Cynthia Bailey

Cynthia recaps the ups and downs of her first pageant.

on Feb 20, 20130

"Never doubt that a group of sharing, caring, and serving people can achieve the impossible."

Hello everyone! Apologies for being a little behind on my blog. I have been in New York City for Fashion Week for the past couple of weeks.

Just a quick recap of last week, and then I will move on. Is mixing friendship and business a good idea? Well, that depends on the friend, and how much history you have together. Although there are always exceptions to the rule, I believe that mixing business with friendship rarely works out. Business is business, and should never be personal. The Kenya and Phaedra Battle of the Butts is a perfect example. These girls seemed to have really hit it off when they first met and became friends. Unfortunately, because of a business deal gone bad, they have apparently broken all ties. It was really painful to watch Phaedra and Kenya's friendship fall to pieces, and I would never want to go down that road with any of the ladies.

I am naturally a nice person and will give anyone the benefit of the doubt. I have often been accused of actually being "too nice." I have to get out of the habit of jumping into relationships with new friends before I really get to know them. I have only myself to blame when things don't work out, and I accept full responsibility. Maintaining relationships (old and new) mean more to me than doing business together. Good friends are hard to find!

171 comments
sweetscholar4hire
sweetscholar4hire

Cynthia, I am watching the pageant episode and I have to say that you should be embarrassed. First, as a business woman. You have been in the industry for a LONG time. You know the importance of checking and checking again. You opt to make excuses for YOUR inability function as a professional. This is something that you clearly did for the show. It looks horrible and you should know better. Your mistakes will always be noted by the professionals that attended, the parents, but most importantly the young ladies that took the time to be part of your "Miss Renaissance" nightmare! Secondly, while you claim to support others, you need to pick up a book and read. This is a repeated nightmare. Remember when you once again embarrassed yourself last season when you tried to READ?...

 

Perhaps would have made it in the industry if you were a better person. While you come across as nice...your clearly are "nice nasty." You keep things going all of the time. Your a trouble maker, which is a terrible quality to have. I don't care for passive aggressive people...and most don't. I prefer that you give it to me raw...like supermodel Naomi Campbell.

 

One the piece of advice...please stop sweating NeNe...she is a smart woman, and she gets it. You are world traveled, yet you act like you don't have a clue about anything, but starting trouble. This is not good for your business...the industry is tough enough, and they don't need an uneducated, troublemaking, follow to add fuel to the fire. Did anyone once again notice that Peter was not around to assist...lol

Hogan
Hogan

Cynthia,

As the only person who was honest about NeNe's dinner escapade - much respect to you! It was thoughtless and terribly rude. She had invited her new friends specifically to meet all of you...her first mistake. You were right that in hindsight you should have taken a cab and been on time yourself. Next time.

Your pageant was just fine. Your host was not. Who would dress like he did for any event? What a doofus! You should have had your husband as co-host! I know that your next pageant will be perfect! I loved that Kenya was complimentary to you during that entire matter. She was right to be.

lucky8
lucky8

One other thing . . . for a super model (beautiful and all), you sure don't have any taste in good looking men!  Leon is cool, but he is not that great looking either.  And Simmons is not that attractive either.  I guess you only have taste in clothes and hair.  Now Mallories husband is very handsome.  He also speaks like a gentlemen - I never heard him say "no what I mean" like Papa Smurf says.  He reminds me of someone from a poor neighborhood - You need to stop focusing on backstabbing everyone and start teaching your lousy husband how to speak.  And tell him to stand up straight and stop slouching all the time.  That man needs serious help.

Hulali
Hulali

Cynthia used to be sweet and authentic her first season on the show, but then.... well it happens to some.  Cynthia had well documented financal distress and knew Nene was moving on to her other TV appearances so she HAD to be more dramatic to stay relevant on the show.  Thats when we see her start to do all the scurrying back and forth diclosing each and every negative comment to the other ladies.  Its so contrieved and fake.  Now Cynthia has evolved into a real b*tch to make sure she keeps her spot on the show.  She veen admitted as much on WWHL with Nene this week.  Sad.. I hate it when the housewives start playing for the camera and loose their sense of reality!  (ie... Jill Zarin, Kyle RIchards, Caroline Manzo, Tamera Barney...) It ruins the show for me everytime!!

