All in all Kennedy had a great time. I was very proud of Taylor's effort at being an event coordinator. She had a rough start, but things went smashingly after that. I have never lifted so many tables and chairs in my life, but it was worth it for my girl.
I got really frustrated with Russell that day because he kept changing things without realizing the impact it had on all the people and vendors working (including my son). All of these people had worked so hard for Taylor to make everything perfect, and he seemed to only care about the impression of his big gift. At that time, I also had some internal resentment toward Russell for other reason, which you can see in my interview.
This episode really shows the ladies struggling to keep their friendships alive. There were so many alliance shifts, I was not really sure who was close to whom. I remember not being sure how to deal with it that day. I actually really wanted everyone to get along. I remember asking myself, "Where do I fit in with these women?" and not really having an answer. I wondered if they would ever want to get to know me? Taylor and I have always been close, and Kim always made an effort to share a personal story with me and give us something to really connect on -- but with the others it was much harder. I kept really wanting to connect in a meaningful way with them, but no one would try not even Brandi. . .
See you next week.
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I can see your genuine love for your family, but on the show you seem very fake and want to have some alliance with someone, anyone and I guess that one was Kim. You didn't even try to help the conversation move along with Brandi, you could have said something to keep Brandi from feeling so awkward as she was extending on alive branch....but you wanted to be up kims "behind" and that was dissappointing to see. You are a newbie, so don't exect to be all in on the first season, as the seasons progress you will have more shared experiences with the women and be one of the gang. You should have tried bonding with Brandi since she was a new girl too but you wanted to try to hard to fit in like in high school with one of the popular crowd.
Good job walking away from Russell in that awkward situation! Within this whole series, Russell has been portrayed in a multitude of ways. That was the first time, at least in my opinion, where we really saw the fire in him. The way he snapped at you gave me goosebumps. It must be so hard seeing your interactions with him posthumous. I hope you continue to support Taylor and Kennedy throughout this tragedy (and I'm sure you have/are).
I have mixed feelings about you, Dana. On the one hand, you seem incredibly down to earth and fun to be around. I like your laugh, and your personality is inviting. I also like that you are willing to defend your friends. You mention in your blog that there were several shifts in alliances this week. That's what frustrates the most about these ladies, the fact that they seem incapable of working through their issues without big dramatic fallouts. I know the drama is a part of what keeps me so glued to the show, but if someone is really your friend then you don't just throw them to the curb the one day from the next day, or have to mend fences with pinky promises. I like that you defend Taylor through and through. I wish the ladies would do more of that this season. The only thing I take issue with, like most other people, is the fact that you flaunt the price tag a lot. Maybe I'm just not used to that, but otherwise you are incredibly relatable and I want to know more about you. How did you meet your husband? Are you from LA? I'm excited to learn more about you . . .
how did you get ace, man!! for a five year old too!! how wonderful for him to be drinking and flirting with the birthday girl's mother who, incidentally was SO flirting back! good call for the baby's party ms. event planner
" but no one would try not even Brandi. . ."
Well, why would Brandi want to reach out... you talk behind her back non stop. Even in tonights episode, she walked up to apologize to Kim, break the ice, and all you could say was "Awkward!". You want a friend, you should have invited her into a convo, or made her feel welcomed. I probably wouldn't want much to say to you either. Otherwise, your son was adorable and the song was great. I would advise that you really check how you act towards others though.
Best of luck!
Dana, I would like you and all the women tell Kim in a nice way that she was just as at rude and fault towards Brandi as Brandi was to her. I hope you eventually feel confident enough in this crowd to be honest, rather than just take the path of least resistance.
It's not that you weren't rude to Brandi at the Bday party but you weren't friendly either. You could have used your blog to redeem yourself. I kind of get Russel snapping at you because honestly, he is the father of the Bday girl and you were interfering. That aside, Taylor was so rude when looking for Jaime. The vendors weren't her servants and neither are you. I wouldn't let a friend talk like that to me. We haven't even met your future musician step kids so who cares?
I like you Dana. I think you are excited about your success and grateful for it as well. You seem to me to be a hard worker and then react like a child when you are able to reward yourself for your efforts....I personally like that combination. I don't think you were showing off the price of the sunglasses a few episodes back but instead, still can't believe you were able to afford them.....I find that charming. I also enjoyed the song tonight.....too bad we weren't able to hear more.
