Cast Blog: #RHOA

A Delightful Journey

Cynthia on Her Drama-Free Trip

Has Kenya Found Love?

Claudia: Kordell was Barely Flirting

Kenya on NeNe's "Embarrassing" Behavior

Claudia: "These Double Standards are Killing Me"

Kandi: "I'm Not Two-Faced"

Phaedra: I Appreciated Demetria's Apology

Are Demetria and Phaedra Cool?

NeNe on Her Apology

Cynthia: Claudia Can Read with the Best of Them

Claudia: NeNe's Behavior Needed to Be Checked

Kenya on "The Beasts"

Phaedra: Demetria Took Things Too Personally

GIF Recap: Lessons in Reading

Phaedra's Ignorant Comments

Claudia: I'm Not Surprised by NeNe's Ugly Demeanor

Kenya: NeNe Doesn't Want to Like Me

Cynthia: I'm Moving Forward in Grace and Love

Kandi: "I Wasn't Trying to Set Demetria Up"

Phaedra on Being Recognized by the Bar

NeNe: "I'm Not a Fake Friend"

Demetria Responds to the Rumors

Cynthia: Forgiveness is a Process

Phaedra: My Mother is My Rock

Kenya: "An Acknowledgement is Not an Apology"

Claudia: I Do Not Own a Flip Phone

Cynthia: It Was Awkward Seeing Phaedra Uncomfortable

Demetria: I Have No Beef with Kenya

NeNe Explains the Wig

Phaedra: I Was Hoping Apollo Wouldn't Create a Scene

Kenya's Not Interested in Roger Bobb

Claudia: "I'm the Samantha of the Group"

Kenya: Cynthia Commanded the Runway

Phaedra: You Don't Often Come Across Hair Burglary

Cynthia: "I Pray We Can Make Peace"

Claudia: I Could Relate to Cynthia's Insecurities

Cynthia's "Non-Conversation" with NeNe

NeNe: The Pit Bull Act is Not a Good Look

Kenya: If It Looks Like a Fraud...

Phaedra: "I Moved Past This Years Ago"

A Delightful Journey

Sheree dishes on all the Africa adventures.

Hey guys,
 
I know it's been a little while, but I'm back! So, let's jump right on in and catch up on our trip to South Africa, which was such a life-changing experience!

When the opportunity to travel abroad to South Africa came up, I was instantly on board. My mom and so many others I know who have traveled and/or lived there before have always said how beautiful it is and that it's an absolutely delightful journey. It makes you appreciate the small things we take for granted, and the people are so kind and appreciative of the little they have. So of course I wouldn't think of passing up this wonderful opportunity!

While we waited at the airport for NeNe to arrive, we had no idea that she would be bringing a companion. That was a complete shocker. Upon seeing Marlo, I knew instantly that there would be some drama, because she was not invited by Phaedra, the host. Why was no one informed that she would be coming on the trip? I knew she felt the need to do something to get attention! When we finally arrived at the villa in Cape Town, it was just gorgeous. I decided that because NeNe and I were not speaking, I would break the ice a bit by making the joke that NeNe, Phaedra, and I would stay together. I wanted us all to enjoy Africa and not put the other girls in an awkward position. If we are at least cordial, then things should go more smoothly and everyone could enjoy themselves. We all had a good laugh, but as you saw, that didn't last long!

Prior to leaving for Africa, I informed my friend Kevin that I was going to be in Cape Town for a day. He and his friend arranged an intimate dinner for ten. I told him I would be bringing Phaedra and Kandi, and he was inviting some of his friends. I didn't think to invite Cynthia, because I was sure she wouldn't attend without NeNe, and I certainly wasn't going to invite Nene. We had not spoken since the argument a few months ago and after the disrespectful way she acted at Kim's friend’s house in Miami last year, it just wasn't happening. As we are getting ready for dinner, my friend Kevin calls, who also knows Cynthia and NeNe, and asks me to invite Cynthia to the dinner. Well I did, and we all know what happened next!

Cynthia, Cynthia, Cynthia...messy. I'm not quite sure what the problem was. For Marlo to run over and go from 0 to 60 all because I did not invite her, the person who no one knew was coming (not even the host) and that came with NeNe (the person I don't speak to), to a party! Really?! Why would she want to go? Why would I want her to go? Why is she so angry? Why is she using hateful, derogatory words? Why would she choose to use that word to describe my friends? I'm not a judgmental person by any means. I love all kinds of people, regardless of their sexual preference.

For the record, finding a man has NEVER been my problem. I refuse at this day and time to sell myself short. I like what I like, and I can tell you for certain that sleeping with senior citizens just for bags, shoes, or money definitely isn’t it!
During the dinner with the Talls, Marlo mentions that I should Google her and check her record. Umm, that's not a good thing or even something anyone should be proud of especially under the circumstances. Go figure.

Anyway, the dinner with Kevin and his friends was an absolute breath of fresh air! I loved the drummer, the fire throwers, everyone was super nice with good energy, the house was beautiful, and the food was delicious. They really went out of their way to ensure we had a great time. Thanks again, Kevin!

