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Kenya's Mean Girl Comments

Cynthia couldn't believe Kenya's behavior during the Jet Magazine open call.

Welcome back!

First and foremost, let me say THANK YOU to all of you that have shown me so much love and support. Life is full of ups and downs, and at the end of the day, the only thing that you are left with is your friends, family, and most importantly, God. Your kind words and well wishes are greatly appreciated and are always right on time.

I am so excited to fill you guys in on everything that's been going on in my life. It has been a long time, and so much has happened. I am blessed to say that my family and I are doing great. By the grace of God, we all are in good health and living a happy life. Let me start by saying that my 12-year-old daughter, Noelle, is truly the love of my life. I love that little girl so much that when she is in pain, I am physically sick about it. No mother ever wants to see her child suffer mentally or physically for any reason.

I decided to homeschool Noelle, because she was having some issues in school, not academic but social. The environment for her became one that was spirit-breaking as opposed to spirit-lifting. I know my child very well, and she was not flourishing. It was hard to watch her try to find her own identity, and own who she is. No matter how much love and support she got at home, when she went to school she was torn down. I noticed that her behavior went from confident, strong, smart, and happy to low self-esteem, quiet, withdrawn, and sad. Her eating habits changed, grades dropped, and she started biting her nails uncontrollably. It was heartbreaking, and I felt so helpless. At first, I took the "tough love" approach, and told my child the usual things like, "This is life," "this is how school is," and told her that she has to "stick it out." I had flashbacks of my own childhood issues with bullying and trying to fit in. It was very difficult, and I wanted so badly for my mother to protect me and make it all better. Now as a mother myself, I will go to any lengths to protect my child and family. When it got to the point where I could no longer watch the light go out of the same eyes that used to light up a room, I took Noelle out of school. I was literally dropping her off one morning for school and was kissing her good-bye when I paused for a moment to look at her, and I did not like what I saw. That was it for me, I was done. I told her to get back in the car and took her home. I immediately felt a sense of relief, and guilt left my body. I knew I was doing the right thing. I never had any regrets, and I never looked back. Noelle was home schooled for the rest of the year. Homeschooling was fine, but after a while of course Noelle began to miss being around other children. So I decided to put her in another school that was a better fit for her, and she is happy and doing well. So yes, Noelle is back in school, but I do not regret taking her out when I did. Finding the right school for your child is very individual. What works for one child may not work for another. A mother’s love and instinct is very powerful, there is nothing like it. Thank you to Leon and Peter for always bearing with me and supporting me.

The Bailey Agency School of Fashion just celebrated its 1-year anniversary! It's been a long year, and a lot of hard work. I have been a fashion model for the last 20 something years, and The Bailey Agency School of Fashion is my first business. I am so proud of all the great things that I have accomplished and have going on at the school. I have a great team, and I love my staff. Go on to thebaileyagencyschooloffashion.com for more information. Also, we are also doing pageantry! Go on to missrenaissancepageant.com for more information. All are welcome, and as always, thank you for your support.
 
Now let's get to it! I don't really know Kenya, but we do have a few friends in common. However, that does not make us friends. A mutual friend connected us, and when we spoke on the phone, Kenya could have not been more kind and gracious. Even though I had heard that she was as crazy as a road lizard, I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt. I pride myself on being the kind of woman that embraces other women and will give anybody a chance. In conversation, I mentioned to her that I had a JET casting coming up, and since she didn't seem to busy doing anything else, I invited her to come and be a judge. She immediately jumped at the opportunity and could not thank me enough for the invite. Although we spoke on the phone, the JET casting was my first encounter with Kenya face to face. So let me refresh everybody's memory of some of the things Miss USA had to say:

Kenya: “I'm not trying to be the mean girl, but why are you here?”
Cynthia: If you are not trying to be the mean girl, then don’t be. Just shut up and judge. That's the only reason I invited you in the first place. To answer the second part of the question, the girl was at the OPEN CALL because it was exactly that, an OPEN CALL. That means all were welcome to come and try out. Better question? Why were you there, Kenya? I'm sure being such a big public figure, and a top actress/director/producer you had thousands of movie/TV jobs that you could have been working on. And let's not forget your busy "butt" modeling schedule.Kenya: “Is that a man? I was looking for the Adam’s Apple.”
Cynthia: And who's not trying to be the mean girl again?

Kenya: “Is this strip club Jet or regular Jet?”
Cynthia: Is this strip club Kenya or regular Kenya?

Kenya: “Why is Cynthia so comfortable, this is her agency, people are coming off the street looking a hot ass mess?”
Cynthia: Why are you so comfortable to come into my place of business and act a hot ass mess?

Kenya: “Ass crack and couchie crack is inappropriate at an audition, and I am offended.”
Cynthia: Calling people bitches, disrespecting me, my school, and my staff, being nasty to the girls trying out, embarrassing me in front of my client, JET, and showing me no appreciation for including your "couchie crack" in the first place is offensive to me, so I guess we are even.

