Today marks two "firsts" for me: my first season on the show and my first blog. Just as an obituary can't fully capture the essence of one's life, neither can 12 minutes of a 46 minute episode show who I am. But, in an effort to give you more insight on who Phaedra is, I will tell you that I am most proud of being a mother, wife, daughter, sister, and friend.
After watching Episode 1, three subjects immediately came to mind: dispute resolution, disappointment, and friendship. In life, everyone will face these three matters, however, the true measure of one's character will depend on how you address the disappointment and how you work towards effective dispute resolution. Ultimately, how you manage disappointment and disputes will determine the level and types of friendships you are able to attract and maintain. This experience has made me realize that some of the most important lessons that I will learn in life surround friendship.
In this episode, Dwight expresses to me his disappointment with Sheree. In an effort to support and be empathetic, I made a sweeping judgement about Sheree. I added my two cents because I wanted to be a good friend and give him the support he needed. I didn't really know Sheree, but I do know that there are two sides to every story. After seeing the episode, I called Sheree and discussed it with her, because now we are friends, and as friends, I wanted her to hear my frame of thought at that time and most importantly I didn't want to offend her. My Mother always taught me that, "If your brother does something wrong, go, confront him when the two of you are alone. If he listens to you, you have won back your brother." Matt. 18:15
As far as baby names go, yours is about as far out there as any. I'm glad you're wanting to go traditional.
Phaedra your right we really don't know you yet and I think we all look forward to the new season. I just wish we didn't have to hear how Fabulous you are from you. Give us a chance to see Fabulous!!!!!!!!!!!!
I like you; you seem classy and wise and sincere. I think some of your interviews come off as a little phony, but I realize that as a professional and already public figure, you have to watch what you say and how you say it. Good luck this season. I PRAY these sometimes-crazy ladies don't bring you down. And big congrats on your marriage and family! ~Lia
First I would like to say congratulations on your baby. I watched the first episode and already the gossip is flying. I understand your position and the support that you want to offer to your friends ....On the outside looking in "IF SOMEBODY GIVES YOU ANY INFORMATION DONOT REPEAT IT". This doesn't make for good TV but atleast your name will not be attached to anything.... Lisa is not participating in this season somebody has to be the voice of reason...:)
Phaedra, I love you already. Keep blogging and I am glad you reached out to Sheree. That's how grown-ups conduct themselves. I look forward to seeing and hearing more from you.
Phaedra, I absolutely love you already. I hope that during this season you can show people (through your actions) how to maintain a cool head, resolve conflicts, and be classy without being snobbish or pretentious. Also congrats on motherhood, I'm sure you'll make a great mom.
Phaedra, Thank you for taking the time to write a blog. I feel totally enlighten by your explanations of dispute resolution, disappointment, and friendship. I pray you will have a brilliant season on the show while always keeping God first. Take Care and I look forward to watching and support you, and reading more of your blog.
Keep it classy and I love your attitude. This show the last few seasons have shown African American women in a bad light. And it is hurts me to my stomach how some of these women have portrayed themselves. Please be my light at the end of the tunnel and show that all Black women are not GHETTO and LOUD.
Thanks, from one classy woman to another.
Phaedra you are darling. Liked right away your mix of smart, sense of calm/cool/collected (ccc) and pretty fashion sense. You do not look plain to moi. NeNe and Kim could use a dose of plain (and some good brassieres)! BVH:)
Phaedra, you are a very intelligent woman ,and damn the comments about ur hubby! congrats on ur baby, and whatever name u choose it will be perfect. As far as the show please don't be phoney. U being a lawyer for the high profile is great but remeber when we see GOD all that all down here doesn't matter. And those shoes at the show was awwwwwwwwwful~!!! Sorry everyone pays too much for ugly shoes!!!! I'm happy a sista was doing it but come on it could of been better!!! Follow Jimmy Choos, and hell even Victoria Secret was better than that! But Phaedra you are cute ,and ur man is fine. Just please stay real!! We love ya on the show!!!!
Phaedra, Welcome to the show. You sure have a lot of class and I hope you can stand above the rest of these women. Although I just love NeNe, she can get out of hand. I look forward to seeing how you handle this group of women...
I really enjoyed last night's show. Thank you for bringing some class to the show. I look forward to seeing how you handle this group of women. Although, I truly enjoy NeNe, she can get loud and crazy... enjoy the ride
Phaedra - you are a CLASS ACT! with a twist of unexpected humor. I hope you realize that you are going to have some true, genuine, "haters" right? Let them "hate" just as long as you continue to 'represent" beautiful, strong, successful black women.
i thank u phadra for ur blogs although i do see cattiness in u also u started off speakin bad about nene an u say u knw her frm long ago but i bet if people were to dig up ur past they would say different too. now we knwu r a big time lawyer but we also knw tht u r not as souther belle an sweet as u proclaim lets keep it real u knw ur man is wit u for the $$$ i went to high school lwith him so i knw lol...an also to each is it own u can mold him to b whteva u want money does buy love i c... every1 on the show has issues an in a matter of time it will definitly come out im just upset casue who says yall women r the representation of atlanta i think not!!!!