Schykerynec
Schykerynec

Cynthia has become a snob. The way she let her "Bailey boy's" treat Porsha was unfair. I liked Cynthia in the first season but she has become too much of a snob and is boring.

olivia1947
olivia1947

Glad you got rid of Porsha.....that is one dumb woman. Easily understood, after seeing her mother and sister INSIST she impress her HUSBAND rather than wear what she wanted.  Dumb runs in the family. Some woman will be with ANYONE for money, and after seeing him, there is no other reason to be with THAT except for money. Glad you have your own career and a great husband.  Pageant was great !

keno.jersey
keno.jersey

Once Cynthia realized that she was able to fill the seats at her pageant she felt like she didn't need to use Porsha's family charity. After all, she could then keep all the money herself. Cynthia and her husband are annoying phonies that kiss up to NeNe hoping it gives them job security with RHOA

quette432004
quette432004

Psst -!to all the vindictive bloggers bka Porsha fans - Cynthia contract has been renewed and Porsha is still waiting and hoping. Yippee, no contract now means she is gone with the wind, fabulous!

quette432004
quette432004

Cynthia, BRAVO! You did it, congratulations!!! Girl, after reading these post I realize that these people have the maturity level of Porsha. Always trying to saying something negative but reporting it in a cloud (donating the proceeds vs a portion of the proceeds). Whew, honey chile; remember let your haters be your motivators. Thank you for informing the intelligent viewers of the sponsorships of the pagent. I was happy to see you gave 2 charities donations. BRAVO!!! Oh, did you hear that Porsha is not going to be on the show next year? Thank goodness. Now, I'm just waiting to see if Kenya will be booted off. That would make me so happy. One down now one more to go.

mzzzz915
mzzzz915

MARHOA = Most Annoying Real Housewife Of Atlanta

vincygirl
vincygirl

Cynthia,  Cynthia you are are losing your charm

Judysea
Judysea

Cynthia reading the many negative statements about on this blog almost guarantees this will be your last season as an RHOA.

As I look back I don't think you really added anything to the show. Perhaps with you gone Kim and Nene can repair their tattered friendship. 

Kim at least was a lot of fun to watch and her girls added laughs to a show too focused on drama.

Standalone2
Standalone2

RHOA is becoming one big infomercial!!!  I am tired of you ladies selling and up-selling products every week.  Bravo need to start working on their editing process.

Ceci2468
Ceci2468

I'm glad your pageant did well and it was fun to watch. I understand that you're excited that your pageant was a success but do you really think that it's appropriate to do so much plugging on here of your acknowledgements and other charities? This blog is for RHoA or so I thought.

mellowyellow
mellowyellow

The ladies on RHOA seem to get more and more classless. Cynthia, I thought you were one who had something to strut about, but now, not so much.

Sms
Sms

Keeping your guest wait....  While they counted Votes would of been a perfect time to have Porsha Sing...   You have really changed this Season, for the WORST..

bpster
bpster

"You were, dare I say, GONE WITH THE WIND FABULOUS! Phaedra,Kandi, and Porsha thank you all for coming and supporting my big night! Your kind words were appreciated and truly meant a lot to me."  

Too bad you used those words against people that were kind to you, seems to me you could have said ANYTHING but that......Seriously I honestly think you don't have much upstairs. 

candace.brinker
candace.brinker

You are really messy this season. That was wrong to tell your staff what Porsche said, about her husband not wanting people in his home. Then you act so righteous, when you gossip just as much.

lucky8
lucky8

 @Hulali

 Hulali, all I can say is "Hallalejah"!  You hit it right on the nose.  Cynthia is not a nice person at all.  She thinks she's cool, but she's turned into a beatch for real.  I don't even enjoy looking at the scenes with her or Nene - they both suck!

