Cast Blog: #RHOA

No Hate

Kandi doesn't think she was playing both sides or being a hater.

OK, I had to go back and fast forward this episode to Kim’s birthday to see where I was allegedly “hating” and “playing both sides” as NeNe says. After re-watching it I have to ask, what the hell were y’all watching where you hear me hating on her or playing both sides?

First off I don’t say anything about either one of them behind their backs that I won’t say to them in person, and I’ve never said anything about either one of them that wasn’t true. You can automatically cut the playing both sides conversation short and kill all the comments about me carrying bones. I did not say anything negative about Cynthia or NeNe. When Kim asked me about the trip I said it was cool and to end any more conversations about the trip I made the joke, “The one thing that I can say to y’all is that she’s rich now.” That was the on-going joke ever since NeNe and Sheree had that argument, so it wasn’t a big deal. I even said something to NeNe about the “I’m rich” comment when I was with her in Miami, so it’s not like I didn’t make a joke of it in front of her.  I’ve never tried to make NeNe feel like I wasn’t cool with the other girls. So clearly she knew that I would continue to hang out with them when I got back. NeNe and I have never been that close. We don’t call each other and have girl talk. Did everyone forget that NeNe and I had a blow up on my first season?  She and I started out on the wrong foot. I almost didn’t want to go to Miami because I knew she and I aren’t that cool. I decided to go, because I needed a getaway and I figured it couldn’t be that bad. How is she playing victim right now?

Let’s address this hating comment. Some people say you are a hater just because they don’t like what you have to say. I always have conversations with my friends about being careful with your money. That is not hating. That is called looking out for people and passing on what I’ve learned. Being in the industry as long as I have has allowed me to see the mistakes of others who have made a lot of money but over extended themselves and not thought about the possibility that they may not continue to make that same money forever. I’ve seen people who were way more successful than me have their houses foreclosed and cars repossessed, because they acted as though the money would never stop. I have had conversations with Kim the same way I talked to NeNe about being more careful with finances.  Kim didn’t think I was hating. She may or may not take my advice, but she didn’t say I was hating on her.

Some people love to have friends who just stroke their egos and encourage them to buy the big houses and the most expensive cars, but when times get hard and you need help, they’re not going to pay for a damn thing. They’ll sit up and enjoy the ride with you, but when the money train stops, they’ll be on to the next. People need to stop using the term hater so loosely. For anyone to suggest I’m hating on NeNe would mean that she had something I could be jealous about or felt the need to hate on. There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING that NeNe has that I want or can’t buy if I wanted to. I have my own lane and I stay in it. She doesn’t do what I do. What I do for a living is not even in her job description. We are not in competition. There’s no way you can even compare us. I saw a comment where NeNe stated she was the most successful out of all of us. She couldn’t have been referring to me. Please, let’s not make it a pissing contest of who’s more successful, because we definitely don’t want to start listing credits. I don’t even want to do you like that. That would be petty anyway. I love commending other women when they’re making big things happen.  So I’m not sure why she thinks I don’t want to see her doing well. I made comments about financial planning because I want her to continue to do well, even when she’s no longer on this show. As a matter of fact I want all the ladies in our circle to do well and that is the truth!

Much love,
Kandi

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Kenya: "I Will Always Be a Queen"

Kenya Moore dishes on the truce with Phaedra Parks and the non apology from Porsha Williams.

CLOSURE
The reunion represents closure on all levels. I believe most women need closure. Reunions are tough because you live through filming, then through seeing it on TV, and then again during the reunion. You can feel you have moved on from something difficult and then you have to discuss it and rehash it. I felt good about this reunion, because I have grown so much. I am stronger now and nothing or anyone can destroy me.

Speaking of opening old wounds, I was respectful toward Phaedra during the conversation, but it’s clear that after our truce, she still wants to call me a whore and liken me to other “whores in the bible.” God doesn’t like ugly. Maybe sitting alone on the sofa now is confirmation.

THE NON APOLOGY
There was a part of me that was hopeful about getting an apology for being physically attacked at the last reunion, since that would mean the past was behind us. You have to own what you do wrong in life. Children are taught that you don’t hit anyone first or at all. Whether provoked or not, isolated incident or not, physically attacking someone is legally and morally incomprehensible. As such, doing the right thing should be easy. But this is the same person whose grandfather was a greatly respected civil rights activist who fought for non-violence, yet thinks the Underground Railroad was an actual train that took people to freedom.

In typical fashion, Phaedra attacks my character in a preplanned soliloquy. But in her own words, her “THOT” friend thinks that spreading your legs wide open and accepting gifts from married men is admirable. Yet, it’s basically teaching young girls that having a square card reader between your butt cheeks is how one becomes “blessed” and “successful.” That’s why I will always be a Queen, literally and figuratively, because when I am wrong, I can apologize, forgive, and move forward. I can love, though I have not always been loved, and I can be talented and successful on my own merit without needing men to finance my lifestyle, and I can be the bigger person when others try to bring me down.

SINGLE VS MARRIED
Some viewers ask why there are single women on a show about Housewives. It’s simple -- every Real Housewife franchise has single women, from Beverly Hills to OC to NY to Atlanta. With that said, there are only two Housewives on RHOA that are currently not married, Claudia and myself. In fact, approximately 43 percent of all Black women have never been married. My journey is not unlike the many Black single women who watch our show. Nearly half of Black women want to be married and find true love but are not willing to settle or can’t find the right man. NeNe and her puppet would like everyone to think it’s better to be in a horrible marriage rather than be single.

Having said that, I have never received so much love from the viewers as when I was featured on The Millionaire Matchmaker. It made me realize is that I am no different from all the single women around the world looking for real love. My journey is their journey, and ultimately they want me to fall in love with them rooting me on. It happened for Kandi, Kim, Bethenny, Tamra, etc. and it will happen for me too with all of you by my side. Therefore, having single women as Housewives is good for the show. Everyone deserves a chance to be happy. And we can inspire and give hope to those looking for love.

Rumor has it that someone said single women should be fired from RHOA. As such, we wouldn’t have witnessed the beautiful rekindling of NeNe and Gregg's love or her wedding special. Therefore, those people clearly didn't create the successful model for this show. If it's a play to get me fired... Try again. #CatchThatShade

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