Kyle Richards

Kyle clears the air about what you didn't see behind the scenes, and her relationship with Kim.

on Jan 20, 20110

This is a very difficult blog to write. There's so much pain and emotion in this episode. It feels so strange to even refer to it as an "episode." This is my life. This is Kim's life. I wish we were just characters on television, but this is all too real.

That night never should have happened. It was incredibly difficult to go through in the first place and it's even more difficult to watch and relive it.

Throughout the season I have come across as angry toward my sister. At times, it seemed unwarranted. I know that. I know how bad it looked. The truth is, I was angry. There were problems brewing between my sister and me off camera. I'm not good at hiding my feelings as well as others, so I brought my feelings in front of the cameras. Viewers only know what they see, and sometimes, they saw me reacting with force and emotion that didn't seem to make sense.

First off, let me say, I love my sister so much. Sometimes, I wish I loved her a little less. You may be thinking, "You have a funny way of showing it." And you're not wrong. However, our arguments were never about what was happening at that moment. My mom used to say, "They're crying about the apples, but it's really the oranges," and that's exactly what was happening here. The tension between Kim and me was never about her not "having my back" in New York. There is so much more to it than that. I didn't want to come out and say what it was that was really bothering me because this is a private family matter. It would have saved me a lot of criticism, believe me, but it's not just my story to tell. It's Kim's story too.

After this horrible argument between Kim and I, we didn't speak for a long time. My heart was broken and I suffered an incredible amount of anxiety and panic attacks. Next to losing my mother, this was the most difficult time of my life. It is so difficult for me to even write about it now.

1761 comments
alaina lynn
alaina lynn

Kyle was always my favorite on the show until she started being so aweful to Brandi! She's either really jealous or just completely cold hearted! So sad that she feels the need to put someone else down to feel better about herself!!

Boxerdog
Boxerdog

you should take a step back and take some lessons from Lisa and Camille. they are and were a class act all season. You are not the same person that you were when the show first aired.

Sandra Dee
Sandra Dee

What is up with your attitude at the Reunion? WOW

NewMom443
NewMom443

Kyle, I applaud you for being honest and true to yourself despite how others may judge. It is evident that you care about your sister and have your priorities in order when it comes to your family. And you always look fabulous!

Annie Wilson
Annie Wilson

Some people cannot be helped, guided or talked to reasonably. This appears to be the situation with your sister. May god grant you the serenity to accept the things you cannot change. My last pediatrician visit with my 2 yr old...does what your doing make her feel better? Me...no. Does what your doing make you feel better? Me....no. Then change what your doing or stop it all together. Your sister is obviously the 2 year old...lol.

Mon12
Mon12

I get Kyle....It's hard when someone you love has a drinking problem.I hate my dad at times so much and oh the things I say in my head...but then it kills me cause I love him and it's hard to tell him I hate that he drinks. Kyle might be harsh but you can't please an alcoholic...they are smarter and they know how to play you...Kim does not look like a poor little defensless child,she seems nasty at times.And then there is all the behind the scenes and the history that we just don't see...so please give Kype a break

WivesWatcher
WivesWatcher

Sounds like you are leaving the show? I hope not. Your blog sounds so contrite. Real wives watchers know BH housewives care about each other. The emotion-o-meter is on tilt. You and Kim are really Brave O to share your sisterhood. Looking beyond the drama, your love for each other is loud and clear.

*~*

PHD
PHD

I have a sister... I get it.

Josie Williams
Josie Williams

Hi Kyle

I love your sytle ! you always look appropriate and stylish. Where do you get most of your clothes ?

Best,

Josie Williams

Rae Waite
Rae Waite

Kyle

Where did you get that great dress you were in the credits of Season 1 everytime it comes to your part of the show. Its grey/silver sequined v neck dresss. Love it.

Love your style.

jenfadool
jenfadool

Kyle,

Where did you get the adorable gray sparkly stocking hat you have on when you are unpacking in Colorado?

Helen Bateman
Helen Bateman

I think you act a lot. The way you treat your sister is disgraceful.Taylor is a trouble maker and started a lot of trouble.You say Kim doesn't have your back.You never have hers.No one would get away with treating my sister that way. Taylor is a trouble maker and shouldn't have approached Kim at a party.I couldn't stand watching the way you spoke about your sister behind her back. Stop acting. It is a reality show. Fake

Jennie79
Jennie79

Hi Kyle! Love to watch RHOBH. Hang in there and always be true to yourslef! Lots of love from SWEDEN!