MizzouTraveler
MizzouTraveler

 @olivia1947 First of all, it was Kordell's birthday and she was dressing for him to be sexy for him on HIS birthday.  When it's YOUR birthday, wouldn't you appreciate it if your mate was selfless enough to do something that special for you?  Trust me, men are visual.  Kordell Stewart is a handsome athlete and a wise business man.  I admire how protective and caring he is of his wife.  And who are you to down grade women who CHOOSE by their own choice to be a home maker, housewife, and stay at home mom?  It's  neo nazi feminist women like you that keep fellow women down by lynching them for choosing what Porsha has.  Women have the right to choose as men.  The last thing women  need is women like yourself calling them 'dumb' for choosing said path.  Calling someone dumb and referring to someone's family like that for something so beneath trivial, only reflects on what you really think and know of yourself.  Having said that, if it were Kenya doing that for Walter's birthday, I assure you, she would have made it all about herself as opposed to it being his special day.  

mikeina.frazier
mikeina.frazier

 @quette432004 they can do with out Cynthia and her being phony. she talks behind your back and like to starts stuff

vfmcc
vfmcc

 @quette432004 Pssst ... Porsche doesn't have to be on the show.  She is doing ok with her hubby and their finances. Cynthia probably needs the money so she is ok with being a back stabber, no backbone, Nene puppet self. 

MilaJ
MilaJ

 @quette432004 It's ok if Porsha does not come back in my opinion she does belong on this show.  Their stage in their lives are very different from each other, they don't have anything in common.   Her not returning would be a blessing for her.

MizzouTraveler
MizzouTraveler

 @quette432004 It really doesn't matter.  In the grand scheme of things, Portia has a happy family and pretty calm existence.  With or without RHOA, she won't be treading water emotionally or financially.  And regardless of whether or not the finances are her husbands is besides the point.  There is no shame is being a stay at home wife and mother etc.  Portia has an innocence that I suspect some of the housewives are jealous of because once you lose that type of youthful innocence you don' get it back.  Have you noticed, it's mainly the 'time fighters' or envious women that are jealous of some of her advantages?  True, beauty fades aesthetically, but she's a truly beautiful woman inside and out.  I can't say that for Cynthia this season, or last.  Portia may not be confrontational as some of the others or as strong in defending herself but at least she can say she has one face, not the 3 Facers of Eve.

MizzouTraveler
MizzouTraveler

 @Sms Basically, Cynthia is the annoying commercial part of the show, where you jump up to the bathroom or get something from the kitchen.

Purple86
Purple86

 I would like to also thank Kenya for being a judge. Despite our differences, we do share the same passion to uplift and empower young girls. You were, dare I say, GONE WITH THE WIND FABULOUS!

 

The Gone with the Wind Fabulous reference was directed toward Kenya.

MilaJ
MilaJ

 @candace.brinker I agree. Specifically as it was her staff and it was unprofessional to do so and allow them to treat Porsha in that manner.    Cynthia seem to take the information negatively and personally so she spread it to them like venom.  I say Business 101 and Business Etiquette is in order.

MizzouTraveler
MizzouTraveler

 @candace.brinker Portia's husband is clearly a private man.  And it's not controlling that he stood up for his wife and was drawing to an end the ridiculous swats Cynthia was taking a Portia; I suspect on behalf of Kenya. I noticed Cynthia's husband didn't intervene when Portia's husband politely put both women in check at his birthday party, though, clearly more geared at Cynthia.  Cynthia trying to make Portia her whipping boy failed. 

 

quette432004
quette432004

@MilaJ I agree. A blessing for her and the viewers. I'm so tired of hearing a black woman called stoopid by the press. Embarrassing!

quette432004
quette432004

@Judysea Celebrate tonight, come on!!! No more Porsha!!!

cheriefran
cheriefran

 @MizzouTraveler  @quette432004 I agree with you MizzouTraveler - why do people find it so hard to believe that a woman enjoys taking care of her home.  As I said on another board it seems that if these woman should let the man in their relationship be a man.  Cynthia has shown nothing but disrespect toward Portia, especially the way she let her employees treat her.  I guess its let's pick on Portia season - but have to say the girl isn't as weak as they though.  Team Porta!

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

@MizzouTraveler @quette432004 I was not impressed by the pageant...i wanted to be...but the guy that helped her, Boris, was dressed like he was taking his dog for a walk, sloppy jeans and sneakers....his shirt needed ironing...i know this guy is a model....Cynthia had a spectacular dress on...the girls in the pageant did formal wear....notice the look on Boris' face as he and Cynthia take their applause and walk...he wanted to own that runway honey....and i was about to give it to him...he ws that good, then i saw that wrinkled shirt he had on....and i said "nuhhhh uhhhh"

