Lisa Vanderpump

After watching this week's episode, Lisa isn't so sure the tag of bully fits her.

on Nov 12, 20110

So it begs the question....Why would I give my friend, who is the west coast editor of US Weekly a story that we all knew to be a lie? The magazine, my friend, and I would have all looked stupid. I hate the fact that I have to defend myself against some vindictive accusation. What also irks me is the fact that my friend, the editor, knows the source and can't, because of journalistic principles, reveal who the troublemaker is. . .even to me. However, since then she can and has sworn to Kyle that I had absolutely no involvement. I just resent the fact that people can invent something and suddenly the integrity that you have worked so hard for is in question. It's one of the challenges of being on a reality show.

I was so overwhelmed with opening and designing my new restaurant, planning my daughter's wedding, writing my book, and still trying to focus on my existing businesses that I hadn't had time to socialize as much as the others.

291 comments
humblepie
humblepie

From my observations, you spend much of your time sticking your two cents worth in where it doesnt belong. You more than likely see it as being supportive. What I see is someone stirring the pot because they are hungry for drama. Other peoples!!!! Anyone can lable themselves with the term integrity but integrity comes from within. Sorry to have to be the one to break the news to you.

gingerbread
gingerbread

Lisa should not be upset about what happened. Just learn from it. Basically Taylor was disrespectful in her home and too needy for Lisa's friendship. Kyle who she thought was her friend is not as good as she thought. Take it for what it is. Hurts but it is out in the open. Your best friends I would say is Jiggy and your husband. Stay focused.

Lisen
Lisen

But Lisa, Kyle said "maybe she likes to prey on the weak" not that you acctually do that. It upset many to hear you say that you´re not masquerading to be Taylors best friend. Is not that similar misapprehension? Kyle has defended you always, as I see it.

mollysma
mollysma

LISA, YOU HANDLED YOURSELF BEAUTIFULLY during the attack at the tea party! It takes a fool to argue with a fool, and Taylor was being a blubbering fool.

You, on the other hand, behaved with kindness, and self-respect. You have no reason at all to feel humiliated.

divauta
divauta

One of the things I enjoyed most about watching the first season of this show was the great friendship you and Kyle seemed to have. I was also impressed that when you told someone something you had said to a third party you repeated it truthfully as captured on camera in the initial conversation. I am disappointed with some of the thigns Kyle has said about you and done (or not done) this season. If a good friend of mine was being accused of giving stories to the press I would have given her a head's up...especially after you opened that email in Paul's office and asked why Taylor's husband had sent it to you.

fifilarue
fifilarue

There is only one side here - Lisa's!

kahala
kahala

All of you Beverly Hills ladies seem like rich, crazy mixed up kids to me. It is satisfying though watching you kids flounder around and realize there are indeed families and personas, way better off financially than I am, that still prove to be even more dysfunctional and messed up than my own clan.

cottons mamma
cottons mamma

Lisa you are the reason I watch the show. I meant to say Lisa has more class in her little finger than most in their whole bodies..

Annetteinthe Bx
Annetteinthe Bx

It tells you a lot of Taylor's character to go to a party where her HUSBAND is not invited. Where I am from that is NOT cool. Marriage means you are a team and if your partner is not invited somewhere then that kinda means you shouldn't go. NOW, if she in fact was in an abusive relationship, I think, having been in an abusive relationship myself..that would have been an agitating factor for Russell toward Taylor therefore it should have had her fearful to even consider the invite without Russell. Lisa called it last season about Taylor stirring the pot, and I have always thought....SHAME ON KYLE...for her behavior on camera toward her sister and of course shame on both Kyle and the Tutti Frutti that is Kim for how they behaved toward Brandi.

Lisa I love you. I think you are funny and honest. Shame on these caddy chickens who cackle over nonsense.

TraceyT72
TraceyT72

Lisa,

Kyle is not your friend (just an associate) but likes being in your world because its advantageous to Mauricio. You didn't tell Taylor you are not her friend, you said verbatim "I'm not one of your best friends, but if you need a place to stay...". Wow, people hear what they want to hear and Taylor loves being the victim because she gets the attention that she has been desperately seeking. Kyle has been close to Taylor and I'm surprised you didn't know that. The bottom line is without you this show wouldn't be all that interesting. I don't really watch it for the drama but moreso to see the lifestyles...houses, cars, clothes, events, and luxurious living.

