Phaedra Parks

Phaedra explains her statement and fills us in on life with Mr. President.

on Nov 4, 20130

As we start our sixth season, I want to thank all of our loyal fans for your continued support. Without you, there would truly be no us. On last night’s episode, we caught up with everyone and were able to catch a glimpse of their life. The reigning theme this season seems to be newness and celebration. NeNe and Gregg are newlyweds; Porsha is a newly liberated single woman; Cynthia and Peter have moved to a new business location; Kandi and Todd are newly engaged; and, Apollo and I have bought a new house and added a new addition to our family, our son whom we fondly call “Mr. President.”

And, of course, what would our show be without a series of new dramas, controversies, and scandals?! I would be remiss if I did not address the comment I made during last night’s episode about “working like a Hebrew slave,” to which I understand that some people took issue. Let me first say that the statement was not in any way meant to be derogatory or disrespectful to any culture. It is a description that is commonly used in reference to the requirement of working long, merciless hours without any end in sight.

I get that we live in a culture where political correctness is expected, especially in polite company, but we also cannot divorce ourselves from our history and the references thereto that have found their way into our speech. By that I do not mean racial and cultural slurs, demeaning or degrading descriptions or other sorts of calculated and hurtful (mis)applications of language. As an African American woman and the descendant of slaves, I do not condone any form of racism or oppression. I most certainly do not take lightly our history of slavery and the battles that were fought, and won, to gain the freedoms that we now enjoy. In fact, much of that history fuels my passion for law and social justice. Nevertheless, I regret any discomfort my use of that description might have caused.

108 comments
housewifefan2012
housewifefan2012

Phaedra, I get where you were coming from when you made the comment Hebrew Slave, but I did cringe because I felt you would be misunderstood. Not sure if it would have made a difference if you had said a Negro Slave or Black Slave, but it still can be a bit put offish when one uses those terms. 

So in the future, you may consider being sensitive to that when making your comments. I enjoy you on the show and it is good to see that you have brains and can be funny at the same time. 

MadgePadge
MadgePadge

Adien is absolutely adorable.  I'd say he's stealing the show.

@amyX2
@amyX2

I think I'm going to have to check out that book!! 

Papirazzi
Papirazzi

My goldfish died.  Can you bury it?

Dreid123
Dreid123

PS your man is fine!!! I'm jealous girl! Lol! Your boys are also adorable but you add nada (nothing) to the show! You don't need this how. You have enough plates spinning already. Watching you makes me tired!

lachihuahua
lachihuahua

I enjoy watching you and your sons are just beautiful. All the best to you.

lucytoo
lucytoo

Look out housewives. Aiden just hijacked your show!! He may be the cutest kid on the planet! OMG he is the spitting image of both you and Apollo. I love the way he articulates his words. When Mr. President is up on his feet and able to express himself you may run the cute meter off the chart. I see a spin off in your future!

brichey38
brichey38

Phaedra I have always been a fan of yours from day one. You are a classy lady, and you crack me up! You were hilarious to me. Even when you are being serious. You have seemed a little cranky with your husband lately though. Be kind to him. It appears as though he feels like you lack respect for him. The one thing men want most from women is respect. So work on that sister. And we use that expression "They working me like a Hebrew Slave..all the time. Nothing new! If someone is shocked by it, it just means they are sheltered. " We also follow that up by saying, just throw some bricks at us"  Nothing that should be taken seriously. You keep being you're funny classy self. 

rebecca.franklin.7543
rebecca.franklin.7543

Apollo is beginning to act more and more disrespectful and Phaedra seems to be ignoring it. He needs to be put in his place and the house was looking kind of messy that surprised me.

piperbeau
piperbeau

Phaedra Love watching you!!! Love Aiden and Mr president.... Something is up with you and Apollo!!! don't let it get too far out of control.... You guys literally speak through Aiden!!!!!