EloiseM
EloiseM

 @MizzouTraveler  @quette432004

 To MizzouTraveler.....AMEN, AMEN, AMEN!!!!!  If she does not return, I will surely miss that love of life attitude and an opportunity to go back down memory lane as far as a husband goes.  I had a very good life financially, but nothing like Porsha's, yet we do and did the same things, felt the same way about family, friends and life.  I think this world is too degraded to fully appreciate someone like Porsha to the fullest extent.  However, If there were MORE Porsha's there would be a BETTER quality of women around now.  No, I'm not Porsha.  Never met her, but I do APPRECIATE BRAVO  for letting us see that families like the Stewarts still exist today.  I wish them well and hope they do not change.

quette432004
quette432004

@MizzouTraveler You are the only one talking about Porsha finances or emotions not me. Because it really doesn't matter!!!

quette432004
quette432004

@MizzouTraveler What show are you watching. Porsha has been involved in so much drama but she always twist the story when she re-tells it. Initially I was a Porsha fan bit each episode I kept noticing how she would tell the story like she is the victim. (Ex Anguilla, asking Kenya to wear her crown then saying she was only a guest). Shady!! Not too mention her persona. Enough, moving on to the next RHW

Gingertee21
Gingertee21

 @MizzouTraveler  @vincygirl

 Ditto, I would love to feel victorious for Cynthia but she makes it hard. She has no sense of loyalty and shown herself to be so petty that it is often sad to watch. Her pageant though she pulled it off showed that what she put into it was what she got out of it. She could have worked harder, better, smarter but she wanted to grandstand and have someone do it for her. She has the potential to be greater but she is too busy being messy.

MizzouTraveler
MizzouTraveler

 @Purple86 I can't help but think that Kenya has somewhere down the line, "boiled a bunny", Fatal Attraction style.

nvt
nvt

Cynthia could really use a Charm School class herself. She is coming off two-faced, backbiting , petty and after that money with no apologies.

Better to be thought a fool than speak up and remove all doubt.

EloiseM
EloiseM

 @MizzouTraveler  @candace.brinker

 Oh yes, Kordell did an excellent job of putting Ms Cynthia in check.   I love that man.  It was too funny how Peter just sat and smiled.  He knew Kordell was right.  I respect Peter for that.  I like Cynthia though and really hope she is not like people are saying she is because I only started watching this show because of HER.

keno.jersey
keno.jersey

@Judysea @quette432004 I can't imagine how Cynthia has lasted so long! Interesting how she is trying to pin the controlling husband tag on Porsha's husband, she needs to take a long hard look in her own back yard.

Judysea
Judysea

 @quette432004  @Judysea Porsha is a little hard to take but she has potential. I am sure that once Porsha saw herself on television she knew she had to make some changes.

Cynthia has been looking at herself for 3 years and she seems to be getting worse every season.

MizzouTraveler
MizzouTraveler

 @quette432004  @MizzouTraveler lol  In the cruel world of dog fighting, there is what is called a bait dog, used to fight trained pitt bulls.  Trust me, Portia, is not the pitt bull.  She's been in the midst because of how she was perceived to be the 'easy win', the easy target.

But, I agree, moving on to the next RHW;-)

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

@Gingertee21 @MizzouTraveler @vincygirl Oh honeyyyy...if i invested that much in a spouses business that flopped, i would have to get some collateral from him that he would pay at least 50% back over his remaining life expectancy...either that or he had better live up to my expectations....especially the way Peter informed her of the club closing...he did it on camera, and probably hid the knives

Gingertee21
Gingertee21

 @MizzouTraveler  @vincygirl

 I agree and especially since after her 1st season, Cynthia did an interview with Vibe where she blasted Peter for messing up the money she invested in his restaurant. She went further to proclaim that he better pay her back and the amount was in excess of $1,000,000. In other words, she allowed him to blow her savings from her modeling days. She should never ever ever comment on anyone else's, money, marriage or their man.

MizzouTraveler
MizzouTraveler

 @Gingertee21  @vincygirl Lee Iaocca  who created the Mustang and Pinto for Ford Motor Company and revived Chrysler with the coveted mini van, once said, "I'm not a brilliant man by far, but I surround myself by very smart people."  Cynthia should take this into consideration when striving for her business goals.  And not look to Russell Simmons for a hand out but a hand up in business concerning restructuring her business.  No offense to her husband, but he shouldn't be involved seeing how he was a major problem in her cash capital going out the door on his failed night club / restaurant attempts.