over was indeed priceless. It doesn't really matter what everyone else thought about it because it was a gift to Candy.

Linda Irving
Linda Irving

Phaedra, you are the most enterprising, intelligent, thoughtful, well mannered woman. You deserve the best, you are such good friend to the others. I especially love the entrepreneurial ideas you have! The funeral home/boutique is an astounding idea. Set up the model and franchise it. Next the stripper at candi's birthday party. This little Jewish woman from Connecticut and married 30 years, totally got aroused, shall we say. I adore your creativity. Women need this to loosen up. They act they are parading around hot and bothered and yet have provided lovely entertainment for women who love good hard bodies. Especially, at 62 keeping the sex lively, well loosening up, laughing, fantasizing, the ultimate! Your male offerings have been very appreciated. Thank you for such a great episode with guys in Miami and now the party. This is loving, expressing, letting go of the facade and let it take you. You are fantastic. I watch Atlanta housewives to only see your great ideas, fashion, elegance and wonderful presence. Keep it up Phaedra, live your style it's top notch

Tricia Ann
Tricia Ann

Phaedra, I like your style. you keep the show from being boring. you always look pretty and well put together. Do you girl! Did you ever think about asking Kandi to do something for your client the young lady that was in Destiny Child.

You and Kandi would make a good team, the both of you have proven track records to support this. Phaedra you Kandi and Cynitha are truly amazing Black Women, educated and making it happen for yourselves.

All I can say is that you are refreshing and full of life, don't change.

monotony
monotony

Awesome person!! LOVE YAAh

iMmE
iMmE

LOL! too funny. Everybody has something to say about what you have to say..they call you judgemental or condescending when they know they have been that way once or twice in their lives..yours is just being captured on film. PLeease...I think you are hilarious and well educated. They think just because you have degrees you aren't normal like my goodness you have a life outside of your degrees. Whatever! Do you and stay you. Your blogs are well thoughtout and well put together...you seem like a person of much wisdom and great character...with a twist of humor...which is a good thing. i like that your mom is a pastor and you respect the ways of your upbringing. Aiden is Adorable and Apollo is fine. DO YO THANG...im not mad at you.

joejoe_no1
joejoe_no1

And in your blog, you say that you were trying to support Dwight and made a sweeping comment about Sheree. Then you called her to hear her side of the story. You have to remember what you said. You said, "She doesn't have any money." What was that about? Dwight doesn't have any money. He is hanging with you because he wants to be part of the RHWA. First he was friends with NeeNee, now you. Please learn to read between the lines.

joejoe_no1
joejoe_no1

Phedra, Kandy spoke so kindly of you on Andy Cohen's show. So I have to believe that you are not yourself on the show. You are not coming off as being a wonderful person on the show. You were invited to someone's house after you said to her fiance's face that you wanted a "clean" man. Someone said, "Maybe that is all she could afford." Its not a cheap home. It is in the city, and older home that has been updated and the neighborhood has changed from an ignored part of the city to an updated and upper class neighborhood. It was not selected with you in mind. You constantly talk about yourself. I never see any friends. I've seen friends for all the other housewives, but not you. Is it because you don't have any friends? And because you are the judemental character that you are, you have brought negative attention to your husband who has only shown that he is a nice guy. People are not reallry judging him, they are judging you because you act like you are so above everything and everybody. Phedra, tone it down. You showed that you can be a regular, chill girl at Cynthia's Mother's Day dinner. You relaxed and became a real person. Show that part of yourself - not this fake, insecure person you have shown yourself to be. Much love.

Chicago, Il
Chicago, Il

Well Phaedra, let me start by saying you are definitely lacking something in your life or when you were a child when you constantally talk about your degrees and stuff you are lacking something that you want to feel more superior. To be honest you have all these degrees and you can't speak english correctly for example it is I do not want a man/husband that has children from a previous woman......you say babbies momma's what language is that. When you went to Cindy's house for Mothers day you were saying on the way in her house something to the effect that her house was the hood that was made the suberbs something to that effect....lets say that is 100% true, why did you have to bring it up??? did you ever think that is all she could afford, one thing you should REALLY listen to is the NY housewive Lou Ann her song money can't buy you class, becasue you are 100% classless.......I mean those diamonds on your eyelashes.........MAJOR GHETTO.........YOU ARE GHETTO with money low class and your husband is a X con.......I mean did you think twice before you did the show and say this might not be a good idea for me to do the show becasue now the ENTIRE world knows my husbands situation......oh an by the way your marriage will not last even though he is a con.....he seems very genuine something you are not.....he will dump you GUARANTEED give it a year more or so........and lean to speak correctly you are a lawyer and sound like a ghetto girl from the hood that never finished HS........

Msmona
Msmona

I second your comment! Phedra bashes everyone and that screams insecurity!! Phedra you really make it hard to like you and I hope this is just an act for tv.

