Cast Blog: #RHOA

Calling Out Kenya's Lies

Cynthia has some rebuttals for some of Kenya's talk at the party.

I am so grateful to have celebrated my daughter Noelle's 13th birthday! Yes, I have a teenager now, and I know she is going to need me more than ever. These years are very important "growing years," and I am dedicated to making sure she blossoms into a beautiful, smart, kind, respectable young lady. I strive to be a mother that my daughter can look up to, and be proud of. There is never a moment in the day when Noelle is not on my mind, and in my heart. She is always with me, even when we are thousands of miles a part. I have achieved much success in my life, but the only thing that I am truly GREAT at is loving Noelle.

I love strong, powerful women! I always try to surround myself with smart, ambitious women because they empower me, and I can learn so much from them. Drama or not, I recognize, and respect that the ladies I work with are smart, confident, and all about their business. I have received a golden nugget from each of them, even when it may not have been coming from the kindest place! I love the irony of it all. You can empower people, and not even know that you are doing it. You never know where you may find inspiration, so always keep your eyes open because it may be hiding in some very "unlikely" places.

The LET YOUR SUCCESS FLOW party that I put together for NeNe was my sincere attempt to congratulate, and applaud her on her a job well done! I am inspired by her fearlessness to go out and conquer opportunities that even she could not image would be coming her way. She has astonished many with her soaring success, and just when people count her out, she always lands on her feet! Cheers to you!

It was Nene's idea to not make the party just about her own success, and to make it a celebration for all the successful women in our circle. I loved it! At least for one afternoon the girls would get all dolled up, sip champagne, and celebrate each other. The party was a huge success, the ladies were stunning and positive affirmation filled the air. However, there were a couple of bumps in the road:

Kenya telling Phaedra and Kandi that JET magazine asked her to be a judge at The Bailey Agency.

Cynthia -- that's the first lie. I invited Kenya to The Bailey Agency, and had I not she would have not been there, period. Out of the kindness of my heart I asked JET if they would mind if she joined us. While they weren't exactly jumping up and down about it, I got them to agree to let her come. Tip: Never tell a lie that you will definitely get caught in. Especially if the truth will eventually play out on national television.

Sidebar: No one has the authority to invite anyone to do anything at The Bailey Agency without my approval. EVERYTHING has to go through me first since it is my school.

Kenya telling Phaedra and Kandi that her security kicked Carlton (my assistant) out of The Bailey Agency.

Cynthia -- And that would be the second lie. The man at the school with Kenya approached Carlton, we all had words, and he was told to have a seat. That's exactly what he did. End of story.

Sidebar: I had no idea that guy was her bodyguard . I just assumed he was a family member who just came along with her for the car ride.

Extra sidebar: It was a bit disappointing to watch Kandi and Phaedra faces light up with so much joy when Kenya was berating me at their first lunch. Their facial expressions were irreplaceable and unforgettable.

I adore Vanessa Williams, we actually have many friends in common. I called her to ask for advice and help with my pageant. She was so gracious, positive, and excited to assist me in any way she could. Her love and support wer very validating, and meant the world to me! It was such an honor to get personal counsel from the first African American woman to be crowned Miss America. I am inspired by her strength, talent, kindness,and generosity. Much continued success to you and your amazing career. You are the queens of queens! Sidebar: I am still looking forward to lunch with you the next time I'm in New York City.

"Success doesn't just come to you, you go to it." -- Marva Collins

"A crown, if it hurts us, is not worth wearing." -- Pearl Bailey

"Don't spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door." -- Coco Chanel

Tune in next week to RHOA at 9pm on Bravo. I appreciate and love you guys!

Cynthia Bailey

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Claudia: Some People Have a Vendetta

Claudia Jordan shares her thoughts on the group therapy session.

Bravotv.com: Did you feel like progress was made at the therapy session?
Claudia Jordan: I do and I don't. The main people that needed it were not willing participants. One took off because she couldn't deal with hearing about how her actions affected the rest of the ladies. And the other that stayed, well… she received apology after apology without ever acknowledging any of her own wrong doing. That's not right at all. How is it that the woman on the receiving end of a physical attack has apologized to her assailant on several occasions, yet she has yet to show any remorse? That's downright insane to me! At the end of the day, there are lots of situations in this group where one can claim they were "provoked," and if the response/excuse every single time was physical violence, we'd all be in jail! And the sad thing is in this particular environment I felt that everyone else there was really ready to do the work and participate. So if ever there was a time to drop the ego and do the right thing and apologize simply for the purpose of starting the healing process for the group, then that was the time. Some people are just too stubborn and refuse to humble themselves. That happens when you are babied your entire life -- you feel like you can do no wrong. The rest of the ladies (including myself) however have all apologized and taken responsibility for contributing to the discord. But just pay attention to who never apologizes and who always does. I do not think that is because one "group" has been causing all the negativity in the group. But I do think that is because some have an agenda and a vendetta, while the other group is actually trying to make things cool and move on.


But on the flip side I will say that therapy was beneficial. In that one session we did get some good guidance from Dr. Jeff, who I would like to apologize to on behalf of the group for how he was mistreated. He came to help us and was insulted, disrespected, and his professionalism was questioned, which he did not deserve. So Dr. Jeff, I am sorry for how you were mistreated. The session did just highlight that some of us are mature and able to speak respectfully to one another, even if we have an issue with them, and some just cannot stand the sight and sound of someone we have decided not to like just because. All in all we did the best we could, and everyone who stayed did seem to really want to get along. And things were definitely better at work after the session. We were cordial and friendly.

Bravotv.com: Why did you decide to meet with Dr. Jeff one-on-one?
CJ: I have never, ever once claimed to be perfect or without flaws. And when I say I want to really resolve things, I am not just offering lip service -- I really mean it. If there is something that I am doing wrong that is contributing to any of the strife amongst the group, then I'd like to address it and do my part to work on me. I think most of us have issues with others because of past hurts that we perhaps never really dealt with and that cause us to act out in certain ways that may bother others. I am not saying I do this necessarily, but I have no problems talking to someone to at least try to be a better person. I for sure have made my share of mistakes and have experienced a lot of pain and disappointment in my life, but I've also been extremely blessed. But at the end of the day, my intention is always to grow and learn from it all and to be a better woman today than I was yesterday. Dr. Jeff is great at what he does and was for sure an asset to the group. Thank you, Doctor!

Bravotv.com: Did you and Porsha manage to get back to a better place?
CJ: It seemed that way. But I had made the decision that regardless of whether or not she was going to continue the peace treaty, that I was going to do my part to keep it cool, polite, and cordial. And so far so good.

Again I'd like to thank the fans for all their support and love and enthusiasm for #RHOA! I was in Miami Beach and Miami Gardens with the morning show this past weekend for Jazz in the Gardens, and the love I got from all the fans of the show was next level! I was truly flattered and humbled, and I will never let any of this get to my head and change me. I'm grateful to be a part of this and for all the amazing opportunities that keep sprouting from this. I just wrapped a movie called The Hills that I have a lead role in, which will be out in the fall, as well as another film called Love is Not Enough. I'm also working on a product line (to be announced soon) and more calls have been coming in from Hollywood for more great acting roles. I also had a great time with my girls in Miami and ran into a bunch of awesome people doing their thing that love the show too! I feel so rested and at peace. I'm healthy, happy, and appreciative. #ThankYouGod

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