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Bravotv.com's Associate Editor thinks Kordell needs to publish his pearls of wisdom.

on Feb 11, 20130

No. 2 - Prayed Up

Having conquered the worlds of pop, R&B, and country music, the next frontier for Kandi is... gospel? Yes, and don't worry, she's quite aware that being the host of Kandi Koated Nights and running a dildo enterprise doesn't exactly scream gospel. But then again, who better to shake up your preconceptions?

So Kandi gave us a little taste of her latest song, Prayed Up, and it definitely had a fun, Kandi-Koated edge to it. Forget those old hymns, let's just have Kandi write all the church music from now on! I'm with Kandi's producer, if this song doesn't get people praying, nothing will.

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gloria9266@sbcglobal.net
gloria9266@sbcglobal.net

lolol, way to go Nubiandiva. Well put. please get them off the show, it sends a sad message to young girls we older ladies try to aspire them to be independent and well versed, knowledgable  - What a messed up "couple"  Thanks alot Bravo...Andy Idiotic

Nubiandiva
Nubiandiva

Kordell and Porsha are like father and daughter. I guess when you marry a man for his money, you have to accept how he treats you.

ShiningStarr
ShiningStarr

Kordell IS controlling, plain and simple. I don't know if that is just his true nature to be controlling or if he is only controlling with Porsha because he know's that she is ditzy and he feels that she can't think for herself. Let's not confuse being a loving supportive husband with a controlling husband. That's where a lot of women go wrong. There are women that think that if a man hits her he must love her or if a man monitors her every move and won't let her be with her friends or family then he must love her, etc. When Kordell and Porsha were at the restaurant and she ordered a Sprite, Kordell said no bring her wine. What would you call that? He treats her like she is a child and she seems to be O.K. with that. It's one thing to have a supportive husband that has your back when need be, but it is another thing to have a husband that treats you like a child. There is a difference.

jstarlett
jstarlett

I love Porsha, however, I am a little concerned about how Kordell treats her, he appears to be controlling and bossy, I personally don't care for him, for Porsha. Just saying.

angel367
angel367

Just watched the clip from Kordell’s party.  He was trying to inform  Cynthia that  he knows she’s two-faced.  Peter and Kordell are so funny sometimes. I think both of them were reared in the house with a lot of women.  They are two hens. lol.

Shorty1961
Shorty1961

No, actually Kordell needs to stop being so controlling of Porsha. I don't like him at all.

kch
kch

Kordell uses old saying that I remember my elders saying.  He is no nonsense, which surprises me as to why I agreed to do this show.  I like that he stands by his wife.  He knows that she is vulnerable in certain areas and he is her defender. Kudos to him.  Bottom line, he calls them out for the caddy, malicious women that they are.

teresajo1959
teresajo1959

Love Cordel and Porscha.....but  Cynthia, Peter and Kenya need to go.....find some replacements pleeeeaassseeeeeeeeee

yolsmoo87
yolsmoo87

I must give Kordell credit for being protective of his wife.  I just wish there more men like him today.  Porsha is one lucky woman and yes I wish to have a man like Kordell one day.

katwoman19
katwoman19

I agree with Michele2361. Kordell please keep being a man's man.

Michele2361
Michele2361

Strongly agree with all these comments. Cordel keep being KIng to your lovely Queen and I like that you listen to and get involved with her issues too .

Gatorgirl1
Gatorgirl1

I think Posha is absolutely adorable but she cannot hold her own and Kordell steps in to protect her. Kordell makes me smile along with his "Kordellisims".

Sheila0729
Sheila0729

I have to agree with those who have said that Kordell is not controlling. I think his tone is the issue. HIs tone can be perceived as controlling. He speaks to his wife as if she is a child. Honestly though, we must admit that Porsha does act so ditsy to the point where she is a lot like a child. I honestly think that he knows his wife and he is simply guiding and protecting her. I think many of us are not use to seeing Porsha's type of Black women on TV; therefore, we just make the assumption that Kordell is controlling and not allowing his wife to be. Believe it or not, some women (Black women included) do want their men to lead (literally) and love it that way.

quette432004
quette432004

I am always for a man supporting his wife but its kordell tone and choice of words that makes his behavior appear controlling. The real problem is Porsha! Let's ponder! How did we get to the point where the meeting was set-up at Porsha's home? Did Porsha offer to have it at her home and Kordell said no! Why did she have to insult Cynthia and her guys! I'm sure we will find out at the reunion. Aftér reading Porsha blog, she admits her only reason being released bothers her is because her Charity is not going to be receiving proceeds! WOW! Cynthia gave her an opportunity to bow out, she clearly told Porsha, if you are not doing this whole heartily, then she would prefer she bow out! What does porsha do, take a call about cleaning her house. Loving the new Cynthia! My jaw dropped when she told Porsha she was out. Ballsy, Ms. Cynthia, good for you. Now I just need you to keep away from Kenya! Kenya has a way of slithering and changing her coat to fool people. Do a little good, just to stab you in the back. Watch out Cynthia! You were point on during the first few episodes.

