OK, I had to go back and fast forward this episode to Kim’s birthday to see where I was allegedly “hating” and “playing both sides” as NeNe says. After re-watching it I have to ask, what the hell were y’all watching where you hear me hating on her or playing both sides?
First off I don’t say anything about either one of them behind their backs that I won’t say to them in person, and I’ve never said anything about either one of them that wasn’t true. You can automatically cut the playing both sides conversation short and kill all the comments about me carrying bones. I did not say anything negative about Cynthia or NeNe. When Kim asked me about the trip I said it was cool and to end any more conversations about the trip I made the joke, “The one thing that I can say to y’all is that she’s rich now.” That was the on-going joke ever since NeNe and Sheree had that argument, so it wasn’t a big deal. I even said something to NeNe about the “I’m rich” comment when I was with her in Miami, so it’s not like I didn’t make a joke of it in front of her. I’ve never tried to make NeNe feel like I wasn’t cool with the other girls. So clearly she knew that I would continue to hang out with them when I got back.
Kandi you have change just a tiny little bit but you are still me girl. I would love to hang out with you any day. I believe that you and Phaedra are wonderful people. Keep up the good work. Oh and by the way yes them b!$#hes is hating on you. They wish they could look as good, have the personailty, or have your beautiful smile. Team Kandi and Pheadra
One question Kandi when can we buy the song If money grow on trees with JoDee Messina. Love the song.........
Own it Candi you do play both sides.. you do it in a calculating way, or in a passive aggresive way, you know what you do, laugh a little harder at Phaedra and Sherees jokes about Nene its little things like that.If you and Nene are friends it doesnt come accross
Kandi, I have watched all the seasons and I absolutely are on TeamBurrus Marlo is stone crazy trying to get her on show or on next season. She is a trouble maker Cynthia is indeed a follower Big time.ShebySherre is messy that's why she started the mess with Kim. Keep doing you and when you pop off with your Bravo adventure believe me and many others will follow you to your own time zone. Keep smile (they are hatters because you have such a beautiful smile)...
A previous comment stated that Kandi is jealous of Marlo. Why would she be? Kandi can wear all of the labels that Marlo and Nene have to constantly blurt that they own. Or did you forget out of all of them, Kandi is the one who is actually rich? She has been in the limelight since she was 17, the rest or trying to get there. Kandi is classy because she doesn't have to talk about her wealth to make herself feel secure. Marlo and Nene on the other hand... enough said.
Kandi I must say I agree with you on the "bragging". People like Marlo n NeNe haven't been where they are right now all the time. They had to struggle to get to their current status and now they have forgotten where they came from. Marlo is a high dollar you know what and well NeNe is what she is....wanna be known. I have labels in my closet as well but it doesn't make me I make them. Keep it real as always girl.
Virginialady, what in the world are you talking about? "Sex toys and intmate conversations on the air can make people think you are less than you are." Grown people have sex, and having an adult conversation about it does not cause anyone to view Kandi any differently. For the record I am saved by Gods grace and married also. Saved individuals have sex also, and you nor anyone else are perfect and can judge someone on anything especially a conversation. Wow, people truly amaze me with thier thought process. Get a life!
So disappointed that Kandi turned into one of "them '. What is up with your obsession about Marlo? Let that fake B be who she is and call it a day. She is who she is. Accept it and move on. It seems like a hint of jealousy on your part otherwise Hear it but Don't Hear it. If Marlo wants to advertise for free for these high dollar designers then so what! That's her thing. All of my friends seem to like Marlo because so far she is the only one that is consistent and still comfortable with who she is.
Kandi, please adopt one of those children from South Africa. It was such a joy to see you playing with those children. Adopt a girl or a boy for a sibling to your beautiful daughter.
