Phaedra Parks

Phaedra shares what she's thankful for this year.

on Nov 24, 20100

Unfortunately, I missed blogging the past few weeks due to a hectic trial schedule and travelling. I visited Costa Rica for work and appreciated being able to get away and enjoy the splendor of nature. I usually write my blogs based on the underlying theme of the episode, but in light of the Thanksgiving holiday, I am going to write about the things I am most thankful for. Sometimes, in our struggle to capture that next big thing, we overlook our simple blessings; it is those simple blessings that make life worth living. I am most thankful for my family, friends and life.

November has been a struggle for me for several years because it marks the death of my two best friends. Experiencing the loss of these two beautiful people, whose lives were shortened by tragedy, has made me realize that there is nothing more important than family and friends. I am thankful for the role they played in my life, and the impact that their lives and love has had on me. 

During this week's episode, my son was born. Although television made the birth seem short and sweet, I was actually in intense labor for three days prior to my Caesarean Section; I experienced some very frightening moments. There were times when uncertainty got the best of me, and I feared the worst. So I sit here now grateful that my son and I survived.  Moreover, I appreciate my wonderful husband and supportive mother who never left my side.

I am blessed to have true girlfriends who prayed with me and encouraged me throughout my pregnancy, despite all the obstacles. I am so very grateful for each of them. In addition to my loving family and friends, I am richly blessed with amazing supporters whose random acts of kindness make me appreciate life even more. For instance, today my son received a thoughtful gift from Susan Brown, whom I have never personally met.  Thank you Susan, I am humbly appreciative of your generosity. As I prepare to spend Thanksgiving with family and friends, I am thankful for the abundance of love in my life and look forward to what matters the most -- simple moments of pleasure with my loved ones. Oprah Winfrey once said, "Be thankful for what you have, and you will end up with more. But if you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough." I thank God that I am full of praise and my heart is overflowing with gratitude. I pray everyone has a happy and safe Thanksgiving! 

This blog is dedicated to the memory of Angela "NeNa" Thomas Bryant and Shakir Stewart. 

285 comments
addida
addida

Phaedra is my favorite drama free and keep doing your thing with your child regardless of what people think how much you spend on him hes yours not theres. I have one hes one and I do the same thing blessings to you Phaedra and your family god bless.

PiperProsperous
PiperProsperous

You have one of the most beautiful babies I have ever seen. Cheers girlfriend!

mwa4206
mwa4206

Yes Phaedra your baby is a blessing and very cute but don't insult the viewers intelligence. I am a Certified Nurse Midwife and every woman knows her due date. There is no way any Obstetrics doctor with half of a brain would induce a baby because her was "fully developed" at 7 months. Your baby was full term which means 1 thing. You are not a "Southern Bell". You got pregnant out of wedlock!

nursingmom831
nursingmom831

I just wanted to say that when you were pregnant on the show I totally passed judgment on you and thought for sure you would just feed your baby formula. Then in all the episodes where you are either breastfeeding your son or mentioning pumping, I was wrong. I am a breastfeeding mom and realize how wonderful it is. I am so so so happy that you put it on national TV that the breast is the best!! It made me love and appreciate you and realize how intelligent you are. I hope for all the babies out there that more and more moms breastfeed and to have a celebrity doing it on TV helps!! I just wanted to say thank you for that!!

Vicki J in Texas
Vicki J in Texas

Yes yes. Thank God for gret mothers. I enjoyed your blog and I can relate. I too had a difficult labor and my mom was there by my husbands side..lol....Congrats on your lovely family. I enjoyed watching you as you truly showed us a different side of ATL HW's. You along with Lisa Wu Hartwell and Devon Snow (season 1) were about the biz and really making a difference. The thing is, these people fall prey to the NeNe spell and they get pimped out, played and overshadowed. Ms.Leakes comes across as comical at times, but she hs an undercurrent of jealousy and manipulation in her blood. Not to mention self centered and a camera whore/hog! Blessings to you and I am sorry for your loss. May your friends memories always bring you light, and smiles. Vicki

viwer
viwer

ur just mad at her because u want to be her

Ms.queeny
Ms.queeny

lol (snapping my fingers) yall are not having it with PHAEDRA

Amelia Hale
Amelia Hale

Thank you for pointing it out!!! None of the other girls even noticed it!!

LuvMyself7
LuvMyself7

Oprah Winfrey once said, "Be thankful for what you have, and you will end up with more. But if you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough."