Dreid123
Dreid123

You're so boring that I can't even comment. Next!!!

MamaJoe72
MamaJoe72

I am sure the folks in Detroit didn't think tourism mattered either. I bet they care now.

mpaigemax
mpaigemax

To all the offended dumbbells - the term Hebrew Slave is a biblical reference and merely means hard working.  It is no different than using the term Philistine to describe an ignorant person.  Philistines were a non-Semitic tribe so should all the gentiles of the world be up in arms by the widely-accepted term Philistine?  Ignorance is not bliss, it's dangerous and causes a lot of unnecessary turmoil.

mpaigemax
mpaigemax

Phaedra you're a class act.  Remaining poised and collected while listening to that sociopath Kenya spew her lies is a testament to your own character.  You're the perfect real housewife - sassy, powerful, classy and fun!  you should have your own show.

luis.sanmiguel.900
luis.sanmiguel.900

Phaedra please show us there is a brain in that head of yours & reply with more intelligence! Your husband Apollo is cheating on you, and you know this! You sat there & all you said to Kendra was that she should not have texted your husband.....you should have slapped them both for thinking they could get over on you......

cgarden
cgarden

PS Your kids are absolutely beautiful!

gew
gew

Phaedra, be careful what you ask for because you just might get it. Whatever is going on between you and Apollo shows on his face and it does not look good.  You're screaming for help and he is telling you that "you need help in every area of your marriage," because you are all over the place and home is being neglected. Not a happy man...Apollo has always seem to  be following your lead and right now you're making some bad calls. IJS

@GODISGOODALLTHETIME1
@GODISGOODALLTHETIME1

So Phaedra, when are we going to see you represent someone in court just for once? When you first joined this show we all felt in love with you because here comes this young woman, intelligent, a lawyer for us to be proud of. Truthfully, we thought you would bring something very different to the show that could inspire our young girls.

Unfortunately, all that went behind you when you started feeling insecure when another intelligent beautiful lady by name Kenya Moore came along and all what you could talk about was your big ''donkey butt'', then brag about what a successful business woman you are as if you're in a competition with somebody.

During the last reunion you said you was representing Kandy. Apparently, she lost the case against Kim so what are you really good at? You could be more successful if you could focus on one thing instead of being '' JACK OF ALL TRADE, MASTER OF NON!''

Secondly, please take your focus off Kenya because she's HARMLESS! Apollo might be cheating but, NOT with Kenya! Trust me, he can NEVER get her! You're ignoring the actual problem and that is the man you call husband. Something aren't  right with you two! It seems like you both are unhappy. Check the source of the problem and deal with it before things get out of hand rather than using Kenya texting as an excuse to create unnecessary drama and hate among the group to stay relevant. 

Personally, i  agree with Wendy Williams, YOU ARE BORING! Your days on the show are numbered. If all what you can bring to the show are your shady behaviors, throwing digs and making those silly unattractive faces in your one on one interviews then what's the point?

Your southern belle days are over, please get off the show to go and take care of your family before all falls apart! 

 

elegant9485
elegant9485

What is up with your hubby??? does he not know you created him?  congratulations on the new prince that the lord has graced you with...

ToriTee
ToriTee

Your children are GORGEOUS!

astacalombado
astacalombado

Looks like LOVE ON THE ROCKS! Apollo is not attentive like he use to be. Who ever he was texting sent him something he liked it showed all over his face.. There seems to be tension you can cut it with a knife!  I say he's having an affair, it's written all over Phaedra's face not a happy women at all.. Good luck Phaedra because you no longer control the strings.. 

MamaJoe72
MamaJoe72

Phaedra you sound like other ignorant Southern Bells. Between you and Paula Deen there will be no tourism in Atlanta.

ESinAZ
ESinAZ

I just find you hlarious all the time.  Don't know if you are trying, but I get the feeling you are portraying a characature of yourself, or someone you know well.