Jamee
Jamee

I love you Im TEAM KYLE!! lol

Nici
Nici

I have to say you were one of my faves from the housewives shows. I was completely on your side regarding Camille. I think the 'cluless clairvoyant' had one too many cocktails, that her inebriation told her brain this is a perfect time for me to be low class. Camille needed a longer leash on that 'dog'...LOL. Either way, you're hot and amazing. Wishing you and yours the best.

Maggie May
Maggie May

Kyle, You are a great mom & friend but you are mean to your sister Kim. I have 4 sisters and would never think of treating any one of them the way you do Kim. You keep saying that you have to take care of her. I don't believe that she expects that, so stop repeating that. Work on your relationship. Comments such as "so typical for Kim to be late" are mean and unnecessary. Why do you care if she is late? It wasn't even your party! Work on being sisters & friends.

Vancouverite
Vancouverite

Honestly you should just ignore all these negative comments being thrown at you. Everyone who says you're in the wrong is being a hypocrite because every person has a family, and no ones family is perfect. Everyone fights and people say things they don't mean. When people are close and they argue they say things that go right for the jugular, they know what hurts. These people don't even know you and they are being so malicious and judgmental, imagine what they are like to the people close to them when they are angry!

You are gorgeous and smart! Give yourself a break! Definitely my favourite housewife on the entire network!

jillpio
jillpio

Kyle...you are by far my absolute favorite housewife out of all the "Real Housewives of" installments. You are a true, honest and real person, you are everyone's mom, sister and friend - you are an amazing, strong and beautiful woman inside and out. I want you to know I very much relate to your conflict with your sister, I have had some of the same issues with mine. Mind you, I do realize I am not watching every moment of all that happened or happens between the two of you and do not know your entire history previous - I can only tell you I can completly relate by what I was able to see. Do not beat yourself up for your feelings...they were and are valid. I can see that that love between yourself and Kim is so very strong and because of that I truly believe you will be able to create a stronger relationship moving forward. Kyle, I wish you, your beautiful children, Farrah, Alexia, Sophia and Portia and your wonderful husband Mauricio all the best. Jill

tino
tino

Kyle, You are very entertaining to watch. You are an AMAZING MOTHER to your kids... Watching the fight between you and Kim was painful, You couldn't help but feel bad for Kim... But at the same time it is very difficult with family. Emotions were running high and also I am sure alcohol was probably involved and that is a recipe for disaster. You say things you wish you can take back, so hang in there. I hope that you and Kim can rebuild your relationship and move forward.

Lisafreddie
Lisafreddie

Only comment I have is that your hair is BEAUTIFUL.

BL Nariman
BL Nariman

Dear Kyle, you person is clearly strong, confident, & a real humaine sister who wants good for her sister. Nobody watching & following you throughout the episodes would think of you as a bad person, on the contrary, you put or release so much energy into your sister and you wish she could be the best in her life. It's obvious. Through your behaviour to your children and husband and the girls, I assess you're a deeply good person, honest, direct, and humaine. I aspire to your person, Lisa's as well (oh, she really the best friend of you and that everbody whishes to have, she's always understood you, and sided by your side), as well as Adrienne for her neutral side and strength. I love all of the three of you. Dear Kyle, i wish you best cause you really deserve it. God bless you and all of your family and relatives. Lots of respects to you. Nariman from Algeria.

Alycat9705
Alycat9705

Wait a minute! You're assuming Kim is an alcoholic based on what Kyle said? Hmmm...how about Kim's statement on the reunion that she is NOT an alcoholic. Why are people taking Kyle's statement at face value? I suppose I could say that Andy is straight...doesn't make it so.

Kim-BlackNGold Girl
Kim-BlackNGold Girl

Hi Kyle I think you are a great person. I feel so bad that people think you are mean and "bitchy" to Kim. They should walk a mile in your shoes. I get it -- I spent too many years with an alcoholic and they drive you NUTS!!! Have you tried Al-Anon? It was very help to me to see it was him, not me and let go of my guilt. I remember a speaker saying once at a meeting "People are quick to say "No wonder he drinks - look at what a bitch his wife is!" No one ever says "No wonder she is a bitch - look at the drunk he is". Very very true. Keep you head up and DON'T FEEL GUILTY. Offer your help and support, but don't enable. Kim needs to fall before she can change.

Agnès from Paris, France
Agnès from Paris, France

Hello, I'm living in Paris and saw your show on tv during my last holidays in USA. I watch tv in order to improve my english! Hope for a second season when I'll be back. The show is amazing. Félicitations. Agnès

Noel A. E.
Noel A. E.

