Cast Blog: #RHOBH

I Love Deanie, But Marriage Is Work

Marisa doesn't blame Brandi for her comments about her marriage, but she knows that she and Dean love each other equally.

Hey there, hope you all had a nice weekend! Mine was spent cleaning out the garage.

Before I get into this week's blog I want to thank you for taking the time to comment. I read every post and really enjoy this connection we have. I appreciate your words of advice, encouragement, and even your constructive criticism. I know you won't always have positive things to say but I appreciate your honesty and participation.

Now on to this week's episode. I was really excited and grateful that Brandi invited me to come to Vegas with her. . .but first a few of the girls spent some quality time at Yolanda's.

I laughed out loud when Lisa asked, "Who is Chrissy Snow?" I really like Lisa's personality and she always looks effortlessly beautiful. I dig Yolanda but she could be facing some serious littering fines with all the names she's dropping. Putting that aside, Yolanda is an wonderful homemaker, host,and expert at directing her staff. I am nothing like that. Between work and the kids, I'm usually exhausted by the time I get home and either throw something basic together or order in. Fortunately, Dean just likes to eat PowerBars.

Then we are off to another dinner gathering at Kyle's. I have never been one to produce lavish dinner parties. With me, it's usually girlfriends over, sweats, no make up, sitting in the living room with a bottle of wine and Chinese. Kyle, however, has always been quite the entertainer and she is great at it! Adrienne and Paul arrive upbeat, but their mood quickly fades as the broken record of the infamous Brandi and Adrienne debacle begins to play. This horse has been beaten to death, hasn't it?

Moving on. . .Having recently lost my father-in-law (a truly incredible man), it was very hard for me to watch Kyle break down about her missing her late mom and dad.

Speaking of family, my mom comes over to help me pack for Vegas. I shouldn't have asked, as she ends up criticizing half my wardrobe, my hair, etc. . .and then tries to glom on and invite herself on the trip. I'll give her credit, my mom has tremendous chutzpah for the good and the bad! I hope you find her as galling and entertaining as the rest of the clan does. Love you mom!

And we're off to Vegas for some fun with just the girls. . .

Our first night was a blast as we all laughed with and at each other at dinner. I swear Kyle's theatrics always cracks me up, and it was hilarious when she was peer pressured into trying the oyster! I couldn't have done it!

Of course, it wasn't all fun and games, as Brandi brought up my relationship with Dean. I adore Brandi and her snap judgement that Dean was "more in love with me than I am with him" was based off an impression I obviously gave her or she wouldn't have said it. That said, I've never thought this was the case. I'd always thought we loved each other the same. I asked Dean and, typical of him, he said he had never thought about it. Brandi was absolutely right to point out how lucky I am. Deanie and I are blessed to have each other. I love him very much. But it doesn't matter if you live in Beverly Hills and are married to a film producer or if you live in Pennsylvania and are married to a coal miner, all marriages take work and it isn't always a bed of roses.

Now I'm all for empowering women and I'm glad Brandi has gained strength and independence working the pole, but it's clearly not something for me. So if it looks like I was in a mood when we arrived at the class it's because I probably was. The last thing I wanted to do was swing around a pole, which would not make me feel sexy at all. What makes me feel confident and sexy is creating success for myself as a businesswoman which allows me to take care of myself financially!

I look forward to chatting with you next week!

xx,
Marisa

Brandi: You Can't Confirm What Didn't Happen

Brandi questions some of the ladies' motives, plus gives an interesting update on her relationship with LeAnn. 

Hey, My Bravoistas!

I’m in my American Airlines' seat 36 hours later, flying back home from NYC, thankful to be on a safe path home. My prayers go out to the families and loved ones of the downed German airliner in the French Alps this morning. I cannot imagine the pain being experienced by these families at this moment, which shockingly has led me to add a new person into my flight prayer today...my children’s stepmom. Don’t get me wrong--not everything is yet copasetic, but my children love her, so she is now in the “flight prayer,” differences aside. Now on a happier RHOBH note, last night’s WWHL with Andy was sooooo fun! No drama for once!

NEWS FLASH! Please watch for my new Sonoma County Chardonnay “Unfiltered Blonde,” to launch in April!

As I look over this past season, all I can say is it’s been an odd one. There were so many fun moments that got lost in the drama and so many weeks of fun you never saw at all. I wish you had, but I'm not in control of everything we get to see. I’d like to remember having fun with Kim “stalking” my now boyfriend J.R. That was such a crazy fun girls' night, Lisa R. being chased by killer bees, Yolanda and her Facetime confusion and meeting her family for the second time this--time in Holland, the Foster Foundation Extravaganza, “singing” at Lisa V.’s birthday party, and Kyle pretending to be a caring sister and owning yachts and planes…haha.
Ok, I’ll behave.

