Dana Wilkey

Dana shares the life lessons she's learned with her daughter and her fans.

on Dec 3, 20110

4. Be, Do, and Have in that order.

5. Your experiences don’t have to define you! You can be anyone you want if you just choose to be it right now. Don’t fall into that trap and carry a chip on your shoulder that doesn’t need to be there.

6. Don’t be afraid. You must have courage and a sense of humor to change the world.

7. Small and large impacts matter equally so bother to do small and attempt to do bigger.

8. Live your life with no apologies as long as you don’t intentionally hurt people.

9. Embrace failure and acknowledge your success. See me do it in action
here.

10. Life is a series of choices and there is no switch that says "now I'm an adult so my choices will be better." The adult switch does not exist.

I know this doesn’t have very much to do with this week's episode, but neither did I, so I thought why not share something important to me instead. Hope you find it insightful and as always if you can't get your "Dana" fix, there is always new content on DanaWilkey.com.

30 comments
NJ Viewer
NJ Viewer

Excellent blog. It's nice to see this side of you. Don't let the haters get you down.

April
April

Practice what you preach. And clarify for everyone that Chloe is your future stepdaughter.

Indy mom
Indy mom

You are trying way to hard to fit in, I can't believe you even expected an invitation to Brandi's party, after your behavior in your own home. I will not watch the show if you are on it. GROW UP !!! My goodness your a fifty year old woman act like it.

Ricky G
Ricky G

Do as I say... not as I do? Huh.

RealityFann17
RealityFann17

"The best men end up with two types of women: well-rounded women who try to have a balance of all good attributes and supermodels. Choose one and be it. I tried for the former." I would like to add that the happiest men arent with the supermodel... and please more opinions of your take on the ladies and the show. Save your revelations for your blog. :) Thank you! Was wondering where you were this epi. but you didnt even explain why you werent at Brandi's party either...

Supermohnster
Supermohnster

Great advice! Sorry to see that other viewers are being hard on you. Probably because you don't get as much airtime as the other ladies right now and most viewers love drama. Although being 'different' than the other ladies on the show... may just be a good thing and should be taken as a compliment! Thanks for sharing a little bit about your personal life and your daughter. You seem like a very proud mom.

ChicagoViewer
ChicagoViewer

Dana, this is good advice. But until you apologize to Brandi for laughing at her pain at your game night and contributing to the hostility directed at her it will be hard for me to have respect for you. A real apology, not an excuse that you were too shocked to act maturely. There was a distinct moment captured on film when she was upset at the sisters for alienating her from the game you were all playing. You responded by laughing at her. That wasn't shock, that was callousness. Later you alienated her further by condoning the sisters' behavior and siding with them instead of being neutral as a hostess is expected to do. You bent over backwards to endear yourself to the people who matter in your book but those without prestige (Brandi) apparently weren't worth your compassion or respect. For me, that evening summed up your true character. Actions speak louder than words. This list of breezily typed up advice is nice, but your behavior speaks the real truth about you. An apology to Brandi would improve you.

itznia
itznia

You need to follow your own words!

mamecastle
mamecastle

I really think that you do have a great sense of humor. You are always willing to own up to your behavior, which I really admire. As you say, you didn't have much to do with this episode.... Are you going to be in future episodes more? Do you feel like you got a bad edit? You are like Bigfoot, we saw you then you just disappeared.

lessons learned
lessons learned

Very disappointed that you let things go as far as you did on game night. Maybe if you had spoke up when Kim made her comment about not wanting Brandi on her team things would not have happened. You need to apologize to Brandi and learn some manners.Stop all the name dropping and how much you paid for things. Glad you can afford them but it makes you look like you are bragging.

mitsy
mitsy

I think you should leave the show. It seems these shows turn folks into real basket cases.

You seem to have a great spirit and I would hate to see all this BS on this show ruin it.

Honey, if you can buy those expensive sunglasses,well you can afford not being on the show. The $$$$ you would earn would have to go into therapy sessions. I mean Look @ the other ladies and the BS they have had to deal with on this show.