lachihuahua
lachihuahua

I really like Kordell. He seems to be rather supportive of his wife and I cannot find anything wrong with that. As far as the Bailey Agency Meeting; frankly, I am not sure why it didn't happen at Cynthia's home or business. It IS, after all, HER thing. More important, it was absolutely unnecessary for Cynthia to bring Porsha's discomfort about having the meeting at her home. If Porsha and Kordell has some type of understanding that they will not invite strangers to the home when the other is absent, that is their right. Cynthia handled the whole thing poorly, IMO.

 

This last point is a little snarky but I can't help it. Cynthia calls Kordell "controlling". I find that funny because she has a husband that apparently gets his jollies by repeatedly surprising her even though Peter knows quite well Cynthia hates surprises. His desire to surprise his wife clearly takes precedence over her dislike for surprises. Seems a little controlling to me.

 

All that said, I have always liked Cynthia and while I still do, there is something mildly catty about her this season that I find silly and inexplicable.

kimmie10
kimmie10

Kordell is cool with me.  He is down for his wife. I especially like when he told Porsha and Cynthia that they are both getting on his nerves.  Cynthia is messy and unpleasant this season. Seems to me as if she is trying to ensure her a spot on the show for next season. In my opinion, I'd rather put up with Porsha's procrastination and not allowing my male staff into her home prior to meeting them than to go back and trust crazy Kenya to assist me on "my baby" (the pageant).  Kenya has already gone over board on you in your own establishment but yet you kicked Porsha out to bring in Kenya. I think that was your plan and you used the letter as your "excuse" for giving Porsha the boot.  Either that or you want to keep all of the proceeds for yourself. Thus far, you haven't mentioned another organization that you replaced hers with.

 

Anyway, you got Miss USA (or whatever) and it still looks like your pageant was not a success based on the previews.

Viccope
Viccope

I don't think that Kordell is controllng at all. I think he's a caring huband, encouraging his younger wife to stand up for herself. Cynthia was very inappropriate to even ask to have a business meeting in their house. Judging from the reaction from "The Bailey Boys", you can tell that they wanted to get in to her home to be NOSEY.... There is nothing wrong with not wanting people in his HOME when he is out of town. I am very disappointed with Cynthia's behavior this season. She has turned into a trouble making, catty little gossiping wench & she needs to check herself. She & Peter spend more time in other peoples marriages when they should be worried about their own. I think Cynthia is jealous... She is not to great with her vocabulary either. Her favorite word in "inappropiate".

 

KENYA MOORE does such a disservice to her Miss USA title. Her behavior disgusts me!!

0_lala
0_lala

I love Porsha and Kordell's relationship! He does not play behind his wife and doesn't care what the world thinks lol she's down for him and he's down for her

catgotcha
catgotcha

My favorite was "getting preturd". LOL

marc823
marc823

I don't think Kordell is controlling at all. Some women just want men to sit back and say nothing while they run their mouths. I say keep on defending your wife and if you have to change your tone a little bit to get her attention, then so be it. He is a man, it's not even that serious.  

JPrincess32812
JPrincess32812

I think you are control freak. We know porcha is stupid

Mz.Nicole
Mz.Nicole

I dont think Kordell is at all Controlling, but of course everybody has their own opinion. To me, it seems that yes, he is trying to protect his wife, because as you can see these women can be pretty shady and dirty, and like someone mentioned Porsha approached him with the problem, he feels that he has to solve it or at least help her solve it. As he mention in a recent eposide, Porsha will go on and on about a situation just like everybody else on the RHOA, why not solve it then and move on. I like the fact he mentioned it to Cynthia at the party. He solve it and that was it.

JEM1
JEM1

Kordell seems to be like a "father figure" to Porsha. She is just llike a proverbial "dumb blonde": clueless and not very bright. He just does not want her to be taken advantage of by anyone. Not allowing her to think for herself may not be a bad idea since she rarely thinks! She may just be playing dumb or actually is...whatever, he takes charge. He tries to make her more attentive to life. He is older and wiser and protective. Maybe too much, but she needs all the help she can get. Porsha is what she is. As long as Kordell keeps her in line and she keeps him interested, then that is their dynamic and it seems to work. Cynthia was a bit hard on her this week. Perhaps with justification but Cynthia could have phoned the charity personally and requested her information instead of relying on emails.

thebuzz67
thebuzz67

I don't like him at all.  He knows what he got himself into with that AIRHEAD Porsha! seem he like having someone not too bright........@Cynthia on the other hand is smart. She has seen the fall-outs and chose not to be the next one on the list.

frenchmocha83
frenchmocha83

Personally, I like Kordell.  I don't think he's controlling.  I just think he didn't know what he got himself into with this show.  

