The seance! My family has been seeing Rebecca the psychic for a few years now. Rebecca has told me things that nobody could possibly know. She even told me about doing The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills before I was even asked to do it. She said "You're going to be doing a TV show.There will be a Lisa and a Taylor on this show. I see your sister Kim there as well." Very strange. At the time I didn't know Taylor, and only knew of my daughter's boyfriend Taylor.
She is gifted and it's fun to talk to her and ask questions. She has never told me anything scary. Although, she has warned me a couple times. Rebecca once told my husband to check his back right tire and to have it fixed right away. He looked at us and said "there's a nail in it. I haven't had a chance to fix it." Another time she told me that our daughter Alexia would be asking if she could go somewhere with a girl named Talia. She told me she wanted me to say no. I couldn't think of a Talia. Two days later Alexia called from a friend's birthday and asked if she could go with her friend Talia to the movies. I asked "who is Talia?" I had goose bumps. Alexia said "from my old school. I just bumped in to her here." Obviously, I said "No."
Anyway, I thought a seance would be fun. All the girls had been wanting to meet Rebecca. I like to ask her things about my mom and dad. Many times she will give me "messages" that leave me awestruck. When Kim said that coming to the seance was "against her religion" I thought "Are you kidding me?" Is this the same religion that lets you go to Rebecca's office for one on one readings? I know that she doesn't always love these "Girls Night Out" evenings. The last one wasn't exactly fun. However, I also feel that she is once again isolating herself. I did have to tease her a bit about this last excuse though.
I'd just like to offer that sometimes if someone is trying not to drink, it can be difficult for that someone to integrate into social occasions.
Kyle, I believe you have a great sense of insecurity with yourself when it comes to your sister. Only you know why? You wonder why she kept her relationship from you for a year.. Take a good long hard look at how you treat her especially when around others.. Most of the time you act as if your embarrased by her... she's your sister!! No matter what, that will never change.. Stop being so judgemental and concerning yourself with others thoughts and opinions.. Focus on rebuilding your relationship with her, if thats what you really want.. I pray all works out for her and her new companion.. She deserves to be just as happy as the next person including you!! It seems as if you dont want her to be anything more than you.. She is a strong independant women holding her own with her family... And doing it alone... And doing it well... You envy alot of your sister whether you choose to see it, believe it or even accept it.. Its the truth.. Be happy for her.. Give her credit for all shes done, on her own... And be there for her as her sister.. A true sister.. Not a fake one..
I'd just like to offer (from personal experience) that it can be difficult for someone who has quit drinking to integrate back into social situations.
How do I get a hold of your psychic? The raw emotion and how she was able to be so spot on with you ladies makes me want to see her. Please let us know Im sure I can't be the only one who wants to talk with her.
LUV YOU ON THE SHOW..BUT, WE'RE ALOT ALIKE IN SPEEKING OUR MINDS & IT DOES SEEM TO PUSH OUR LUVED ONES AWAY..(KIM) U TRULY DO LUV HER & U'VE CHANGED..alot.. let it go..let Kim b her own person,,u smother her..by telling her what 2 do..she needs 2 b her own PERSON.. IF THIS GUY ISNT RT ..SHE'LL FIGURE IT OUT..HERSELF..AS SHE GOES..YOU CAN STILL B HER SIS..AND CHECK IN...LET YOUR CONTROL GO..U CANT CONTROL EVERYTHING..ALTHOUGH WE TRY, WE C A N NO T..SO..I'M DEALING WITH THESE SAME TYPED OF THINGS TOO RT. NOW..LOL IT JUST ALL CLICKED TOGETHER WHEN I WAS WATCHING UR SHOW..I STOPPED THE DVR, GOT ON LINE, AND SHARED THIS..IK HOW STRANGE..LOL IT'S HOW I LEARN TOO, WE WHOM HAVE THE "MOTHER/SISTER SYNDROME" OR OUR PREVIOUSE LIVES..LOL HAVE TO JUST LERN 2 LET IT GOOOOOO, NO MATTER WHO IT IS, WE DON'T HAVE ENOUGH TIME TO LOOSE MORE FAMILY..SO WE HAVE TO..LIVE & LET LIVE..
Now maybe people will see that Brandi SHOULD apologize to Kim.
How would someone that suffers from depression, anxiety, nervousness, etc would like to be called a meth user! Not Nice!
Kyle - It was good to see you being so human and natural. That is a much more agreeable side of you. Unfortunately, I couldn't help but brace myself for the mean. We all know you love your sister and want the best for her, but seriously, woman, give her a break. Her anxiety is because of you and her family. Stop judging her. Maybe rather than her isolating herself, you should isolate yourself from her. I think you're afraid she'll find someone who wants the best for her - for HER instead of for, well, for you. You're too controlling. Let her live her life. It will be a happier one for both of you.