The next day we head to Shamwari, and boy are we all beat! The property was so beautiful and at any moment you could see a monkey sitting on the roof or some of the other animals just breeze by. It was very peaceful and serene. After that debacle with Marlo, at this point I just wanted to enjoy my surroundings, appreciate the experience, and see what South Africa had to offer.

It was kind of cool that Kandi, Phaedra, and I picked the rooms we wanted. The rooms were really nice. We would stay up talking for hours or watching movies usually in Phaedra's room. I tell you, hanging out with the Smalls is a bunch of laughs! I was super psyched about going on the safari because I love doing things like that, so much so that the Smalls went even when the cameras were not rolling! I have some of the most amazing pictures of the animals from the safari trips. We have a place in GA that's similar to a safari (of course not on the same scale), but the kids and I enjoy going there.

The most touching part of this entire experience was going to the orphanage and the village to give away some much needed goods. Some of the very things we take for granted, the people in the village were so appreciative to receive. At the orphanage the kids were simply wonderful. It was an honor to meet and spend time with them. Such a sad but moving experience. The conditions at the orphanage were far from good, yet the kids and workers still managed to have a smile on their faces. They seemed genuinely upbeat and thankful even for the little things we brought them and for us just coming to spend time with them. This one little girl clung to me immediately when we entered the orphanage. She did not want to let go, nor did she want any other kids to come near me or spend time with me. It was such an emotional experience. It felt so good that all of us ladies were able to come together on this occasion to contribute to the goodwill of the community. I wish we could have done more and dedicated more time, but we were only there for a short period.
The safari ride with Phaedra, Cynthia, and Kandi got really interesting. A lot was said during that conversation as well as during the last dinner! Cynthia made the comment that she didn't see Kim in Africa holding African babies, Kandi (who is friends with Kim) chimed in and agreed with Cynthia and proceeded to say that she didn't see Kim going to an orphanage or even coming to Africa period. Now I stand corrected that Kandi did not make the initial statement about the black baby/African baby, however she agreed with Cynthia. Then said she didn't see her in an orphanage in Africa. Now the whole black baby thing was what seemed to get Kandi in such an uproar. No, she did not say that, however not only did she agree with Cynthia, she implied the same thing when stating that she wouldn't go to an orphanage in Africa. Was it just me or were there ONLY black babies/children there? To me, making those statements and agreeing with Cynthia on that sentiment was basically insulting Kim and implying she could possibly be racist. It seemed to me like she was throwing her friend Kim under the bus. I don't understand why Kandi can't seem to grasp that. Who wants to possibly have to defend their character to millions of people about something someone said, especially if it could possibly be untrue? It's not fun!

After the safari we head to our rooms and call Kim. I chose to mention what was said in the jeep not while Kandi wasn't present but while she sat next to me, because I didn't feel like that was right. If she really felt that way, then she should tell her and allow her to respond. Again, I stand corrected, Kandi did not say the black baby thing. I recanted my statement to Kandi during our discussion once we hung up, but to me there is really no difference in what either of them said. One was just more direct in her statement. I didn't mention Cynthia at the time, because Kim and Cynthia are not friends and she doesn't have that loyalty or bond of trust that I thought friends share. Believe me, if it were the other way around or if it were any of my other close friends and I witnessed someone they think is their friend talking badly about them, I would do the absolute same. And the people that are my real friends would do it for me too! I'm not saying that people are not entitled to their opinions by any means, because as you see, we all have them! Just own it!
Overall, my African experience was simply amazing and very educational. Despite all the drama, chaos, and fights this journey will forever be in my memory. I experienced every emotion one can feel on this excursion. Through the highs, the lows, the ups and downs, when it was time for us to come together as a whole, put our differences aside, and realize that this opportunity wasn't just about us but about helping others that were in need, we stood together strong. It was about doing something good that would make our parents and grandparents proud. We were not able to save the world on our ten day adventure, however we were able to make a difference in a few peoples’ lives, which to me made it all worthwhile. And if the Smalls and Talls never agree on anything else, I think we can all agree that this was a wonderful experience!

Until next time!

Twitter: @IamSheree

Sheree'

Kandi: "I'm Not Two-Faced"

Kandi Burruss weighs in on the confrontation between NeNe Leakes and Claudia Jordan.

Last week’s episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta was crazy. Let me just say, despite all the shade that was going on between Demetria and Phaedra, it was nothing compared to the argument that happened between NeNe and Claudia. First of all it was unexpected -- nobody was expecting Claudia and NeNe to get into it. But at the same time what did you expect? Something is going to pop off if you tell somebody that you can’t believe they have a brain, but I don’t think anybody was expecting Claudia to react the way she did. Yes, I did feel like Claudia got the best of NeNe in the argument, because there was a lot that was said. Every time NeNe had something to say, Claudia had a comeback for it. It was funny and hilarious, and Claudia just seemed to be saying the things that everybody has at one point wanted to say, but probably never did. The reason why I say everybody is because I look at the blogs, I see the tweets, and there have been a lot of times that people over the years have said, “Why didn’t you say that?" Or "Somebody needs to tell her this!" Or "Somebody should do that!" So all the things that people have said on Twitter that someone should have said to NeNe, Claudia said that day. And it was hilarious to me.