Yeah right Phaedra!! lmao

Janmarie_85
Janmarie_85

Amen sister. I love my Phaedra supporters and you sumed her up the best. Phaedra does display a ton of confidence and I love and respect her for that . Kudoos to you for saying it best. Let's continue to support Phaedra.

annah
annah

From a mother to a mother... Phaedra your son is a blessing. I hope that you can get it together and try to be the best mother that you can for him. It is not about you anymore...you have a little life to be an example for...I hope that you teach him to be respectful, honest and who GOD put him here to be not who you want him to be because you are a controlling person and you are not in control. You might think you are but you are not it's GOD and I hope your mother has taught you that. Be grateful for what you have Phaedra...because quick as GOD can bless you...he can take it away...unless you are serving the DEVIL who does exist and what you have accomplish comes from him. You are so evil I am not sure how much GOD has to do with your success. That is why I say and pray that you can get it together. You seem money hungry and I say this because when you had met with Cynthia and her daughter at Cynthia's brunch you did not care about what her daughter stated she wanted to be in life...I think Cynthia's daughter said a doctor and you instantly said no be a Lawyer baby that's where the money is....That was not cool at all...so I hope that you will not be overbearring to your son and whatever he choose to be or do support him.

On another note... I'm curious about Dwight...and your relationship...I think you and Dwight have something going on. I can not get over all the food that man sent to your house...friends just do not send bulks of food like that. Anyway you are a lawyer...why ...you make money...unless he is more than just a friend. Is Dwight your sugar daddy on the side and the baby's father too...because only a man with interest will pamper a woman like that...so I wonder what is the interest "411"? My thought is that he can be the father. Looking at the baby he does not look like Appolo to me...he kinda favors Dwight ...they are both fair skinned men... I wonder...OH!wonder...everything seem peachy...creamy...but in reality it is not. Dwight seemed to be there for you more than Appolo and Dwight seems to know what makes you happy...no need for him to deal with the assistants...sugar daddy already knows. LOL

Paternity needs to be established... Because I truly believe she's playing Appolo...BOY you better go on Maury and make sure that you are the father...cause you might be in for a big surprise...I do not believe Appolo was out in enough time to marry and knock you up. We all know for sure that you was pregnant before marriage...Lying about due dates and stuff ...statements not adding up let alone making any sense...the topper...I always see you and Dwight together going out doing things but not Appolo...

The X-mas picture you took was not cute... The baby was gorgeous in his santa suit...but the way you and Appolo was dressed as a couple was horrible...I have seen you and Dwight match outfits better than you and Appolo on that picture...he had on a white suit jacket...lavender shirt and black suit pants...why you both did not just wear all white...I would have rather the baby photographed alone.

ViewerSea
ViewerSea

It wasn't glitter Sami68! It was rhinestones!! LOL!! Get it right!

Rach2010
Rach2010

I have to agree. I am really starting to like you Phaedra. Loved you on WWHL. Cute baby and cute family :) You and Cynthia are my new favorites. Used to love Nene but she is starting to exhibit Kim-type behaviour. Backstabbing. Not cool. Happy Holidays lady!

mmss
mmss

YOU DID IT!!! You won me over, you and Apollo on WHL You made me believe and child I never believe. So don't mess it up because while I think you are spoiled beyond imagination I kinda get you. Please use your big brain to be the arbitrar of kindness and respect. Under all that stuff you do, I see it. NOW BE IT.

real housewife from clifton
real housewife from clifton

Phaedra,

Once again I heard you refer to white households and their food in an inferior and condescneding way on "watch what happens live" on Sunday night. I am white. I take umbrage. You need to stop.

You better know if a comment was made condescendingly about black people all hell would break loose!

Arabus
Arabus

Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful healthy 7 pounds 23 ounces baby boy!

littlema
littlema

Hi Phaedra, I read some of the awful comments that people have made about you on this blog. However, you seem like a very strong woman that doesn't let stuff like that bother you. People need to realize that you are human. They have no right to judge you and say bad things about you. Personally I love your style, your boldness, your sassiness and your confidence. Despite what people may say or think God is the only one that can judge you. You have a beautiful family and continue to do you. I don't know you but, from what I see it seem like you have a lot of confidence. I think that is what we teach our daughters at a young age, to Love yourself first and have high self-esteem. As a mother of 4 (3 girls) I show very high self-esteem and I am a huge example to them. So you continue to be "Boughetto" and be a great role model for your son.

Marie G
Marie G

Does anyone know who Phaedra has as clients?

You can tell alot about a person by whom they represent!!!!!

Think about it Ladies!

momono3
momono3

Phaedra, NOBODY BACKED OFF OF YOU! If you notice, Kim calls ALL OF YOU Bitches on a regular. Just talking to you dummies, it's bitch this and bitch that. The only one backing off of anyone,was you!

B Real
B Real

PHEDRA, PHEDRA what canI say....You are still the dumbest on the show. Your comments are unbelievable and I kinda wished when you were taking pictures with the little 1 that you were holding him up smiling (big mouth open) and he went in your mouth,WHY? Because your mouth needs to be filled with feces for the things u say to your husband and others! Check yourself!!!