Kyle, I was glad to see you included Brandi in the seance and it went well. When you called into Andy's show you said your personality changes when you're with your sister. Please recall your fundraiser when you were making fun of Brandi and Kim was not there. You were laughing and high-fiving Taylor all night at Brandi's expense. Also, beware of Taylor. Anyone who makes fun of people then invites them to lunch and acts all buddy-buddy has issues. Take care and love you.
Kyle, since you are aware that everything that is said on camera true or false has an effect on people, you should have thought about that when you said your sister is an acoholic on camera. you made everyone look at her differently. also, you have 4 beautiful daughters. Kim is not your daughter. let her be. oh and by the way, you are a mean girl. wheather you see it or not.
Kyle, your insight and instincts astound me (and I love your sense of humor). I can understand how you feel. Me and my friends (viewers) are feeling the same way about Kim's decision. As we were watching the seance about to take place we were all watching and rather poking fun at the notion of psychic readings but we were shut up rather quickly as we watched your psychic do her work with all the ladies.
First, I'd like to apologize to Kim for the nasty comment I posted about Ken on the Producer's blog last week...now that I've been enlightened to the fact that she's obviously suffering from depression issues, I feel terrible...but isn't that the way things go when we jump to conclusions? It was a great show this week; I loved the seance and it really seemed like everyone got along splendidly. I personally enjoy the non-drama nights...I'd rather live vicariously through a non-dramatic golden life ;-) Kyle, your loving your sister is beautiful; wanting the best for her is lovely; but we can't control our sister's choices. All we can do is pray and hope for the best for them. Can't wait to see next week's show. RHWBH is my favorite!
Your sister was smart to keep her private life separate from you and the others on the show until she and Ken knew each other better. You surely can't say that you and the other castmates wouldn't have tried to interfere in some way. If she is happy with him and he treats her well, then you should be happy for her and support her. Her keeping it from you was probably because of your treating her like one of your children instead of like a grown adult. She may have had some issues before which cause you to have your guard up, but it looks like she had made progress and now feels comfortable enough to go further in their relationship. Just be there for her and be supportive of her.
I adore you and your family. Your sister has to make her own choices in life. You are all so lucky that Paul let you all come in for a day like that. Lucky dogs.
Give your sister the space she deserves......my sister was so controlling I had to brake my relationship off with her. Its sad because I love her but just couldn't take her meadling. Be there to support not judge your both adults, not children. Good luck
Why would she keep her relationship a secret for a year? Because she is entitled to privacy and you seem to have no boundaries when it comes to your sister. You are not her mother or the jury and you have to stop being so controlling and treating her like she is a disabled child. I think Kim is doing a healthy thing to keep some things to herself especially because all you do is judge her and make apologies for her.
I am hoping you can attend the Betty Ford family program. It could give you insight into your relationship with your sister. To me it seems that you like to control the relationship. I have been a true Kyle fan and this year I find myself questioning your behaviors and attitude!
I think you are doing the right thing by not interfering in Kim's decisions, even if you don't agree with many of them. All you can do is keep the door wide open for her to feel welcome at anytime she feels comfortable. Maybe sooner rather than later she will want her family in her life again. I hope so, because you both have too much to lose as sisters. Kim needs to live her life according to her and that means making mistakes and learning from them. Hopefully she will be able to trust her family i.e. you and your sister Kathy because other than her children, you are the two people she needs most, whether she realizes that is another story. I wish her all the best and like her very much as I do you!
Kyle, you are one of my very favorite HW's. I think it's very sweet you care so much for your sister... she is lucky to have you, I'm sure it goes both ways :) I hhave three sisters as well so I understand that bond. It was also too funny to hear the psychic say you were her Mother in a past life. You are absolutely lovely and have a beautiful family, take care!
Kyle, you and Kim are just great! I hope you continue to find the strength to step back and let her make her own decisions about her life. It's so important for Kim to get her self-confidence back and whether the decision is right or wrong, at least she'll own it. There are ways to be supportive without appearing hypercritical. You can do it!
Kyle, I know a lot of people harp on you about being to controlling over Kim and that you seem embarrassed...but I have to say, sometimes I feel worse for you than her! She seems like a lovely person, and a good person...but watching the show, I think I would get frustrated too. No matter what, she is your sister and you feel like her actions reflect on you. And to be fair - they kind of do! Every time she's late, or acting strange, or doesn't show up - the first person the rest of the girls ask you about what the situation is. It has to be tiring. Plus, if she has had some past issue with alcohol or whatever - I get it that you worry and her actions scare you. I'm in the same position with my friends as you are with Kim. Always planning, always the one staying in touch. It gets tiresome. I do think you have to let go though. For your relationship, as well as your mental well-being. It will end up driving you crazy.