So Russell wants to time the music, b-day cake and present so they are back-to-back. Sounds fair. Makes sense. It's his party, he's paying for it, and it's his child. I was stunned when you had a fit about the timing and couldn't really figure it out. Then in your "interview" you said, "what really pissed me off is that it was supposed to be a Kennedy, and he just care about being father of the year." That remark was really uncalled for. Then, I read here that the singer is your stepson, and it's all become clear to me. You wanted him to be the star of the show instead of Kennedy. I'm sure what Russell really meant to say to you is, "Dana will you just calm down, your stepson will get his airtime." Not fooling me...maybe others will believe you.
Dana, girl you will talk to anyone that will listen. But, you need to speak up and tell Kim that she is being childish. You also need to be more of an adult and quit acting so silly. I have a feeling that I want see you next season. Good luck to you.
Pama, I agree with the other ladies. You say no one tried not even Brandi...I think the film says it all. Brandi tried, was shot down and all you could say was Awkward?? You could have engaged Brandi but no instead of a lifeline you threw her an anchor. No help whatsoever. A person has died.....keep your comments about him to a minimum...I suggest 0. You promoted all your relatives very well...guess that is commendable....boring but commendable. We don't know you that well, who cares? I hope you ARE a good friend of Taylor, God knows she needs one.
sounds like someone is gunning for the sympathy vote. you start off your blog making sure everyone knows you bought a gift (meaningful, so it's better than everyone elses; or it was meaningful in the same way it was cheap), and end by saying you want the women to like you but no one seems to care or try. as for the "not even brandi..." well, think back as to why not. although I didn't see brandi "not trying," I just see her being pleasant and trying to protect herself. you really ask a lot of a person, of people. i don't understand you or the things you say and do at all. talking about your step-family in this blog, which has nothing to do with the show; complaining in very bad taste about Russell at his own home, during his event. you started this dana, with how you behaved on your first ep. I dont know what to think about a lot of what is going on on RHOBH because there is a lot of secrecy and inuendo, but i'm sure not gonna believe your take on things.
It was obvious that Russell wanted to be in charge of his daughter's party. He really loves his daughter but did you notice Taylor kept saying...my daughter. You were a good friend to jump in and help...but backing off was the right thing to do. It was nice to "gift" a birthday song to the little girl...but clear it was more for the band to be noticed. Your growing on me Dana : )
I was thinking the same thing as others, it was RUSSELL who paid for the party so it was not out of line for him to have input over how the activities played out. Still, it was yet another ridiculous party for a five-year-old child who didn't even seem like she wanted to be there. At that age, they aren't going to be impressed with how much money you spent. A party at home with a grocery store cake and a new dress would have made her just as happy (or moody, depending on how you look at it). But the horse? I assume riding lessons came with it, but isn't Kennedy too young for that?
Good Morning Ladies of BH! I watched the b-day party and Taylor I love the venue and the county fair and cowboy theme! I enjoyed watcing the children play with the jumpers, mechanical bull and loved the majican. If I could have a party like that for my kids. Even with all the pre-set up drama with the tables and such everything came together. I hope Kennedy had a wonderful 5th b-day!
With that being said, I did not enjoy the adult drama that unfolded. Lisa not coming is understandable due to the tea party (despite her claims of her own perosnal situaiton with her own daughter.) Brandi showing up was good, it shows she is not about to let others get her down. Dana this was Taylors Party and dont feel bad about being not as involved - do recognise this party was for kennedy and russels behavior was not inappropriate in my opinion. Kim, brandi made an attempt and you should still give her a chance because you would want the same respect - despite what happened. Kyle you looked beautifull with your family as always. Taylor I love you but hon but I would not have allowed AC to take a drink on stage as he sang to your daughter :( All in all im sure there was more going on than we all saw. Im glad kennedy got a horse, but a pony would have been more appropriate - just saying, not downing ok. Anyway ladies I love you and keep your heads up ok! love Trina Stith
you're a riot and i can't wrap my brain around the fact that you're in your forties. feels and looks like you're in your early twenties.
Dana as a party planner you should know and be prepared for schedule changes. Russell wanted to give the present when he deemed the right time. It's your job to make that happen even if it wasn't planned in advance. Nice to have your stepson sing but it appears you wanted to make sure you stepson got good time slot for the Bravo filming. Russell just gritted his teeth at you. If I were the client I would have said it's my party and mind your own business.
Dont listen to these people sayin you are fake. Stay as you are. you were there early to help Taylor and all you tried to do during the party was continue helping. For someone that obviously has alot, you are still nice. Ignore the haters. You are new to the group and no need for you to get caught up in the fighting. Is that all viewers want? fighting? I am guilty, I like watching the cat fights, but dont in anyway wish it on anyone. You were only trying to help when Russell snapped on you. Taylor didnt speak up either. Strange girl. ok, take care of you and ignore some comments. Not all people like all people.
