As a 7-year-old, I recall receiving my first 50-piece sterling silver tea set for Christmas from my Aunt Frances. That beautiful tea set along with my Easy Bake oven played a pivotal role in spawning me into the Southern belle that I am today. While that wonderful gift is ingrained in my memory, so is her determination and fighting spirit. Aunt Frances was always donned in her sorority's pink and green colors and ready to fight for the causes she believed in. As a child I never realized what a formidable politician she was. As she silently battled cancer, I recall her never missing a vote or political rally. She never complained. In remembering her spirit and love of family, I wanted to bask in the essence of her legacy as we celebrated the first birthday of my first born. While she did not get to see me married or as a mother; I know she was always proud of me. Although Ayden will never have the opportunity to personally know her, I wanted to pay homage to her legacy by having his first birthday party in a place erected and named for someone who dreamed big and stood up for what she believed in.
After we settled on the location, I wanted the party to be filled with all of Ayden's favorites. I wanted to treat everyone invited to a stress free trip on a chartered bus full of treats and all the other things Ayden loves. So I began the menu with Thompson's Barbeque which was the first restaurant table food he enjoyed. His first ice cream cone was from Cold Stone Creamery; so we invited them to serve sundaes for everyone. Lastly, no birthday is complete without cake and since Ayden has brought us 12 months of pure joy, I wanted a custom cake to commemorate each month. It is our prayer that this celebration is indicative of the years to come -- filled with family, friends, great expressions of love, consideration and mounds of sweetness.
Phaedra, You are such a delight to see on the show! You are truly a class act and full of grace! Looking forward to more to come! :0)
After reading your logic behind why you choose the venue it makes sense to me. As for the 12 cakes its you and your husband's child and you all work hard to ensure he have a enjoyable and successful life. Women like Sheree is just jealous and have non-sensical. Maybe what Marlo said about her finances is correct. Sheree need to get a life and stop worry about why you have 12 cakes for your child. Hell the day I get my first child i might just steal your idea of the 12 cakes. keep doing you.
Phaedra, I really enjoyed watching Ayden's party. It looked like it was a blast! Nice and cool considering how hot it gets in the ATL. When my kids turned one my two boys had two cakes and my daughter had a five-tiered cake with a number one on top. I don't think people realize how precious yet fragile the first year of life can be, so many things to worry about with babies. Having said that I commend and applaud you and Apollo on that party I look at a first b-day party as a party for us parents to mark the occasion that we are actually responsible and mature enough to take care of our kids on our own. I couldn't afford 12 cakes but Lord knows if I could've I probably would've, but the only downside was Sheree hating on a one year old's party. Besides that I loved it and I wish Ayden many many many many many many more. I probably don't have to say this to you but please watch yourself with SHEREE that one is a sneaky liar.(Or so it appears) Good luck and many blessings and peace with all of your endeavors.
It does seem a little bit of an imposition to ask a guest to travel for two hours for a child's party. I am glad that you explained it. You do seem to be the best hostess of all the ladies and along with your own comfort and pleasure, you really care about your guests too. Your baby is a living doll.
You have become my most favorite housewife! I love your career and marriage and of course your baby. The other gals are not up to your par. Keep up the great image. Perhaps your baby's first birthday was over the top, but it was fun and such a wonderful tribute to your Aunt Francis and her life. How wonderful it will be for your son when he grows up to find out about this very first birthday of his life. So special!!
Very classy Phaedra! You definitely have the ability to write well and your presence is ummmm, well let's just say that it's a bit different! Why do you not ever address the comments made on the show? Is it because you are only playing a character and the show isn't real?
You once again show that you are a great fun person. It was your son party and you can have as many cakes as you want. Keep your great attitude. You make me laugh in a good way.
I like that you did not trash people who deserve it. You know who (SHEREE). I wish you all the best.
I like Phaedra...she definitely seems to be one of the ladies more "in tune" with reality! However, the 12 cakes were a bit absurd, but different strokes for different folks!
i really enjoy you Miss Phaedra! thank you for your personality and manner love! apollo better be good to you--he knows that, right?? i was very VERY tickled to see our fabulous Dwight back on the scene! his absence has taken many smiles off many faces, this i know for sure..but seeing you two together again REALLY made the whole season for me! God bless you and your family! PS Prince Ayden is THE most BEAUTIFUL CHILD!! so treasured and precious- i know he is your most amazing joy!