 

First, I think he's used to only maintaining genuine friendships.  Let's face it, some of these ladies would never associate with each other if it weren't for the show.  Non-reality show people don't usually maintain friendships that they don't feel comfortable or happy in, but for the sake of the show, Porsha has to associate with the other women, even if she'd rather not once she gets to know them.

 

Second, I think he's looking out for his wife. Both times he was "controlling" of her, he was urging her to stand up for herself and not let people treat her a certain kind of way. The first time was when she kept harping on the Kenya situation and wanting to talk it out to move forward.  The second time was when she was upset that Cynthia basically let her workers treat Porcha like she was being rude for not wanting to meet in her home even though Porsha was helping Cynthia out as a friend.

 

I agree with Kordell 100%. 

527Sparkles.com
527Sparkles.com

Porsha and Cordell are a beautiful married couple and I sympathize with their relationship because my husband is many years older than me so they are protective. Cordell was right to speak up for Porsha because that is her other half and as wives we consult our husbands when we have differences with others. If Porsha is coming to him her husband and he sees that she is having trouble solving it why is it wrong for her better half to consult the person of conflict. I love Porsha and Bravo she is a keeper. She is young gorgeous, married and is growing like all of us woman. Instead of Cynthia and Kenya starting beef with her they should try to get to know her and stop throwing old lady shade! Everyone has times like this Porsha and I love you don't let them vultures handle you like that.I hope you find away to let your voice be heard sista girl!

IvyLeague2000
IvyLeague2000

Is it me or does Kordell sound like a pee wee league football coach when he’s talking to Porsha - You betta check that; Time out time out; Did you hear what I said? What’s my slogan?  

 

And when he was speaking to Cynthia -  Why y'all can't act right? Y’all gettin on my nerves? Just try to be steady?

 

What the? Something about his tone when he addresses Porsha is 'off', kind of  condescending

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

@Sheila0729 I believe you are right....He is older than she is as well, and the age difference always makes relationships lopsided, sometimes good, sometimes not so good.....the black women i have been around, some as friends who will open up more than aquaintances, have had good and bad relationships, but all wanted their husbands and boyfriends to be head of their household...some were disappointed and ended up managing all the money..but then again, i have known white women this happened to as well....i will bet that Porsha knows where her money is....this is not our grannys world, black or white, women have to be schooled to take care of themselves and their children ...what is that saying "always pack your own chute" ....

SoOverIt
SoOverIt

 @lachihuahua

 Cynthia is quite the messy gossiper this season.  You're right.  Why would she invite strangers to Portia's home for a meeting regarding HER event?  Why not at the Bailey Agency?  Get an office already.  Better yet, turn her home into an office and bring all the folks she wants to over there.  Like Kordell said, his home is not an office.

francine.bw.9
francine.bw.9

 @catgotcha

 "preturd"- the bloating feeling you get in the lower abdominal region before you go to the loo.

0_lala
0_lala

@JPrincess32812 wow and who are you to call another human being stupid? How do u think that makes you look..

margoaux
margoaux

 @Mz.Nicole Protect his wife from what-some petty mess? -Cynthia is not a threat-a simple disagreement but I understand Porsha venting to her husband but I personally don't think it's a man place unless she is threat'n by another man. 

jde418
jde418

 @Mz.Nicole

 I agree.  Although, I believe that based on the negative behaviors from previous shows, he probably told her they would only participate if the negativity was handled and she not let any of the other "wives" take advantage of her.  So when she brings up something about a negative interaction she is having with the women, he is like "look, I told you, I don't wnat to hear this b/s...get it handled."  That is my opinion of why he is coming across so harsh.  I like him and the two of them together and do not believe Porsha is dumb.  I'm holding out that she has to get used to the cameras.

francine.bw.9
francine.bw.9

 @JEM1

 It's not in WHAT Kordell says to Portia, its his delivery which comes off as controlling.

was333
was333

 @thebuzz67  @Cynthia

 Cynthia  used to be one of my favortes until she showed her "true colors" this season, I love Cordell, He protects his wife, and I agree with those  that saysthat its his delivery that's wrong

quette432004
quette432004

@frenchmocha83 If Porsha didn't distort the truth, then I would totally agree with you. Porsha never admits what she has done wrong! I can't wait until he watches this back!

