Cast Blog: #RHOBH

Seasons of Love

Brandi: Lisa R. Should Be Disappointed in Herself

Kim: Don't Mistake My Sadness for Weakness

Kyle: I Have Never Had Anyone Put a Hand on Me

Lisa V.: I Tried to Warn Kyle

Eileen: Brandi Attacks, Then Deflects

Lisa R.: Kyle Didn't Create This Drama

#RHOBH Spoiler Alert: More Fighting and a Peeping Tom

Kim: Kyle Should Be Worried, Not Embarrassed

Brandi: Kyle Wants to Help When There's an Audience

Kyle: This Was Brandi's Master Plan

Lisa R.: It Felt Just As Awkward As It Looked

Lisa V.: Kim's Demeanor Was Questionable

Eileen: Brandi Loves to Stir the Pot

#RHOBH Spoiler Alert: Disgust and a Push

Yolanda: I Would Like to Apologize

Brandi: I Won't Make Excuses

Kim: I Wanted to Hold Kyle

Lisa V.: I Want Max to Be Ambitious

Eileen: Being a Stepmom Is Challenging

Lisa R.: Lots of Transition Happening

Kyle: We Are an Emotional Bunch

#RHOBH Spoiler Alert: Surprise and an F-Bomb

Lisa V.: A Naughty Child Shouldn't Be Rewarded

Kyle: Brandi Was Rude and Offensive

Eileen: It Felt Like an Attack

Lisa R.: It Was Shocking and Unprovoked

Kim: Brandi Is Brandi

7 Faces We All Made During This Week's #RHOBH

Brandi: Lisa V. Was Making Me Uncomfortable

#RHOBH Spoiler Alert: Shock and Tears

4 Questions We All Asked During #RHOBH

Yolanda: I Took One for the Team

Lisa R.: Portia Is My Spirit Animal

Eileen: Brandi Showed Us How Not to Make Amends

Lisa V.: Yes, Love Is a Big Word

Kyle: Moments Like These Are Frustrating

Lisa V.: I Won't Erase the Past

Brandi: I Don't Enjoy Anger or Grudges

Eileen: I Could Feel the Tension at Kyle's

Lisa R Reflects on That Bittersweet Episode

Seasons of Love

Adrienne ponders the different phases of love, and gives us an update on Luna, the German Shepard.

There is so much to write about this week!

The first thing I want to touch on is that this episode really showed the many different experiences that women can have in relationships. Watching Kim as she opened herself up again to meeting someone, it was a reminder of how hard it can be to allow yourself to be vulnerable in the hope that you will be rewarded for that bravery by finding a consistent, trustworthy person with whom to share your life. Even after you find that person, it's rarely the romantic fairytale that we dream of – I think Taylor's blunt conversation with Kyle was a real eye-opener for so many women who are evaluating the trajectory of their relationship or marriage. Sometimes what we think we want doesn’t end up being what we really need, and it takes a lot of courage to dig deep and be truthful with ourselves. Of course, finding that truth is a very valuable thing – because it gives us the ability to make positive changes in our relationships, parenting style or career. I'm also a firm believer that it is never, ever too late to change things for the better. That being said, marriage is an incredible amount of work and compromise, and I know through my own experience that it is a learning process every single day. But hey, no pain no gain, right?

As you saw, Paul and I celebrated our eighth anniversary on the episode. I was surprised and delighted with how much thought and care Paul put into planning our anniversary and choosing my gift. It's a running joke in our household that we rarely buy the other something that just "works." Paul is a surgeon, and that makes him kind of a perfectionist, so there is usually something wrong with what I get him (and vice versa!).

Therefore, the gift of the beautiful German Shepherd we named Luna was an especially touching surprise. Here is where I take a very regretful deep breath - we couldn't keep Luna with us. Rest assured, we found her an amazing home with our wonderful dog trainer, who you saw in the episode, and Luna is very happy in her new, loving environment. Obviously, our kids are our first priority, and unfortunately she could not seem to get settled in a house that has three young boys running and playing at all times. Her apprehension made her unpredictable in our environment and she began to ignore the commands she had been trained to follow as a security dog. We were so happy that finding her an ideal home worked out so well, and I can promise you she is thriving with her new mom!

We've talked as a family, and we do want to bring another dog into our household in the next few months. The lifelong relationship between children and their pets is so important to me for so many reasons – pet ownership teaches children about responsibility, compassion and respect for other living things. In return, children get the unwavering love and loyalty that comes with being a good owner. It's an amazing thing to see just how much a pet can change a child's world and how deep that bond can become. I think the lesson here is to really choose a dog that fits with your environment – and this goes beyond researching for the right breed. This also means paying great attention to the unique temperament of the specific animal you choose before you choose it, and exposing the pet to the situations it will encounter in your home to see how it will react.

So yes, the dog was a great gift and she now has a home she is comfortable in. Our next canine addition will definitely be one who enjoys the noise and chaos of three active little boys!

By the way, I had SUCH a great time on Watch What Happens Live with Andy and Lance this week. They both have amazing energy and they made me laugh so much. It's been a whirlwind few days in New York, but now I'm ready to get home and catch up on some much-needed rest. I'm so tired that I'm kind of surprised that I didn't fall asleep while writing this blog!



P.S. I just want to thank you all for being so kind and honest in the comments and feedback you have been giving me through this blog. It's been very uplifting to read what you have to say and you've made blogging such a positive experience for me!

Kim: Don't Mistake My Sadness for Weakness

Kim thinks Brandi and Kyle's fight at poker night had very little to do with her.

Today’s episode started exactly where we left off, back at Eileen’s poker night. I remember just wanting to leave so badly that I just kept on walking and didn’t even see the physical altercation between Brandi and Kyle. I was caught between a rock and a hard place. I mean one is my sister and one is my friend. I wanted to make it right, so I tried to speak to Kyle, but there was so much chaos between her and Brandi. Then the other girls joined in and at that point, I was frustrated and honestly wasn’t feeling well. I just wanted everyone to let me go home! This drama may have been about me at first, but it definitely ended up being about those two and whatever residual animosity they had towards one another from the past.

On the following day, my pain got even worse, so I spent the whole day getting tests done at the doctor’s. Next evening, I was admitted to the hospital. In my last blog post, I mentioned that I had been struggling with bronchitis and pneumonia for weeks. Well, the doctor said I had a fractured rib, ruptured disc, and hiatal hernia, which was caused by the increased pressure from coughing. No wonder I was in so much pain before poker night! I was in the hospital for nine days. But I'm happy to announce that I’m currently healthy and well!
Even though my family and I are going through some tough times right now, I feel stronger than ever because I need to and want to be there for Monty, my daughters, and son. All you moms out there know, we don’t get days off! Although it seems like I have a lot going on, that’s exactly what I love about my life! Planning my daughter’s wedding is the most beautiful thing I’ve ever done. I can’t believe my babies are all grown up, and I could not be more proud. Taking care of Monty has been bittersweet--it’s so painful to see my best friend slipping away, but at the same time, our relationship is stronger than ever. We’re treasuring every moment we have together. Don’t mistake my sadness for weakness. If I were not strong in my sobriety today, I could never do the things I’m doing. Thank you to those who have shared their kind words and support!
Speaking of family, my favorite part of the episode was seeing Yolanda with her son. Oh my goodness, I really related to them, because I’m going through the same thing with my son, Chad. Family dynamics change, and it does get lonely for both Chad and me now that our girls have left the nest. But this is also a special bonding time for us--yes, he’s totally going to have to hang out with his mom more, which both of us don't seem to mind at all! 
XO Kim

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