That Red Velvet Cake Looked so Yummy!! ..since Sheree was so hawt you could have set up a dunking booth & have the kids dunk her @#*..:)
I'd like to say that you are an awesome person. I have grown to like you alot on the show. The comments made by Sheree about your sons' birthday was uncalled for. She seems like a hater to me. She didn't even have to go to your sons' event if all she was going to do was make silly rude comments. Keep up the great work you do with your family and career.
Love to watch ur adoreable family! u got it all and r smart enough to keep it all together! congrats on Aydens 1st birthday!
Okay.....now that I have finished taking an insulin shot for the overwhelming load of sugary crap you just fed us - Phaedra...seriously? We watch and you do entertain. Normally I think your professional attire is on point - but those patterns you wore to the Masonic Lodge? uh....*fail*. Positive note: Ayden is definitely adorable!
Okay...now that I have finished taking a shot of insulin for that load of overwhelmingly sugary crap you just fed us - Phaedra - please. But then - we do watch and you do not fail to entertain. Your son is adorable and the outfit you wore to the Masonic Lodge to support your husband...definite *fail*
At first I thought the party was WAY over the top, but after reading your blog, I now see that everything had special meaning. And I agree, we're never guaranteed tomorrow, so you might as well celebrate all birthdays in a big way and make the best of every day.
Dwight made the event very uncomfortable to watch...in fact he was somewhat embarrassing. He needs to crawl back under the rock he came out from.
Phaedra, You are so funny, you need to put out a book with phrases by Phaedra it would be hilarious! You and Kandi are my favorite housewives!
Thank you for staying a lady! Also for giving us insight on your decision to hold the party at the park. That was a lovely idea and a great tribute to your Aunt! And since it was a "water park", those complaining could have walked around, splashed water on their faces, enjoyed the ice cream and cold drinks, and kept on moving! After all, isn't that why there are treats like that? (Everybody knows who I'm referring to). However many cakes you had or however you decided to plan your son's birthday was strictly YOUR decision, YOUR money, YOUR son! Why do miserable hater's even SHOW up? After all, they are invited out of courtesy, not necessity!
Phaedra: I thot twas quite insane-Ayden's bday party. BUT-it's not just for the baby it's for the fam. & I got the point. if ur able 2 do what u did,(and u r clearly able) and if it made u as parents and yor family, Ayden happy...mission accomplished. Everyone will always have their opinions. I'm glad the party was a success 4 all, u clearly put a lot of thot, love and effort into it. GB
I am glad that I decided to read your blog. The venue now makes perfect sense. I am quite sure the quests ate some of the cakes also. They were very small. Together, they amounted to one large cake. I would have enjoyed that party. I still don't know who you are, but you are funny and inspiring. For now, that will do.
More power to you Phaedra! Not only did you give your son a wonderful birthday party at a venue that was dear to your heart, but you give him an abundance of love every day. No one is ever obligated to attend a birthday party. The people who drive 2 hours to attend this event did so out of choice. No one forced them to. I'm turning 53 on my next birthday. I think I will have 53 mini cakes to celebrate at MY party!
Originally, I thought your party was insane. Your explanation is genuinely touching. You're growing on me.
Phaedra . I love your character. You know what you want and you go for it not caring what everyone thinks or says. Maybe you could show and teach Cynthia how to Be a strong women like your self and to stand up to Peter and the other s. I love the show and reading your blogs . Can't wait for the next episode.
I can't wait to see Ayden 2nd birthday. I love they way you had everything. sheree doesn't have anything going so she had to make herself revelent.
I like Phaedra. She is what she is & she doesn't get involved in the crap. She is a professional woman who handles her business. U go girl.
Phaedra, Phaedra, Phaedra! Your are over the top.com!!! Like really 12 cakes? Please go somewhere and, sit down!
I absolutely Love you lady. You are the Perfect Southern Bell. Loved the birthday party. Don't like Dewight thought. Keep it classy as you always has and do you. Keep keeping that sexy husband happy and continue supporting him.
Loved your post and the information about your Aunt Frances!!
No one made any one take the two hour trip to the party, people went because they wanted to. I am sure you did everything to make it as comfortable as possible.