Babies are both little dolls, of course!  Be nice to Apollo...

FL.Dziner
FL.Dziner

Sasyvee has it right, you are one delusional little beach ball.  That Southern Belle crap is exactly that....crap.  There isn't a ladylike bone in your body.  You shame Southern Belles everywhere.  That's some sick fantasy you have honey,  Have you forgotten your penis fixation?   Ridculous or whatever his name is?  That vile display of kissing with your husband (who incidently looked like he'd rather choke) Apollo really should hook up with Kenya (at least she is good looking and they have fun together) and dump your pretentious donkey self.  Honey, I hate to tell you this, but nothing, absolutely nothing about you is attractive.  I keep telling Bravo to dump your dumpy donkey self,  perhaps they'll heed the throngs of fans who find you disgusting.  I hope so.

charlie@company
charlie@company

Oh Phadre......congrats on your new baby, but I have never seen you look soooooo stressed-out & your life a disorganized mess!!!!! You have too many irons in the fire & I hope that your marriage & health doesn't fail you as a result!!!! It's clear that you & Apollo could not afford to pay  a contractor to do the renovations on your new home & you are stressing that poor man out making him do all the work. I hope that your marriage survives all the turmoil you & Apollo are in!!!!

numee3
numee3

Phaedra, hmmm, I know y'all ladies have to film together because you're part of the show but girl being cordial with someone who has propositioned my man is out of the question. Kenya has truly violated the GF code and should be fed with a long handled spoon.

sistere
sistere

Phaedra, when is your new show going to air? I love your storyline...anything you say is gold...and anytime, you say something that people might find offensive, you have the perfect explanation...your words are priceless...you are a mentor...thank you.

Sasyvee
Sasyvee

Phaedra, you are so delusional. You so need to get over yourself.

russmatt11
russmatt11

the comment was disgusting and low class. for someone that is college educated you sound quite ignorant

jpinphx515
jpinphx515

You sure put that law school education into your blog.  I wish you could use it and some plain common sense before you make comments like "hebrew slave".... 

shecodes
shecodes

I am black and the comment was disgusting and low class.  How would you take it if somebody said they were 'working like a black slave'?   We, of all people, should not be hypocrites about slavery.

penny.howard.33
penny.howard.33

Why didn't she say African slave instead of a Hebrew slave? It was a dig she knows it and you all know too. Or she is in complete denial of the whole African slave issue. If a white person would have said it instead of an African American (lets get that title straight) then the uproar would be off the chain.

Southerngal15
Southerngal15

I am Jewish also --as some have said on here and I am from the deep South....I didnt even think of anything when she said the Hebrew slave comment. I think people need to relax about some stuff ....she did not say it as a racial slur, I doubt she hates Jewish people or was trying to put down any group-- come on folks...I doubt any of the women on this show hate any certain group. We forget they are all just people and at times we pick up phrases and it doesnt even dawn on us it could be offensive to others...not making any excuses just saying we are all human-and again I doubt if any of those women or their men hate any type of group. She said an apology for any that might have been offended so that should be enough and we all need to keep it moving in life and cut people slack now and then since nobody is perfect, and not always think the worst of people and what they meant by what was said or not said. Hey Andy were you offended?? LOL Shalom! 

RHONYCmandi
RHONYCmandi

 @mpaigemax Yes having Michael Vick's framed jersey in your dining room shouts "class" doesn't it? Hardly.

mpaigemax
mpaigemax

 @MamaJoe72

The only tourists that won't visit Atlanta will be those that choose to make issues out of nothing - so be it.

Ceci2468
Ceci2468

 @charlie@company

 It's probably more likely that since Phaedra bought and decorated her previous house before Apollo he wanted a home that had his taste. She capitulated to try to make him happy. But obviously this new house is not what's going to make Apollo happy. If I were her, I'd get a nanny or an assistant to relieve her of some of the stress. Everyone needs/deserves time to themselves and time for their spouse.