Very disappointing to see how you just let Brandi sit there as she was trying to extend an olive branch. And you want Brandi to be kind to you?? I wonder why no one, including yourself, tell Kim how ridiculous she is behaving and childish. She is the one with the major problem and she was horrible to Brandi the night at your house and all you did was sit there and laugh. You were embarrassing. It was your home, you should have taken control of the situation yourself and made all your guests feel welcome. Especially when her crutches were hidden. Grow up!
I like that you helped Taylor, I mean really helped by physically doing something. Better late than never. But I must say the song...not so good. Off key too. Kinda....bad. Sorry. The truth hurts. I don't understand the rudeness towards Brandi, jealous much? It comes off that way, that all of you were jealous of her from day one. She is a beautiful girl who speaks the truth...and again...the truth hurts. Like Kim is on SOMETHING and everyone knows it but the "housewives" are in deep denial to help her cover it up. If it wasn't meth then what was it? Well, we know now so Brandi wasn't that far off. She said what we were all thinking and if that is what it took to explain Kim's strange behaviour, well then, so be it.
"Taylor's effort at being an event coordinator" .... Wow, even your compliments are underhanded jabs! I can see why Kim is the one who seems to like you the most, you two are exactly the same! You can talk smack all you want about Brandy, but who is the one who has continually tried to apologize and mend fences and who is the one giving the condescending jabs? Yup.
I'm glad you weren't cast as an actual housewife because you come off as fake and desparate. Please just be yourself if you are around next season.
You're a follower. It seems like you talk and laugh with anyone whose not talking about you. You're one of the new girls... Be different. Bravo hired you because they saw something different. You don't have to suck up to the other girls
Dana - I really like you. In fact you are probably my favorite on the show. You are by far the most "real" and you seem like a great mother and friend.
Can't imagine how you could feel okay with the way you behaved around the Kim and Brandi interaction. Grow a backbone and some integrity and call out your new friend Kim ( who you've known for all of 5 minutes) about acting like a 2 year old. Remind her that she was disgraceful at game night and Brandi was only reacting to her offensive words. You could have helped that situation, yet chose to be a follower once again.
After reading some of these other comments, all i can say is SOME PEOPLE TAKE THINGS TOO DAMN SERIOUSLY. I thought you were funny, not childish. And what you felt about Russell was how i would feel also. You seem like a fun chick! I love the show and I can't wait for the rest of the season!
i have mixed feelings about you. sometimes you seem like a riot fun to be around and you can be silly at any age, (child at heart) but on the other hand you say things like "noone tried not even brandi" did you not watch the show? you were in the scene when brandi came over to talk to kim, and you say awkward when you should have said hi how are you? show kim thats its ok to make friends and for her to stop being such a bore. maybe youd find out that you and brandi seem to have fun attitudes in life that are common.
Seriously?! Why would Brandi try with you? You were unforgivably rude to her as the "host" of game night. You have brought absolutely nothing to the table with regards to having a friendship with Brandi, and she's supposed to help you fit in? PLEASE.
You worked hard to get that party ready. Taylor was wrong to say the things she said about you during the show.....showing up late or whatever.
Nothing could ever please her. The more she gets the more she wants. Russell was also rude to you, I hope he did thank you. Scary rude!!!!!
I have to laugh at the comments written on this blog. Dana, i'm so glad you didn't tell us the price of your outfit. You have a bubble personality, which is great. To say that i know you, when it's what is placed out on BravoTV, and editing, that makes you seem like a terrific person. My husband and I watched the show last night and were happy to see that you helped out and didn't just sit around with the drink, you got involved. I feel that the song was boring, I hate to say. The singer had no hump to himself to bring out the song. You can't did a good job as a friend to Taylor and her family during Kennedy's party. hey, I loved to have party like Kennedy's for my daughter's birthday. but, lavish isn't what we are. Good luck!!
I actually enjoyed you this episode. You are a great friend to taylor no arguging that I love how you saw she needed help and got down and dirty to help with anything. Good friends are hard to come by and she has a good one in you. Btw Ace Young is soooo under-rated and HOTT!!!!!
You continue to be a Kim and Kyle 'suck up' which really is silly of you. Somehow you have decided Kim and Kyle are the 'popular' girls and you are gonna be in their 'inner circle' no matter what. Do you think the 'popular, mean girls' would really stick around and be your loyal friend if/when you needed one. Seriously, are you that desperate for famous friends? Be a good example to your son and show him the proper way to treat people. Brandi was trying and you just let her stand around feeling foolish. I felt for her and have concluded you are useless in the friend department and Kim is just an addict imploding on the inside.