Use your $$$$ and travel the world.

BlueAZ
BlueAZ

While you weren't on this episode for the most part, I thought the purpose of the blogs being done were you take on what had happened... what you thought, felt, saw, enjoyed etc etc. And while your blog was interesting, wondering what you thought about the fashion show... and your take on the "discussions" between Lisa and Adrienne and let's not forget the fashion show you DID attend but mentioned nothing about. Honestly you blogs seem to be like you are on the show... ALL about you and little to nothing about the episodes.

Joeyrrrrk
Joeyrrrrk

Dana, I like you on the show. You seem to enjoy life and always have a smile. I would just watch your back around Kyle.

Princess Diva
Princess Diva

Dana, You are a real character and I absolutely love it. You are a strong girl I can tell even from the little I've seen of you. I don't like the designer label name dropping but, I'm sure it's just edited that way for ratings. I hope you get more airtime and I agree it should be away from Taylor. It's so weird she doesn't have a blog this year....Hmmm Anywoo I like you and enjoy you everytime your in attendance on the show. Andy get the camera's over to Pam's her public wants more!!!

Fort Worth
Fort Worth

Was the model comment a dig at Brandi? Hmmmm.... The best man I know is married to a mom with a full-time job and he lives in Texas :)

ojanet
ojanet

.your my favorite

Opinion09
Opinion09

Dana or don'ta.....really with the truth and beliefs you have. Make more of an effort to be yourself. In fact the 1st time I saw this was when you were in your one on one camera time when you made the comment about Russell 'wanting to be the Dad of the year' and pushing the horse on his daughter. I bet most people thought, wow, how about a pony first and I was spot on with your perception and comments on this one. It was the first non-labeling throwing I saw of you. Living in the BH and surrounding area gives you a false sense of who people are. Really if these people lost everything would they be able to go to a common grocery store and know where to find anything!! Retorical of course......

lulilu
lulilu

i think you are a breath of fresh air!

Wwjbd?
Wwjbd?

Why do you designer/money drop? You made a comment on how you see women marrying older men as gross. What's up kettle?

Bellevue Washington
Bellevue Washington

So according to you supermodels cannot have balance of good attributes? Nice.

LaineyLainey
LaineyLainey

You seem sweet, but too desperate to be friends with what you perceive to be the "in crowd" - - Taylor? Really? She's kind of an awful person, so you don't seem to be a good judge of people and their user tendencies. But like you said, you are/we all are a work in progress. Wishing you the best with that. You went out on your own at 15 years old? That is pretty amazing. You have to have a lot of substance to survive that, I wish you would display more of that on the show instead of the name dropper, designer name dropper, price tag dropper that the producers choose to portray. It's cool that you are so proud of your kids! I do respect that about you!

Gina Blake
Gina Blake

You might want to revisit number 8 on your list. You can intentionally hurt someone by actions and inaction. You need to give a public apology to Brandi for bot your actions In supporting those who bullied her at your game night and your inaction in not protecting a guest in your home from bullies.

RealViewer
RealViewer

Great advice.....sounds like your daughter turned out well due to you. I particularly liked the adult switch.......so simple but oh so true.

RealViewer
RealViewer

Great advice.....sounds like your daughter turned out well due to you.

MommaCarol
MommaCarol

Ok, gotta say that the end of your blog cracked me up. Not quite sure if we've seen enough of you to make a decision yet. I did see you and Brandi on WWHL and I really did like both of you together and you seemed much more relaxed than we've seen on this show. And I do want to know and see more about you to get to know the real you and not the sidekick to Taylor. Not a fan of hers so I'm hoping we see you away from her more.

Susan B.
Susan B.

I hope to see more of you on the show. I think that there is a lot to explore with who you really are.

I was disappointed that you really had no role in this episode.

miami goddess
miami goddess

good attempt dana. i liked reading your blog. pls let us know more about your life - what you did after you left home, how you made it....and the like

southernbell317
southernbell317

glad you blogged... I enjoy all the ladies blogs... you grow on me more and more :) loving your sense of humor about P am ;)