As to the 12 cakes, it is your son's celebration and you have the right to have one hundred cakes if you want to. You just keep on rockin' like you do.
I think you are amazing! As everyone knows.....
In seeing you last season I was a bit skeptical about who and how you were. This season I can say I love that every blog is insightful and filled with great information. You don't tend to address the drama but have a habit of speaking on the positive moments of the episode. You and Kandi are the only two people that I can say do not CAUSE drama. If you happen to stumble into it that's one thing but neither of you come off as bitter, nasty, attention craving individuals!!!!! I love it! Keep being blessed and showing the positive side of Black women.
Hi Pheadra, I just wanted you to know that I absolutely love your sophistication and class. You are very down to earth and you keep it real. You are over the top but that's a part of who you are and it shines. You keep the show classy and neutral if that's even possible. Thank you for showing us that money doesn't have to change who you are. Keep up the good work. Congrads to Apollo. You did well speaking in front of that crowd and made it seem so natural. Happy Belated Birthday Aiden! Keep those smiles coming :)
Ms.Phaedra, your comments are very notable and appreicated, but I wish you would comment on what's going on on the show since you are a big part of it. That would help your viewers to understand how you feel about some or all of your comtempories. If you want to have 12 cakes for your son's birthday, Right On to you! I love your Opulence!
Phadera, Everybody knows ...Phadera has a message behind everything she does. Too bad the editors did not allow you to tell the story of your aunt during the show.
You did not have to explain why you had such a nice party for your son. I am sure it was not as over the top as some of those "wanna bees" would have done for their children. I am sure ( if you had to purchase the cakes and park ground rental) you could afford it.
Sheree is a hater. Let’s see how her daughter's wedding turns out. I'll bet she will have a brawl-out with the wedding planner and ask for her money back!
I think you are wonderful Miss Phaedra and are such a pleasant addition to the show. I really appreciate how your blogs are always so positive and you never talk bad about the other women. Those women could learn a lot from you! Blessing to you and your beautiful family!
PHAEDRA What a wonderful blog! It's too bad that the story of your aunt didn't make it onto the show. You and Kandi are the HEART of Real Housewives of Atlanta. I honestly don't know why others find the need to fight with each other. They need to GROW UP! I'm tired of watching their behavior (and bringing Marlo to the mix was a huge mistake). Enjoy your beautiful family!
Your are becomingmy favorite beside Cynthia the others are doing the most right now...o' Nene is my girl she and be a lil much at times but she tells it like it is...most of the time
My, you are really a class act! After all the horrible things that Sheree said in her bits about your son's party, you didn't even comment. You are awesome! I am going to try to be more like you.
I adore your stories Phadera, but you are more sincere when you are quiet. Here are some example: 1. Your story about how you and Appollo met (he tailgated u on the highwway) = not credible. 2. Your silence during the foolishness and f*kery between Marlo and Sheree = credible 3. Your story to defend why you chose to memorialize your pregnancy with pickle as your prop of choice = not credible 4. Your story about being in contact with a political leader in Ghana = not credible 4. Your silence during the Kandi and Sheree exchange at Kim's house = credible ... anyway,'everybody knows' less is more!
LOL! I love the explanation of the park. Really very touching. Many Kudos to your Aunt, she was a trailblazer, may she rest in peace. But I also KNOW that this is your very southern belle way of telling Sheree to "Kick Rocks" (without climbing in the mud) LOVE it! Girl, you get my vote EVERY time!
AHA! I get the venue and that's what family is about. Sheree is such a hater. She has not said anything positive about anyone.
I thought the party looked fun and I like that you are unique in your way of thinking compared to some of the other ladies. I gotten to like you better and you and Apollo's relationship seem to be loving and supportive. #teamphaedra!
You are such a kind sweet youing lady. And funny! I love you and Khandi. The others are too backstabbing and like to stir the pot. You just stay keeping your cool around those other selfserving horrible other women and stay sweet.
Miss Phaedra, You are proof that you do not have to lower yourself to catty behavior to be interesting. I love watching you on the show because you rise above the crazy and bring calm wherever you go. Bravo take a note here - you do not have to be a hot mess in order to be interesting. I am not a Kim or Sheree fan but Phaedra is definitely my favorite.