Dana, it's sweet that you went to all of that effort to make a song for Kennedy's birthday. One thing bothered me though - Russell was Kennedy's father and he seemed like a great dad. So he had every right to want to do something special for Kennedy. It wasn't just Taylor's party. It was Russell's party too.
The party was not about you, for you, your step kid or Taylor..it was for a 5 yr old who certainly doesn't need all those people around her to celebrate. Russel was her father like it or not and he had every right to give HIS gift any time he wanted. Too bad that poor man isn't with us to defend himself as you trash him in your self serving blog.
I guess I finally figured out your purpose on this show. You constantly have your nose stuck up everyone's butt! You want everyone to pat you on the head, saying you are a good little housewife. Kennedy didn'g give one hoot about the song your son and Ace performed. It is apparent that you are looking to get some warm pink fuzzies. So glad that Russell blew you off, because you did overstep your boundaries with the party.The honest truth is you act as if Taylor is your woman. Get a life!
Dana I think those expensive sunglasses have warped what you see. I saw a father who wanted some input in his daughter's birthday while you needed to air grievances about a man who is no longer alive. The other glaring thing I saw was you hanging back and not helping a situation. Brandi appeared very nervous but had the balls to approach Kim (who acts like a 4 year old - 5 would be too mature). You could have said or done something to break the tension but you just sat there kissing Kim's butt. I think the reason fans and castmates can't connect with you is that you don't seem trustworthy. If you would take a stand and be a friend instead of trying to get the Richards gang to notice you, I think you would be surprised how the public would respond.
For the life of me, I can't see WHY you are on the Housewives. You don't contribute anything that is revelant. I will stop watching next year if you and Brandi are part of the cast!
It is very obvious that you are only in the show because of Taylor. (No wonder).
For your information, Russell had the right to do anything at Kennedy's party. Who are you to get upset at that. I am so happy that Kennedy one day will be able to see her father trying to be the father of the year for his little girl. What is wrong for a loving father to show the world he is the father of the year? This is a right he had, and it is not any of your business.
If you are a friend of Taylor, please help this woman to seek real professional help.
Dana I feel like you could extend an olive branch out to Brandi to make her feel better but you chose to be more interested in being liked. You slam a man who is now deceased in your blog for his kids and family to read, not cool. Leave him out of this. The whole party was kinda weird and sweet at the same time and it was for his child, so he can call the shots. In the end we saw it was all about your step son and a lead singer getting happy at a kids birthday party. Life in CA is too weird. I am not sure yet if we have seen the real Dana or some act. I just hope you are real and honest with Taylor especially at this time.
You write: "I remember asking myself, "Where do I fit in with these women?" and not really having an answer." Well, I don't have an answer either. Where do you fit in exactly? What exactly do you bring to this show? If you don't know where you fit in and and viewers like me don't know either, then maybe you...don't?!
Good Morning Dana, I also wanted to wish you and your family a wonderfful Thanksgiving as well, love Trina
I don´t think Kennedy enojoyed the party, I believe Taylor try too hard to please everybody even if she spends so much money for a party that her daughter didn´t want. And Pam, I mean Dana, don´t you think you are not acting like a real friend? You seemed much like a troublemaker to me. Even though I don´t like Russell, he has the right to plan her daughter´s party as he wanted, you only wanted your son to have his air time. I am not sure you are coming back to the show next season.
Please don't fall into the "friend of the moment" game Kyle plays (for whatever reason). You seem like a genuinely nice person. I like the way you handled Russell at that ridiculous party -- and you're right, getting a full-sized horse which is obviously a bit skittish for a neurotic five-year-old is idiotic to the max -- be honest with everyone and stop giving the impression that you think any of these women are "better" than you. They're not. Different, maybe, but in no way superior. Best of luck to you in your marriage, and don't let yourself turn into plastic. Don't trust Taylor, either. She'll knife you in the back and try to make herself look the victim, same as always.
I've watched every episode of RHBH so far and my impression of you is that you enjoy seeing other people confronted or in awkward situations. The look of positive glee you got when Brandi walked away after trying to be nice to that basket case Kim says it all. I don't want to see you on the show next season and if you are still on, I'll simply fast forward you. Love that DVR! Oh, and are your future step-children's mother in the picture? Bet she just loves hearing her children referred to as "my children" by you.