To sum up my sentiments on the ladies:

Lisa- Authentic Fashionable Elistist (but not Self-Proclaimed) Camille-Searching, Confused, and Fragile Taylor-Needy, Broken, & Disloyal Victim Kyle- Opportunist with God Complex (w/ Kim) Adrienne- Peacemaker Friend but Contentious Wife Kim- Emotionally Scarred Substance Abuser

Jersey Girl
Jersey Girl

Like Taylor some of you only hear what you want to hear. Lisa said I am not your BEST friend but I am here for you if you need me. Put your closed caption on, maybe that will help.

Aisling
Aisling

Lisa you don't need to defend yourself against ANYTHING - as a viewer it's all so obvious. You're a class act, and come across as a very balanced person. The way you handled yourself with both Taylor & Lisa in this week's episode shows that. No need to prove anything, and Kyle, Taylor & Kim show themselves up week after week - the viewer isn't stupid!

Reesy
Reesy

Pity that no one understands the difference between, I am not your BEST friend, and I am not your friend. I am sorry your feelings were hurt over this mess.

As to the newstory, I never thought that you would have done that. You knew the truth, no reason to lie. However; it makes me incredibly angry that an editor would allow a story to be printed with such lies and not check out the story. One phone call to you from your friend could have avoided that being printing. I will never purchase that rag as they obviously do not care if they are printing truth or lie.

iamsmitty
iamsmitty

The term bully really is the newest catch-phrase and it is currently being used far too liberally. You are not a bully (as seen from RHOBH). There is a great distinction in what you said to Taylor with the addition of the word best before friend. You definatly showed support to someone who seemed to be in need, but this is definately a case of "no good deed going unpunished." You were the sacrificial lamb to Taylor's suffering and consequencial wrath. So I have one piece of advice that as a Brit you are sure to appreciate... "Keep calm and carry on."

Suzanne K
Suzanne K

Lisa, I am re-watching the Tea Party episode right now and just can not believe Taylor would not include you in her event but, show up at your Tea Party! She has alot of nerve and should be ashamed to ever insult a classy lady like yourself. You should have asked her to leave after that very trashy display she made. Love ya Lisa, I have loved you as an actress and as a Real Housewife. You are my Favorite!

Dimitrios
Dimitrios

lisa you are amazing. the only thing i will say to you is stay strong in who you are. i think that deep down the other ladies are jealous because you worked and work for your money, your funny, successful at work and your marriage and overall a good person. the other ladies are trying to knock you down. i wish you the best my dear. i can't wait to see you in the rest of the season. cheers darling.

faith hiatt
faith hiatt

You"re on the right channel, Lisa. Bravo to you!

AZOKHW
AZOKHW

How do you feel about Kyle now that you know she talked badly behind your back??? Not a friend!!

ellen oneill
ellen oneill

Lisa, you did tell Taylor, "I'm not your friend." Your refusal to tell the truth isn't classy, nor is it indicative of personal integrity.

Splash
Splash

Lisa, you are the classiest woman on the show. And next I would have to say Camille as she has opened up this year. Glad you dont doubt yourself!

CRE
CRE

Lisa you are one of my favorites. You are funny, positive, and kind. You do say it as it is, and sometimes people misunderstand that, but personally I love people who are upfront and honest. I think Kyle adore you, but she was a bit of a coward as far as Taylor is concerned. Maybe she was being a little kinder to Taylor because Taylor is an obvious mess, and Kyle likes to mother people, but she has a history with you and she should have defended you. Anyway good luck with everything.

bravotvfanls
bravotvfanls

Lisa, you are the favorite on the RHBH, don't let the haters bring you down. Its sad to see the jealously displayed by the other cast mates, but I'm not surprised. You have class and integrity...I don't believe many people understand the true meaning of the word. I appreciate your authenticity and yes that might mean you are more frank with people, but I find that refreshing. Continue to stay true to yourself, we are on your side.

Blessings, -L

bravotvfanls
bravotvfanls

Lisa, you are the favorite on the RHBH, don't let the haters bring you down. Its sad to see the jealously displayed by the other cast mates, but I'm not surprised. You have class and integrity...I don't believe many people understand the true meaning of the word. I appreciate your authenticity and yes that might mean you are more frank with people, but I find that refreshing. Continue to stay true to yourself, we are on your side.

