Cast Blog: #RHOA

NeNe's Motives

Kandi explains her comments about NeNe's friendships.

Hello everyone! I got so many tweets during last night’s episode. I'll try to address as much as I can.

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I do my best to try out all of our products. It’s not about being some sex-crazed maniac. Bedroom Kandi is a business and as a business woman I want to be able to answer a question if someone asks me about it. Phaedra is someone that I consider a friend, and she’s open-minded so she’s definitely a person I can ask for help, advice, or an opinion that I would respect. On top of all that she keeps me laughing! Love her!

OK so let’s talk about the drama stuff that I can’t seem to avoid. First, my comments about NeNe. All of NeNe’s fans were mad at me. They were saying I’m jealous, I’m two-faced, I’m hating, etc. LOL! Whatever! I am not jealous of NeNe at all. I’m very happy for her success. I’m definitely not two-faced, because I have been very honest about my feelings towards NeNe all along. Clearly NeNe knows how I feel, because you heard Cynthia say that, “NeNe doesn’t understand why you don’t like her." I think it’s a bit much to say that I don’t like her, because I don’t have any dislike for her. I just think that I’m very guarded when it comes to her.

I hate to even blog about this, because I’m sure it will do nothing but cause more drama, but I’ll try to give you some insight on where I’m coming from. I think she plays the women of this show just like chess. I’m an observer. I just sit back and watch. When people think I’m not paying attention, I am. NeNe is a smart woman and she plays a game to benefit her at all times. There’s nothing wrong with that. I find it funny how over the years she’ll dog somebody out for doing the same exact thing she has already done or said, as if she has never done or said it. And then everyone starts siding with her as if they don’t remember the bullsh-- she did or said. It frustrates me when I get people tweeting me asking, “Why do you feel that way about NeNe?” I’m like, did you just start watching RHOA or something? She’s been making snide remarks about me since I first came on the show. I’m one of those people that if we start off on the wrong foot, then you’ve pretty much set the tone for how it’s going to be, and clearly she and I started on the wrong foot. I try to be cool, because we are in the same circle. I know that we’re going to be around each other a lot, so I’m always cordial. Overall I respect NeNe, I just don’t deal with her too much.

Anyway with all that said, when I made the comment about her having motives when she befriends people, well, that’s how I feel. I’ve come to that conclusion over the years. Example: when she first heard about Marlo coming around, she was highly upset. I saw it with my own eyes. She was pissed. It had been in the blogs about her possibly dating Charles Grant (Marlo’s ex-boyfriend), which was something NeNe always denied. I guess she felt someone was trying to be messy by bringing Marlo around, and I understood why she could feel that way. Anyway NeNe went from being highly pissed to befriending Marlo overnight. It was clear she didn’t want that Charles situation brought up. So befriending Marlo would definitely stop any drama before it starts. Smart move. As I said, she plays chess with these women. I could add more examples, but no need. You should get my point. I actually felt like at some point she and I were getting along a lot better. You’ll have to keep watching to see it.

OK let’s move on to Kim. I haven’t talked to or seen Kim at all since what you saw on last night’s episode. Kim and I have had a shaky relationship ever since the whole Tardy for the Party drama. People always ask, “Why do you never go hard on Kim like you do with NeNe?” Well Kim and I started off on the right foot. We became close quickly. Our daughters had become good friends, and we were taking multiple trips together and had lots of fun. I have made a vow to myself that I will never fall out with friends/family about money. So when she first came to me and said her attorney felt she didn’t have to split the royalties with Don Vito (the producer) and me, I was caught off guard. We never signed an agreement giving her rights to release the song. We could have easily had the song pulled, but I was like whatever at the time. I didn’t want to fall out about money. The problem was this became the topic of every discussion. So of course it became a problem. Then when she asked me to do the next song, Ring Didn’t Mean a Thing, I did it, but I was going to charge her up front instead of just agreeing to split whatever came from sales, which is what we said we were going to do the first time. She didn’t want to pay up front. You may get over once, but never twice. So I would never allow her to release the song. That’s why you never heard any more about it. That for me made the relationship more awkward. So the communication became less and less. When we had the disagreement about the trip, it wasn’t about the fact that she couldn’t go overseas. I don’t want you guys thinking we’re crazy for wanting an 8 month pregnant lady to go overseas. That wasn’t the frustration. The frustration was because SHE gave those dates that were supposed to be approved by her doctor. So a few of us passed up on other opportunities to make those dates work. On top of it all, she was still going on vacation on those dates, just not with us. It would have been better for her to just be honest and say she didn’t want to go from the beginning. Clearly she doesn’t want to be around us. Whenever she does come, she’s barely there. At that point we were all done. Why keep asking someone to be a part of something that they really don’t want to be a part of?



So like I said, I haven’t talked to her since then. As far as the name Kash was concerned, I didn’t even know until it came out in the press that she named her son Kash. I didn’t talk to her about it, because I haven’t talked to her period. I don’t know where she got the name, but I definitely know I didn’t get it from her. Everybody in my circle was shocked to hear she named her son Kash. Of course they all felt she stole it from me. I was hot about it at first, but then I thought why care about a name for a baby you don’t even have yet. So it was kind of silly. A friend of mine that knows both Kim and I was saying that she didn’t get the name from me, and that it was just a crazy coincidence. Who knew we thought that much alike? I guess it’s a Taurus thing. #TeamTaurus LOL!

Much Love,
Kandi

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Phaedra: Ending a Marriage Isn't Easy to Discuss

Phaedra Parks opens up about the difficulties of seeiking a divorce.

Bravotv.com: What were your thoughts about the counseling session? Do you regret not attending?
Phaedra Parks: I do not regret my decision to forego the counseling session. As Porsha said, while many of these women say things in an effort to move forward, their actions contradict their words. Hopefully, some benefit was received from the counseling, but everybody knows actions speak louder than words, so I will be watching to see a change.

Bravotv.com: Why did you break down when talking to Sarah Jakes?
PP: This situation has been very overwhelming to me and being surrounded by mean girls has not made it any easier. During one of my most difficult nights, I prayed and asked God to send me someone who knew HIM but could understand me, and I received a call from Sarah within 24 hours. I knew God had answered my prayer, because Sarah and I are both preachers' children. As such, we are often scrutinized based on our parents' calling rather than who we are as individuals. That being said, she understood my plight as a Christian, wife, mother, and business woman. Sarah went through a difficult situation and could relate to what I was experiencing. Because I knew God sent her, I trusted her, I already respected her, and she made me feel safe. I thank God for sending her!


Bravotv.com: Was it hard talking to the lawyer about your marriage?
PP: It is never hard to talk with a friend and colleague, who has mentored you for well over a decade. Ronne Kaplan like myself is a mother, who endured and survived a difficult first marriage. She did not allow that relationship to defeat or discourage her. Ronne is one of the best family lawyers in the country with a specialty focusing on high asset cases, so I knew she was not only well versed regarding my situation, but she also loves me like a daughter. Ending a marriage is not an easy thing to talk about, but she helped me focus on what was most important and gave me sound advice. It was incredibly helpful to have her put things in perspective for me and tell me what I needed to hear, not what I wanted to hear.

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