Kyle, anyone can see that you love your sister and are very protective of her. It was understandable that you became upset when Brandi made the crystal meth comment. Unfortunately, by calling your sister an alcoholic the previous season, you made it "ok" to to question Kims sobriety when her behavior is suspect-
I hope that the meds issue does clear up suspicions but I have to be honest. I try not to be cynical but that entire scene felt staged. I'm not buying it. But I genuinely wish you and your sister well.
Kyle, I totally understand the dynamics between you and Kim. My sister and I have the same relationship. She's bossy, you're bossy. Not saying that to be mean, you are, so is my sister. One day it hit me - she can be as bossy as she wants to be. Everybody has "this but then there’s that" in their personality. With my sister's bossiness comes an awful lot of GREAT stuff, as we know you have also! So this is how we squared this circle at the end of a huge, tearful blowout. She can tell me what to do as often as she wants, and I am allowed to do what I'm going to do. We're cool. I hope you and Kim are too.
So glad that segment with Paul and Kim was aired. It clarifys a lot! Now I can see exactly why you were so upset with Brandi's comment. I would have been mad too if someone made a baseless accusation about my family member. Maybe Brandi thought she was being 'cute' but it was an ugly thing to say.
I know that Paul made a good point because I have seen what certain medication combos can do to people, and yes, they can appear to be 'drunk' or when they arent, etc.
Your psychic is very nice-quite the opposite of Allison Dubois. Thanks for bringing Rebecca on the show. She puts a positive light on mediumship.
I don't think that most people know what it is like to have a sibling that has had or does have some kind of a substance abuse problem. My older sister did (she has since passed away), and I can say I was in the same position as Kyle is, many times. One minute they are falling apart and they want you to fix everything and pick up all of the pieces and be there, the next...they decide they wanna do the right thing for awhile and no longer want your input. It's very hard to turn it on and shut it off and the drop of a hat. Clearly Kyle loves her sister. It's not easy when the rules on how you are "allowed" to love them change so often.
I believe you truly love your sis and can see that you really do want the best for her (hence you keep insisting she moves closer to you so that she can be around family). However, I think you should take a step back from her life and let her make her own decisions without second guessing whether she is happy, right, etc. Give her yur two cents on her relationship, but after that, give her a hug and let her know you've got her back--even if she does not accept your advice. I can relate though because I am the same way at times with my younger siblings--but i am learning to pull back and not be so imposing with my views, even if they are well intended.
I understand that you worry about your sister-- you just do it to the extreme. I know the feeling all to well because I've gone to a psychic and the first thing she tells me is that I am the older sister- not the MOM LOL!! Let Kim date and if he is wrong then she will learn from it and move on. SHe doesn't look like she has had the best choices relationshipwise but maybe its because her sisters always step in for her. I understand the anxiety but sometimes you just have to let go :) The Seance was cool-- you need to put out your psychic's info so we can take a looK!!! I agree about not getting involved in the Russell/lisa/Taylor hoopla- that was a good move!! and the Split- WHOA! you did it like second nature.. what do they say.. a Lady in the streets and a ... !!
You spent the whole last season whining about how badly you want kim to meet someone and be happy and now that she truly is you cry and don't support her. Your reasons for not being supportive don't make any sense. She clearly is in love with her and didn't introduce you because she doesn't want your "advice" and you need to take a hint. Are you scared you're gonna lose your ego-boosting control over her every move now, because it seems like that's more what this is about then "helping" her. Is that why you cried? You need to take a long look at yourself
Hope you watch the episode and then read your blog again. It's sad to see your support of both Lisa and Kim waning. I miss the Kyle that had Lisa's back in Season 1. I can't imagine how Kim feels reading your blog. You're still not supporting her decision...even tho it's done... I don't get it. Unless you're hoping to say "I told you so". Trust me, it's not a good look on you.
Kyle you are an awesome sister to worry about Kim so much, and it's hard not to try and make her do what you feel is right for her - you don't want her to make a mistake. I know we don't know all and we don't see all as viewers, but from what I saw I thought he seemed like what she needs in her life. At first, I had to admit I thought "OH my he's not very good looking" but then I thought he seems calm and kind and at an age where things wouldn't bother him as much. Your sister is so gorgeous that naturally we all want her with a equally good looking guy, but after going through all she's gone through in life maybe she sees something deeper in him that is more valuable than external things. I will keep praying for you both that you can continue to repair your relationship and adjust.