Blessings, -L

samson
samson

i got the opportunity to meet lisa at one of her book signings and i honesty believe she is the real deal. very loving, compassionate, and honest. she tells it like it is with a little humor. with that said, i think taylor has serious issues against lisa due to her relationship w/russell. it's obvious that russell did not like lisa and believed she was the root of all the media leaks (which is nonsense!) thus russell must have continuously vocalized his dislike/frustration/anger/abuse toward lisa to taylor. this brainwashed her to believe that lisa was in fact the reason to her dysfunctional relationship/life w/russell! it's sad. i also want to say that lisa is oh so classy to still defend taylor and kyle when she says to remember ppl's frame of mind 6moths ago in interviews. for me, that is just the epitome of loyalty, beauty, and grace! what a great friend! i am sadden to see lisa attacked in this season, but she is a tough cookie and i expect nothing but an elegant triumph!

team lisa!

Maria Adele
Maria Adele

Who ever does your bottom and skincare is doing a great job. Dr Simon Ourian must be very expensive cause none of the other housewives look as good as you. Perhaps the next beauty party should be at your house with dr. Ourian, so that they can try to look as beautiful and natural as you. I have heard he is the best in the US.

bjtrue
bjtrue

Lisa, What a performance Taylor put on. "If you cant be my friend don't be my enemy" I cant remember what movie that is from..but I will. I think everyone knows that Taylor is an opportunist.

km34
km34

Hi Lisa. I've never been so compelled to leave a message on these blogs. I just wanted to say I love you and greatly admire your character. You are so beautiful and classy. You are NOT a bully. I'm sorry Kyle has not been a good friend to you as you have been to her. I understand how heartbreaking that may feel to invest so much in a friendship that is not reciprocated. I was angry when she said you like to prey on the weak. She is one to talk to when it comes to the bully labeling. Taylor was wrong to confront and attack you like that, especially in your own home. Clearly she just wants to be as strong and secure as you are because she went from expressing how hurt she was by not feeling good enough to be your friend to attacking your character by saying you have a big ego. Don't let people like that get to you hun. I'm sure you won't because you're Lisa. =)

mary ann
mary ann

lisa, you are the best!! your not a bully!! and people cant hear because you said " iam not your best friend". althou i dont think taylor has a best friend, because she cant be a best friend. taylor is very jealous of you as a person and your money (which you have worked for). your everything she isnt. kyle is not your friend!!! iam sorry taylor's life has turned so bad, but she is a trouble maker and a bully. remember the fight she stared with kim at her birthday party (which kyle went against her sister for taylor). now kyle goes against you for taylor. your the best lisa

Melinda K.
Melinda K.

I am sorry that they made you feel as though you were being looked at as a bully. You are an extremely honest friend who called Taylor out on her interference and instigation last season. You did that, because it caused real problems between the other women last year. You were spot on, with calling Taylor out as a troublemaker, and I do not believe that had anything to do with being in an abusive relationship. She has quite the temper herself. Kyle did not see through her last year, and still does not. Kyle should have absolutely spoken up to you, and said that Taylor and Russell were making false accusations against you. She shows little integrity this year by turning on you, and talking behind your back with Taylor. If she were a true friend, she would be addressing any issues she had with you, with you. You were open and honest with her. So what, that you told Taylor that "I know we are not best friends, but if you need a place to sort things out, you are welcome in my house." That is a very generous, caring gesture, considering that you were not best friends. Taylor has turned your words around, in order to attack you and play the victim, because of her jealousy of you. I suspect that was and is her true character, regardless of current circumstances. Kyle, for whatever reason, either doesn't see through her or chooses not to. I know that is hurtful to you, because you are a good friend to Kyle. Been there and done that. If someone can talk behind your back and say unkind things, they were not the good friend that they should have been. We have seen last season and this, that you have in fact, defended Kyle. It is Kyle, who should be ashamed of her behavior, and she is the one looking like a bully, or at the very least, two faced. I would not worry about Taylor, because I don't believe she is capable of being a true friend when she is more consumed with social climbing and materialistic things. It is hurtful and unfortunate that women choose to be petty and catty, but focus on the positive in your life--examine your relationships and find out who really is a true friend and worthy of your friendship. Good luck to you and yours, you are a very honest and classy woman.

KM2
KM2

Lisa - need not worry. You are not a bully and if anyone preys on the weak, it is Kyle.

You have conducted yourself as a classy woman in my opinion. I love how you joke around, the lighten the mood. At the same time are direct and honest. no smoke screens.

I'm glad they aired the conversation between Kyle and Taylor - you needed to see that Kyle isn't as in to you as you have been to her. I think last year's limo scene should have been a red flag to all of you - that was her sister.