Kyle! You are so gorgeous & precious! It shows that you are a genuine person & great mother. I just saw your new Bluefly.com commercial & you did great. So pretty & funny too! haha You're awesome!!!

niftyfifties
niftyfifties

Sisters know how to push all the right (or wrong) buttons. Too much history. This kind of closeness is a curse and a blessing. You did a good job by being clear and correcting Kim. It's hard to keep cool in a situation like that, especially in a small, confined space such as a limo! You're only human. I hope things are okay between you two now.

kaos96
kaos96

Kyle, I have 4 sisters and it's complicated enough without cameras documenting every moment. No one knows your faults, secrets and vulnerabilities like a sister. We've all said and done things we regret, but that bond is solid. Please don't lose your spunk and spirit over this! I can't stand to see you in retreat as Kim goes into victim mode--it's just not fair.

I hope you and Kim can make a fresh start. I wish you both the best!

wuzhappn
wuzhappn

Kyle, it was so heartbreaking to see your sisterhood with Kim go down in flames on the Finale, but I saw many instances of caring and loving between the two of you throughout the show, so I do believe you are getting a bad rap. Now that the damage is done, however, there are so many unsettling images and accusations left hanging in the wind. These are not the final impressions that either you or your sister want to be remembered by. I know that the thought of returning to Season 2 is a painful one, but I really would love to see the two of you restore your relationship in Season 2 and show us viewers how much you really do care about each other. I think that coming together to do another season on Bravo is the best solution for the PR mess that's ensued. Everybody loves a redemption story and yours is ripe for the making. Team Richards all the way!!!

KYFAN
KYFAN

KYLE - You and your sister are EQUALS. No matter what life experiences you've BOTH had (successful child acting careers, happy marriages) you each deserve the same amount of forgiveness, love and companionship.

Let go of any anger you are feeling. Let go of your ego.

Tony Tony
Tony Tony

I think you are a great mom and wife, keep up the good work. Adrienne and Lisa are always classy ladies. I feel for Kim she loves her children as well, I hope she finds a great man. Camille on the other hand is out there to say the least. If her psycho/psychic friend Allison DuBois was so good she would have been far warned of this divorce. Is her friend really her friend or not a very good psychic. I am sorry to say I hope she is a little humbled by this. Taylor I hope you find a man that respects you and lets you be yourself, life is too short to be someones puppet.

Jacks Mom
Jacks Mom

Kyle, The last episode bothered me much more than any other and it was because of the fight you had with Kim. I was so pissed off that night after seeing it and at the same time so troubled. You mention in your blog that there are deeper issues with you and Kim but it is private and Kim's story to tell as well. If this is true, there were 3 steps you should have taken that evening. 1. When Taylor and Kim were arguing (and yes Taylor started it when she opened her mouth not KIM) instead of you jumping on Kim, you should have said let's not do this here and now. (this is what Adrienne was trying to get you to do). 2. When Kim left (if her drinking and "state of mind" bothers you sooo much) you should have let her leave instead of having your agent or whoever this woman is) call to tell the limo driver not to leave with Kim. 3. When you went out to the limo you should have asked for the cameras to be turned off. You cannot nor anyone else convince me you don't notice them in an enclosed space like a limo). My hope is that you did not do this because Bravo wanted you too nor that you did this for ratings but when you took the actions you did, it appears you sold your sister out for a reality show... It also bothers me deeply that you allow someone like Taylor destroy the relationships you have with others...I hope she doesn't come in between you and your husband but the rate things are going it will happen!! One more thing, I saw a video clip of Taylor so drunk and hanging all over you but you didn't seem to have a problem with that...in fact she was so drunk she almost fell and pulled you down with her.....why do you hang out with Taylor if this type of behavior bothers you so much.......

Barb1957
Barb1957

My sister and I had a similar falling out, just not on camera. The hate I saw in her eyes was and still is so painful. We had it out in Oct 09. She, to this day will not talk to me. I realize and ADMIT I said things that will not be forgotten. I have called and called and written to this day to ask her to please talk to me but she will not! Kyle, you are my sister, as Kim and I are the same, except for the fact that I can and do see both sides. I can be Kyle and She can be Kim. That is the problem. I would give ANYTHING to have my sister just talk to me again. My heart breaks everyday! I would love to hear from either one of you as to what you think I can do.