Kandi, You are one of the women I respect the most on the show however, that's starting to change some because (I don't know if it's editing or not, or the character Bravo is carving you out to be, but...) everything you say is extremely NEGATIVE. Some times I think people miss it because you say it in a way where they may think its a joke, but its still negative. If you just took all of your sound bytes from the episodes just from 2012, you may hear what I'm referring to. When someone says something positive you shoot it down, almost immediately with a negative comment/response. As a song writer, singer, producer and an intelligent black business woman, I know you know the power of WORDS! So, I apologize for having to call you to task but its hard to watch week after week, your negative comments, one after another. It never fails and you never miss a beat. The comment that really stood out and caused me to write on your blog is when Cynthia said when would call each of you up if she were having an issue and talk to you, invite you all to lunch so you can talk and squash it and the other ladies started to nod in agreement and think about what she was saying, but before she was even done, before the period was put on the end of her statement, your immediate, negative comment was "Oh we say that all the time!" You laughed and caused the other ladies to laugh, then they were all in agreement with your negative comment shooting down and disregarding Cynthia's comment. I agree with Cynthia and think that it doesn't matter how many times its said, keep doing it, keep trying and striving for peace and harmony in your relationships with others. There is never a time to give up on peace because at the end of the day, ALL of YOU are extremely blessed! I don't believe in luck, so I say that you are blessed. You are right where God meant for you to be. His plan is Perfect ALWAYS! Your comment was equivalent to a friend or family member dealing with a substance abuse issue saying, "I'm going to rehab or to therapy to deal with this issue," and your response is "Yeah you said that before, you been to rehab/therapy several times before." Well, I don't care how many times you've been, you keep going until you get it right! I don't care how many times it takes. Never give up trying to make something right or better in your life. That includes finding ways to improve your friendships! Maybe the person has been to rehab 35 times and it's that 36th time that will stick! We never know. However, if the person responds like the girls responded to your deflated comment and decides not to go because (you're right they have said it and gone to treatment several times) 'why go the 36th time and gives up therefore, miss out on their healing.' Let's try to be more positive, use positive power words to UPLIFT one another, not tear down and see how things change and move in your favor in your life! I dare you to try positivity!
Kandi....don't phase them...you earned your duckarooes...so keep doing u....we love u in the DMV (DC-MD-VA)!!
Candy I think that you are doing good to stay out of everyones Drama. In my opinion keep doing what you do girl and stay neutral. God Bless
Kandi, Please do take a good look in the mirrow at YOU!! The "old folk " would refer to you the type that "throws a rock and hide your hand". Be truthful with the other girls perhaps that in itself will indeed make you feel better about yourself. "Nice up" Kandi and be real and honest my girl. Other women are watching and your Mom is such a sweet,mature and graceful woman.
Kandi, i will say at first i was not your fan, second season i become a believer, this season no way, you are two faced and need to grow up i really thought out of all the women you would be the one to stand firm right is right and wrong is wrong, you ladies are like school kids with the gossip, stand up and be the woman you claim to be, how did phadera,kim and sheree(sheree who) become the truth, right now i am not filling you bad look
You are SHADY. The boring smalls acted like teenagers. Calling the other girls animals making motions behind Marlo's back, soooo childish. I hope your daughter doesn't watch the show. Embarrassing..
Hi Kandi. :) First off I do NOT agree with the poster that said you are a @@@@ starter or something like that. LMBO, not you honey. In fact you are my fav and also with Phaedra. You two are real, don't change. :)
Good Lordy, are we watching the same show. The ond that likes to do that is Cynthis, BIG TIME, she proved it the night, also NeNe and Marlo, which has already been started.
Khandi, you are wonderful. But I do feel like you are a shit starter. You are the only one that goes back and forth between the groups and everytime you do, something about the other group is brought up. You ladies are grown and you guys need to chill talking about each other or even making jokes. Sometimes jokes can hurt people. If I was you, all honestly you need to watch your back. Because Sheree and Phaedra are the fake ones so far this season. Phaedra lied about having a issue with NeNe and everytime I see Sheree she is frowning her ugly ass face at NeNe. Then Sheree talks shit about Cynthia being up someone's ass. Everytime I see them two they are speaking bad and making jokes about the other girls. But I never see NeNe especially Cynthia saying anything about them. As far as Marlo goes, the past is the past and people need to get over it. You have a past with xscape. I bet you felt stupid when the rumors of you and JD slept togther came out. I bet that made you look like a hoe. But you had to defend yourself. WHY!! am I bringing this up because its the damn past!!!!!!!!!Get over it. It was wrong you showed Marlo's mugshots, but I bet if someone showed a XXX pic of you and JD you would be pissed the hell off.
