RIP BABY VELVET
November 10th is the one year anniversary of my precious baby Velvet’s passing. I still think of her every day and have not been able to watch any episodes to that point. It was a very difficult time for me. I’m a strong person and have dealt with unspeakable things in my life. But I have never lost anything so close to me. Yes, she was a pet, but she was my baby, she was my family. I still mourn her loss and appreciate all of the kind condolences I received.
DETROIT VS. EVERYBODY ELSE
Watching the premiere episode reminded me of how tough I have had to be. For the last two seasons I’ve felt that it has been me against everybody else. I have taken on every single Housewife (and their husbands in some cases) all at one time. Regardless of how anyone feels about me, there is a hard line between right and wrong. One should never condone violence and a physical attack should never be a response to a verbal one. Hearing anyone say that they will never apologize for a criminal act is disheartening. Even if one felt justified or provoked, it comes down to a choice to walk a way or to succumb to anger and attack. The reunion is contemptuous and many of us become gadflies, myself included. I’ve never played a victim and I give better than I get. With that said, I will continue to take my cues from Martin Luther King and Hosea Williams, the late grandfather of Porsha Williams, who at times protested with him. All who were often times spat on, kicked, beaten, hosed, and tormented, yet, they vowed to never to resort to violence nor raised a hand to others.
IGNORANCE IS NOT A HANDICAP
In as much as I respect and like Kandi, ignorance is not a handicap. I am from Detroit and often fashion myself to be a Detroit Barbie. I am crafty with my hands and am a trained fighter who can defend myself. With that said, being from the hood doesn’t mean you have to be ghetto and ignorant. It’s hypocritical to say you do not condone violence, BUT… There simply is no BUT. Let’s not send the message to all the little girls and young women to think it’s cool to be ratchet or take violent actions that land them in jail.
A PROMISE TO DETROIT CHILDREN
I saw a T-shirt that said, “Detroit Vs. Everybody Else.” During the last reunion, NeNe promised to make a $20,000 charitable donation to the charity of my choice “when I wrote the check.” I chose the Detroit Public Schools Foundation because education leads to success. Detroit is bankrupt and the inequities that befall poor students should not exist. One significant way to instill confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, and your future is through a solid educational foundation. I was poor but attended the best magnet schools in Detroit because I was smart. The city of Detroit is bankrupt, therefore, the schools are not being properly funded. Despite our differences, NeNe made a promise to donate $20,000 if I made my donation. Certified funds from my personal bank account were donated to honor this great cause and the DPSF has received my $20,000. I beg NeNe to be a woman of her word and send her donation.
If you would like to donate please visit: Detroitpsfoundation.org
LOVE ME OR HATE ME
This season is my season of redemption. Whether you love me or love to hate me, love is the operable word. Life is about evolution. My heart is open to forgiveness, new friendships, compassion and evolution. Are you?