SoOverIt
SoOverIt

It would be the truth wouldn't it?  That's what our people were considered or as you are well aware, the "N" word.  The context in which Phaedra used the words "Hebrew slave" were not derogatory nor meant to be.  As a matter of fact, you do know what that is don't you, the Hebrews did work hard like the "black slaves" you mentioned.  I ask again, which word bothered you the most, "Hebrew" or "slave" because they are both part of our culture so you and a few other judgmental folks on this blog had better grow the hell up and get used to it whether you like it or not.  Stop trying to make something out of nothing.

shugalips
shugalips

 @shecodes Look do you know any Hebrews?  During the time of Moses, Hebrews were slaves, and made to work very hard.  In the south the older African-american Christians would make up quotes using biblical history... thus 'Workin like a Hebrew slave" translates to working very hard.  Now who doesn't want to be considered a hard worker. Lighten up!

kiki000
kiki000

 @penny.howard.33 It was NOT a dig.  The phrase she used is decades old and very common in church-going black circles.  

bronzebeauty
bronzebeauty

 @penny.howard.33

 OMG! Really?! I use that saying all the time! I guess I should be glad I'm not famous..............

wordlyfan
wordlyfan

 @Southerngal15 You are so right Southerngal15! This PC (political correctness) has become a monster in our Society!  My Nana and Mother were Shanty Irish or Potato Pattys back in the day in Boston when they came over on the boat.  However, those words are still used towards the Irish and it's just a word.  It does not define the person.  Phaedra is a class act. She is smart, beautiful and very hard working and I do love those hats!

joejoe_no1
joejoe_no1

 @Southerngal15 Thank you. It's in the Bible. Do you want Good to take it out too. In fact, she is really saying that that period had to have been bad to use it as an exaggerated statement. And, I'm black.

Curiously
Curiously

   @mpaigemax 

 what is the matter with Michael fabulous Vick.  he was an Atlanta falcon now an eagle!!!!.  hmmmm  I wonder who at the fish and steak at your dinner table.   I  truly hope you are going down to the humane society and playing with the lonely pups there and volunteering there because they always need some help!!!!  Please be positive instead of negative because a  time done is well deserved freedom.  Remember someone may hold you hostage for something considered wrong.  soooo tell me have you ever parked in illegally, went over the speed limit etc  you must have something hiding in your closet.. oh I forgot, you walk on water.............smh!!!

 

eliza9981
eliza9981

 @shugalips  @shecodes Hebrews, i.e., Jews. if you don't know a "Hebrew" you should get out more...though I doubt they live in the hood so when I say get out, I mean, catch the bus a few miles away from where you live. Reading these RHOA posts make me laugh because the obvious demographics are interesting.

mpaigemax
mpaigemax

 @shugalips  @shecodes

You're so right.  Ignorance is a condition that causes unwarranted hysterics I'm afraid.  People don't know the origin of Phaedra's comments and immediately go berserk. 

ESinAZ
ESinAZ

 @shugalips  @shecodes

 Maybe the pyramids were built by space aliens?   Yes, the whole PC thing has gotten completely ridiculous (no double entandre intended), but I can totally see how this was offensive to many.  When you're on a National TV show, you should be more sensitive.

I'm sure there are a lot of "sayings" that were okay in the 1800's that we would be flabbergasted by today. 

Eva18
Eva18

While terms like "Shanty Irish" and "Potato Patty" don't define the Irish being referenced they most certainly define the person using them.

Rustydog
Rustydog

 @joejoe_no1  @Southerngal15

 So when I say southerners are all part of the KKK,  and marry their cousins that's ok because you southerners needs to get a thicker skin?  Or southerners all have teeth missing and are the stupid part of the country. They all fly the confederate flag and wish they could still own slaves.  Because that is truly what many people feel the south is made of...just ask Paula my n'er Dean.