Oregon Gal
Oregon Gal

VERY VERY WELL SAID....I WOULD LOVE THEM TO GET THAT ON FILM---KYLE FINALLY PUTTING TAYLOR IN HER PLACE!!! I won't hold my breath though.

carolanna
carolanna

thank you for telling it like it is.

charlie2011
charlie2011

I did not that a 100 year old women would know how to use the internet..congrats. ITS CALIFORNIA AND HOT LADY.. why would you watch the show if the way they dress offends you so much? I know they still play reruns of Lawrence Welk so maybe you should stick to that.

Tyni$ha
Tyni$ha

I dont think you should let anyone make you feel bad for expressing your emotions. That's what makes you real and relatable. You aren't fake and that is the main reason why you are one of my favorite housewives. It is hard to watch you with your sister sometimes and it seems that you treat your friends better than your own sibling who you claim to love so much. BUT I understand it because I too have a very complicated relationship with my sister. I understand...... and you are not alone. I think it's years of history and resentment that outsiders will never understand. You have a beautiful family and I wish you nothing but the best.

Tindual
Tindual

I must say, after reading these comments, I think I watched the wrong show from the rest of the nation. Unfortunately, I see where they are coming from. You are the alpha female, whether you want to accept it or not, you seem to have everything while Kim and to an extent, Camille have much less. And the fact that you were the one to bring the other housewives into the show sealed your status as the 'big dog'. As unfair as it is, the world expects you to know better than to stoop so low to their level and I think thats the only reason they are attacking you. As if having your heart's desire somehow makes you immune to human emotions. Unfortunately, nothing you do is ever going to stop the criticism unless you behave like Adrienne and keep your distance from conflict - yes that does mean no longer being yourself. However, that is the way the world is, they don't see your previous struggles growing up or the fact that you are a mother, a wife, a sister and a friend, just Kyle - the Alpha Female of the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. Fortunately though, you still have your family's support and friends like Lisa who know the real you.

LINDA CAMPBELL
LINDA CAMPBELL

I REALLY WISH THE WOMEN ON THE HOUSEWIFES PROGRAMS WOULD WASH THERE FACES AND DRESS LIKE RESPECTABLE WOMEN. I HAVE LITTLE RESPECT FOR WOMEN WHO NEED THE KIND OF ATTENTION THAT REQUIRES THEM TO DRESS LIKE STREET WALKERS AND IT SEEMS ITS ALRIGHT FOR THERE DAUGHTERS TO DRESS THE SAME. MOST OF THESE WOMEN NEED TO FOCUS ON SOMETHING OTHER THEN THERE SELVES. WHAT A SHAME THAT THIS IS HOW THE WORLD WILL VIEW THE WOMEN IN THIS COUNTRY.

Stacy Williams
Stacy Williams

Kyle, You are a wonderful woman! Don't let any of these negative comments get you down. I think you're an amazing wife, mother and sister. I can't wait to watch you next season!

Stacy Williams
Stacy Williams

That's what sisters do! Unless you grew up like an episode of "The Waltons" you should understand that sisters act this way towards each other. I'm an only child and had to learn this after I started dating my husband. My husband's oldest sister treats him and his other sister like they're her servants. She is very demanding and orders them around all the time. (she is the owner/broker of the most successful Real Estate Company in our city, and has 40 agents that she could boss around instead, but doesn't) I asked him why he puts up with her and her holier than thou attitude, and he said "She's my sister and I love her, and you may not think so, but she loves me too." He was right! Anytime he has a problem she is right there to help. Her motherly instinct kicks in and she's a totally different person with him. Then a week later the demands and attitude from her start again. Kyle is not a bad sister! Sometimes tough love is the only way, especially when someone has a disease like Kim's. I think Kyle is a wonderful woman and has gotten too much flak about her and Kim's relationship. If you want to try to make someone feel bad, why don't you leave comment on that evil Camille's blog? That's who needs to feel bad about her actions!

Love the Beverly Hills
Love the Beverly Hills

This probably won't get posted...but what the heck, I will blog anyways. Kyle...I am sure you are a good person deep down; however, it clearly shows by your actions that you resent your sister deeply. My guess is that she was more famous, and richer than you growing up. As much as you are trying to disguise this, but it shows by you constantly degrading, and putting her down. You do this because there is an insecurity that you have that she may get more popular than you while the show is airing since she was the more popular one at one point in her life.