ViewerJ Pep
ViewerJ Pep

Being condescending is not classy. I love that everything wrong with Apollo is because he was raised in a "white" family. Sorry girlie but you don't have the corner on class and good taste because you were raised in a proper manner. Do you think white families eat at IHOP all day and let their children run rough shod all over the place? Think again. Put down the attitude and take a look at yourself.

crys c
crys c

I really do not know what to say about you. I love the fact that you are a proud black woman but listening to the way you speak of others makes me wonder if you are truly happy with yourself. Only people who are unhappy with themselves find it necessary to bash others.

cyndylou
cyndylou

PHAEDRA, PHAEDRA, PHAEDRA, YOU KNOW WHEN YOU ARE BEING CONDESCENDING, AND PATRONIZING, YOU ARE AN INTELLIGENT WOMAN, AND AS A CHILD OF GOD, TRY TO BE HUMBLE, THE FALL FROM GRACE IS A LONG WAY DOWN, CASE IN POINT STAR JONES, AND A LONG LIST OF OTHERS, BE PROUD OF YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS, YOU CAN DO THAT WITHOUT PUTTING OTHER PEOPLE DOWN, WE DO NOT KNOW YOU, WE ARE REACTING TO WHAT YOU SAY, AND LOOKING AT YOUR FACIAL EXPRESSIONS , BLESS YOUR HEART.

ruby red
ruby red

I think I'm going to like Phaedra. I really like her class (with a pinch) of hood. I really really miss Deshawn Snow, girlfriend oozed with class and respect. I think she really really represented how a "TRUE" ATL h/w and lady should have been viewed. Phaedra is bringing a differenty type of class, but it's positive class nonetheless. To you Phaedra, just don't look down your nose to the other ladies. Perhaps you can teach them to tone it down the ghetto a little, and get a tune up on how graciously command respect. You just may be ny new Deshawn. Kudos to you.

andypandy77ful
andypandy77ful

Just a little food for thought...u might want to be careful how you portray yourself on t.v. because u might end up with a sinking career when all is said & done.....apparently reputation, occupation & class mean alot in your line of work & you don't want to look like a classless "southern belle" now do you?........

Bronze71
Bronze71

I hope this is not a double post.

I love seeing these ladies on TV. Because day-time TV is bombarded with big black DRY looking women who just make me run to the gym. These ladies are fashionable and on point. Phedra doesn't have to spell correctly....this is not National Geographic Map Finding contest. She passed the bar and is putting her money where her Dior is. That is all that matters.

Bronze71
Bronze71

Speak for yourself. I was a hater but I love seeing fashionable black ladies that are not fat. That alone is refreshing.

southernbelleblaqbarbie
southernbelleblaqbarbie

Honey If you Found LOVE then I say go for it most of these women with an issuse of who your husband is are most likley SINGLE!!!! Good for you I've said for years All the Good men are Locked up...I find it funny that they have passed judgement on the man and don't know him. I caught the statement u made in the 1st show "it's no differnet than Martha Stewart so i thought white collar crime. Oh well im done on a side note Tone down those eye shadows make up is to enhance u looking a lil Wendy williams...and how u doing lol ttyl

StashaD
StashaD

Spoken like a real lady. I am no one to judge anyone and we will see if your words hold true as the episodes come and go. I cannot make any decisions on who a person is based on a TV show. Ppl are on here judging you and I feel unfairly when behind closed doors when there are no cameras, we ourselves behave the same way or even worse. You seem to be a classy lady, more than at least one other on the show. Be you and give a care less about the rest.

New additions not housewives
New additions not housewives

I am not so much replying to your post but the new additions are not housewives either. One is not married and the other is a lawyer. Ie has a job outside the house ie a career. Housewives stay home.

radcat38
radcat38

Effectation is not class. But you and your husband and your relationship is your business and no one elses. Just like other people's business is not your business. Goes both ways. The judgement on you is still on hold...

Graham316
Graham316

Decision of character is one of the most important of human qualities. Just because one has a college degree doesn't mean they possess effective articulation, true eloquence consists in saying all that should be, and not all that could be said. Where there is much pretention, much has been borrowed; nature NEVER pretends. Whether you have a degree nor not you should strive use correct grammar.

My expectation is for all the ladies to be respectable; We do not need to view 60 minutes of quarrelsome and testy ladies as weekly " Entertainment".

Kimmi206
Kimmi206

LOVE YOU, thank God they have a educated black women on t.v thank you

i cant' wait to keep watching what will happen next.

Kimmi

youcan'thandlethetruth
youcan'thandlethetruth

that's the thing some people would rather have a man at ANY cost, even bringing an convict with a long history into their homes. Ask yourself, if he had "real legitmate" options would he be with you?

My brother is a convict with a long history of felonies because of a substance abuse problem, so he would be unable to secure any kind of good job or move into a nice apartment complex because of his criminal background. As soon as he was released from jail he went on blacksinglesdotom and found himself a woman (victim) to take care of him, because without her, he would have been homeless. Sound familiar.