You said to Nene outside of the resturant that you thought she should come and you encouraged her to come on the trip, why are you throwing her shade? She even said to you without putting anybody down, that she didn't want to go because it would be just like being at home, if they argued in the ATL what else could you expect in Africa. WOW!!!! you don't want to be in the drama, yet you make sure you throw some salt in the pot, what up with that? After all the years you have been in the entertaiment business I'm sure you have seen and learned a lot, yet because you and Kim related on the single mama, daddy don't do nothing for them level she got over you in business, yet you forgive her, Now that''s not a bad thing,forgiveness is good, but you really to practice the saying if you are not going to be a part of the solution, don't be a part of the problem. That's what Nene is talking about hating , it's not about the material things and the money, but you hide behind others to vent your true feelings about her, then say I don't want to get caught up in it. Now Nene is no angel and when she deliver her truth (we all have our own) she does bring it hard and I think she could temper herself and I also belive she will get there and it will be based on her journey that she has to walk , not what you Phadrea , Sheree and Kim say she should be. I do agree with her comment that and hit dog will holla and when she throw a rock you all do scream. LOL LOL. We all had to start somewhere and for some it comes later than sooner. Put it this way, you may not consider yourself two-faced or a hater, but you display the behavior of one.
Kandi, I know that you are into Googling your cast mates, so why haven't you googled Sheree. She has three count them three arrest. Two for stealing and a hit and run. So with all that class bottom line she’s not better than anyone else. Oh and keep your purse close, I did say that two was for stealing. Google That.
Kandi, you were one of my favorite in the beginning . Now I think you are showing your true colors. It was pathetic you showing Marlo's mug shots. You are a mean girl. Everyone has a past, including you. You are not a saint. How can you be friends with Kim Z. when you stated she took ALL the money for "tardy for the party?" That speaks volumes on Kim Z. as a person. She picked money over a TRUE friendship with you. A real friend would never do that. If you don't see that, then you are a fool. I read other blogs where people feel Kim used/uses you. What do you expect with someone who dated a "big poppa" for his money while he was still married. A lot feel you were so mean when you asked NeNe to come to Africa then when she arrived to the airport you did an eye roll. You do talk a lot about others & ride the fence WAY TOO MUCH. Stop the wishy washy stuff. Just say what you mean, mean what you say & don't say it mean. As for Sheree, she is jealous of NeNe because NeNe got all these acting gigs for popular shows & Sheree went to acting classes but gets nothing. I wish NeNe the best. She must be a good person getting all that great karma.... good she has the last laugh. Sheree puts poison in the well ( the well is all you girls.... get it?). Phaedra & Kim poison the well too. Just because you don't admit this, doesn't make it not true. PERIOD!
Please do not even elude to your daughter's weight issues. My mother did. I became anorexic and bulimic. Simply lead by example. She followed you into this situation & she will follow you out. Please. You have no idea how the smallest comment about weight will negatively impact her for years to come.
I love you Kandi! Watch out for that crazy Marlo. NeNe is all mouth and harmless. Agravating and irritating but harmless. Marlo on the other hand visibly has some issues that resulted in her having a criminal background. That is not someone you want to play with because she is not mentally stable. She was up there arguing with her hair looking wild....just certified crazy!
Kandi, you are the realist out of all of them. Please don't let those other gold digging chicken heads bring u down to thier low level. Marlo is nothing but a escort which is not hard to do prositution is the oldest profession in the book. NeNe please she's a bird oh please tell her being rich is when your money works for you not you working for your money...smh Sheree I have no words to descibe how phoney she is she needs to get a clue..Cynthia needs a back bone when it comes to nene...Kim is cool now that she has started a new life with Kroy..oh may he can introduce u to some of his football friends, you so deserve a good man and leave those thugs alone I agree with your mother...lol Kandi do you and don't worry about the birds..I like it when you were not invovled in all the drama!
Kandi have stated that being in a girl's group helped you deal with all the conflict of RHOA. Sometime the middle ground is the safe place to be when the water is full of sharks. Love the fact that you are MIA when all the fighting takes place between Sheree and Marlo.
Kandii claims that she doesn't play both sides of the fence, and wishes to stay drama free! However, I have seen her time and time again make snide remarks about the "talls" when she's with the "smalls", and vice-versa! Kandi practice what you preach!
Kandi.....I can't believe the comment you made about Marlo and her past. Marlo's past is exactly that...HER PAST....and she should move on and leave it behind her. You're turning into a shit starter....Not very becomming. Get it together.
Kandi I was feeling you on the first few seansons but as time goes on Ijust don't know. All of yall shady if you ask me.....all of yall have said things and done things behind the others back and that's real talk. But I will say this......the display that you women give on the show are a set back for all women...the way you all allow your cat fights and aguements to be aired is just rediculous. Truly the BIGGER PERSON would just WALK THE HELL AWAY and not go back and forth. If any of you knew anything about God you would know that He will fight your battles and all that back and forth would not be necessary. Real ladies shut their mouths.....and are seen not heard.....