I believe by you putting her down, letting people know she is weak, has problems, etc, etc,...you do this to make YOURSELF look better, and to prevent her from gaining more fans. You do not have to paint a picture to explain that this was your goal the whole time. well, Its sad to say, but it BACKFIRED on you since people are hating you now, and loving Kim even more. Even on the reunion, you still tried your hardest to justify to the world that Kim was not the only one that took care of your family; and you did not bother to tell her "I love you" back, OUCH!!!!

I think you are the one that needs help, not your Sister. You need to let go of the resentment and grudge against her...she clearly has let hers go. Good luck to the both you!

Viewer from Boston
Viewer from Boston

How could anyone think that Allison was trying to be pleasant!!!! I've watched the episode three times now and each time I see nothing but EVIL in that woman. She said it herself when she referred to Lucifer having many faces; who would know better than the devil herself!!!!! Honestly, just thinking about her makes me shiver. Also, I would never put Faye in the same category with that witch!!!!! Taylor did the only right thing all season when she demanded that the ladies leave. If Allison is Camille's idea of a "friend" then I've totally lost any sympathy I may have had for her. My advice to ALL the ladies - stay far, far away from Allison - she's BAD NEWS!!!!! It's sad that the season's last airing of RHOBH was that horror show.

LindaKay
LindaKay

I also saw that Kyle did not have Kims back..Kim is too nice to point that out..Everyone leave kim alone..Shes not as mean as the rest of you..Sorry not you Adreianne..

Deb G
Deb G

I just watched the lost footage episode, and it was painful to see how intentionally cruel Camille and her groupies were. Dede will say anything to have a free place to live, and Allison is just plain ugly ignorant person. It was clear from the start that she was out to cause you as much pain as she could create purely for her own amusement. It was obvious when Camille told her to stop, she just ramped it up to a new level each and every time. If nothing else, you can delight in the fact that if Medium hadn't already been cancelled, her behavior, lack of decency and respect along with her exposing her very vile and ugly personality, would have severly damaged 'her' TV show. I think she lives in her own demented dreamland where respect and decency are not allowed. The cameras caught PRECISELY the kind of animal she is, and now the whole world knows. Thank you Kyle for baiting her so that her real inner ugliness was exposed. I hope you and Kim weather this emotional roller coaster right now, and come out on the other side in a loving and compassionate manner for both of your families. I look forward to seeing you, Kim and the other castmates in the next season. But do watch out for Taylor, she is a bit toxic.

sdu4kim
sdu4kim

Kim seems to be the only one that understood how your perceived comments to Camille hurt her to the quick. It didn't have anything to do with her having your back, it had to do with her having common decency not to want to pile on a person who was already hurting. She tried to tell you Camille misunderstood what you said and she even tried to tell you said that was misunderstood, but, of course, hot head that you are you cut her off. Kim seems to remember very well what is said. I also thinks she knows you well enough to know that you were digging at Camille. You might not have said the words but Camille caught on to your intentions really quickly and you got caught. Instead of letting it go, you continued to milk it for all its worth to somehow prove you would never be so vindictive. Too late, Kyle. It's out in the open now, you exposed yourself.

Nat1
Nat1

Hi, Kyle, I typically don't post comments on shows I watch, but your relationship with Kim struck some familiarity with me with family situations I've gone through. I only caught the last month of the season, which I loved, but the little I saw of the season, I suspected even before the "limo scene" that there was some underlying, on-going, LONG term stuff going on between Kim and you, and possibly with your Mom when she was alive; it seemed you were hurting—a lot—and acting out. I didn't think for ONE MINUTE that you were being mean-spirited or anything negative to Kim. To me, it seemed your reactions were as a result of long-bottled up stuff . . . only you know what it is, and it's YOUR OPTION to keep it personal. It is obvious you love Kim; sisters argue and unfortunately sometimes say things they don’t mean. Having months of cameras and television crews following you and your friends' around all the time must have been very exhausting and stressful at times, and no one can control the outcome of every episode to be happy and free of personal problems. It's unfortunate that some fans/viewers were so critical of you and the other Housewives . . . you all are REAL people with REAL lives, regardless of your financial and social status. It is not your job, however, to look after Kim, and it's an unfair request your Mom made to you, no disrespect intended. I hope you and Kim are able to heal and mend and find peace--perhaps counseling is an option, and that you two can dig deep into the long-standing issues and start fresh, because there are few stronger bonds and better friends than sisters. Best wishes.

PAhw
PAhw

Kyle you are an amazing woman. You have a great relationship with your husband and children and everyone can see that. Camille and her paid puppets are just jealous. Stay away from the negative. Don't get baited into arguing or trying to prove your point. Some people don't live in reality and can't face it. Stay amazing :)