Viewer1965
Viewer1965

There is a big difference between "I am not your friend" and "I am not your BEST friend" which is what you said. Taylor's life is so out of control, and you were the target of her misplaced anger. It's much easier to attack you, then to address the real issues with her husband. I don't condone her behavior, but I understand it. Now Kyle's remark about "you preying on the weak," viewers don't believe that. I hope what she was trying to say was you watch out for the underdog. You find a stray and try to help it any way you can. (i.e. Cedric) I think she was just trying to pacify Taylor, not trying to run you over with the bus. (and yes, I am wearing my rose-colored glasses) Oh and where can I get that picture of you and Jiggy? I want it as my screen saver!

Anne from Texas
Anne from Texas

Lisa, Love your book!! Can't wait to try some of the fab ideas and recipes!!! You are honorable and classy ....hope you see what these women are really like now....Kyle is a snake...Taylor is a mess....Adrienne is not very smart and kinda gaudy...Hope there is a spin-off with just you and Ken!!!

GinaFire111
GinaFire111

Lisa, you are the single reason I watch the show. You are both elegant and genuine. I'm not nearly as generous a person as you are--I would have thrown a person out so hard she would have bounced across the pavement had she acted in my home the way Taylor did in yours.

MsDebee
MsDebee

I'm hooked on RHOBH! Love you, Adrienne and Camille. Just 2 things: 1. Please don't mock Kim (the whiney voice), it's not becoming of you. 2. Love the screensaver! You rock!

Viarago
Viarago

Lisa - You are a beautiful and classy woman. You remind me of my mum. Keep a stiff upper lip when it comes to Taylor and Kyle... You have been a supportive friend. They( Kyle & Taylor) should thank their lucky stars to have been graced with your presence. You are a pure joy filled with sunshine and light. Love to you.

a person with common sense
a person with common sense

OMG, Lisa I love you!!! You're by far the best housewife. Anyone that says Taylor was right to attack you like she did obviously has NO BRAIN! Taylor is bipolar and needs meds. ...I don't mean this to sound so unkind but seriously she's unstable and has issues. I get why she's intimidated by you. Because she knows you don't buy the crap she's putting out there. She knows you're too smart for her manipulations. Where as Kyle just eats it up. And how dare her say, "look what Lisa did to Cedric." Please, Cedric used and abuse his stay! You loved Cedric as your own child! Of course you don't trust Taylor she isn't trustworthy. From the start she has stirred the pot. And by the way I'm surprised in her attack on you she didn't scream her famous words of "ENOUGH, ENOUGH, ENOUGH!!!! (hasn't she done this twice now?) Anyway, you acted like a pure lady with grace. Stay positive, you're doing everything right! Love to you and Ken!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

peonylover
peonylover

Lisa you are handling all of this the best you can. Keep it classy and please bring more of your great one liners like last season- they're the best.

Seattle Girl
Seattle Girl

I totally agree with I told you so. You would be great at having a talk show like Merv Griffin, you should have your own show that is light hearted, funny, talking with celebrities in a fun and happy way. No drama, just pure honest and fun. You are great and I adore you and your family.

B772
B772

Lisa you are great! I felt so bad for the way you were attacked in this past episode. All the craziness that was going on in Taylor's life, and she was so concerned with her problems with you! Uhh, I'd be exhausted. You can't argue with crazy..

People on the show attacking you, is reminiscent of the jealous women on New York thinking they could "ice" out Bethenny. Look how that turned out for them! The viewers are smarter than that. They know when people are jealous and trying take someone down. Being at the top isn't easy.

You are definitely my favorite to watch and the viewers love you. Keep up the good work and thanks for sharing with us.

Kelly21
Kelly21

Lisa, I just love you and I just watched the last episode again and honestly my heart goes put to you....I really think Camille is a true friend to you Lisa. I don't know about Adrianne ...wow, it sure it surprised me how much Taylor was saying everyone was gossiping about you and Paul knew it too....that was too funny when Taylor of all people said you cannot say 1 word behind her back...this lady is crazy...that's all she has been doing to you. Lisa you don't need Kyle or Taylor in your life. Love you an Ken. You are the best on the show.

Montana1969
Montana1969

Lisa --

I truely hope that you had nothing to do with the stories and everything that came out in the press about Taylor's husband. You say that you were protecting her yet you were one of the first to mention on camera that she was being abused (which I am quite sure she was trying to keep between her "friends" and her and not the public. If you did in any way have anything to do with it, you will have to live your life knowing that you were in some part (no matter how small) responsible for pushing someone over the edge.