Kenya: “Couldn't they stop at Target and get an appropriate swimsuit?”
Cynthia: Couldn't you have stopped at church and had an exorcism before you came to the audition?

Kenya: “Who are you and why are you talking to me?”
Cynthia: Who are you and where is your dermatologist?

Kenya: “Cynthia just mimicked everything I just said, it's as though she didn't have an original thought in her mind. There is a possibility that Cynthia is a little intimidated by me.”
Cynthia: Mimicking everything you said, no one asked your thirsty ass to say anything in the first place! I had the original thought to open up The Bailey Agency School of Fashion, which you should be thankful for. I created a door for you to walk through, and without that door, I would not be speaking about you right now. Did you catch it? Intimidated by you? There is no reason for me to be intimidated by you. You have nothing I want or can't get. You are delusional.

Kenya: “My criticism is meant to help” blah, blah, blah.
Cynthia: Help who, you? Putting people down to make you feel superior is very sad.

Kenya: “I am a public figure, I always need security.”
Cynthia: On what planet? You don't need security, you need a hug.

Tune in next week to RHOA at 9pm on Bravo. I appreciate and love you guys!

Cynthia Bailey

"Biting the hand that feeds your mouth is never wise."
 -Common Sense

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Claudia Jordan shares her thoughts on NeNe Leakes' breakdown and the reunion as a whole.

Bravotv.com: What was going through your mind when NeNe walked off?
Claudia Jordan: Well the reunion was quite an experience. When NeNe walked off, initially I wasn't sure what was going on to be honest. But I did notice she seemed to be trembling, so I knew she was definitely feeling something very real to her. I just didn't know what set her off at that point. So at first I was a little taken back. I had never seen her cry, but we are all human and everyone has their breaking point.

Bravotv.com: Do you think NeNe had a real breakthrough?
CJ: I honestly did think at that moment she really did. Her demeanor was different afterwards. And I even heard from her after the show. That to me was a good sign that perhaps we could all really move forward and start fresh. I know I'm always open to squash some beef, especially if it's nothing deep rooted and something surface. I don't see why not. But like I said on the show, we all have a story and things that we have had to deal with and overcome. I think we need to not think our problems are bigger than the next woman's and respect one another's struggles -- whether we think they are major or minor. One woman's problems are not more important than the rest. And I think if we can all learn to be sensitive to the next woman, then we are on our way. Hopefully that moment was the catalyst for change in NeNe and in others as well.

Bravotv.com: Do you feel like everyone ended the reunion in a better place?
CJ: I'd like to think so. I do think some will probably never be open for change and are just stuck in their own way, while others really took advantage of the opportunity to take something from it all. I'm not going to worry about those that do not wish to grow and move forward. I will just focus and give energy to likeminded individuals that want to get along, move forward, grow, learn, and progress. I know I felt good about the reunion. I know I didn't chime in a whole lot. And I think I had good reason. You don’t get to see everything, but I felt it was important to let the people who had real issues with each other hash it out with no outside opinions, just like I said in the Philippines. When people interject their opinions and thoughts when it’s not their issue, it just adds confusion to the situation. One of the cast members in particular is good for that. Always adding "well I think..." when it has absolutely nothing to do with her, and I feel those extra unnecessary comments can potentially add fuel to the fire and then there is no coming back. So if my silence was going to help the progress of the group moving forward, then I will take that "L."

Yes, it's "cute" to "read" and get in an epic one liner or rant, but sometimes you just need to shut the hell up and let folks deal with each other and let them do them. I have no problems with that. Plus my opinion on everyone’s situation doesn't need to always be heard -- I wish more of us felt the same way. I will say that this seemed to be a great starting point for folks to move forward and put their money where their mouths are when it comes to being a grown ass woman. I really hope everyone wants to. It'd be great to see how things could go if we spent less time fussing and more time co-existing peacefully. #ThatIsAll

 

As the season has come to an end for me, I just wanted to say wow! What a roller coaster ride it has been! I had no idea getting into this that any of it would happen. I thought I'd come on board, have a little fun, bring a little light-hearted fun, and make some new acquaintances. This show is huge and everywhere I go people come up to me and say such amazingly sweet things, and I am truly humbled when they tell me how they can relate to me and appreciate my realness. I was particularly touched when a teenage boy who was gay and biracial that had always felt like an outsider reached out to me talking about suicidal thoughts he had. We spoke and I was beyond moved when he told me that he could relate to some of the things I spoke about and that I somehow inspired and encouraged him to keep going. Those are the moments that make all the drama and fussing and fighting truly worth it. I want to continue to use this amazing platform for important issues. Again I thank Andy, Carlos, Joy, Lauren, Stephen, the entire cast and crew for this amazing opportunity. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

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