cherrygirl
cherrygirl

 @frenchmocha83 My thoughts exactly.. Most of the negative comments are from people who are not married. My husband is the s as me way with me.

mskjay
mskjay

 @527Sparkles.com I totally agree with you. The reason Kenya hates on her is because she's very pretty and looks so beautiful in her clothes. Cynthia is in the way and needs to go. She and peter has to be the nosiest couple I've ever seen in my life. They just wants to know everyone's business; for example the only reason they wanted to go out with Pheadra and Apollo is because they wanted to find out if they were really getting a divorce. Cynthia just wants to stay on the show !!!!

Mona_Munaki
Mona_Munaki

 @IvyLeague2000 He needs to strongly suggest that his wife get a basic education at a community college, or hire a tutor to teach her the basics one should know if they are a high school graduate.  What a great example Portia could be if she went back to school.  Young women look up to her.  She can demonstrate that even with money, one must always continue to educate themselves.  Back to school for Portia!  She will then know that there are 100 more days in a year that what she previously thought.

Clee2
Clee2

 @IvyLeague2000

 LOL.  That's funny.  "why y'all can't act right?"  Who talks like that???  Why he can't speak right should be the question.  Why was he in that anyway? 

Gatorgirl1
Gatorgirl1

@francine.bw.9 @catgotcha I just laughed out loud.

quette432004
quette432004

@francine.bw.9 @catgotcha ROFLAMO. Perfect!

Gatorgirl1
Gatorgirl1

@jde418. I totally agree with you about Kordell. I like the two of them as well. They seem to have absolute adoration for each other. However, I think you'll be holding out a long time for Porsha to prove her intelligence. She's still adorable!

Mona_Munaki
Mona_Munaki

 @cherrygirl  @frenchmocha83 And how would know that, Cherry?  I'm married.  My husband treats me like a queen.  It's a give and take.  I treat him like a king.  We have both learned to bite our tongues when angry and never, ever disparage each other. Our lives aren't perfect but respect for each other makes hard economic times more bearable.

themissusT
themissusT

@cherrygirl @frenchmocha83 That is sad if you are the same way. Codependent relationships are not healthy. He should have let her handle it on her own so she could learn something from it. I am happily married and my husband has never fought my battles. If I have an issue and I want his advice, then I ask him for it. He doesn't just cut me off before I finish telling him how I feel. That was just plain crazy!

Purple86
Purple86

I don't think Kenya is jealous of Porsha. I think she does not respect her.  Neither do Cynthia and Phaedra (until recently).  She has not accomplished anything on her own and yet tries to belittle other  success of others.  And her repeated digs about Kenya's age did not help either.  Especially since all of the other ladies on the show are 40+ (except Kandi) and Porsha is not that far behind.

SunShyne_in_Florida
SunShyne_in_Florida

 @Clee2  @IvyLeague2000

 

The issue with Kordell actions/inappropriate words is called "passive aggressive".  Did you notice the embarrassed expression on Porsha's face after he made the stupid comment chastising two grown women?

 

I found it alarming that Peter just laughed at Kordell's comment rather then as an older man, correct Kordell by explaining to him that it is inappropriate to correct Cynthia. 

0_lala
0_lala

@Clee2 @cherrygirl @frenchmocha83 I have to agree cherry and frenchmocha my husband is the same way he always has my back & is always there to give me advice & I love it ! No abuse going on over here soo

jde418
jde418

 @frenchmocha83  @themissusT  @cherrygirl

 We must remember that everyone is different and we all handle things a little differently and we receive things differently.  if it works for you, fine, if it doesn't work for you, that's fine too.  Let's respect each other as individuals.  We are not all cut from the same mold.  People have a tendency to label behaviors negatively if they do not mirror their own.  It's called respect!  Some people can respond verbally very quickly, some people need time to reflect before they respond.  We all matter; we all have value! 

frenchmocha83
frenchmocha83

 @themissusT  @cherrygirl  @frenchmocha83   Please, don't waste your pity on me.  I'm very happy with my life and my relationships.  I am a very independent woman, and I always have been.  I also tend to avoid conflict, even when addressing a problem is the best way to handle the situation.  The people in my life who know how I am always encourage me to not hold my tongue and let someone else walk all over me.  I appreciate their input and the fact that they are encouraging me because they don't like to see me mistreated.  As a grown ass woman, it is still my decision whether or not I take their advice or not.  Regardless, I love them for having my back in those times when timidity creeps up on me.

0_lala
0_lala

@Purple86 kenya is very jealous of Porsha..clearly