ILoveJerseyHW
ILoveJerseyHW

There's a reason there's an expression that says "a ring of truth to it". Your integrity shines through Lisa and those who want to continue pointing the finger and trying to blame you for things look like fools. I'd watch Kyle, friend to your face but we all see how she turns on others, shirks responsibility and is defensive. She could take a page from your book about honesty and confronting an issue with maturity. It's not your fault you saw through Taylor first.

wowed
wowed

I admire Lisa for the way she conducts herself. She seems a rare individual who has managed to retain some very down-to-earth qualities in the crazy fishbowl world of BH and reality tv. Keep doing what you're doing, Lisa - you've got life figured out. Taylor is flat-out nuts and I wouldn't turn my back on Kyle for a second. I'm withholding judgment on Dana and Brooke, and Camille is winning me over. Adrienne, Adrienne, Adrienne. Girlfriend better learn to appreciate the man she has in Paul before it's too late.

Boston Kelly
Boston Kelly

Lisa, You are not a bully in any way, shape, or form. Some people may not love your sarcastic comments, but that's just the way you are and most people have the ability to laugh at themselves and not take offense.

I think Kyle initially did the right thing by "playing both sides," i.e. supporting each of her friends. Her comment to Taylor about preying on the weak was not nice at all - she should have realized that it would get back to you before she said it - however I feel she probably was only trying to help Taylor during her time of need. Unfortunately there's no way to "say the right thing" when it comes to a victim of domestic violence.

Taylor seems to love attention. She seems to be a small town girl who had high aspirations of being in the spotlight and will stop at nothing to get it. While I do feel for her situation, and everything that has happened since then, I do wonder about what her true intentions are.

Br80
Br80

Lisa you were a good friend to Kyle. I won't take that away from you at all, but especially last season, if you don't think you were a bully at all, then I think you must really be a bully as you clearly just don't see it.

vonnie1124
vonnie1124

Lisa I just love you!! You are so very kind and thoughtful of others. I cannot understand why Taylor would think anything negative about your concern for her welfare. Also, to purposely leave you out of her luncheon was rude. Since she wants to be your friend so badly I think she should act like a friend instead of blaming you for things and talking behind your back! I believe Kyle has changed this season too, for the worse. You cannot trust anyone anymore. You think you have friends and they stab you in the back! You are the best!! Love your ipad picture!!

ninaguest
ninaguest

Contrary to what others say you are warm and caring, you open your heart and home to others in their time of need. You give just the right dose of reality to those who need it, and you tell it to their face.

lilu816
lilu816

Lisa you did put Taylor's husbands business out on the cell phone call to Taylor about not attending Mohammad's party and seemed to enjoy that phone call too much. It was tacky and it came back to bite you. Taylor is sneaky and she does use her issues to control others. She does throw alot of emotional scenes cashing in on her issues, it seems her way of controlling others, it works for her and I bet she has done this most of her life. Kyle is no ones true friend, Kyle is out for Kyle. she has to be the center of attention at anyone's expense. I see her as shallow and not intouch with her inner beauty and value. Lisa you seem to want to get even if anyone does not bend to your way of thinking. You are vendictive. You do put others down, the close friend Mohammad who is so generous to your family, you insulted the man. Lisa you are very much into your outer beauty, the external world. You too are very controlling and point out in others what you do not like within your own self. Your controlling friend Kyle is also into her own external world pointing out the flaws of her sister and now you. Kyle is able to see this paoin of view and do this because those same flaws are within her. This last show Taylor was using eveyrone, controlling, controlling through and with her emotional issues, why because it seems to work for her. She abuses her own feminine nature within. She gives what she is, that is all she is able to do because everything comes from within. Lisa you acted out of your jealousness of Taylor's friendship with just Kyle, yes she was the sneaky snake using Kim for her benefit. It was sad. Kyle went right along with Taylor attacking Kim in the Limo. Lisa you supported Kyle and you said mean things about Kim as to her addictive nature. You have a addictive nature, your jewels, your wardrob, wealthy people and many tools you use that you think you have to have to shine. Alot of controlling of the external. Taylor and Kyle are of the same kind. Lisa you could do soooo much good in this world with your tools, why waste a moment of the "ego wars". Taylor and Kyle attracted each other because they are both controllers. Kyle uses her emotions and tears every moment of the day. What is there to be jealous about in that circle. You should use your gifts to inspire and encouage others, the viewers to depend on their creative feminine, not do war with the inner creative feminine. :))