Can i ask you,,, how did u find ur job? I rlelay need to find another job, i Have lost all passion for my job and it sucks. And you seen to be very passionate about what you do so thats why i ask!thanks
Kandi, you were one of the sweetest ladies on the show, but you did change a bit. You do play both sides. Just because you don't admit it, doesn't make it not true. Truth is truth.... period. I think Shere loves to stir the pot so you should watch her. I do wish you the best. Your daughter is so cute. You are a great mom. Also love your mom too. Stay sweet & don't play both sides. It sounds to wishy washy.
Kandi when you were outside of the restaurant, on the episode when you guys were at the restaurant with your mom, you encouraged NeNe to go Africa with you guys; then when she arrived at the airport you were rolling your eyes as if you were shocked. Even if you did or didnt know she was going, you of all people should have been excited because younhad extended a personal invitation to her. Later in Africa when you guys were on the boat and NeNe suggested that you all be cordial; you asked your crew later on, "what just happpened." Did you not know? Were you not there? NeNe was doing what you claim to be doing everyday, establishing peace. I dont think that you want reconciliation. You appear to love mess and drama, although the words out of your mouth say differentyly. Lastly, you claim that you are not a blog reader but you're the one that introduced Marlos mug shots to Phaedra. What was the purpose in that? Do we not accept people for who they are? Everybody has a past, even you. I encourage you to go back and watch the tapes and allow God to show you you. Get off the defense fence and make a change. Stop being so messy. Its not a good look. And before you claim that you're not messy, let me say "yes you are but God can deliver you from it only if you want to be delivered."
Kandi, you're my girl. I don't care what nobody says. If I were you though, I wouldn't try to help with the peacemaking efforts between these ladies. They're going to do what they're going to do regardless of anything else. You are on a whole different level, one that's gotten you to places they could only dream of and you're still on the ladder of success. So all that other BS is beneath you. I've liked you since Xscape and love that you're still on the grind in the music business as well as other business ventures. I love your motivation and it just means so much more when you're responsible for your own fate, not to down anyone that came up from a well off husband or other man. I'm just saying when you have your own, it just proves you can make it on your own. I hope you find the best man you can, one that's on your level and can be all you need him to be. I'm really feeling you and Phaedra, you girls are go getters. Not saying Cynthia and NeNe aren't go getters either or Sheree for that matter. It's just that your hustle is on a whole different level.
Hi Kandi, I hav watched All the episodes frm day one, & trust me you are far frm being a hater! Actually I interact pretty much the way you do. I kno that if a friend can't handle constructive criticism, then truly they aren't a real friend!! But you hav not hated on anyone on this show, matter of afact you hav extended ur generosity to them all, that has been in 'the circle from the beginning. I see no jealousy whatsoever coming from you, heck what reason wud you hav to be that way. You are very very successful & hav been for yrs. Personally since NeNe has been on the APPRENTICE as she reminds everyone of or tells anyone & everyone she was. This is when she changed, drastically!! NeNe was one of my favorites, until I seen how she acted on the show in New York & after she came back, omg she has lost herself in the lime light, where did the real NeNe go is what I want to kno? God doesn't like us to be boasting abt what we hav & being folly. Being too proud will end up carrying her down a road of destruction. I pray she finds her real soul & becomes the person that you cudnt help but like, I'm proud for my friends when they accomplish more in there life, I truly am soo happy for them, I want them to do well, as long as it doesn't change who they are!! I see Nene in a whole different way , down to the way she walks & throws her head back, just wish she wud come down off her high horse a be real again. I find that the jealousy comes frm her, she wants to be the QUEEN BEE & no one else hav greatness & love in their life, for she's really an unhappy woman & hides behind this little so called fame, it doesn't always last!! Unless she changes her attitude God will take it away from her. Kandi you are the best of the best & you are on the path that our heavenly father is proud of. You are true to urself & to ur REAL FRIENDS, heck you also are to everyone whether a friend or just a stranger. Don't let these negative ppl upset you for that's what satan wants!!! Walk in Love as I've seen you always do. God Bless an best of luck. Sincerely, Theresa Thomas, Laurens, s.c.
What I thought was so hilarious last night was when Marlo and NeNe were shopping and NeNe was going to buy the necklace that cost $10,000 and she had to put it back. Yeah, okay, I'm rich. I don't think so. That was too funny.
You are not being honest, it is not that you played both side you were not truthful during the show, but during the comments of the ep. You had a lot to say n it was a put down.