I don't know you, but I like you already. I like your confidence for both you and your union husband. I just read an article and you explained a little about your husbands past. I appreciate that fact that you didn't hold that against him and still continued to love him and marry him. Especially since you are a well known attorney. Maybe, someone could learn from you during this season. God Bless!!
Welcome to the Show Phaedra. Congrats on your new baby i wish you and your family well may god bless you. I really looking forward in seeing you do your thing. Cause you are look FIERCE!!!!!
Funny how you & NeNe are both from Athens but you two are as different as day & night. Its like country mouse & city mouse. Guess that just shows what a little education can do for someone huh? I'm looking forward to what you bring to the show this season. Congrats on the baby!! Motherhood is a true joy!
LOL, here we go with the "lovefest". The jury is still out for me on you but I do admire that you are a successful, professional woman doing her own thing and props to you. I guess it just bothers me when one appears to be a little snobbish and conceited. A "lady" doesn't do that. but hey, if that's you, do it. I don't see you being a solution to any problems on this show, LOL.
Congrats on your little blessing!!
I don't know if you rushed to judge Sheree or you had already taken sides. There is no doubt that drama follows Dwight. If you had seen any of last seasons episodes you would have known that Dwight thrives on drama. It is a little early for you to be forming opinions on people you know nothing about. As far as NeNe is concerned I think her outburst is a sign of what we have to look forward to. So, buckle up it is going to be a bumpy ride!
You sounds very wise. I have to apologize, after watching the first show, I thought you were going to be like the rest of the females. Most of them don't seem to have much substance or great character. But your blog displays a person who is intelligent and thoughtful in arriving at your conclusions. The rest of the women should learn from you. This looks like it's going to be another season of petty arguments and a lot of yelling. Welcome to the show.
I admire you as a professional, but sweetie, you are not a Southern belle, cannot be one, and why would you want to be one? Some of my cousins are, God help me! I would hope you are smarter, better educated, and less superficial than that! Don't be a wannabe, embrace who you are, which is fabulous!
Well Well Well, I liked what I saw on last nights show. You tend to come off a little snobby, but it was all good with me. At least you can boast about it and its true, unlike NeNe she is out there. If my husband was an Ex-con and looked like yours honey child please I would not care either. Beware of the haters and I do think Dwight is lying a little bit. Just a little. Luv Ya girl
Hi, I really admire you. You're so accomplished, classy, and mature. Besides Kandi, I really like you. Please don't let the other ladies change your personaility. Keep doing you!!!!
Welcome to the cast of season 3 of RHOA. I think you're a worthy addition and you have already proven you can more than hold your own amidst a cast of strong personalities. I very much enjoyed reading your insightful blog and appreciated your comments about friendship, disputes and disappointment. That being said, please accept the accept the the following friendly words of advice about future blog entries: (1) if you can avoid it, please don't refer to yourself in the third person, I think that's universally perceived as something reserved for the pathologically self-centered. (2) Forgive me if I'm misquoting you but towards the beginning of your blog you referred to not being able to get to know someone based on 12 out of 46 minutes of airtime. Now, you didn't actually count your minutes of airtime, did you? "No, she didn't," as Bethanny would say. But, yes, you must've. I think it's one thing for you do in the privacy of your own head but putting it in writing, hmm, I think it's fair to say that even the most self-obsessed wouldn't. Just saying. (Now, I'm having too much fun)
Greeting's Lady Phaedra, I happen to like your style myself and think you are real people, but don't think you should have came in dissed Nee-Nee like that, why don't us sistah's ever stick together sometimes on sometime, and at this point it look like Nee-Nee Leaks, need a friend right about now, and we all no she is not going to find it in Kim, Kim is sweet shes just mixes up, and need some time to think about her image, maybe need a character adjustment. Well guess this all TV tho, well blessings to you & husband and your new baby. I' m sure you'll do well with this knew found project.
i would like to say that you have your a-game on and you are a very intelligent,and smart woman and i admire that keep doing what you are doing and no matter what people say nothing is given to you.You must earn it and you have!
Right on...I completely agree with you. Conceited people are a huge turn off. If you have to announce that you are so wonderful all the time then maybe there is some underlying insecuriies.. What ever happend to modesty.. You can be confident without being conceited.
Congrads on the new baby.
I liked your blog. Thank you for taking the time to write so we can better understand and get to know you better.