TupeloHoney in St. Louis
TupeloHoney in St. Louis

Phaedra,

I think I'm going to like the "flavor" you bring to this show. I like your style,class and how you represent, most of the time. I saw on the previews that Kim's asks "how does a lawyer marry a criminal?". I know you have more class in your little finger than Kim has in her whole body....but just stoop to her level once and ask her "How does a woman walk around saying she's engaged to a man who is married?".

Bravoella
Bravoella

The verdict is in on Apollo.. you just weren't in court at the time!!!!

Go head girl!!
Go head girl!!

You are my new FAV!!! You are making your own money, smart and very educated. What a wonderful inspiration u are. Seriously!!

genuine
genuine

Not a nice comment,she looks very nice. There is always somebody with something negative to say.

DeeKee
DeeKee

Phaedra, Just let the haters hate. I wish you and your husband all the best that GOD has to offer you.

NYC Girl
NYC Girl

My Verdict Is Still Pending With You Ms. Parks, I believe in supporting friends, but you jumped to many conclusions based on one person's remarks, and in return said some harsh things with out hearing all sides of the story, isn't that what a Lawyer is suppose to do, the answer is YES. I know it's entertaining and reality tv but you jumped too many conclusions, to fast - Just My Opinion... Like I said Pending Verdict, We will just have to wait and see!

Sherry J.
Sherry J.

I have to agree with a comment made by Georgie Will on Oct 7th when he quoted: "Southern Belle? Hmm. When I think of a southern belle I don't think of a lady that gossips (in public) or someone that would talk down about anyone else (in public). When you apply that title to yourself, you have to be very careful how you represent said title." End quote. You compared "southern" women against "women of the world" negatively but I am thinking, what makes you different from any other woman in other states? (Hence, comment above by Georgie). I believe in women being confident, but being "cocky" is a total different story. I am a successful black woman who owns a successful online retail store earning a six-digit salary. I always maintain my cool however: meaning, I never forget where I came from and don't look down on anyone because I used to be in the same position long ago. I'm only a human who may be in a better place than another, but we all bleed just the same. You can hide behind all the glam and high profile friends you maintain. However, if the glam and money was taken away, how many of your "existing" friends will actually remain? If that's the life you like, then God Bless you. I think you need to reevaluate yourself and take a good look in the mirror. It isn't pretty.

Bravoella
Bravoella

can you say "Star Jones"... you all drink at the same river.. de- nile.

casha
casha

Phaedra, I want you to know that you have the most class out of all of the Atlanta Housewives. The comment that Ne Ne made about you being "less than fabulous" was outrageous. Who made her judge? I would recommend staying away from her because I feel she is nothing but a bully and all Kim and Sheree do is follow right behind her. I highly respect you for your manners, schooling, career, being a mother and last having all your ducks in a row. Take care Phaedra and congratulations to you and your husband on the birth of your daughter!

Kara T.
Kara T.

This is a very noble and selfless comment Rosha! Yes, Phaedra can you at least look into this case and ask friends to help this guy out. BTW: Phaedra is an entertainment lawyer not criminal defense.

leeza
leeza

I agree; and you know what else? Class isn't announced by the wearer; true class is shown in the way you walk, talk, and most classy women are very humble and if they're comfortable in their skin.....they definitely don't have to be on a reality tv show........

leeza
leeza

I totally agree with you. Also, when one is successful, humble, and truly a southern belle, they are not boastful, envious, or jealous of others; and neither do they need to blow their own horn. Class and tact go hand in hand and when you're classy you don't have to announce it-IT announces you.

Georgia peach
Georgia peach

I think you have too much class to be seen with NeNe, Kim, or Sheree. They are trying to get where you are.

Bravoella
Bravoella

Lip gloss is not your friend.

Bravoella
Bravoella

No lip gloss or bright colors for your lips. All I can see is your lips!!!!

Unguilty Pleasure
Unguilty Pleasure

I agree with the first part of this comment, I have many family members that are from the South (including my older sister), and no true born self respecting Southerner would come across like that anymore than they would use instant grits. It is human to talk about other people, who and what else is the topic of most conversation, however, knowing that you are on a show that is going to be broadcasted nationwide the question still remains, why did it take until seeing that first episode to reach out to your "friend"? Especially when you already knew that you had said it with in front of a camera crew???? I'm not trying to be hard on Phaedra, but isn't apart of keeping it real being up front from jumpstreet? Just my two cents.

lulubean
lulubean

Do you get it, White Collar Crime = Martha Stewart

mya
mya

elegantly put mrs. parks

Sunserae214
Sunserae214

Phedra,

My advice is to stay away from Dwinght... I doubt he could really afford your services and is already causing trouble... If you are really a southern belle as you say, the last thing you would be doing is gossiping on NATIONAL TELEVISION about someone you do not know. I understand that validating your friend is important, but to what extent??? Good luck

S. Dallas, TX

cynthia50
cynthia50

Welcome ,

Phadera, I love you and yes, you are a Southeren Belle. I like your style and do not let those no man having Housewives tell you shit about your man!!! get tuff sistah. Because when Ne,Ne and her follower Sheree, get in your face SLAP EM!!! love the whole baby look they are Jealous. I do hope you stay on. Take Care