DeeMac
DeeMac

Easy or hard test doesn't matter when you earn the money. A degree however obtained is a degree.

DeeMac
DeeMac

Concerning Phaedra's money: Well said Cathy!

DeeMac
DeeMac

Tynisha, may I ask why did Phaedra need to respond or dignify Cynthia in any way? A person like Phaedra portrays to be, doesn't need to answer to anyone. Phaedra, is a Lawyer, she should know "hearsay" has no baring!

carla smither
carla smither

"Congrats" on your new bundle of joy and I'm not mad at you go own and do your thing, with your fine hubby.

DeeMac
DeeMac

Most of us are misunderstood. Especially, when we put carts before horses. If you know what I mean. Just as Phaedra, has done. I am sure Kim's degree means as much to her as Phaedra's does. While I do believe she was just a little confused and overwhelmed with pregnancy, she said some misleading things to cast members and fellow viewers, however, she should not think or speak about another person's degree or credentials in the manner she did for a woman brought up in the church with such a background. Its called "Backbiting". Gossip should be the last thing she should care to entertain; especially with a husband and child she so often brags on.

beblessed55
beblessed55

Ugh...your using the Bible and Dwight in the same sentence make me throw up in my mouth. Not the Bible, but talking about Dwight as a gay man. He is so....lost as millions of other gays are. They say they are being their real selves....so sad. Satan has them all believing that lie. What does the inspired Word say about it. It's not about what humans think....it's only about what Jehovah thinks and will never change his mind, no matter what the world thinks.

DeeMac
DeeMac

I agree, the confidentiality with all the ladies just isn't there. Kandi, started out that way, and ended up just like the rest now. LaShawn was the smart one, she got the heck out of there!

DeeMac
DeeMac

Dignity?? Did you say that? She married a convict! For heaven's sake she is a lawyer! Hellooooooooooo.

Ms. Ryan
Ms. Ryan

Phaedra, I think you are a true Southern Belle. I realize you are doing a reality show and some of the comments you make are made because you are defending your family or yourself because of what the other cast members have said about you...UNDERSTANDABLE! As far as the calculation of your pregnacy due date...that's why it's called reality TV people. You only speak negativity when someone attacks you and when it's all said and done...all seems to be forgiven. Don't change who you are Phaedra and I will you and your family all the best and many blessings.

Thea-T
Thea-T

I respect and appreciate Nurses more than lawyers! Hey, take a look at this link: another viewer found this information on Kim's nursing license: Starcasm has a photo of Kim's LPN license. It shows her status as "lapsed," as of 2003. If you like, you can google "kim zolciak nurse starcasm" or cut/paste this: http://starcasm.net/archives/73979.

So take THAT Phake-Dra! I want to see her HER law degree! Phake-dra probable got HER degree online!

Mrs. Williams
Mrs. Williams

Phaedra, I too am a southern bell with a christian background. Therefore I understand the reverence that you have for your mother. With that being said I'm sure that your mom raised you with the knowledge that the truth will come to light. I felt for you when your term was revealed in the manner that it was revealed. Unless you've walked in our shoes you can't understand the magnitude of what it's like to try admitting a wrong doing to the person whom have cared for you and loved you the most, and to whom have instilled Christian values. Southern parents tend to have HIGHER expectations and moral values than others!! I have enjoyed the entertainment thus far keep up the good work.

kiddcreole
kiddcreole

Phaedra, you are THEE BOSS LADY! Baby, shake the haters off and handle your business! The rest of those fake a** es wish they were balling like you. You didn't need to be any (married) man's piece of a** to get anything. DO YOU BABY BECAUSE, YOU DO IT SO WELL!

sj2008
sj2008

Phaedra please don't ever change! I watch every week just to see what you are going to say next and your facial expressions are priceless! You are an unintentional comedian. You have me laughing every episode. I wish you had your own show. You are hilarious!

misspeaches
misspeaches

Phaedra -- I think that it would actually be more becoming a southern lady if you actually too ownership of the fact that you lied about your due date so that your mother wouldn't know that you had gotten pregnant. Good for you in marrying the baby's daddy -- even though he is an ex-con... there should be a point of starting over. I don't understand why you always believe that Dwight is giving you good information.... he is the worst one in the bunch and continually tries to use whatever he can to keep in the spotlight since he has alienated all the other housewives. I think Kim was right on in calling you on the carpet for lying -- perhaps that is what makes you a good lawyer -- but for those that are watching, it is just ridiculous. Handling things with class? Not so sure about that -- but it is really interesting to watch you -- I certainly would never trust anything you say (most if which is for show)but you are entertaining. Oh and having children of my own -- the discussion when I was expecting was about how the pregnancy was going and when the baby was due -- and I DID know my due date!!! Interesting that you can take a normal discussion, lie through your teeth and then tell people that they shouldn't be bothered???? I must be missing something -- keep up the entertainment -- you are a hoot!!

gyizi
gyizi

You are so funny and cute!! I love your family! Your mom is adorable and your hubby seems so loving. And your baby is amazing. I did not realize how much I loved you until last night on the after show!! Everybody knows darling.