Why would you do a reality show? A woman of your profession would pass up the opportunity to be on a reality show called "Housewives". I think this show will question your creditability of a professional attorney. You really should be honest on why you are doing the show with your fans. Only then will we appreciate your contributions to the "Housewives"
I was married for 23 years to a man who was not honest. He never got charged with anything and never went to jail. However, I could not stay with him as I did not want people to think I was the way he was. My parents were as honest as the day was long and they did what they said they would do. I am just saying, be careful. All the love I had for him did not help in the end as I lost respect and admiration for him. I also did not want my three sons to think that the way he acted was ok. I don't know the half of what he did, but I know that he took advantage of people and always looked out for himself first. Good luck.
You hit this right on the head girl. This was my first impression of you (Phaedra):
"All that glitters, is really not gold". Be real and true to yourself and just because you a lawyer doesn't mean you have to judge everybody (you are not God).
Phaedra congratulations with success story life I'm especially proud of you because I knew you would one day reach this storybook place that we often visualized as teenager's growing up as close family friends. I never thought you would be a mother congrat's, I betcha Regina is a proud grandmother. I been following your legal career and remember when you were studying for the bar exam. I wasn't surprised when you took the old ladies case because our abundant life taught us to be respectful and not to judge other's. Continue keeping god first and he'll direct your footsteps.
Phaedra welcome to season 3. Im with the other views, wanting to know WHY did you choose to be on this show? Being that your a professional attorney and all..... what ill say is dont let them drag you, just because you trying to protect your image as a PROFESSIONAL, leave before that happens please...
Welcome to RHOA Phaedra. I've been a fan before you were even asked to do the show. When I found out that you were going to be a part I knew that you were going to present yourself the way you have and it is much appreciated. Not that anyone needs to relay this to you, but who are we to judge your marriage? If it works, it works! All of our stories and lives are different and not everyone will agree and or be a supporter of our marriage, relationships, let alone choices in life. If he is the man for you and you're the woman for him then your marriage will work and grow. Professionally, you know what were doing so you already counted the cost and assessed the risks. The both of you seem happy and if that is the case then I am happy that you are doing you and ignoring what everyone else has to say. He's paid his debt to society people, let it go!
I like Phaedra your on your A game, your classy, smart, and I loved what I saw, you are real, unlike Sheree and Nene who are really want a be's you have a real career unlike these two crumb snatchers and you hold your own, I love you already. You go girl.
Hi Phaedra, your a character but you keep it real. But like Kim would ask, "How does a lawyer hook up with a criminal"? LOL at you and NeNe from the same neighborhood. oh lord, buckle up sista because it's gonna get bumpy. congrats on the baby. you'll make a fierce mom. Glad that you and Sheree are on good terms.
Goddess of Light,
Welcome to RHOATL!!! You are my new fav housewife. You come across very smart, sharp and bright.
You go girl! So far I like what you had to say. You put it beautifully and it is oh so true. You are a doll and I cannot wait to see more of you! Congrats on your new baby!
You told us in the blog that you will give us a little more insight of who you are..then you listed your position in your family (e.g. wife, daughter, sister, etc)...all of us can say we are one or more of those things..but that doesn't give more insight to who each of us are. Your blog gives a commentary on what happened in the show from a more detached viewpoint..but, we don't get a stronger sense of who you are and how you feel deep inside. Even though I don't always like the way NeNe handles things sometimes, it looks like she wears her feelings on her sleeve...we know what NeNe is trying to say, she doesn't hide it. That's is why you see support for her from many, because...if we tell ourselves the truth...a lot of us have been in situations where we wanted to lash out out of hurt..or we wanted to let people know not to mess with us...but some of us keep the extreme on the down low to "save face". NeNe may not behave in a way that we view as "ladylike", but not everyone will follow the tradition of what a lady says or does. I am a Southern lady, and was raised to behave like one, but I also know that sometimes...one has to be real and let people know that something is not okay...(but without the violent physical anger we sometimes see from NeNe). I look forward to seeing who you are, what is underneath the professional image to the real you. Being classy and intelligent is always good, but not if it interferes with us getting to see "you". Stay blessed, God Bless you and your beautiful child and husband.
PHAEDRA!!! Love love love you girl! I lived in Atlanta for four years and your reputation, in my opinion, is always stellar. I'm glad Bravo is finally catching up to you girl! I think you are an excellent addition to the cast. You certainly aren't boring and I really believed you have a balanced and more seasoned view on things. I only hope it helps your cast mates! Will we see Mr Apollo blogging in the future???
Hey Phaedra, i hope you will continue to learn and grow, as you obviously did from the first viewing to this first blog. Remember -- most of the housewives from all the cities talk about themselves in superlatives, yet their behavior belies the qualities they brag about. I hope you will be a housewife who prefers to actually be classy, rather than talk about being classy. I personally think the only housewife from all the shows to achieve this is Stacie from D.C. I think you may have what it takes. I think you would be more attractive if you would show a bit of humility, even though you are an attorney. I am in the legal field myself and I know it is possible. Best wishes.