Here we are at the last episode of the season, yet, it seems most are still stuck in the beginning. I wish we weren’t, and I would dearly like to leave “Poker Night” behind. However, one person continues to make it the focal point of every interaction from when it happened and far into the three-part reunion.

This episode opens with Rinna tearing down a swing set, but her home interviews are still about what she perceives as Kim’s issues to be, not the actual touching moment of what the swing set tear-down symbolizes or her own family (I can't wait for her daughters to write their Brooke Shields-style memoir when they are age appropriate). LR says she feels sorry for Kim and cares about Kim and wishes Kim well. The truth is a lot less pretty. Some people have been attacking Kim’s sobriety online this week, but we won’t name names. BTW, Kim is sober and not online. She is busy caring for serious ill family members and driving back and forth to doctors and hospitals and being strong for her family.

Next we see Nicky Hilton’s book signing--sister Paris and mom Kathy Hilton are there. Looks like a great party and congrats to Nicky on her style book. Camille looks gorgeous as usual. Kyle angrily flips her hair, because Kim was wearing a shirt that she carries at “her” shop, but didn’t buy it there...whatever. Then Kyle whispers about her sister Kim to Lisa V. and Camille.
Kyle then tells them she is confused and impatient that Kim hasn’t confronted me over her third-hand Lisa R. gossip. She states Kim WILL be hurt and broken hearted over what “I” said… Kyle seems way too overy excited about that happening, which I find kind creepy. Why would anyone WANT their sister to be hurt or in pain?!

The preparations for Adrienne’s party are in full swing next. Lisa V. is fretting it, Kim is casually discussing the intervention GOSSIP with her makeup artist before the party, I’m getting ready and waiting for my friends and my date.

Adrienne’s party is the big finale of our journey this year. Everyone is there, and Adrienne always excels at events. So here we go. First off, my mind was not on the party at all. My father was recently hospitalized, and I didn’t leave his side for two weeks. It was very serious, but I had to return home to my boys. He was still not conscious, but I needed to get home to run my household--a party was the last place I wanted to be, but I had promised. That’s why I decided to bring the few people that I felt I could depend on in that moment. My friends and J.R. have been there for me during my father’s health scare and over more then a month of hospitalization--that was and is what remains what’s important to me.

The party seems like it was fun for a lot of people who weren’t involved in Kyle and Lisa. R.’s drama. I wish I were one of them, but in a way I was. As much as Kyle relished telling Kim the hurtful gossip she heard from LR, what she wanted to happen didn’t happen. There was no argument between Kim and I. We were happy to see each other. We spoke easily. I was busy worrying about my Dad; she was busy with her family.

What we saw on the finale was an efficient Kim quietly confronting Lisa R., then leaving Lisa R.'s table somewhat amused. Lisa R. couldn’t confirm the veracity of her gossip, because I DIDN’T SAY IT. Thanks again to Bravo for showing the truth in a flashback last week.

So, Kim knew who was who and what was what. The entertainment of the night was provided by Lisa R. going radio silent while Kyle begged for corroboration on her dramatic intervention gossip. Watching Yolanda, Eileen, and Lisa V. urge Lisa R. to support Kyle and verify her hurtful gossip was almost amusing. You can't confirm what didn't happen, can you?

In the end, I left the party early. Why? Not because of a past friendship with Lisa V. It's not her that made me cry--I was crying for my father, my dad! I was in no place to be at a superficial party, discussing a superficial incident with a person who was clearly not a friend, not that night. I said I would show up, and I did. After that, I wanted to be with my real close friends and family. Since this party my dad came out of the ICU and after 2 entire months and after a long stressful time I want to thank Dr. Allen Morris and all the doctors and nurses at Mercy General Hospital of Sacramento for saving my dad's life yet agin for the second time in 15 years. He is doing much better and continuing his hope of a full recovery. I am so thankful to all the people who were there for me and continue to be here for my family and I.

THAT is what life’s about, being with the people who truly love and care about you and the feelings are reciprocated.

As you hear, at the end of the finale, I am wistful, yet, wiser, and I think in a stronger place. I love and loved being there for Kim and being Kim’s friend, and I love that she was, is, and has been here for me. Even more so, I'm grateful and blessed to have Yolanda in my life; she is no bullsh--. Even when suffering herself, she is still so selfless. Yo is very special to me, I love her, she gets me, we have fun together, and I value every moment we spend together. I always will. As for the rest, I hope to share laughs and fun again, maybe tears, but hopefully only joy.

Peace Out. (deuces MFs--JK)

XOXO,

B

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