I see people have been tweeting me saying, "Oh you’re two-faced" -- no I’m not two-faced, because I really don’t have a very close relationship with either one of them. Both of them are cool, but I just don’t have a close relationship with either one. So if one of them says something funny, I’m going to laugh, I’m sorry. You can be mad all you want to, but if Claudia says something funny, I’m going to laugh, if NeNe says something funny I’m going to laugh -- I don’t owe either one of them anything. So it is what it is.

Some people felt like NeNe got the best of Claudia in the argument, but I didn’t feel that way. For one that argument was even longer than what you guys got a chance to see. But on top of that I felt that sometimes it seems when NeNe gets frustrated or upset with someone, her go-to thing is to talk about is, “You're broke, I have more money than you,” so I was used to that, it was nothing new to me. But the stuff that Claudia was saying was funny and she was very calm about it. I’m not a good arguer; I wish I could be as quick on my feet as NeNe and Claudia are. I’m not quick on my feet like that when it comes to going back and forth with somebody. I get angry, and sometimes it gets all out of hand for me, but for them they’re good at just going back and forth with their words. I don’t know if that’s a good thing or not, because I know NeNe has said she says things that she regrets later. But it’s of course better than someone getting violent; they just fought with words, and it was amusing.

OK enough about that, I know people have their lives, I do too. To me NeNe's funniest moments of the conversation were when Claudia left the table. When NeNe kept talking it was so funny! When she started taking about that bob, I was looking at my own hair thinking, "Well I have a bob! Wait a minute, hold on, how are you going to talk about bobs like that?" But it just was so funny, she had us cracking up with the way she kept pretending she was rolling her hair up, it was just hilarious.

But outside of that, with all the drama that was going on between the girls, I felt like having another Bedroom Kandi party was the perfect interruption we all needed. We needed something that was going to be fun, that could bring everyone together, or at least get us on the same page for once, and I feel like I was able to do that. I know people are always asking why I'm constantly talking about sex, but when you talk about sex, you always laugh or smile, because it only brings happy thoughts. That’s the one good thing you can say about that, and when I brought out some of our Bedroom Kandi products and we played the game, the Bedroom Kandi version of hot-potato, it was hilarious. But better than that it helped everybody to mend their ill feelings for a moment at least, because people who didn’t even get along with each other still had to work together to play the game, which I thought was a great thing. People were laughing and smiling -- there were no arguments, there were no side-eyes, and I felt like it was perfect. Ain’t no party like a Bedroom Kandi party, 'cause a Bedroom Kandi party don’t stop!

Anyway, so on to the bus. The bus ride went horribly. I thought that everybody was on the same page after doing the Bedroom Kandi party, but obviously not. I thought it was good that NeNe apologized, because she doesn’t normally apologize, and I thought it was a good thing for her to clear the air with everyone. But Claudia just didn’t want to accept the apology. She wanted to keep going on and on and on about why NeNe had said those things. Come on girl, can you just please just accept the apology and keep it moving? Or don’t accept the apology and be quiet. Nobody wants to keep going on about the same thing over and over again, so that was irritating to me.

But then she had to blast Porsha, which I felt was completely uncalled for. I didn’t even understand why she even had to bring that whole situation up. That’s one thing that I don’t like about a lot of the girls. It seems like they purposefully want to bring up negative things about you, to put you on blast, or to put everything out there. It’s not like Porsha was even the topic of that conversation, so I don’t know why she felt like that was the perfect time to blast Porsha. It was just really unnecessary, and that’s just how I feel about that. Who Porsha is dating or who did or did not buy Porsha's car I don’t feel had anything to do with anybody on that bus, and I didn’t feel it was necessary.

So enough of that, at least from that point on we all were able to still put our negative feelings aside and make it to Demetria’s performance. I thought Demetria did an outstanding job. That was the first time I’ve ever heard her sing, and I thought her voice was beautiful. I thought she did a good job with her performance; she had a lot of personality on stage. You guys only got to see the one or two songs that they showed, but of course her performance was longer than that, and she did a great job. I don’t know if she could be a pop star. When I think of pop stars, I think of young teens, early twenties, so I don’t know if she is necessarily a pop star, but she is definitely an entertainer, and she definitely could put out an album. I think she definitely would have a lot of fans if she had the right team behind her, and I was glad we could be there to support her. The funny thing is she didn’t even have a clue about what went on in the bus, so luckily that whole negative drama missed her and didn’t affect her performance. Thank the lord, thank the lord.

All right, until next week! Everybody please follow me on Twitter. I know you like to go back and forth on Twitter, so feel free to go on my Twitter page and go back and forth with me @Kandi. You can hit me up on Instagram @KandiBurruss and follow me on my website Kandionline.com. And please go to BedroomKandi.com and book yourself a Bedroom Kandi party, because clearly a lot of us need to have a Bedroom Kandi party in our life! See you!

 
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