Cast Blog: #RHOA

Done with Phaedra

Kenya shares her thoughts on Cynthia's break down and the conversation with Phaedra.

Bonding, Bygones, and Bugs

Greetings everyone! I hope everyone had an amazing Christmas with your family and loved ones. I loved that this episode was featured on the heels of the holidays. This is a time to forgive and forget, love and be loved, and let bygones be bygones.

BONDING

I adore Cynthia for many reasons. She is a genuine person and a loving mother. When I saw her tear up over the perceived criticism that NeNe expressed, I knew she was really hurting. I love that she has an honest relationship with her daughter and how close they are. Cynthia loves Noelle more than herself and doesn’t want to fail her. I became emotional because that is the type of relationship I longed for with my own absentee mother, whose behavior was often abusive toward me. One never knows why God puts someone in your life. What I appreciate more than anything is that as women, we may argue sometimes but we can also support each other in our time of need. We often want the world to think we are strong and everything is perfect, when the reality is sometimes we are hurting and need a shoulder to cry on or just compassion or empathy. Having said that, even though Porsha and I don’t have a lot in common, we were able to put aside our differences for the time being to support Cynthia and one another. BYGONES

Conversely, I have never seen any genuine emotion from Phaedra -- no tears, no anger, no pain… even when her child was born she’s never exhibited any vulnerability whatsoever. I’ve only seen her make snide behind-the-back remarks and a slew of hateful lies... All reasons why it’s easy to say she is fake. NeNe felt I should speak to her and I agreed. When I tried to have a productive conversation and make amends with Phaedra in order to move past our tumultuous and contemptuous past, she behaved in her typical passive aggressive manner. Let’s be crystal, I don’t need her friendship. I’m not sorry I did it either. These moments show you who someone really is and you just have to believe it when they do. Done.

BUGS

I’m a prankster and I love to laugh and have fun. I lived for Cynthia screaming when she thought I threw the flying roach on her! I crack myself up! I lived for the cut to NeNe sipping her cocktail unfazed. I also loved cracking jokes about NeNe at the drag show… they are just jokes people… I’m here all night.


Have a wonderful New Year! May God Bless you and your loved ones.

Xo,
Kenya

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Claudia: I Felt Good About the Reunion

Claudia Jordan shares her thoughts on NeNe Leakes' breakdown and the reunion as a whole.

Bravotv.com: What was going through your mind when NeNe walked off?
Claudia Jordan: Well the reunion was quite an experience. When NeNe walked off, initially I wasn't sure what was going on to be honest. But I did notice she seemed to be trembling, so I knew she was definitely feeling something very real to her. I just didn't know what set her off at that point. So at first I was a little taken back. I had never seen her cry, but we are all human and everyone has their breaking point.

Bravotv.com: Do you think NeNe had a real breakthrough?
CJ: I honestly did think at that moment she really did. Her demeanor was different afterwards. And I even heard from her after the show. That to me was a good sign that perhaps we could all really move forward and start fresh. I know I'm always open to squash some beef, especially if it's nothing deep rooted and something surface. I don't see why not. But like I said on the show, we all have a story and things that we have had to deal with and overcome. I think we need to not think our problems are bigger than the next woman's and respect one another's struggles -- whether we think they are major or minor. One woman's problems are not more important than the rest. And I think if we can all learn to be sensitive to the next woman, then we are on our way. Hopefully that moment was the catalyst for change in NeNe and in others as well.

Bravotv.com: Do you feel like everyone ended the reunion in a better place?
CJ: I'd like to think so. I do think some will probably never be open for change and are just stuck in their own way, while others really took advantage of the opportunity to take something from it all. I'm not going to worry about those that do not wish to grow and move forward. I will just focus and give energy to likeminded individuals that want to get along, move forward, grow, learn, and progress. I know I felt good about the reunion. I know I didn't chime in a whole lot. And I think I had good reason. You don’t get to see everything, but I felt it was important to let the people who had real issues with each other hash it out with no outside opinions, just like I said in the Philippines. When people interject their opinions and thoughts when it’s not their issue, it just adds confusion to the situation. One of the cast members in particular is good for that. Always adding "well I think..." when it has absolutely nothing to do with her, and I feel those extra unnecessary comments can potentially add fuel to the fire and then there is no coming back. So if my silence was going to help the progress of the group moving forward, then I will take that "L."

Yes, it's "cute" to "read" and get in an epic one liner or rant, but sometimes you just need to shut the hell up and let folks deal with each other and let them do them. I have no problems with that. Plus my opinion on everyone’s situation doesn't need to always be heard -- I wish more of us felt the same way. I will say that this seemed to be a great starting point for folks to move forward and put their money where their mouths are when it comes to being a grown ass woman. I really hope everyone wants to. It'd be great to see how things could go if we spent less time fussing and more time co-existing peacefully. #ThatIsAll

 

As the season has come to an end for me, I just wanted to say wow! What a roller coaster ride it has been! I had no idea getting into this that any of it would happen. I thought I'd come on board, have a little fun, bring a little light-hearted fun, and make some new acquaintances. This show is huge and everywhere I go people come up to me and say such amazingly sweet things, and I am truly humbled when they tell me how they can relate to me and appreciate my realness. I was particularly touched when a teenage boy who was gay and biracial that had always felt like an outsider reached out to me talking about suicidal thoughts he had. We spoke and I was beyond moved when he told me that he could relate to some of the things I spoke about and that I somehow inspired and encouraged him to keep going. Those are the moments that make all the drama and fussing and fighting truly worth it. I want to continue to use this amazing platform for important issues. Again I thank Andy, Carlos, Joy, Lauren, Stephen, the entire cast and crew for this amazing opportunity. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

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