SIMPLY TRUTHFUL
SIMPLY TRUTHFUL

The above comment is the most honest..straight to the point comment ever. Even in "Watch What Happens Live" Phadera still lies about the preg. Did i just hear Apollo say he was in High school when Phadera was in Law School? Damn thats something else

Pacer Girl
Pacer Girl

Phaedra, although I am shocked by some of the comments you make. I think you are a great addition to the show. You are not boring at all (which is proven by the fact that people are commenting on a blog that you wrote over Thanksgiving). What we viewers see are the comments, we have no idea what questions the producers are asking them during the interviews. I have no doubt in my mind that you love your baby and that he is your world. Nor do I doubt that you love your husband. Kim did ask was your baby an alien, which is a low blow. However Dwight reported it to you just as it was said, but you came to Cynthia instead of Kim. I understand why you came after Kim and not the others, because it was not told to you what the others said, just Kim... Anyhow keep your head up. You are an asset to the show.

Sami68
Sami68

I'm sorry after reading a few comments stating that this woman has class I had to comment. Phaedra is about as bottom barrel as a woman can get. 1. She is a liar 2. A hypocrite 3. for all the 'stuff and class' she claims to have why does she act like she just came from a one bedroom shack in the woods? I have never seen a bigger fool than this chick. Sad. You get a lawyer on the show and she is nothing but a buffoon with glitter eyeshadow...SMH

viewerinvab
viewerinvab

saw you on watch what happens live. you are sooooo much more charming, articulate, gracious, thougthful, well-spoken than you are portrayed on the show. when i first saw you on the show, i thought, how the heck can this woman be a lawyer? she's so out of touch with reality. honestly, on teh show, i thought you seemed a little dippy... but you were soooooo wonderful during your time on wwhl. you and your husband were just so cute and so sweet and so obviously love each other so much. why can't hte bravo producers let that beautiful side be portrayed?!?! you and your adorable husband absolutely won me over in your interview.

bunny
bunny

PHAEDRA !!!!!!! listen up stop getting involved with Dwight - you are the last housewife for him to latch onto and create some tv time for himself - he just wants to get on tv and he is using you to do this - as for your 7 month 10 month or full term pregnancy you put those crazy off the wall statements out there - no one gets induced 2 months early - don't say stuff like that - of course when you say unreal stuff people talk about it - 7 month and 10 pounds !!!!!! you have alot of trouble with time lines and last night you were in law school and dating a highschool student ????? after 4 years of undergrad you would ne 20/21 and then three years law school and you were dating him - you do the pfaedra math on that one

CherylKaren
CherylKaren

Phaedra-Just watched "Watch What Happens, Live". I have totally changed my opinion of you and Apollo. You guys are charming! I know the show can be edited to make anyone look bad but I think it's really done a number on you. That husband of yours is a hunk of burnin' love and there is nothing sexier than a hands on dad. You both rock!

Ms. Rene'
Ms. Rene'

Hi Phaedra! Why do you insist on thinking that you are more important then anyone else on the show. Sometimes i agree with NeNe when she says that every time someone brings up your career as a lawyer you say your big time. All I ever heard you say is you represented Bobby Brown. Wasn't he like 10 years ago?? Secondly, why did you back Cynthia in a corner saying that she made fun of your baby. Cynthia is a nice person and she didn't deserve what you said to her. Please before you start getting underneath peoples skin, like Cynthia said, check your sources. Peace.

drnklfdeeply
drnklfdeeply

Phaedra,

Seriously, I have NO clue how you made it through Law School, let alone passed the bar. You are NOT intelligent and have no right to judge anyone's intellectual level when you tell a group of people that your newborn weighed 7 pounds 23 ounces. Phaedra... there are 16 ounces in a pound ding dong. Therefore, no one in the medical field would tell you your child was 7 pounds 23 ounces when in fact that would actually be 8 pounds 7 ounces (being as though there are 16 ounces in a pound). And there is no women alive (unless their IQ level is below 60) that has a newborn that does not know how much their child weighed at birth. But you broke that record for me. I think it is because you are absolutely one of the most selfish people I have ever had the displeasure of listening and/or watching on television. Grow up, and really it would behoove you to shut up as well when it comes to talking about stats of your baby.