OK KANDI.......I SOMEWHAT LIKE YOU BUT YOU NEED TO STOP LETTING SHEREE AND SOME OF THE OTHERS WHISPER IN YOUR EAR. KEEP TRYING TO KEEP THE PEACE.... AND YOU SHOULD HAVE TOLD SHEREE SHE WAS WRONG NOT TO INVITE ALL THE LADIES TO THE DINNER PARTY AT HER FRIENDS HOUSE. SHE DID THAT JUST TO GET A RISE OUT OF NENE AND THE OTHER'S AND YOU KNOW MY SISTER THAT WAS SOOO WRONG ON SO MANY LEVELS. BUT ANYWAY JUST KEEP TRYING TO KEEP THE PEACE AND KEEP DOING YOUR THING IN YOUR MUSIC....BLESSINGS!!
Kandi girl, there are some things in this group that cannot be fixed. Let the girls handle their own issues, stay out. Give your opinion if asked, but dont try to fix anything. You are also a nice flavor to this group. The issues you bring up are very real and relatable. I do hate when others put on airs. Some claim they are being real, but PULEEZE. They dont know when to be classy, and when to be down to earth. The choice of clothes some of the girls wore was VERY inappropriate, they looked silly, uneducated, like fools.
Well, at first I though (you) Kandi was the realist, but after you showed Phaedra Marlo's mug shots. I knew then, the show asked you to get more involved in the BS. Kandi you are a smart, beautiful and a talented young woman, but why are you so interested in Marlo's career. Please don't take this personal, but I prefer the season 1 Kandi back. It seems as if your trying to play both sides, in a slick way. BABY DON'T DO IT. Phadera and Sheree can't save you when S*** hit the fan. Rule number 2 don't F*** with Marlo, it's obvious, she ain't the one, move on to the next.... I still love you Kandi and your still my favorite House Wife.. :)
I Loved that country song you wrote! I can't wait for it to be released so I can buy it! You are so talented!
Kandi, you are a sweet girl.Looking forward to buying that country song." I want give up on you". I really loved the lyric as well as the singer voice singing it. You are yourself at all times. Speak your mind only when you have to.I guess you got it honest. Kudo to Mama Joyce she did a fine job in raising you. But she need to watch what she drink it makes her act a little funny. Love you and Mama Joyce.
Kandi good luck with working out. I think the tires were a litlle extreme. Please tell your trainer he can work out with less drama, I'm glad you did not get hurt. I look at tires differently now. woo! scary. As for your good friend Kim i would like to see her doing some work instead of depending on everyone. Mothers have babies and they have to multi-task. lol i like her but she appeared to be a little lazy. Maybe she need to look at kate plus 8. lol!
Kandi, I love you and I love your mom. I think she is the coolest senior around, God bless her! I really hope you stay true to the person that you are. You don't seem fake and you are not continually "name dropping" as all of the other women do. I'm tired of hearing about D&G,Rolex,Chocolate Diamond Bracelets that cost more than some people make in a year! These are all material things that don't mean anything only to people who are shallow. You don't seem like that type of person. You seem very down to earth even though you are very successful-you don't throw that out there to everyone. I don't get why people always have to be bragging about what they have, just be humble and thank God for what you have. Please stay true to yourself. Don't let anyone or anything change you. God has blessed you with alot of talent, keep putting it to good use. Take care of your mom and your daughter and I hope someone who is good comes along and makes you happy. I like Lil Ronnie, I think you guys are cute together. He seems like a nice guy even if he doesn't like all of those "men bashing songs!" Just kidding. I wish you all the best and good luck to you with your new country music endeavour. Remember appreciate the fact that God gave you talent-use it in a humble way. Please don't change. I love watching your show and I hope it continues with its success. I'll see you on Kandi Koated Nights. God bless and take care.
OMG Kandi, I cannot get that song out of my head since I saw the episode I recorded, "I wont give up on you" the way you were singing the verse and trying to get it up to a climaxing crescendo which she obviously was not 'getting'. I hope you record it too so I can hear it the way it was meant to be made. What a beautiful gift you have. Do you write gospel music? I wonder if you have a devotional album. About the other housewives you have to forgive Nene, she is very sad. Just forgive her and move on, bless her heart, she must feel so lonely with the way she is and all. Everyone eventually gets what they deserve. You and I and everyone, all what matters is how much we forgive and love in return and sometimes it is so very hard. This is small stuff, do not sweat it. The world will give up on you but God wont give up on you, Christ wont give up on you, love wont give up on you, so I wont give up, no I will not give up, oh I will not give uuuuuuuuuuup...... oooooooooon..... youuuuuuuuuuuUUUUUUUUUU ;)