Kyle I think you did the right thing by encouraging Taylor to talk to Lisa about all the accusations. It seems if though Taylor was rallying for her team against Lisa which would have further caused a strain. I also think you're doing the best thing by giving Kim some space. Sometimes it's difficult but necessary. I was also happy to see Brandi there.
I'm happy that Kim has found a companion. If it turns out things don't work out with Ken then she will deal with it like everyother adult does in their interpersonal relationships. There is something wrong with how controlling you are with your sister. It apparent to everyone but you that she choses to live far from you for a reason. I would be furious if my sister implied I was dating someone only because I was lonely. WOW! No wonder Kim didn't introduce her boyfriend to you. You immediately started to undermine their relationship with comments in this episode. In your blog you continue to undermine their relationship by implying, yet providing no details, that her new boyfriend is undesirable.
You should focus on improving your own life and let your sister live her life as an independent adult. You should probably see a professional to find out why you feel the need to be so controlling.
There really seems to be a codependent relationship with you and Kim. Let her go, let her succeed or fail, but let HER do it!
Kim is owed an apology from many of you on the show. Taylor, Brandi and yourself, why don't you be the first!
What is it with you and Lisa. I hope this doesn't turn out to be a Jill and Bethenny thing. Though Lisa is way above Jills shenanigans.
Kyle, you are an excellent friend to Taylor on the show. You're a good listener, the voice of reason, and very consoling and sympathetic. I wish you could be like that with your own sister, especially when she needs you the most. Try being her friend instead of a sister and I think your relationship will improve.
kyle, something definitely changed about you this season. I used to be a fan. Maybe you're going through menopause or maybe your having other personal issues not made clear. regardless of the reason there really is no excuse to bully people like that. you should seriously read that book camille gave you last season"how to behave" it may help you with your issues.
I believe Kyle is coming from a good place when it comes to voicing her opinions to Kim. I personally can tell she loves her sister. As viewers, we do not know their entire family history. Sometimes, sisters need to be brutally honest with each other in order to protect each other. Of course Kyle is not Kim's mother, but as mentioned before, Kyle promised her mother that she would take care of Kim. We all have family members who need a little guidance, unwanted or not. It isn't fair to judge Kyle when we do not know the entire situtation. Kyle may look like the "bad guy", but there may be a reason behind all this that isn't public.
Why are you "attacking" Lisa all through out this season? I thought Lisa was once your best friend? You confront her on Taylor's behalf, but when Lisa is confronted you say "I don't want to get in the middle. That's between the two of them." It seems hypocritical. The way way you lashed out at Ken at the dinner party was cringe worthy. I must admit you came off a much nicer and funnier last season.
Kyle, Kim didn't hide this from you because she is isolating herself, she hid this from you because you criticize everything she does, says, wears, etc. She is obviously happy with him since they have been dating for a year. you just spent most of that year being angry with her because she chose to be with him rather than hang out with you. If you want to be closer to your sister, you could always move. You get all defensive when you think she doesn't rely on you anymore. Leave her alone, let her be happy.
Have you learned nothing? Why are you making negative comments about your sister's boyfriend in your blog. It's time to start living the saying, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."
If I were your sister, I'd keep my private life away from your judgmental eye too.
Kyle, I agree with several of the comments here listed about your caring for Kim. I think that you do want the best for Kim as long as you can be the one determining what that best is. Sad that you cannot see you are overbearing when it comes to Kim and your candor comes across as condesending. Your sister is a grown woman and can make her own decisions, so just be happy for her without adding you little digs about how you see it going, ending up or how it got to this place. She kept this from you and others because frankly she doesn't want your opinion. Remember she needs support not doubt or judgement, she is not you she is KIM respect that and move on.
I am a little disappointed this season in how you are behaving with the ladies. I don't think you are being a very good friend to Lisa and the way you handled yourself with Brandi was embarassing. You started the show being one of the most real but I am afraid that the curse of the housewives franchise is taking over a fan favorite once again. It would be nice to see someone stay true to themselves for a change.
You seem very confrontational this season and for the wrong reasons. You seem to be "attacking" Lisa all season. I thought she was one of your best friends and watching the two of you last year was fun, now it's cringe worthy. You will confront Ken at a dinner party on Taylor's behalf, get snippy at Lisa in the limo with her, then get overly defensive at her remark that Taylor is not so close to Camille. Yet, when Lisa is being confronted by Taylor you want to stay out of it.. seems hypocritical and not a good friend.
Kyle, you are my favorite! Love the way you are real, admitting you are not perfect and that you might be working on things (like trying to let go of Kim). These things are very hard for anyone who has been through things with someone close, but especially for a sister! I understand being so afraid something bad will happen when we let go-----just like we do as parents, but we still need to let go nonetheless. LOVE your "lovehandles" and the way you talked about them. Very refreshing!